Hi,
I'm Jessica Graham,
And I teach people to bring mindfulness into their sex lives.
In this guided meditation,
I'll be giving you tools to promote more connection with your partner and more pleasure and fun during sex.
Start by finding a comfortable posture and closing your eyes.
Begin to relax your body.
Starting at the top of your head,
Move your attention over your forehead,
Your eyes,
And your jaw,
Relaxing and releasing all of those areas.
I want you to really feel these sensations of relaxation.
Notice how it feels when the muscles release.
Relax down your neck,
Over your shoulders,
Into your arms and your hands.
Keep coming back to the body,
Even when the thoughts want to pull you away.
Just return to the pleasurable sensations of relaxation.
Relax your chest.
Relax your stomach.
Now relax your back,
Staying with the body,
Really feeling these sensations of relaxation,
Noticing what's pleasurable about relaxing.
Now relax your hips,
Your seat,
And your pelvic area,
Letting go of any tension.
Now continue to relax down your legs and into your feet.
Stay with these sensations of relaxation and pleasure as I share a little bit about mindful sex.
Many people report getting stuck in their minds during sex,
Whether it's thoughts about performance or anxious thoughts about orgasm,
Self-conscious thoughts about the way they look,
Or even just random thoughts about grocery shopping.
These thoughts,
If we become attached to them,
Limit the amount of pleasure and connection we can experience during sex.
But we don't want to try to quiet the mind.
The mind creates thoughts just like the heart pumps blood.
So instead of trying to stop the thoughts,
I invite you to keep returning to the body.
During sex,
There are so many wonderful sensations to explore.
The more you practice mindfulness of the body,
Pleasure,
And relaxation during the day in your formal meditation practice,
The easier it will be to bring these mindfulness tools into your sex life.
Stay with the body now and notice any areas of pleasure.
Soften into that pleasure.
Really allow yourself to feel it.
When both partners are in their bodies and relaxed and present,
The opportunity for intimacy and connection grows.
Keep coming back to your body,
Back to pleasure and relaxation.
Noticing what does pleasure and relaxation feel like in the body?
Is it warm?
Does it vibrate?
Does it expand?
Really feel the sensations.
Great work.
You can open your eyes as this meditation comes to a close.
Remember,
Practice this every day so that you'll have these tools handy when you're having sex.
Enjoy.
