The Power Of Forgiveness

Join Selena for this uplifting replay of one of her live Insight Timer classes. Allow the burden of resentment and unforgiveness to transform in this moving talk on the Power of Forgiveness.

Note: The sound quality is lower than usual due to the nature of the live class and the hum of the computer fan.

Transcript

Wonderful,

Wonderful.

So we are going to move into the topic.

The conversation of forgiveness,

Forgiveness,

Just feel what that does inside of you when you hear that word forgiveness.

And let's just close the eyes for a moment.

Let's just take a moment to bring our whole selves here.

So unless you're driving or operating heavy machinery,

I invite you to close the eyes.

And feel your body,

Feel your body breathing.

Allow your body to be heavy.

Feel this sense of being supported by the seat by the earth beneath you.

Let's take a deep full breath in together.

Exhale with a sigh.

Another deep full breath in.

One more breath like this,

Just letting go with the exhalation.

Can you give yourself permission to relax just a little bit more?

Softening into this sense of being rather than doing.

And then let's slowly open the eyes.

Beautiful,

Thank you.

So forgiveness.

For some of us,

The idea of forgiveness sounds great,

Right?

This idea of being able to forgive and be free of something sounds great,

But it may not feel possible.

I assure you it is,

But it may not feel possible in this moment in time.

And that's okay.

This conversation today is not about how you should forgive.

Give yourself one more thing to feel guilty about,

Right?

This is an awareness of how forgiveness transforms our lives,

How it uplifts our lives,

How it benefits us.

Many of us have probably heard the saying that holding on to unforgiveness,

Not forgiving someone,

Especially if it's coming from a place of,

You know,

Wanting to make sure they know how much they've hurt you.

It's like drinking poison yourself and expecting the other person to die.

When we hold on to these feelings of resentment and pain and anger,

When we hold on to this sense of not forgiving someone else,

We are the ones that suffer the most.

It is our tender heart that carries that burden of not forgiving.

And as I just said a moment ago,

Sometimes it takes time.

It takes time.

Even if you have the greatest intentions of forgiving,

Sometimes we just need to be with whatever's arising.

We need to be with the feelings of hurt.

We need to be with those feelings of anger.

We need to allow ourselves to feel what is,

To even move into a place of forgiveness.

So I'd like to read a little bit on forgiveness from Simon's book,

Pedals of Grace,

For anyone who's just here for the first time or meeting me for the first time.

Simon is my spiritual teacher of almost 20 years.

This is Simon with us in the background here.

Yes,

Coach Adam,

Exactly.

Easier said than done.

Easier said than done.

And that's why we're here to have this conversation,

To offer some new perspectives possibly,

Or remind us how to be with ourselves in on the journey of forgiveness.

Because again,

Sometimes it just takes time.

Sometimes we need to go through the grieving process or go through the process of holding on to some attachment.

And that's okay.

It's okay.

It's natural.

It's human.

Yes.

The book is called Pedals of Grace by Simon.

I'll type it in the chat at the end.

If I forget,

Feel free to remind me.

So we'll begin just reading a little bit from this book,

And then we'll speak more on forgiveness.

And of course,

Anyone who wishes to share something,

I'll at some point go through their comments.

And I invite you,

As we move into this conversation more deeply today,

To just have a little bit of openness in your mind.

Your choice.

I'm not here to say that you have to have an open mind.

But you've taken the time to be here for this conversation.

So if you wish,

I invite you to allow your mind,

Maybe even your heart to be open to what might become more available to you in today's time together.

The title of this chapter is called Forgiveness Brings Freedom.

And as always,

Because we all have different belief systems,

If any of the words that I speak or the words that I read don't resonate with you,

No problem.

I'm not here to say that there's only one way to understand all of creation.

If you believe in God or Source or angels or anything like this,

Beautiful.

If you're an atheist and you believe that when we die,

We just turn back into stardust,

Beautiful.

No,

No,

There's no right or wrong here.

Again,

I just invite you to have this openness where you take whatever I say that resonates with you,

And you can leave the rest behind.

Yes.

The moment the mind chooses to forgive in that place where resentment is felt,

The heart forgives.

Then more love penetrates the heart chakra and more light penetrates the heart chakra.

This lightness of being,

Yes,

In the heart.

The higher self is always ready to pour more grace into your life and free the personality because life is to be a life of mercy,

Compassion,

Naturalness,

And forgiveness.

Thus,

Whenever you cannot forgive,

You are to question yourself.

It is important to choose in which state you wish to live,

Meaning do you wish to live in joy or peace or love?

Just awareness.

What do you choose?

For example,

If you say,

I wish peace on the planet,

Then how can you live without forgiving?

To move into that state of peaceful mind,

Your ego,

This part of the identity,

The personality that gets so contracted,

Your ego is to be transformed into love,

Into light.

Resentment is connected to defensive forces that will influence the subtle bodies,

Our energetic bodies,

Particularly the emotional body and the mental body,

Meaning that we are most impacted emotionally and mentally due to this resentment that we hold.

These are the main bodies to be purified to carry more light,

To carry more peace on this plane,

And to move into higher frequencies.

For such a long time,

Your ego has been fed by lower emotions.

And lower doesn't mean bad.

There's no bad or good.

Lower is a different experience.

Lower is a different vibration,

Literally.

Everything has a qualitative vibration in creation that can be measured.

And lower vibrations,

They vibrate in this slower,

More dense frequency.

So this is what we say when we refer to lower emotions.

For such a long time,

Your ego has been fed by lower emotions.

Then suddenly,

Because you are on this path of liberation to free yourself,

This path and moving towards enlightenment,

Maybe,

You are saying to this higher self,

Please take over so the outer personality and ego can stop directing everything.

So I could read more and more on this,

But the last piece that I'll read here is,

If you wish to be free from pain,

Use discernment.

Again,

Move into your heart.

Do not give power to your ego anymore.

Forgiveness.

Forgiveness.

Forgiveness.

How do you feel when you don't forgive?

How do you feel inside when you don't forgive?

Yes.

Yes.

Sad,

Tense,

Unease,

Angry,

Stagnant.

Yes.

Rotten.

Yes.

This is how we feel when we don't forgive.

There's a teaching that Saima has shared and that I've been looking at recently more.

And Saima said to us,

And I've heard this from Ma over the years,

Don't blame.

Don't blame anyone.

Stop this pattern of blaming.

And that's what we do,

Right?

When we're not forgiving,

We're blaming someone.

Oh,

You hurt me.

You did me wrong.

You didn't give me what I needed.

You were a bad person.

There's this blaming.

Yes.

And I've been reflecting on it.

Okay,

Well,

When we blame,

What does it mean?

If I'm blaming someone,

Then I'm living in that resentment energy.

I'm feeling stressed,

Awful,

Burdened,

And insomniac,

Unhappy,

Stuck.

I'm feeling all of those things.

So I understand why I wouldn't want to have this teaching.

But an even more potent realization is that when I blame,

When I blame somebody,

You did me wrong.

I completely disempower myself.

Completely.

I'm saying in that experience of blame.

And one side note here,

One side note is that the first step to any transformation,

The first step to experiencing anything new in our lives is awareness.

We can't have a new,

Well,

That's not true.

We can't have a conscious new experience of what we're wanting if we're not aware of what to shift first.

We can't shift into something new if we're not first aware.

So for example,

If I live in anger all of the time,

But I'm not aware of it,

Maybe someone could even say to me,

Selena,

You're so angry all the time.

And I would say,

No,

I'm not.

For me to shift that experience within myself,

I first need to become aware that I,

Oh,

I am living angry all the time.

And then I have the choice to shift it or not.

Yeah,

So that's awareness.

So I realized that when I blame that I completely disempower myself,

Because in that moment,

What I'm essentially saying,

Even though I usually wasn't usually aware of it,

What I'm saying is that I can't be happy because of what you did to me.

I can't be peaceful because of what you did to me.

I can't enjoy my life or have an open heart or be open to love again because of what you did to me.

I completely give my creative power away,

Completely give away the agency that I have,

The ability to make powerful decisions,

To grow,

To change,

To heal.

I completely give that power away when I blame.

How often have we been in a relationship with someone of any kind,

Maybe a family member,

A partner,

And we feel like we can't heal until they've said sorry.

We feel like we can't move on in our lives until they take responsibility.

We limit ourselves in that moment.

Each moment we live in that way,

We stop ourselves from living the fullness of joy,

From living the fullness of peace,

From living the fullness of creating what we want.

We stop ourselves in that moment by making that other person responsible for us.

And again,

It's not to say that it's easy to forgive.

It's to bring awareness.

It's to bring awareness.

So let's just take a breath in that.

When we blame,

When we are in a place of non-forgiveness within ourselves,

We put our own lives,

Our own joy,

Our own fulfillment on hold,

Thinking that that person is responsible for how we feel.

Yes,

Coach Adam is sharing.

We have to pick up the burden for them,

But it's not even necessarily their burden.

It's the burden that we've created within our own self.

They have,

Others always feel what they feel.

None of us are perfect,

Right?

It's the human nature to always grow.

We all make mistakes.

It's part of the beauty of this life that we get to grow and learn and evolve.

We all feel what we feel.

There have been times that we have been the person that needed to ask for forgiveness.

There have been times that we have done something that hurt someone,

Even if we didn't mean to.

We've all been in that position in one way or another.

And we know that we carry our own burden as someone who feels badly for what we've done.

So we don't need to think about carrying the burden for anybody else,

Because they are carrying their own burden regardless of us.

So we don't need to create any more burden for ourselves inside of that.

Yes,

Yes.

Thank you beloved.

Thank you for your great comments.

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Yes.

Yeah,

Julia,

I have enough burdens.

Yes,

And that's a whole other topic.

We could do an entire talk and several of them on the burdens of the mind.

Not even actual burdens,

But just the burdens of our perception.

So forgiveness.

I feel very fortunate because I was,

Well,

When I was raised in a family,

I was raised meditating.

I was raised with kind of holistic perspectives,

You could say.

And I was raised in a,

As much as it was a dysfunctional family,

As every family is in its own way,

I was raised in a family where there was a lot of love and this emphasis on compassion and kindness as a human being.

Compassion is one of the the greatest ways to free ourselves from non-forgiveness.

I remember when I was probably about 19,

I used to listen to one of Saima's audio recordings on repeat.

It was this very powerful recording.

It's still available called the Nobility of Women.

And it's really for men and women.

It's a very powerful recording,

But it's,

It was for,

Created for women.

And in part of it,

And I mean,

I listened to this on repeat.

I mean,

I'm like really like on repeat all the time in the background,

Even if I wasn't listening to it.

And there was this part in the recording where Ma said,

Beloveds,

Forgive anyone who has ever hurt you.

Forgive anyone who's ever hurt you because it was only out of ignorance that they hurt you.

If they were truly aware,

They would not consciously hurt you.

If they were truly aware and awakened to who they are,

They would not have hurt you.

So compassion,

Compassion for me is the cornerstone of forgiveness and the ability to forgive in my life.

There,

There,

I guess a cornerstone there,

There's four of them,

But I'll say there are two main points for me in my life that are really my anchors for forgiveness.

One of them is compassion.

Some of you may have heard the saying hurt people,

Hurt people,

Hurt people,

Hurt people.

Yes,

Julia.

All right,

Here,

I'll do that right now because people are still asking about the book and Simon's name.

So the book is called Pedals of Grace.

The audio is called Nobility of Women and Sai Ma is the name of my teacher.

So yes,

Hurt people,

Hurt people.

And even though sometimes again we have to process our own pain and we feel just all of that depth of pain when someone has done something where we feel hurt or upset,

Sometimes we need to move through that.

Sometimes I need to move through that.

Yes,

Sometimes I need to,

I go through that initial kind of reaction emotionally inside and then when I've come to a place where I can think a little more clearly,

I always look beyond their actions.

I look beyond their actions.

Okay,

What is it,

What is it that is happening in this person's life that is causing them to act this way?

What stressors are they dealing with that is making them this way?

What,

What is going on in their relationship or their work environment that is causing them to be this way?

And really what I look at is how was this person raised and treated from a child,

From the time they were a child that has caused them to be this way?

We all experience pain.

Some,

Some of it is just horrendous.

We all experience pain.

Even the people you want to hate the most in the world,

I won't name any names,

But even the people that you just want to dislike to your core,

You don't know what kind of dysfunctionality they were raised with.

Think about it,

Every soul,

And again if you're atheist,

Let's take the word soul out of it,

Every human being when they're born is born pure,

Just pure.

That's why people love being around babies so much because they're pure consciousness.

They're not in that judgment mind,

That identification with the humanness yet.

They're just pure consciousness,

Pure awareness,

Experiencing itself.

It feels so good to be around them and see them,

And for some,

I'm sure not everyone.

We're all born in this state of purity,

And if you believe in reincarnation and karma,

Even with the past,

Even with what we carry into this life,

We're still born in this state of purity when we reincarnate.

So it is our life experiences that mold us,

And for some of us maybe you could look at the picture of someone's life and say,

Oh well it hasn't been that bad for them.

You don't know how they responded to it.

Think about the tenderness of a child,

You know.

Most of us have these kind of patterns,

Outdated patterns inside of us because we were just so tender,

Our processing of our environment caused us to believe things about ourselves,

About the world that were totally inaccurate.

Maybe somebody looked at you a certain way when you were a child and you made it mean you were unworthy and you've lived the rest of your life with this belief that you're unworthy.

So without going too deep into the topic of compassion,

Although it's very valuable,

This awareness that hurt people hurt people.

People that disconnect from their own heart and their own ability to feel their emotions are more prone to hurting others.

And why would someone do that?

Why would someone become so intellectual?

Why would someone become so limited to only their mind that they can't feel their heart of the emotions?

Why would someone do that?

Usually unconsciously,

But why?

Because they've experienced so much pain.

So again,

Compassion for me is one of the foundations for being able to forgive someone.

Yes,

And it's generational.

It's generational.

Parents are hurt people as well.

Yes,

Many people,

Many of you are sharing about your parents.

Parents,

We have generations,

Generations of poor behavior,

Generations of a lack of compassion,

Generations of abuse that are just passed down,

Passed down.

We have it in our families and we have it collectively as societies.

Ignorance,

Hatred,

Passed down.

So yes,

That exists,

But again,

Even inside of that,

Hurt people hurt people.

So I'd like to share a little story,

And this story has really served me deeply in my life.

I actually realized that I originally had it as a book when I was a child,

And I found it later in life.

Again,

If you don't,

If you don't believe,

Well what I'll say here is,

Remember how at the beginning of our conversation I invited you to have an open mind?

I invited you to have an open mind,

And if you are feeling today like you were just holding on to your unforgiveness like this,

I honor that.

Again,

I'm not here to tell you that you should be forgiving.

I honor.

If you need to just hold on to that unforgiveness today and just be with it and and sit with it,

It's okay.

Before I share this story,

I just like to invite us to realize that many of us define who we are by this unforgiveness.

Many of us define who we are by the pain that we carry,

And then we limit our lives.

I went through this pain,

And now I don't open my heart anymore.

I had this traumatic experience,

And now I know nothing good will ever happen to me.

It's a fear,

It's a fear tactic,

Protection mechanism.

If I hold on to the pain as a way that I know myself to be,

Which is not true,

It is not true.

I'm not saying your pain isn't real for you.

I'm saying that the essence of who you are is not the pain.

But if I hold on to that,

Don't I get to live in a little bit more of a box?

If I hold on to the belief that I'm not good enough or that people always hurt me or that the world is full of unkind people or whatever,

However we hold this pain inside,

If I believe that,

I don't have to take risks the same way.

I don't have to make myself available to people in the same way.

I don't have to open myself to the possibility of hurting the same way.

And many of us hold on to our painful stories and experiences and live in a victim energy.

People are always doing things to me.

I don't deserve this.

Everyone picks on me.

Everyone's mean to me.

I'm the only one who goes through this.

When we live in that victim energy,

It's the same thing.

We make ourselves small.

We make ourselves small.

So small.

And don't we know that pain of being small?

That pain of keeping ourselves so closed in that we're unavailable to life,

That we're unavailable to intimately connect with the people we love,

That we're unavailable to just feel relaxed in our lives.

Yes,

Eric,

That protection was a prison for me for years.

Yes,

My love,

Exactly.

The greatest prison that can be in our lives,

Not the greatest,

But the most profound experience of prison is in our own mind.

Many of you have probably heard this teachings like this,

That you can imprison a body.

You can put someone's body in prison,

But you can never imprison the mind.

Many people have had spiritual revelations and awakenings being locked up in jail or in prison.

Not to say I wish that upon anyone.

The prison that we create of suffering is in our own minds and how we relate to ourselves in the world.

So,

Yes Charlotte,

Thank you.

This is very potent.

It's that victim energy that gives one permission to hurt others.

It becomes an excuse.

Exactly.

Well,

Someone did this to me,

So I'm going to be an a-hole now.

Well,

Nothing good ever happens to me.

Why should I be kind to this person?

Exactly.

But here's the thing,

You hear me say that and some of you are probably cringing like,

Oh that kind of a person.

That person is so hurt.

That's why they act that way.

That's why they act that way.

So,

Let's take a breath.

We'll come back to this story.

Again,

I invite you to have an open mind here.

So,

This is from a book called The Little Soul in the Sun and I'm going to paraphrase it.

In this story there is a little soul and again open mind.

There's a soul in heaven or you can say wherever.

The peaceful place.

Yes.

There's this little soul and the soul goes to God and says,

God,

I really want to know what it's like to experience forgiveness.

And God says,

Wow little soul,

Okay.

Well,

For you to experience forgiveness,

You must have someone to forgive.

So,

If you can find someone to forgive,

Then you can have this experience on earth.

Remember,

They're not on earth right now.

They're in some other realm,

Heaven,

Whatever you want to call it.

And so,

Little soul says,

Okay,

I'll find someone who I can forgive.

So,

Little soul goes walking around and sees another soul and says,

Excuse me,

Will you be the one to help me experience forgiveness?

And the soul goes,

Oh no,

No,

No.

I couldn't do that.

Little soul goes around another soul,

Excuse me,

Will you be the one to help me experience forgiveness?

Oh no,

I couldn't do that.

The soul continues to go around,

Excuse me,

Will you be the one to help me experience forgiveness?

No,

No,

No,

No.

Not me,

Not me.

The little soul goes on and on and on and no one,

No one will do this.

And finally,

The little soul comes across another and says,

Excuse me,

Will you be the one to help me experience forgiveness?

And the other soul says,

You know what,

Little soul,

I love you so much that I will be the one to help you experience forgiveness.

I will play this role for you,

But just remember that when we're on earth,

You won't remember that it's me,

The one who's hurt you so much,

The,

Excuse me,

The one that,

The one that loves you so much that's hurting you.

You won't remember because that's how you get to experience forgiveness.

You must forget that I am the one who loves you so,

To have this experience in your heart.

Again,

I invite you to just have an open mind here.

What if,

What if the people who have hurt you the most in your life,

The people who have been so awful,

What if the people that have been monsters in your world were actually the souls that love you the most and said,

I will help you experience this,

I will help you learn,

I will help you grow into who you want to be as a life form.

But you won't remember,

You won't remember when I'm doing these things that cause so much pain that I care for you more than anything.

So let's just take a breath.

I imagine for some of us that is touching our hearts and for some of us it's making us cringe.

So wherever you're at with that,

It's okay,

It's okay.

Yes,

Kathy,

Thank you for allowing you to feel sadness.

I'll share another story.

Yes,

That's it,

That's it.

What if the people that we felt the most hurt by,

That we felt broken from their actions,

What if it was all for us,

For us to expand in our hearts,

For us to grow.

My mom always taught me as a child when I would be in pain she would say the greatest pain creates the greatest compassion and we know that pain can make us very bitter but if we allow ourselves to break inside of it,

It opens as I think it was Rumi said,

The wound is where the light comes in.

So I'm going to share another story to illuminate how I've integrated this into my life.

When I was in my,

When I was in my I think mid-20s,

So probably about 10 years ago or so,

I was living in a communal house.

I lived in the Bay Area,

California Bay Area where I lived for a long time and I was living in this house with maybe like five other people in this big beautiful house and my boyfriend at the time he lived there in a separate room and we had a very rocky relationship.

We would you know be together,

Not be together,

We were living together in the house.

It was always kind of this back-and-forth energy and one day one of the women that we live with just while I was doing laundry she stood in the kitchen and looked at me and she said I've been sleeping with your boyfriend and I was just,

It was something that I'd kind of sensed but if I had ever brought it up it was always dismissed or the energy of it was dismissed and I just remember standing there kind of like that deep awareness of I was right and also that kind of crumbling nervous system response of oh my god this is awful.

So in that moment I breathed,

I breathed and I went into my room and I fell down where I meditate,

Fell down where my altar is and I was just crying and crying and I just felt my heart just cracking,

Just all of this pain and of course all of the anger also.

You know feeling betrayed,

Feeling lied to,

Feeling to be made out to be you know the crazy girlfriend for considering that that was a possibility.

I received that kind of feedback you know and all the while in this same house this is happening and I'm just like you know processing all of this and then of course it's the grief of this person that I love having done this and then something inside of me started to open through all of the tears and I don't know if I remembered the story that I shared with you about the little soul in the Sun.

I don't know if I remembered that in that moment but something,

Something was waking up in my mind and this is a point in my life where I was able to call Saima on the phone and I called Saima and Saima was in silence that day so I just felt Saima's presence on the other end of the line and through choking sobs I said thank you Ma.

I said thank you so much for giving me this opportunity to learn forgiveness.

Thank you for this experience to learn how to forgive.

See even in the moments when we feel the most crushed by life we can move into a higher experience.

Even in the moments when we want to be so committed to and attached to our pain that's my pain that person did me wrong even in those moments when all we want is to just hold on to it for dear life because it defines us we can move beyond that and it took some time to go through the grieving process and the the emotional processing.

There were many moments I did not feel that forgiveness.

It's not like oh I felt I felt that forgiveness in my heart oh and just to add on I really did I felt I felt humbled in that moment and I and I honored the soul of this woman and my boyfriend at the time.

I honored their souls through the sadness and through the choking sobs I thanked their souls.

I said thank you.

I said thank you so much for giving me this opportunity to learn.

Thank you so much but as I said and many many days many times over the next weeks the next months even the next years there were moments where that that unforgiveness would come up but then I would I would release it.

So just to share that it is possible to be aware of this higher path even in the midst of pain and that it can still take time it will still take time for most of us to integrate to process the experience but it is possible it is and you know why for me forgiveness is so important because I would much rather live in the freedom of my heart than the bitterness of all of those other emotions.

I would much rather feel relaxed and always feel that tension.

So you can take the higher road and say I'm going to forgive because this soul is giving me an opportunity to grow but you can also just say I'm going to forgive because I no longer choose to carry this burden.

I no longer choose to drink this poison every day and inside of forgiveness,

Forgiveness doesn't mean that we that we need to forgive the action.

It doesn't mean okay you know you guys had an affair behind my back in the same house and I think that's great.

Affairs are good keep going.

No it just means that I forgive the people.

I forgive the souls.

I forgive those who at their essence would have never made such a choice if they were fully aware.

It's not necessary to forgive the action or to agree with what someone has done to move into forgiveness.

Not at all.

It's the freedom that we experience when we forgive those who have hurt us.

That is where the freedom lies.

To let go.

And something else that's very very important to realize because I think many of us are unaware of this.

I think many many of us think I hate this person but I love these people and it doesn't doesn't get in the way or I feel so much unforgiveness towards this person but I fully love this other person.

It's not possible.

I'm saying it.

It's not possible.

When we hold on to unforgiveness and all of that blame and that judgment you can't compartmentalize it.

And this is how we often think.

Oh this is where the hatred lives and this is where the love lives and I just go between the two.

It doesn't work that way.

We are whole.

We are one.

There is no compartmentalizing.

Maybe on the mental level sometimes but if I live with bitterness in my heart.

Let's get let's get this clear.

See it in your mind if you wish.

If I live with bitterness in my heart and for the sake of this example let's say love is where let's say the heart is where love lives.

If that bitterness is in my heart then that love has to go through that bitterness to reach others.

That bitterness that I live with impacts my ability to love.

That non-forgiveness impacts my ability to be open to be receptive to be in my heart fully.

It's not something that you can separate within your own being.

So the real gift that you give yourself when you forgive is that you get to live your life more fully as you.

You get to live more fully with love.

You get to live more fully in peace.

You get to live more fully with the inspiration or the confidence to create what you want or to live your life how you want.

That's what becomes available when we forgive because that that shield or that that covering of bitterness that covering of unforgiveness is lifted from our magnificent heart and then we're more available to life.

So let's move into a brief experience together.

Thank you so much for your comments and your donations.

We probably won't have time today to go back through the comments but I thank you.

I thank you for your participation and for caring for each other.

I love seeing how you care for each other.

So I invite you to set down your phone,

Take your hands away from the computer keyboard and just close your eyes.

Give yourself permission to really just be right now.

This is a time to to let go of what you're doing.

You can heart away when this is over.

So if the eyes closed bring the awareness to the breath and the heart.

Relax your jaw,

Your face.

Relax your chest and your belly.

I know that right now you are in a safe space.

Right now you are in this sacred space together.

The eyes are closed.

Together we are in this space.

Of the heart and whatever is in the heart.

Whatever is here.

Bring to mind someone in your life who you wish to forgive.

You wish to be forgiven.

You wish to be forgiven.

You wish to be forgiven.

You wish to be forgiven.

Someone in your life who you wish to forgive.

And see them standing across from you.

See what they look like.

Take a deep breath and again realize and feel that you are in a safe sacred space right now.

This person can do you no harm in this space.

You've brought them here today in your awareness because you are ready to be free.

You are ready to live the life of a free heart.

See them standing across from you.

And repeat these words.

I forgive you.

I forgive you.

Because I no longer choose to carry this burden.

I do not agree with what you have done.

But I forgive you.

I forgive you.

Because I am ready to be free.

I release you.

I release my attachment to this situation.

So that my heart may be free once again.

I release you so that I can live my life for me.

I release you so that I may live in the freedom of my dreams.

I release you so that I may love.

I forgive you.

And I release you.

I forgive you.

I forgive you.

I forgive you.

I forgive you.

I forgive you.

And I forgive myself for anything that is needing forgiveness.

I forgive myself.

I forgive myself.

I forgive myself.

I release myself from the burden of shame and guilt.

I release myself from this weight that I carry.

I release.

I release.

I know in my deepest heart that I have never meant to cause harm to others or myself.

I forgive myself.

I forgive myself.

And I release myself to live in the freedom of this forgiveness.

I release myself to be open to love.

I release myself to be open to the beauty of life,

To abundance,

Connection,

Vitality.

I release myself to live a full and beautiful life.

Seeing this person standing across from you,

I release you to live as the fullness of the soul that you are.

I release you so that you may live your life as you are meant to.

I release myself from the burden of your life so that I may be free.

In this moment,

I welcome the freedom of my own heart.

Place your palms over your heart.

In this moment,

I welcome a beautiful life.

In this moment,

I let go so I am free.

I am free.

I am free.

I am free.

I am free.

Let's take a breath together into the heart,

Into the whole body.

Allow your body to relax.

There are so many physical benefits of forgiveness on our health,

Our immune system.

Another deep breath in and out together.

From this space inside,

Wherever you are,

However you're feeling,

Let us be open to something new,

To something great,

And slowly open the eyes.

I love you.

This is your birthright,

Your birthright.

It's part of this creation to learn and to grow.

We usually learn from the uncomfortable experiences.

May we be open,

Receptive,

Even grateful maybe for the opportunity to forgive,

The opportunity to expand in the heart,

The opportunity to be alive,

The opportunity to love,

To forgive.

Be tender with yourself,

Be kind.

Thank you.

Thank you.

Okay,

Beloveds,

What a long session we had today.

Thank you for spending time with me,

Letting me be with you,

Going on this journey of forgiveness today.

All my love,

All my love,

All my gratitude to you,

For you in my life.

Thank you for being part of my life.

Thank you for your presence.

Thank you.

Thank you.

I cherish you.

I love you.

I love you so.

Thank you.

I love you.

I love you.

I love you.

I love you.

I love you.

I love you.

I love you.

Reviews

🔮🌺🔮thank you for your heart felt words and thoughts about forgiveness ..it was much needed

Beautiful guidance - exploring forgiveness and its impact, then experiencing it through a gently guided practice 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

I’ve been on the side of needing to ask for forgiveness and it honestly has been heartbreaking that I’ve hurt the person I loved the most. It’s difficult to move on knowing the other person hasn’t forgiven me. I’m finding compassion in myself listening to this talk and finding strength in letting go. Thank you 💙🙏🏽

Such resonance, such wisdom. From my heart to yours ✨THANK YOU✨ 🙏❤️

It was a wonderful and powerful experience this space of reflection. I touched deep my heart. Thanks so much for sharing!

I wish I could give 500 stars! Thank you. My angels brought me to your words & my soul has done more healing with understanding. Blessings to you always! 🙏❤😇🌞

Beautifully done from the soul of everyone carrying the pain of non forgiveness

Amazing! So grateful to you for doing what you do! To your guides for helping inspire you to do this work and inspiring me to do this work in my own special unique way!

Very helpful talk about forgiveness! Thank you for sharing this!

Thank you so much for this beautiful session. Eternal gratitude. I feel lighter. Going to keep practicing this technique to forgive, release and let go. Perhaps another session on how we can better forgive ourselves. Blessings! 🙏👍❤️

Oh, my, that was incredibly powerful. This is putting the finishing touches on my healing journey of forgiveness and letting go. My deepest thanks, Selena.

So powerful! Thank you 💕

Thank you. I really needed to hear this today.

So wonderful! It made me cry when you told a story about the little soul. From then on I was putting in your hand. Thank you for touching my heart and Uplifting my spirit! I love you and all you do.

Namasté 🙏🏼♥️

Such a POWERFUL, INSIGHTFUL and WISDOM-FILLED Talk❣️ This is a Talk that would GREATLY BENEFIT all humans. 😊
I am so Thankful to have found this ENLIGHTENED understanding of a topic we all encounter and struggle with. 🙏🏻💕

Excellent, excellent talk! Everyone should listen. I am so glad the replay is available.

Thank you Selena.
So genuine. So informative. Your teachings always hit home.
Thank you again 🙏💜