Releasing The Fear Of Rejection

Is the fear of rejection preventing your from engaging more with life and achieving all that you desire? Learn to heal the past, release fear, and confidently open your arms to all the goodness coming your way.

Transcript

Hi,

It's Desiree Dunbar of the Secret Garden Society and I'm here to help you lay down process and heal the burdens of the past in order to Listen to the call of your soul and to live a life of true fulfillment What fear of rejection is within you that is preventing you that's keeping you stuck?

That's keeping you in a stronghold and patterns and cycles that just don't seem to get you where you want to go Today we're going to change that we are going to go back through the past and Bring powerful healing energies and support bring new insight and awareness and Quickly come to a place Where we have healed that fear of rejection and there's a new found courage You found courage to try new things to engage with life To listen to your own dreams to be willing to be authentic With the possibility of being judged and even if you were judged that you would be able to Just continue forward that I wouldn't bother you.

You wouldn't take it as personally wouldn't be as hurt And maybe you would even focus more on the positive reactions To what you do in the world to who you are when you're expressing yourself authentically Whether that's just through the clothes you're wearing the people you hang out with the music you listen to Through your lifestyle or whether it's through your business the essence of your business your Philosophies the way you want to serve in the world Not everybody will appreciate your work and That doesn't matter because the people that do appreciate it those are the ones that you want close to you and engaging with what you do and so we learn to let go of the need to have people like us and Really just bring in those That want this work those people that are just waiting waiting for you to do The thing that you do in the way that you do it If you just imagine the people that are just waiting For this particular thing or the way that you are in the world Whether it says clients Or just as even friends how many people are out there?

And I think there are a lot Okay,

My friend so let's start to move into a deep state of being that is relaxed and In psychology we call this the hypnagogic state Where the mind has slowed?

The monkey mind that busy mind Is given less attention and the brain has actually slowed down to a slower wave state And I'll be bringing in supportive healing loving energies To help integrate and process and bring you into this deeper state And it could be very playful and easy And there's only positive suggestions and prompts coming in Ones that are prompting you to feel authentic and whole and happy and to Be willing to engage with life to go out there and experience life to make mistakes to celebrate achievements These are just suggestive prompts And the journey that we'll take together is to benefit yourself Maybe even your family clients And really to benefit all beings as we shift and raise the frequency within us We will transmit that out to the world everywhere.

We go and others have the opportunity to benefit from that So taking a few long easy deep breaths just starting with a breathing And clearing away distractions as best you can creating a quiet space for yourself Notice how you're feeling And how you're feeling And how you're feeling what feeling tones and emotions are you present to?

And bring a loving care and Compassion The way you would to your best friend if they let you know how they were feeling There would be that empathy and caring And bring that same quality of caring to yourself now And To yourself now As though a future version of yourself comes in and stands next to you and says It's all going to be fine.

It's all going to work out And really there's no need to worry Or to feel fear or anxiety It is all going to be fine you'll see And if you like let this future version of yourself who's supportive and wise To be here with you throughout this entire journey of meditation And imagine That this version of yourself is doing this exercise as well to bring an even deeper level of healing and clearing integration And enhancement of confidence and ease in the world And find the breath in three parts breathing in To three to your deepest breath and then breathing out To three and send all the still air out of the lungs breathe in to fill up And breathe out to let go Breathe in to inspire And breathe out to soften relax And again and bring your mind's eye to the center of your head Notice the bridge of your nose and go behind a few inches And take a nice deep breath and imagine gold light filling up that space around the center of the head breathe in And then The gold light filling up that space around the center of the head breathe in Like you're stoking a fire the gold light gets powerful beautiful And then breathe out And let it dim and soften And again breathing in let the gold light swirl around the inside of the head clearing cleaning enhancing The chakra of the head this connection to consciousness And again breathing in doing great Powerful gold light in the head As you breathe out let anything that's ready to be released energetically from you Go down and out the soles of the feet as though you're a tree And this energy goes out your roots into the earth the earth can easily absorb Just the perfect amount for you any energies That are not yours to carry from ancestors workmates Children Organizations religion institutions And without needing to know what it is exactly perhaps you're seeing the image in your mind or just pretending It's happening or like you're watching a movie Unfold in front of you breathe in gold light and the gold light extends down to your throat now And exhale release out your roots anything that doesn't serve you with intention I give permission to release Anything that doesn't serve me down and out Breathe in let the gold light come down into your heart and expand through your beautiful heart So your heart could saturate like a sponge with gold shimmering light Right from the exhale releasing out specifically from the heart any past pains hurts traumas That no longer serve you any wounding could be preventing you from having courage From engaging with life breathe in Let the gold light come around your rib cage solar plexus expand even beyond your body So bright and glistening and shining Get gold glitter exhale And release out Release out any energy of giving your power away to others Any fear that if you speak up for yourself That you will be in danger let that go Okay,

Breathe in and send gold light Around the navel in front behind all around let it swirl and swirl inspire gold light around the navel And release out Release out releasing out Any illusion or having blind eyes to the truth i'm willing to see the truth Let out any energy that's preventing you from being truthful with yourself I'm willing to accept myself all parts of myself the dark the shadow My gifts and abilities My family history through all the ancestors Bringing in forgiveness acceptance celebration honoring Breathe in bring gold light into the bowl of the pelvis root chakra To the tip of the tailbone Let the gold light swirl and swirl around the bowl of the pelvis Release out the bottom of the pelvis like a sludge A sludge of old energy that wants to drain as though it's swirling around the drain And it just gently pours out into the earth the earth can easily absorb to heal transmute Send this back to where it came from Fill your whole body with gold light cold shimmering Bubbly effervescent light and let the gold light extend beyond your body Let a beautiful stream of energy come down from the sky the universe the cosmos To support to heal To support you in shifting from any fear of rejection to greater courage To greater self-belief To greater truth and understanding of your soul's calling And then bring up earth energy A cylinder of earth energy up to your pelvis And let the earth energy rise up To the top of your body And let the earth energy rise up like a fountain through your whole body And the earth energy validates you for the uniqueness of you Your physical body your mind your spirit Your soul the earth is validating all parts of you and your intrinsic worth You are so worthy you are so worthy of being loved just through your existence Just by you existing you are worthy of love And imagine yourself feel yourself Receiving the love of the earth with this fountain rising up and through you Being embraced by the ultimate unconditional love I am loved let that ground you let that calm quality and knowing you're loved and supported That all parts of you are loved and supported without doing anything just by existing I am worthy I am loved I'm lovable I am loving Let that melt away fears and anxieties Worry about being judged or making mistakes or needing to be perfect Allow yourself to accept the imperfections that are part of you And the beauty of imperfection That are part of you and the beauty of imperfection And acknowledge within you this willingness to learn the fact that you're here today tells me You are so willing to shift to change to learn to shine to shine in the next best versions of yourself That journey of transformation And release down and out to the earth any energies that are not supporting you And any energies of shame or not accepting yourself And bringing compassion to any resistance that arises any self judgment or the monkey mind Kicking in or even a feeling of being tired Like this is too difficult of a process to continue with the feeling like you want to fall asleep Just bring compassion to that the ego and the smaller self will resist the change and that is part of the process So just noticing saying I see you I hear you and I'm going to continue I'm going to continue with this I'm going to continue to change in order to feel deep fulfillment that I deserve This is my path and I will not let the small self and the ego resist in this moment And beautiful and then we're going to journey back to our childhood And see yourself going back to your family home between the age of two and eight And if you moved a lot to pick one family home the first one that comes to mind And trust that your mind will guide you that your mind knows best Breathe a lot and see yourself going to your bedroom and you open the door and go inside And see your little girl your little version of yourself Or boy and how old are they how old are they in this moment Are they two or three or four six or ten or twelve Any age any childhood age And just notice what they're doing in their room are they on their bed are they playing or writing what are they playing what kind of game what kind of feeling tones and emotions are they experiencing And remember your future self is here with you right now Also remembering following along the journey to bring even deeper healing from the place they are at now And where are the primary caregivers where are your parents or if it was your aunts or uncles or grandparents Or a babysitter where are they what are they doing are they working are they in a different room doing something else And what is your feeling as you're in this room do you feel something else In a different room doing something else and what is your feeling as you're in this room do you feel safe and comfortable Having fun or do you feel alone anxious concerned just noticing in order to bring healing And now beginning begin to journey to a time where in your childhood an event a situation where you felt rejection you felt rejected you felt left out you felt denied of participation You felt you weren't worthy because they didn't choose you or want you to be part of this Or they were pushing you out in some way being mean to you bullying you or saying that you're not worthy of truly being yourself of expressing yourself Maybe you should be quiet or you have to just listen to me I'm in charge here Or I'm going to manipulate you in some way and you have to do this because I'm the adult If you can touch into this experience remember you're in charge you can always stop you can look around you can take a deep breath And there's healing energy coming in now as you're remembering let your mind go back now remember the circumstance who was there Was it a peer at school was it a parent And notice how old you were notice how little you were you were just a child even as a teenager you're just a child and other adults are responsible for you They are responsible for your safety for your education for your learning and to make sure all your needs are met and perhaps they were not available and not doing their job properly at this time And in some way they were doing the best that they could though it wasn't good enough it wasn't good enough to make you feel safe And now journey back let your mind wander let your mind show you another circumstance another event Where you felt the lack of love you felt rejected you felt unworthy of love acceptance appreciation and inclusion what is this event Where were you how old who was there what was the circumstance why were they not including you Were they incapable were they ill were they mentally ill were they a bully were they jealous of you Did the same thing happen to them and they were projecting it onto you because you were kind and sensitive and young and innocent you were innocent Were they unaware were they acting from their own shadow and pain and trauma And you just happened to be there Notice all of that and that young child who felt there was no support for her in that moment that she was in danger Or he And one more time let your mind show you circumstance event time in your childhood When you were rejected you felt the pain of rejection the pain of rejection Perhaps it was your father someone who wasn't available perhaps it was a mother even at the time of birth Experiencing depression and sadness she was unable because of her emotions chemistry to properly love you She was unable to love herself or a bully at school who had a difficult childhood or their self-loathing And they were jealous of you for being so wonderful and smart talented capable Or perhaps it was a time you were rejected by a group of people more than one person And you felt you didn't fit in and you weren't valued for your uniqueness you weren't valued for being different being different Is not a bad thing being different is you being unique as we all are and expressing our uniqueness And this is what the universe wants you to do And now let your mind meander and dance between each of those three events and breathe deeply Move from one in any order to the next to the next and your future self is doing the same next to you And he or she may have different events that they are going through to deepen this to go wider just trust that that's happening Breathing breathing And now bring in healing For all these events see them inside a gold sphere as though they are playing out in this gold sphere And the healing is coming into the gold sphere and shake up the gold sphere for a moment like it's a snow globe and let purple Pink and gold sparkles flitter through the space bringing new harmony serenity understanding insight forgiveness New energy that's positive and supportive clearing karma Let this come into this sphere and just weave through all three events bring in profound support wherever you feel it comes from Bringing in healing now Breathing and feeling Letting go Let drain from the bottom of the sphere any old pains hurts traumas energies that no longer serve you down and out into the earth Bring a dab of white light into this gold sphere and let it dance around like a shooting star Leave the trail of stardust weaving through that gold sphere weaving through all those events And let emerge within the center of this sphere a version of yourself That feels confident strong capable self-loving self-accepting resilient joyful Happy calm grounded this version of yourself does not accept judgment negative comments negativity Trauma chaos all of that breaks away and falls out beyond the globe and this version of yourself is still and calm and joyous Bring in fuchsia pink light and let us swirl inside the globe let the fuchsia pink light come in to your body inside the globe Inside the globe into your heart into your heart and let it fill and absorb into your open heart I am loved it is safe to feel loving and lovable and let the fuchsia pink light go down to the navel and swirl around the navel It is safe to engage with life to adventure out into life and to experience to be around all kinds of people and situations It is safe to engage with life and bring that same fuchsia pink light into the bedroom of your child your inner child And let it swirl all around your inner child in the room infusing that room with the ability to feel true unconditional love A profound love and a profound validation of who that child really is and they're deserving their worth their intrinsic worth See that inner child being grounded by the earth that cylinder of energy rises up into your inner child and in that moment they feel completely alive Completely creative and joyous and excited and enthusiastic they feel completely safe there's no thought or concern that it wouldn't be safe to play And to be adventurous to imagine to be with others to feel loved and cared for that is the normal that is the baseline Bring this inner child with you let them know you're there now and let them feel the comfort of your energy you as a parent as though you are their parent And bring them with you to your current home and you're at your current home and bring them in and show them around and they have that feeling of safety and support That they can be their imaginative creative selves and introduce them to other people in the home and pets And notice what they want to do are they playing are they reading are they playing an instrument or drawing playing in the backyard they do they want to cook with you And allow them to be themselves allow them to feel their worth and the ease that life can be easy that they can play and engage with other people their surroundings engage with the life It can feel easy it can feel fun that they look forward to what's coming next there's no worry or anxiety there's no fear of the future There's no worry that other people won't like them because they know they are loved by you and that powerful love support and protection Is what they constantly turn into turn towards and so on any negative comments come any other people that don't appreciate or accept them or try to push them out It truly does not bother them it does not faze them because they realize that they are worthy they have your love they feel your love continuously And if other people do not see that worth and they are struggling within themselves to find their worth and we can bring the compassion healing The transmission of who we are so that they may advance into their own worth and see the truth of their worthiness And so we send that compassion to our caregivers that weren't there as they should have been Can you send a wave of compassion maybe even forgiveness It's not that it was acceptable or okay that they weren't doing their job it's just they didn't have the capability they were deeply struggling themselves They had their own traumas woven within them from their caregivers and beyond the circumstances in which they grew up And sending compassion if you can or acceptance acknowledgement that they were doing their best And that perhaps that best wasn't enough and so you're taking accountability and taking charge now to take care of that inner child that child to go back in time to bring her in close or him And leave intrinsic worth love confidence self acceptance and joy all through that young child nurture that now And as that continues sends into your future self allow your future self to nurture you right now your future self is doing a healing for you And may feel your worth that you may release heal accept any burdens laid upon you and release them down into the earth And may feel your worth that you may be brighter and shinier or connected to the love of the universe and the love of the earth and a willingness a courageousness a fierceness a boldness a tenderness Moving forward this is my life this is my life I am creating my life I am taking accountability now to move forward in the co-creation of my life I am engaging with others collaborators partners people who see my worth I am serving for the highest good myself my family and everyone I am in service I deserve to feel fulfilled I deserve to have a career gives back to the world and goes back to me I deserve to have as much money in the bank as I feel I need and can support others with I deserve to be healthy in my body and my mind I am loving and lovable and I move forward courage I know I'm capable I'm willing to be patient to allow the universe to guide me in each of the next best steps I do not need to know exactly the final product of where I will be I'm willing to be present just right now to hear the guidance the universe and listen now What is your future self inviting you to do?

Is there a message from your future self who has more life experience?

Who knows the mistakes that will need to be made in order to learn and breathe that in.

I know there's some part of you that will receive that integrated over the next few days and if it's okay with you one final thing going back to one of those events where you experienced rejection play with rewriting the story and if it was a case of being bullied could you change it so the circumstance was different so that person or group of people maybe were called out for that bullying and they stopped or maybe their home life changed so they felt their own self worth more they were protected more and they didn't need to lash out at you How can you rewrite this or if it was a parent how can your parent get the love and healing that they need so it's not released onto you or if it was a health issue that they were experiencing can you see that they become healed that they become healthy and it's no longer a problem change the problem recreate it so a solution is found that brings harmony I give you full permission to do this use your amazing imagination that you have and being in this state to rewrite the story through images through words in your mind allow yourself to do this I give you permission you have permission and so it is allow that event to be healed forever changed release any pain remaining down into the earth and know that this is shifting your future so that you feel more confident and that you open up to your best probable future where the courage and confidence continuously guides you into deeper more fulfilling experiences for the service and highest good of all and see that gold globe one more time and give it a little shake let all those glittering sparkles shift move around bring further healing gold light into your own body into that of your future self ground the ball ground yourself ground your future self ground your younger child how old is she he ground them ground all these circumstances people earth energy up good and let that gold ball melt into the earth all the glitter melts too and see your younger child you future self holding hands you're holding hands and let this inner love reception of love from self earth and universe ripple through all your hearts a rippling heartbeat from one to the child to you to future self and let it weave back again through you to child let it weave through the three around and around weaving through braiding through the hearts and let the love that the three of you are creating emanate transmit out to the world send it out send it out so that all may experience self love self belief and a desire to be in service for the highest good of all to create positive change in the world to be courageous to give the world what only you can give the way that you can give it support others in being courageous and so it is my friend we are going to slow this down beautiful work take a few deep breaths and looking around your eyes move your body are there any insights visuals experiences that you just had that you want to remember write them down the same way when we have a dream we want to do it fairly quickly before the insight escapes us from memory though it's still of course there and saved within the hard drive of ourself or if you know about the cash records that gets saved in the cash records or soul records and I invite you to really acknowledge this insight and new self love and perhaps an experience of forgiveness and tenderness and any emotions that came forward can be a beautiful experience of release release to feel lighter and it's my hope that you feel uplifted and lighter liberated and I invite you to even go back and repeat the process again at some point in time whether it's next week or in a couple months to take this deeper and higher you may find you go to different circumstances and bring healing to new places and points in time and to finish ground yourself bring that loving earth energy up we really can't do this enough get nice and grounded common alert for anything I'm going to do now whether it's going out into your day to engage with life or it's time to slow things down and unwind from your day I'm grounded and calm and even when the energy stops here so we've been bringing in this energy healing component the energy will continue flowing for the next four days especially while you sleep at night but you'll wake up feeling refreshed.

Thank you to all the support present thank you to you for doing this inner work to be in service to yourself to create a more loving and harmonious environment all around you.

Thank you thank you.

And we will stop there my friend.

I hope that you'll join me and other guided processes meditations.

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Bye for now.

Reviews

Wow, this was powerful.

Releasing and joining hands with younger and future selves.

I loved this meditation! Thank you for helping me see past situations from a new perspective of how the fear of rejection has been carried through various aspects of my life. I feel like I was able to address those through the techniques you used and let it all go. I feel much lighter and freer. Thank you!

Really good!

Beautiful, calming voice, helpfully guiding through the challenging subject of rejection. 💕🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💕

Love this! Thank you for sharing. So helpful.

This was so healing!! Thank you for this gift.

thanks! powerful meditation that bright very vivid memories of my childhood. extremely useful but many things to progress now.

Beautiful! Thank you 🙏