Hi,
Everyone.
This is Dr.
Tracey Moreno,
Psychologist,
And we're here today to talk about how to help ourselves and humanity in a world of uncertainty because,
Let's face it,
Regardless of our beliefs and circumstances,
We're living in a world of uncertainty and it can be scary.
Our natural human instinct when faced with fear is to try to influence or control our circumstances and the beliefs of others so that they will align with ours.
Why do we do this?
Well,
It's an instinctual response from the ego.
The ego's primary function is survival.
When the ego feels threatened in any way,
Our defense mechanisms are triggered in order to protect us.
These days,
There are a lot less physical threats out there and more emotional threats.
This could be in judgment from others,
Differences in opinions,
Feeling offended,
Or having opposing beliefs.
And when these core structures that make up our personality and identity are challenged,
It can cause us physical and emotional distress.
This can feel like being backed into a corner.
So take a moment and think about that.
When you feel backed into a corner,
How do you typically react?
The ego must respond to this distress to relieve the discomfort and neutralize the threat.
This distress can cause us to leave the situation,
Shut down,
Or fight back.
Common tactics for fighting back could be to become defensive,
Be intimidating or threatening,
Controlling or manipulative.
We see a lot of this on social media.
And leaving and shutting down does not make news headlines.
But you know what does?
Fighting back makes news headlines.
Experiencing this fear-based,
Inappropriate behavior by being directly involved or even witnessing it,
Even if it's witnessing it on social media,
It doesn't even have to be in person.
It leaves us to believe that we are currently living in a world filled with hate and violence.
It seems like most people fear for their safety now more than they did when dinosaurs roamed the planet.
But the fear only creates more fear.
The reality is most of us are good people with good hearts.
Even the ones fighting believe they are fighting for what's right.
The problem is what's right for one may not be right for another.
It can be a very helpless feeling to watch what's happening in this world and to desperately want change,
But feel powerless and hopeless to change it.
But there is something we can do.
If we choose to hate one another or be scared of one another,
We are feeding into the fear and magnifying the negativity in the world.
We cannot change hate with more hate.
Only love can change hate.
Only love can change hate.
It's easy to show respect and compassion to someone who shows it to us,
But the true test of our character is to be able to show it to those that activate the ego and our defense mechanisms and challenge us.
Now of course,
This can be easier said than done because when the ego is triggered,
We instinctually react instead of methodically respond.
This change requires us to overcome the ego,
To overcome those fear-based negative thoughts in our mind,
And overcome the perception of ourselves.
So I'd like to offer a different way of perceiving all of this.
When we fight back with anger and negativity,
This is actually an indication of a weak ego and low emotional intelligence.
This reaction means we allowed someone else to control us because we are reacting to them.
The ego has a way of convincing us that this maladaptive reaction is where our power is.
It tricks us that this is us being strong and powerful.
But in reality,
We just gave away our power,
Willingly,
Voluntarily even.
A strong ego is tolerant,
Steadfast,
And resilient.
It will not falter when being challenged or threatened.
This is where our true power lies.
This is where we maintain control and real control,
Not the illusion of control that the ego will have us believe.
Control is within ourselves,
Not in controlling anything outside of ourselves,
Including other people and situations.
And don't get it twisted.
This certainly does not mean we don't stick up for ourselves.
When the ego is threatened and puts us on the defense or in attack mode,
We can use it to our advantage.
The ego always wants to feel strong and dominant.
So use reverse psychology on it.
Remember the differences between a weak ego and a strong one.
Remember and remind yourself of these points.
One,
It doesn't take strength to yell,
Curse,
Argue,
Intimidate,
Or threaten others.
This is weakness.
Two,
It is weakness to allow others to control our emotions and reactions and take us out of our character.
Three,
Reacting negatively and aggressively indicates that we're the ones who are threatened,
Intimidated,
And fearful.
And our reaction is actually a way of overcompensating for this.
So what does it look like to speak up for ourselves with a strong sense of ego and high emotional intelligence?
Well,
Being appropriate and respectful,
Being open-minded,
Listening for the purpose of understanding without judgment,
And sharing ideas,
Thoughts,
Emotions,
Opinions,
And our perceptions with one another.
And remember sharing,
The word sharing is key because that's a two-way street.
It's not a one-sided lecture or with the intention of trying to convince somebody else of your point.
It's sharing a back and forth.
And remember,
It's all about energy.
We are all energetic beings.
Energy is the life force of all humans and animals,
Powering the heart to beat,
Allowing flowers to bloom and air to circulate,
And the earth to revolve around the sun.
We all function together off that same energy.
This is often referred to as the collective consciousness,
The universal consciousness,
Or oneness.
It means we can only be as happy and as healthy as the most unhappy and unhealthy person on this planet.
We are more united and more alike than most of us care to acknowledge.
And this is because we literally share the same energy.
Hate and fear radiate low vibrational energy that emits that frequency to others,
Causing them to feel and ultimately act in a negative way.
Conversely,
Love and joy radiate high vibrational energy that can cause us to act in a positive way from the heart and with good intentions.
Dr.
David R.
Hawkins suggested that one person vibrating at a high level of love,
Joy,
Or peace can essentially counterbalance thousands of people in lower states like anger or fear.
Very simply put,
Negativity breeds negativity.
Positivity breeds positivity.
This is the path to our freedom.
One singular person can have a significant impact on the vibrational frequency of the planet,
Which can ultimately influence our happiness and quality of life as a whole.
When we look at others and judge them,
We are in essence judging ourselves.
When we feel compassion towards others,
Even when we don't like or agree with them,
We show compassion towards ourselves.
We must heal and grow individually in order for humanity to heal and grow.
We have more control and responsibility for the state of the world than we think.
And whether or not you want it or choose to accept it,
You have it.
We must all take responsibility for our own emotions,
Thoughts,
Actions,
And vibrational energy.
It does us no good to complain and judge one another.
If you truly want change in this world,
Let it begin with you.
And this is not a new concept.
This truth has been known since the early 1900s or possibly even earlier.
Mahatma Gandhi,
The first recorded of this quote was in 1913.
He said,
Be the change that you wish to see in the world.
And here's another quote.
Fear will destroy us.
Only love can save us.
And that quote was by me.
Thank you for listening.
Prayers and love and light to you all.
