Boundaries And Self-Love: Honoring Your Yeses And Nos

Explore the concept of boundaries as an act of self-love and self-honoring. This guided talk and meditation explore how our innate yeses and nos shape our relationships, energy, and sense of worthiness. Learn how honoring your boundaries doesn't push love away; it attracts people and situations that respect you.
Includes a grounding meditation to help you connect with your own inner guidance, release fears around saying no, and step into a frequency of self-love that naturally protects and expands you.

Transcript

All right. Action. Here we are. Share in the chat, Too, If you can relate to this, If you have questions around this, Because then it helps me direct where I'll speak to next, And then we'll move into the meditation. So hold this word loosely, But boundaries. I'm coming to see that obviously this isn't something that is taught in our world. Usually, And it doesn't even need to be taught, It's meant to be modeled. An individual who knows that they are worthy and deserving of love lives a certain way. And then you're raised from these people that know they're worthy and deserving of love, So then you live a certain way. But what happens to most of us, And let me know if you can relate to this, Is It's all innocent. We've got lots of collective wounds being passed down. If we can see it that way, It's helpful. I know it's hard. In our pain, I know it's hard to see innocence. In our innocence, When we're little, We believe. That in order to be worthy and deserving of love, And fill in the blank of the word, I'm just going to use love here, We need to just let go of our boundaries, Right? I need to, And a boundary is There's so many ways to describe this but your yeses and nos inside your own sense of Like your own little house that you live in not I need walls for protection because then that keeps love out but a Safe zone of these are my values. These are my needs. These are my wants. These are my yeses. These are my dreams These are my desires. This is what makes me comfortable in this moment and my nose. This is what makes me uncomfortable This is what I'm too tired to do. This is what is not in alignment with my values. So these invisible yeses and noes that are innate. I remember this was huge for me when I saw this. I was like, Oh, This is something I've got to make up. Well, You can become more aware of what your boundaries are. Because again, Innocently, Most of us don't know these when we're younger, Or when we're older even. And so we're just bringing to our conscious awareness, Because they're there all the time, We're just not tuned into this innocent Yeah, That feels like me. Yeah, That feels in alignment or no, That doesn't feel like me or I don't want to do that. So because we do not get the message. You are worthy and deserving of love with boundaries. " Wow, I mean, What a message to pass down and around to people. What if we got that message? You can say no. You can be, And most of us, We're raised in a very codependent society. You can be autonomous, Meaning you have your own wants, Your own opinions, Your own desires, Different than the family. The family can be Republican. You can be the Democrat. The family can be scientists. You can be the spiritual one. I'm not speaking about myself. Yes, Hi. Um. . . And that that's okay. You can have boundaries. You can have strong yeses and nos. You can say, I'm tired. I want to go home. You can, Whatever. And still be loved. So as an adult, This what you were saying too, And I'm trying to speak to the group as I tune in collectively. When we are given the unconscious message, I am not worthy and deserving of love when I have boundaries than our mind. Oh, God bless it. Fires on overload. Overwhelm is a symptom of this because we're like spread so thin in our energies all in these places and we're trying to please this and we're trying to do this all to get the love that lives inside of us all along and we don't have to do that. And I have to answer all of these emails. It's like we're multitasking in our head. Because if I don't please every single thing out there, Which is impossible to do, Then I'm not OK. As opposed to this total paradigm shift. Hear this, Because this is, Whew. Divine intervention at its best, As opposed to the paradigm shift of Love is an energy that lives within me. Self-love, Unconditional love, The love of the source that created me, Whatever we want to call it. And that there are natural yeses and nos that I can trust. I'll get back to this person later today, Even if I can feel an emergency in their email, It's not time sensitive. Whatever it is. We feel that, I need a nap that can wait. I need to go outside. I'm spiraling. That can wait. I want to follow my dreams. This person isn't comfortable with it. I'm an adult. I'm still okay. That's all in there. Those inclinations. And if we have these conversations, Then we start to have the lens to go, Oh, My S's and no's are innate. And at the end of the day. We can carry ourselves through. We're not going to be fully abandoned. We're not going to be fully rejected. We're so afraid that if I honor myself. If I honor my innate boundaries, My yeses and nos. Then everyone's going to leave our greatest fear and no one's going to like me. I mean, I used to say everybody's going to think I'm an a**hole. My boyfriend says, Jamie, No one's going to think you're an a**hole. Maybe it's fine if people do because you start to just love yourself so much that that's the risk that you take because you start to know, Oh, This is in me. Now here's the kicker, Here's the divine intervention. You are the quantum field of life. And life is a reflection, A mirror of you. We're going to get to the meditation in a second. Life is a reflection of you. So if you are 100% okay with yourself, Your boundaries, Your yeses and your nos, I am worthy and deserving of being loved. With boundaries totally implemented, My desires, My needs, My everything being met, Then guess what happens? Life reflects that back to you. So you start having situations and people and events that respect your boundaries because you do first. Now, You might be so overwhelmed by a whole bunch of people in your energy field. That was where I was too, Because boundaryless. I'm not worthy and deserving of being loved when I say no when I say so it's like like this overwhelmed. Um, But when you start to experiment, Yes, Now this is the hard part, But we all have the courage for this. People that do not respect your boundaries will fall away because you're going to start respecting them and people are going to go, What is this? That's weird. And you're going to honor it so much that you want people who respect your boundaries to be in your life. You don't have to be that little kid anymore that tries to get love when people don't respect your boundaries. That's not love. So you start getting in tune, Which we're going to do in the meditation. What are my yeses? What are my no's? What do I want? What do I need? I'm worthy and deserving of having that met. And when I do it for me first, Then people around me go, Oh, Yeah, You're tired. I totally understand. Go home. We'll finish this later. Not like, Oh, What are you doing? You lost your edge. You're tired? You're like, Yeah, Man, I'm tired. See what you guys. I feel a sense of sorrow this morning and just sitting with that while moving through the day. Beautiful. That's the key. That's the key. Sitting with it in a space of unconditional love of, I welcome you here. Of course, You'd feel that way given your circumstances, Et cetera, Et cetera. Feel stuck and trying to move ahead a little restless. My wisdom saying stop trying to move ahead. That's where the stuck is coming from is the thinking you are somewhere that you should be that you're not. So that you're here and that's enough. A little nervous about back in the office, Totally, That makes sense. Innate yeses and nos, Surrender, Yeah. Yeah, Okay, So let's meditate. Let's meditate. I mean, Really, Really, Really, At the end of the day, This is the energetic of self-love. This is what my whole life has been leading me to in my own medicine that has been healing me and serving others. Yeah. Words dilute it sometimes, So I just sit in the energy for you and let you feel it. All right. Putting on some music if you want. Judy's feeling it good. You know, It feels unsafe to be here. It feels selfish to be here. It feels. . . Fool yourself to be here. All the shadows, All the fears our brains will tell us and every single one that I've overcome, I'm like, Oh, It's not selfish. Oh, It's not entitled, Spoiled. Oh, It's beautiful. And you don't come across as that. And if you do, Then it's just triggering someone else's shadow. It's the safest place to be. Because in that place, You will attract everything. We're in a vibrational universe. It's not some woo-woo weird out there concept. There's science behind it now. The observer effect that we are studying with quantum physics will just See proof of, Attract, Manifest, Actualize people and situations in alignment with our newfound sense of boundaries. And I also heard this, This teacher, Which I'll share this as well as we're taking a couple deep breaths, To hold the word boundaries loosely, Because it really can seem like I've got this fortress around myself, And I need to keep the bad out. And it's more of a, What if we used the word self-honoring? Because then it isn't, I need to keep this out. It's, I'm here to honor myself. And Most of you know I'm a Reiki master. And when I would teach Reiki trainings, It's a lot about energy and people would say, Well, How do I protect myself from other people's energies? And I knew this intellectually before I actually understood it in my body. But the answer that would always come is the frequency of love. The frequency of self-love is so high, That that is your protection. That energies that are lower than that, The grasping energies, The narcissistic the needy energies, The judgmental energies that come to you. Literally, Your energetic force field, It's almost like they hit the boundaries of it, The outside of it, The space that you take up, And then bounce away. So we don't need this grasping and gripping of our body and this, I know for me, This, When I was young, I was afraid to leave the house, This hiding in our house, This, This hiding, We just can expand in self-honoring. And that is the protection that we are looking for. So take a couple deep breaths and settle in. To go shut the window. Feel that physical connection between your body and the space underneath of you. And allow the transmission of the words that I share today. To be an energetic frequency that your body begins to recognize. Remember. It's never me doing something for you. It's you awakening to that vibration within you, With me as your spaceholder. So we're doing it together. That way we take our power back. So the eyes are soft. Taking three deep breaths down into your belly. You can stretch, Wiggle, Shake, Whatever you need to do to get comfortable. Part of boundaries, Part of self-love is allowing yourself to feel what you feel. That's the least fun part of this, But that is Natural. It's interesting because without our resistance to our feelings, They flow through. Look at children. They don't judge their anger. They don't judge their sadness. They just have it. They're not three and throwing a temper tantrum and then think they need to call a therapist. So it's okay. It's okay to have all of it. Self-love is saying, It's okay. This is human. This is natural. Feelings are natural. Expansion is natural. Boundaries are natural. Self honoring is natural. Cool the energy of this group just settled in deeply and expanded into their own space So you are grounded on the ground and you are relaxed and breathing into the belly, Just softening with every breath. And could you, For our time together, Just be here now? Could you know that you came to this planet for a bigger reason? Could you allow yourself to be still? Asking yourself, Could I welcome my expansion? Could I welcome my healing, Knowing that it is the most natural thing in the world? To let go of something I once had and carry with me the lesson of it. That's the part that stays my learning, My spirit, The lesson. Breathing and relaxing. I give myself permission to. Come back home to self-love today. I let go of what that word has meant. And the triggers I feel when Jamie says it. I allow them to move through me. Knowing that if I was taught when I was five a little class on self-love, It would be safe and natural. So I'm relearning now. As I forgive those that came before me who didn't know this energetic, So I couldn't know this until now. Offering them compassion for their pain. Seeing my own bravery and courage that I have made it through to here. Welcoming this fear of having boundaries. Deep, Strong self-honoring. Just taking a moment to breathe into any fears that come up. You don't have to know what they are. You're breathing into the energy of it when you think about fully honoring your yeses and your nos. Oh no, People will leave. I'll be rejected. I won't be okay. I won't be worthy. And if that's true, We're just breathing into the energy of it. I release and let go of these fears. So I know that my self-honoring, My yeses and nos, Is the most natural, God-given thing in the world. And that my deepest fear of honoring myself will never be fulfilled. Come true. Feel the truth of this in your being. When I honor myself fully. Honoring my yeses and nos and my loving boundaries. I will be more loved. More safe. More worthy. More valuable. More supported. Provided for, Abundant, Met. Held. Healed. Expanded. Connected. I will be more. Not less. And as I proudly stand in this new frequency. Just by being myself. And I'll feel what that means. I don't need to know what that is. I feel, Oh, This is me. Others around me will rise up. To my vibration. Do not let others pull you into their store. Pull them into your peace. As this frequency of self-love that you are allowing to permeate in your being. Will repel frequencies not in alignment with it. Either uplifting to you or repelling. Offering people comfort, Not triggering. If someone is triggered, It's their own trigger. When you are in love, You uplift or comfort. There you go, There you go, There you go. So just breathe. I release anything, Anything less than self-honor. I pray to the quantum field to send me the teachers and the books, The wisdom I need. To clear any fear between me and this truth. Today I cultivate courage. And I allow myself to expand into what I came to expand into. Self-love. Frequency of desires, Dreams, Truth, Expression. The parent I've always dreamed of in me. What do you need? This voice asks. What do you want to do? This voice comforts. Breathing into the belly and relaxing. Opening our minds to higher frequencies, Reminding us of this truth. As we begin to ask ourselves one question. Tuning into our heart, We ask ourselves, What is a yes or a no that you've been trying to get me to hear? Something safe and easy, Perhaps take walks during your day or it's okay to watch TV or tell someone how you feel and start small. What is something that's been trying to get your attention from a space of self-love? What is a yes or a no that you've been wanting me to hear? Just listen for a moment as you breathe. Allowing the wisdom to come to you now or as the day moves on. As you slowly breathe back into the belly again. And releasing I am. In my body. I am behind my eyes. I am connected underneath of me. I am in my breath. Opening your eyes, Stretching, Coming back whenever you're ready. Thank you for your beautiful conversation today. It helped us tap into more wisdom. I'm sending you all lots of love. Hopefully I'll see your faces in person soon. Thank you for the hearts. Oh, Beautiful. Oh, Julie's mama. That's so sweet. I love that. Spreading the love through the fam. Cute. You're so welcome, Everybody. Oh good, I'm so glad. I'm so glad. Good stuff. Love you too. Alright, Bye everybody!