Consideration.
How often did you irritate yourself on wrongly parked bikes,
Scooters or any other object on the footpath or on the road?
But if someone sees you want to step into a row of waiting people and slip in front of you.
All over the world people seem to have a lack of consideration of the value of others and count themselves at the top priority of their list.
Realization has become number one in the world but it harms,
Hurts or obstructs others.
It is not the right way how to build up a society.
Ego-centrism is a very negative and stressful event of which we all have to cope with.
More often than we would like.
On contrary with this there is a mental state of mind which is most important and very valuable that is called consideration.
Our society is founded on individuality and that is going on all over the world with hardly any exception.
So maybe not in Bhutan.
Individualism is not a bad thing when we learn and imply that the value of others is as important as our own.
But somewhere in the process of growing up,
Education and civilization the part of consideration is lost.
We lost the understanding of the value of our fellow human being and its wishes and needs.
The focus has turned inside and became very narrow.
The me culture started with a wrong interpretation of who we are.
We are all part of a community,
Without other people we cannot survive or even stay alive.
The Rambo mentality of living off the grid deep in the jungle with only ourselves to take care of seems to be stamped in the mind of the people.
But Rambo never would exist without opponents in the movie.
He would never had to run,
Hide or even fight if others did not hunt him.
So Rambo only could exist by the sake of others who chased for him.
Every act in your life,
Every move you make,
Every result you reach is always connected with other people.
Did you ever had a party alone?
Just all by yourself?
And did you really enjoy it?
Joy is shared to become pleasure.
Every sadness and grief cannot be shared.
This leads to the fact that negative feelings are mainly carried out and carried around alone.
But positive feelings are shared.
We share positive feelings and emotions as they are programmed to be like that.
Our need is to share life experience together with others and not alone.
Because as a baby we are dependent on others for our survival and during growing up we need to trust others to take care of us or at least be around to protect us.
It is true that many kids lack the safety in childhood and feel insecure and not protected at all.
We hear these stories every day.
But on the other side it is good to know that it is only a very small percentage of the total amount of children who suffer this fate.
Although any percentage of disadvantaged children is already wrong,
We have to accept this fact and when we encounter it we should assist,
Help,
Give love and do all we can to give to these children to give them a better life.
This is one side of consideration.
You try to understand what the other has been going through and offer the possible comfort that you can afford.
Another side of consideration what we should use every day is to imagine the what if it happens to me attitude.
Being considerate implies that you step in the shoes of other people and move along with them.
Step in the shoes of a disabled or an elderly person when you walk in the street,
You drive your vehicle or even want to step in a waiting line.
Consideration starts with looking around while asking yourself should I do this or that or so I did not do it.
It is a very simple question with a much more complicated answer as being considered is not only based on the logic but mainly on emotion.
Asking yourself this simple question is a matter of combining good behaviour routines with possibilities at that moment,
Environmental circumstances and common sense.
And a part of common sense has become a hot item now.
As for what is common sense in the current world,
Is it normal to walk around with a mobile phone in front of you,
Throw your mess all over the place,
Lay down in chairs,
Leisure in parks while turning your radio at full noise,
Driving high speed in the city,
Empty bins in the street,
Shouting from one side of the street to the other side and so many many more things in this list.
But nothing in the list is from current time alone.
It has happened already for many ages,
Except the final cell phone of course,
But the scale and the impact of it has changed a lot over the years.
Everybody has its own lists of irritation which are considered not at all common sense and the growing cities make the list only longer and longer.
Now we are back at the word consideration as an issue of our own mental and emotional world.
Every single person on earth has some form of consideration,
But these are all dependent on the personal values combined with these of their family,
Their group and their environment.
And to become more considerate,
We should turn the sequence of importance around.
Our first question should be,
Does my behaviour or dealing disturb others?
And if so,
To what level?
Other questions of importance are,
If I do this action,
How will I personally react on it when others do this in my neighbourhood or do it directly to me as a person?
Consideration does not stop with recognizing the event,
But by asking what can you do to change it,
Make it more appropriate and suited within the borders of an expectation for all involved.
Currently consideration is mainly a passive act,
But should become an active action of positivity and spreading around and consideration is strongly connected with awareness.
Both are interacting all the time.
When you are aware of life,
You are more considerate and thoughtful.
All these positive mental values are connected with each other and interacting all the time.
These are the issues that make our life valuable and worth living.
Ecosystemism,
Ignorance,
Mindlessness and other negative values do exist and you do encounter them from time to time,
Not only in others,
But also inside yourself.
They occur when your energy is low and the environment cannot feature with better energy.
So if you have awareness,
It avoids and warns you for these events,
Which bring the consideration of others to you and boost your energy back again.
Share consideration more often with an alert mind and stop irritating yourself on the ignorance of others when you are confronted with another act of negative consideration.
Look for solutions and try to offer them to who are involved.
Take action and spread the considerate mind.
Thank you for listening and hope to hear you another time.
