Pain Vs. Suffering: Are You Causing Your Own Suffering?
Have you ever met someone who seems to have a lot of drama or gets upset very easily...this could be you right now. In this talk, I'll share two different types of pain...Pain Vs. Suffering. One is something that we all experience, the other is optional. In this talk, I'll also share 2 steps for how to relieve yourself of the suffering you don't need to inflict on yourself.
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Have you ever met someone who seems to have a lot of drama in their lives?
Have you ever met somebody who seems to take things very personally and gets upset really easily?
And maybe this is you in your life right now.
If so,
I want to teach you today about two different types of pain.
One is pain.
Human pain,
Regular pain.
One is suffering.
The first one is something that we all experience in our lives.
The second one is something we also all experience in our lives,
But it's optional.
And today I'm going to talk to you not only about these two different types of pain,
But how to relieve yourself of suffering and that you don't need how you're inflicting pain upon yourself that you don't need to do.
And also if you stay towards the end,
I'm going to give you the tips on how to actually bring yourself out of this.
Stay tuned.
If you're new here,
Then my name is Dr.
Elisha Goldstein.
I'm a clinical psychologist.
I'm author of many books on the topic,
And I'm the creator of a mental health accelerator program called Uncover the Power Within.
If you want to learn how to work with me more closely,
Or if you want just access to free resources,
Go ahead and click on the links in the description below.
Okay.
There's a exercise I give to my clients and people I work with where I have them wake up in the morning and they wake up in two different ways.
And I give them the same event after they experienced that.
So the first one is they wake up in the morning,
They're in a terrible mood,
It's a terrible night sleep.
They've,
Um,
They kept the wrong outfit on.
And just,
I just make the whole scenario just awful.
They get a message from the IRS or think of whatever governmental agency you have.
And,
And they owe a bunch of money and they just feel lousy.
And they go out and take a walk outside and they see someone coming towards them in the distance,
The friendly acquaintance,
The person that the,
They smile and wave.
And the person just looks at them and walks on by.
I give them a second.
Then I asked them,
What are you thinking?
What are you feeling?
I give them a second scenario where they have a wonderful morning.
It's the exact opposite.
They just feel like they're like on cloud nine.
And then I have them go take a walk outside.
Same exact thing happens,
But something different happens to them in that moment.
In the first scenario where they feel lousy,
Their mind attacks them.
It says,
What did I do wrong?
Why is this person not like me?
The attribution is typically about ourselves.
And then we begin to ruminate on it and if left on their own,
And you might resonate with this,
They might begin to think about it all day long.
That's not familiar.
Have you ever done that before?
And,
Or do you know anyone who does that?
And,
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Margaret
July 3, 2025
Thank you for this information which is most helpful. Namaste
Peter
January 26, 2025
Thanks
Lori
January 24, 2025
This talk was amazing. Thank for sharing a clear perspective. I'm going to share with loved ones. 🙏🏻
Carrie
July 24, 2024
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January 14, 2024
I appreciate the practical value of your teachings and guidance. You make simple yet powerful ideas accessible and 'do-able' . Thank you 🙏🏻💞
Alton
December 26, 2023
Excellent! Thank you very much!
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November 26, 2023
Simple-direct -and informative
Christine
June 7, 2023
"Spot On" 😊 Thank You!
Linda
May 31, 2023
So helpful. Just what i needed. Thanks 😊
Karen
May 30, 2023
Great talk! It’s discipline, recognizing and naming a thought, and knowing the difference between pain and suffering. I will listen to this again. Very helpful and many thanks! Namaste
Luis
May 30, 2023
As a Budhist what you said is remarkable. Dharma teachings (teachings of the Buddha) said suffering is a creation of the mind, the resistance of trying to see reality as we want to instead of see reality as it really is creates suffering and attainment . Only through a deep exploration of our mind: meditation, suffering will cease! A a shift mindset is needed! Thanks for your words!!