Our work is to recognize suffering and to bring up our awareness of what is real, difficult, and hard and not to cling to what SHOULD have been. This is not easy; it is difficult, but it does not have to lead to suffering. After recognizing suffering, we can move to the action of Love. When we can offer honesty about the reality we are living, we can then see the diseased portions of our lives, and allow, through prayer, connection with Christ, for the Lord to raise us up.