Parting Ways: Healing & Letting Go of a Relationship

Set to slow soothing background music to create a space for you to heal from heartache, this meditation is designed support you in making peace with a relationship that is shifting shapes. The visualization exercise will help you meet the truth in your heart and start the process of moving on from a relationship that is ending. During this guided journey, you will have an opportunity to both let your own feelings free and also to listen empathically to other perspectives. You can process what still feels incomplete and integrate your experiences in a way that feels meaningful and resonant. Let yourself be free from the past so you can honor and release what-was to now lay the foundation for what-will-be. Speak your way into your next chapter with wholeness and love. * Music by Christopher Lloyd Clarke

Transcript

Take a deep breath now,

As you come to sit or lie down quietly,

In a space where you feel held and supported,

Comfortable,

And won't go of any distractions,

Committing to being fully here with your full heart and your full attention for these few moments and minutes ahead,

To meet what's arising in you regarding this separation,

This loss,

This time of parting ways with someone who used to be close and where your relationship is now changing form,

Changing shape,

Changing its tune,

And yet you can still create the meaning that it holds for you.

You can craft it,

You can make it mean and feel and be and be integrated in a way that nourishes you down the line,

Instead of making you feel incomplete.

As you breathe deeply,

I invite you to breathe in through your nose and then out through your mouth,

Letting out a sigh,

Loosening any tension in the jaw and the face,

Behind the eyes and the forehead,

Relaxing any muscles and spaces in the shoulders and in the hips,

Just softening in the whole body,

Arriving right here,

Right now.

You're here to let go,

To let be,

And eventually to let in.

All you have to do is show up,

Commit to creating what you want to see and feel and be while also honoring what is experiencing itself through you,

What you are experiencing through the circumstances that your life has brought you.

How here can you honor yourself and the others in this situation at the same time?

Staying true to your truth,

Staying true to what you know is real for you,

While also being open to there being other little t truths that are also valid,

Justified,

And being felt even if you do not share them.

So now it's time to journey.

Make sure you're really comfortable,

Make any small adjustments or movements that you need to let yourself then be still,

Open,

Receptive,

Present,

Attentive,

And relaxed.

As you close your eyes and soften them if they're already closed,

Begin to imagine that you are in a beautiful natural setting that feels safe and protected,

Where you are alone for now but where you are open to inviting others to join you.

Take note of the atmosphere,

What is the temperature in the air,

What are the sounds around you,

What do you hear and smell,

What are you wearing,

How does the clothes being feel on your body,

How does the air feel on your skin,

What time of day is it,

And if you're in nature here,

What is it like?

Is it a clearing in the woods?

Is it an ocean?

How far are you from the water?

Just take note of your surroundings,

Feeling alone and on your own and on your own here,

But not lonely,

Just the sacredness of solitude.

Bring to mind the feeling words that are present,

What's real and true for you right now as you sit or stand in this imagined but very real sanctuary of space,

Of inner space.

And then you may in the in your mind's eye in this visualization place your hand on your belly,

Your left hand on your belly,

Your right hand on your heart,

And just take three deep cleansing breaths,

Grounding yourself,

Opening up to possibility.

At the tail end of that last breath you can let out a sigh here and see that the person that you are parting ways from,

Perhaps a romantic breakup,

Perhaps a friendship that is ending officially or unofficially,

Perhaps a loved one who has passed,

Whomever it is that you need to speak to today and hear from.

Not necessarily to create closure as life continues and things are both closed and open sometimes at the same time,

But someone that by connecting with them you can encounter the next beautiful truth and unveiling of your connection and relationship and take that next step to heal,

To grow,

To let go,

And to invite in the future where they are reintegrated in a new way.

So when you see them at a distance just feel how you are inside,

What your emotions are as you feel them approaching,

And then just tune into how they are approaching too.

Are they hesitant and walking slowly?

Are they eager to come to this meeting?

What are they wearing?

How tall are they today?

Just observe and as they approach even closer let them be as far or as near to you as feels appropriate.

They may stay 10 feet away or they may be a foot away seated right next to you or in front of you,

Whatever feels right for this space and it can change as the moments go on.

So now greet each other as you have come to settle down in front of each other and regardless of how far you are we will imagine that you can hear each other if not physically then at least emotionally through this space.

There is a direct line of communication in gesture,

In words,

In feeling.

So notice the expression on their face and yours and then as you both continue to gaze at each other and take in each other's presence it is now time for you to take space to share your heart,

Your thoughts,

Your feelings with this person.

You will be uninterrupted for a matter of minutes and they will be attentive and listening with as much capacity as they have to really hear you and take in,

Understand,

And accept what you are saying.

Even if in real life you can't imagine this person opening to what you have to say in this way,

In this space there is a place for your voice and every single one of your emotions.

You may in the moments to come express a range of things from sadness and hurt to anger and despair to gratitude.

Everything is welcome even if you've never said these things aloud to anyone or especially to this person.

You may want to tell them how you feel,

What you wished were true,

What you still long for,

Share the hope you have,

The disappointments,

The grief and the desire,

Or a goodbye,

Whatever is on your heart today.

So when you're ready,

Take a look at them looking at you and you may either out loud or in your mind's eye speak to them addressing them right now in the second person.

So,

Dear so-and-so,

You have impacted me in this way or I feel these things toward you in our relationship.

When you are ready,

Let your truth free.

Take your time now to conclude your thoughts.

If you've already concluded,

Then just sit in silence,

Letting this land with the other person,

Letting them receive what you have said.

And we'll just take a few more moments here to wrap up your side of this encounter.

And when you feel complete,

You can thank them for listening and receiving in as much capacity as they had to take you in today.

And thank yourself for bravely showing up to share and to speak this truth to your own heart,

To theirs,

To the universe,

To the space around and within you.

And then take three deep breaths together with this person.

Both of you breathing in sync,

In time,

In through the nose,

Out through the mouth,

In through the nose for a count of three or four,

Out through the mouth,

Double it,

Six or eight,

Out through the mouth.

One more time.

And now it's time for the other person to share their thoughts and their truth and their feelings with you.

They can respond to what you've said or just kind of share where they've been this whole time.

When you speak aloud or envision their words back to you,

This is not necessarily a made-up thing of what you think you need to hear or want to hear or what they would really say in real life.

If you could imagine them being there physically today,

It's really the truth underneath all of the personality conflicts,

All of the fights or the disagreements or the human moments.

They might not even be aware of it or have articulated it or ever be able to,

But there's something in it when they say it that you know is the real core essence of what's been going on and what they feel.

And some part of you does already know this,

So tune in to what they might be feeling,

What they might be thinking,

What they might be wanting you to know.

And when you're ready,

You'll speak from the second person from their vantage point to you.

So,

Dear,

Your name,

I,

The other person,

Want you to know.

When you're ready,

Let them share their side of the story,

What they want you to hear and know and feel on their behalf and receive.

Really let them have the floor and be open to understanding them a little bit more.

And now,

Imagine that they are wrapping up their side of things,

So come to conclude for now in this particular meeting.

Whatever they had to say,

We'll give you a few more moments to finish up.

And now,

They have completed what they had to say for today to you,

And they express some kind of gratitude for your listening and your attention and your receptivity to their information,

To their truth,

To their side of the equation.

And you take three deep cleansing breaths together to come back to this moment with each other to seal this encounter and what has passed between you.

So,

Breathing in and breathing out and breathing in and letting go.

And letting go.

One more time in,

Release.

And then you look at each other.

This may be one of the last times you meet,

Or you may want to continue to connect in this way if there's more to say down the line as many times as you do need,

As many times as feels appropriate and right to be in the process of unraveling,

Of letting go,

Of receiving the truth of what is now happening between you as it shifts shapes.

But for now,

Just kind of doing a bow or a blink or a signal or a signal that you are closing up,

Closing down,

Just for now.

And as you do so,

They take that nudge to also take a similar bow or nod or blink.

And then they slowly get up and walk away,

Either the way they came or in a different direction.

And you can watch them go.

And then notice again,

Tuning in to how you feel after this encounter as they part,

As they step out of your line of vision.

And then you are back with yourself in the same stance as when you started,

But perhaps in a different mode or mood or space inside and placing in real life your left hand on your belly and your right hand on your heart.

Take a deep breath with a soft smile and a warm embrace to yourself,

Holding yourself in this space.

And know that you are whole and you are here and you are the encapsulation of all the moments you've shared with others,

The culmination of all the experiences you've had and that we will have.

And that this person and the moments you've shared have been a part of your story that you can remember and integrate and celebrate or let go of or learn from in whatever way you need to and can and want to.

And that you're free.

You're free to be all of who you are and own your beautiful place in this world,

In your world,

In your new relationships,

In the new moments to follow that you will create,

Generate,

And love living.

So whenever you're ready,

You can open your eyes,

Take another deep breath and come back to the space,

Committing to being all of who you are.

That involves what you take in and what you release,

Let go of,

And let be so that you do not resist,

That you flow with life.

You are life living itself.

May what you allow make room for what you get to receive and what you get to give in this virtuous circle of being and of becoming.