Perseverance - Never Give Up

How often do you have the feeling to give up? Stop doing what you do and let it all go? It is a feeling we all have someday. Life does not come as an easy package. It is a struggle to survive and reach a target, no matter what goals we have. How often did you hear to keep up your mood, never give up or show some guts? There are many people in the world who have no idea what perseverance is or how to develop it. In this short lecture, I give you some important ideas.

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Perseverance.

Never give up.

How often do you have the feeling to give up?

Stop doing what you do and let it go.

It's a feeling we all have someday.

Life does not come as an easy package.

It's a struggle to survive and reach our targets.

No matter what goals we have.

How often did you hear to keep up your mood?

Never give up or show some guts?

There are so many people in the world who have no idea what perseverance is and how to develop it.

In this short lecture I give you some important ideas.

Perseverance is a difficult word for continue trying to do something no matter what happens.

Yes,

That sounds much easier.

Because our life is learning.

Most of us learn by trying and failing.

The motor of perseverance is inside your head.

It's not only your will power but the liking,

The wanting and the need to do something.

Every person has borders in ability,

Desire,

Wishes,

Goals and needs.

Some people put these borders as far as possible away and are able to motivate themselves to the extreme.

People in the special forces or fire brigades can do that.

That's why they are selected to do it.

They are prepared to even die for their lives.

For most people in a real life situation it's different.

The big question in your life is how far can and will I go?

Let's be honest with each other.

How far will you go if something you don't like?

The answer is simple.

Not very far.

Your reason is that you see no sense to continue doing something that is considered not valuable enough for you to fight for.

It's not possible to generate the energy in your body and mind to do something that does not touch the core of who you are.

But we have to do so many things in life that need perseverance.

Many of these activities we do not like.

One of those things is school.

Most people go to school but don't really like it.

Other people love it.

Why there is a difference?

What is the reason some people like it and others do not?

The main reason is interest and imagination.

At first you are interested in something and at second your brain starts to imagine what you can do with it.

Yes,

Perseverance is based on imagination.

All is based on what your brain makes of it.

Nothing is realistic and there is no clear abstract goal to reach.

It's all only in your brain and nobody can touch it.

People with a high level of perseverance have built a strong imagination in their brain.

Often this imagination is stronger than anything else in life.

When you are in the special forces it's even stronger than life.

If you want to build determination and preservation you have to build imagination first.

Building the perfect picture.

Imagination is a very powerful tool of your brain.

It can influence every part of your life,

Your body and your work.

When you are able to build a perfect picture of yourself and the dream,

A target or goal,

It's possible to have endless preservation power in your life.

Let me start with giving you a less common picture of people who need a lot of preservation to reach their goal.

Even when most people in society do not understand them.

These people are gus-play people.

It is an imitation of animation figures,

Superstars,

Superheroes and other figures.

Each of the participants must create a complete picture of an imaginary figure in his or her head and express that individual in a most expressive but also likely way as possible.

The art of cosplay is to study the example of your object or personality carefully.

Copy the dress and imaginary behaviour and give it all your personal twist.

You have to become a complete different personality.

That is one part of the idea.

Another part is the making of the clothing and all what comes with it.

You cannot buy it anywhere and have to make all clothing and often also all attributes all by yourself.

Becoming a cosplay figure needs a lot of perseverance as you have to bring a complete imagination to life.

It is all inside your head and must come out in an expressive and not in an ordinary way.

Many cosplay figures have different personalities they express and they keep building and exploring new ones.

It is a fast changing world of expression and action.

It is an art world.

Many identify themselves completely with the figures they express.

The core of this story is that imagination is the key of perseverance and not a realistic,

Scientific or other thing we can explain or touch.

To build strong perseverance you build your own space castle in your head.

Before we move on I want you to consider the following ideas of different people who showed their perseverance to the world in many ways.

What I want is that you follow their road of ideas and see how realistic they sink.

So imagine who is the person in your head right now that you think has a real good imagination.

You find that it is pure imagination that grows stronger by time and effort.

Let me give some examples by myself.

For instance the competitor in the Olympic Games want to become a winner.

And number one,

A career of a golden medal guy or woman.

To get there is an everyday training,

Watching movies of winners and losers,

Learning skills and working with other people.

Surely the abilities are there,

Otherwise it would not be possible to compete at such a high level.

But it is important to hold that golden medal for one time as being mine.

Another one is a scientist sitting in the chair watching the whiteboard with all the formula on it.

Is it possible to solve the problem?

It is often not a reasoning or following of the facts that solved the problem but a flash of ideas,

A sudden light in the darkness and an unexpected moment,

An intuition.

But the time spent on learning,

Researching and exploring comes all together in that moment of intuition,

That moment of light.

It can be called real intuition and it evolves during our life.

Or what do you think of?

The scientist diver who wants to explore the deepest part of the ocean.

To go to the deepest part there is a lot of training needed.

Inventive equipment,

Exploring of dangers and there is a high risk level for the personal life.

But still the dream to explore and find is driving stronger than the fear.

Or the psychologist that has the goal to solve mental disease forever and start experimenting with drugs in the imagination that it can be controlled and monitored by others.

When the experiment goes along all seem well till a certain moment when the preservation becomes hard headed and addiction kills the dream.

The samples are very clear and easy to understand.

Why did I end with a sample that went wrong at the end?

Preservation has limitations.

It is not always positive.

Sometimes it can turn the wrong way.

To have positive preservation there should be a cooperation,

An understanding from the outside world.

Limitation is needed when preservation becomes self-harm.

Imagination is a powerful tool in our life and does drive preservation to the best possible results.

But it can become dangerous when you become emotionally highly involved.

Sometimes people lose their grip on the reality and they get lost.

That is why we all should realize that it is good to have skills on knowledge,

Ability and the preservation but there is always the help of others needed to reach any goal in life.

We are social beings and the help or assistance of others make us complete and the dream reality.

How do you build perseverance?

If you want to build perseverance you should first need to know why you want to build it and for what target.

Real perseverance is from the heart and not only from the mind.

Let me look at the parts that influence perseverance the most.

Yes,

Number one is your imagination.

Two,

Your abilities.

Three,

Your possibilities.

Four,

Your opportunities.

Five,

The realization of it.

Your imagination is needed to build the highest possible goal for yourself.

This goal does not need to be very clear or concrete.

For instance the special forces person who wants to be the best in line has only that imagination and will go for it all the time.

This idea is undefined and unclear as a goal but for you something must be very valuable in your life and you go for it.

You want to work on it.

Before you go for an imagination it is important to know it is not a temporary flick of your mind.

Most imaginations are just temporary.

The most important reason why most people give up on something is the fact that they lost track of their imagination in their own mind.

The imagination did disappear or took a hiding.

Or in most cases it is gone with the wind and suddenly there is no power to go on anymore.

People give up seemingly easy but when the dream is gone you wake up.

It was not powerful enough.

Just you give up.

You can have any dream,

Imagination,

Goal or whatever but when there is no abilities you are gambling on the wrong horse right from the beginning.

Let me give you an example.

What if Napoleon had considered to become a basketball athlete?

With his height,

Size and abilities there was no chance he would ever make it.

Abilities are always needed to go forward in a direction,

Whatever the direction is.

Possibilities and opportunities are both needed to start going for something.

Imagine a person in the poorest parts of Africa,

Imagine to develop the desert into a fruit garden.

The dream is great.

All abilities can be there but the possibility and the opportunity to realize this dream are near to zero.

It is not impossible but to realize this plan it is needed the whole world to cooperate for a better of mankind and that is not possible in current society.

Some plans must be postponed to better times before they can realize it.

You can see that building perseverance needs some tools from outside to support the inner world.

When these tools are there and you are willing and able to access them and accept them,

There is a way to turn perseverance into reality.

You always should give it a try.

And if it is not successful upon the first try,

You try it again.

Most trials will fail and you should accept that.

When it does,

You do not give up but search for another way,

For something else.

Life is a never give up situation even when you don't like to do it.

We need to breathe,

Eat,

Move and continue day by day in an ongoing stream of events.

Living is preservation itself,

Every day again.

It may not be your goal but it is your destiny.

At the moment you realize that life itself is perseverance,

You become aware that it is a part of you.

It is in your head.

It is there.

In fact it is everywhere.

Only you should make it work for you.

The how to let it work for you is a simple find of something that can hold your imagination,

A picture in your head.

And it does not need to be realistic.

You can hunt a dream image.

Why not?

Whatever it is,

Try it and go for it.

Does it need to last a long lifetime?

No it does not.

It can change.

But when you go for it,

Just go for it.

Put your perseverance in it and make a move.

Waiting for the right time or opportunity is like being a sitting duck on a shooting festival.

Question and answer.

Question one.

I am a lazy person.

I feel in no mood to do anything.

Why do I need perseverance?

What advantage does it bring to me?

Answer one.

Even a lazy person has imaginations.

Maybe you live in your head more than in your body.

That is possible.

Or your dream is all in the sky.

Why not?

You already show perseverance in your laziness.

Everybody around you tried to make you moving.

You did not do it.

Why?

Because in your head.

This is your life goal.

This is pure perseverance.

Question two.

I am doing meditation and want to reach the highest possible level.

I have left everything behind and still do not feel that I make progress.

My perseverance is very high and I am sure to fulfill this dream.

Hey,

Do you have any suggestions for me?

Answer two.

Meditation is a perfect example where perseverance becomes a limitation when you let it serve a goal.

During meditation you have to let it all go.

Preservation is result oriented.

Meditation is not.

Become free of all earthly matters.

Eager,

Desire and determination are the dangers in meditation as they work opposing in reaching your results.

Getting a result from meditation is not what you really want but you let it come.

Not in desire but to accept it.

Not to be eager to reach it but to wait till it comes.

Expectation is a limitation for meditation.

Question number three.

I am a career hunted,

Focused person.

How can I employ perseverance to my advance in my building career?

Answer three.

A career is built on many factors.

Perseverance is one of them.

To build a career the following factors are important.

Abilities,

Possibilities,

Opportunities and gender.

Be realistic in your expectations and when one of these factors is missing you must find other places to try and reach your goal.

When perseverance meets determination it becomes an explosive combination.

Question four.

Is there a difference in perseverance between genders?

Answer four.

This is a strong question.

No.

Gender has nothing to do with perseverance.

It is all in the head,

In the mind.

There is absolutely no difference between the genders but surely between individuals.

But our society still makes that salary difference.

So fight for it.

Question five.

I am very driven and have a lot of perseverance to reach my goal but it seems to fail and fail again.

But how is that possible?

Answer five.

Perseverance is a tool when heading in the right direction with the tools as mentioned before.

Failure can be a learning moment to adjust what you are doing.

But sometimes it is also a realization moment telling you that you are not on the right track.

Analyzing the failure by an independent person can give you a solution and a new direction.

But you have to accept sometimes that perseverance must be led to another way.

Failing can imply a change of direction,

Methods,

Environment or tools.

Keep trying but do it in a different way,

In a different time.

Think about it.

This is the end of this lecture.

Please listen to other lectures as everything is connected in life.

My name is Arnoud van de Vere,

I am from the Netherlands.

You can reach me for questions or remarks through e-mail or other ways.

You are always welcome,

Be positive and engaged.

Thank you for listening.

Until next time.