How To Feel Grateful (Even When You're Not)

10 minute gratitude meditation for how to find gratitude - even during hard times and the last thing you feel is grateful. Gratitude in hard times and challenges is one of the biggest aspects of practicing gratitude to master. Conditions like depression or anxiety might also cloud perception and make it challenging to find the light amid the darkness, and this practice reminds you that gratitude can be a tool or ally even when things aren't going your way. Sending you love, whoever you are and wherever you are!

Transcript

Something has been on my mind quite a bit lately,

On the subject of what many would call unanswered prayers.

God,

Spirit,

The Universe.

If you are here,

You likely believe in something.

And maybe over the years you've asked for a thing or two,

Too.

Sometimes we get exactly what we want.

And sometimes it's radio silence.

And sometimes the waiting room is the hardest place to be.

Welcome to Coached by Nikki Dyer.

So we begin here by closing down your eyes and taking a big deep breath in.

And exhale as your body and mind connect in an all-too-familiar way,

Letting any thoughts or emotions just pass through you with the breath.

Gently inhale.

And slowly exhale.

There's no right or wrong way to do this.

There is no pressure.

You are right where you are meant to be.

Feel how your body releases a little deeper still with every exhale.

Feeling the weight of this past day or week just fall away.

Today we're going to practice a different kind of gratitude.

By giving thanks for everything you never asked for,

But got anyway.

When we let courage and wisdom help us find the blessings within our challenges,

These situations become a mirror that we can reflect into.

To show us where we need to change and grow.

And you also never really know what an inconvenience has protected you from.

I'm going to say each one,

And I will leave a little space for you to repeat.

So let's begin.

Thank you,

Silence.

Thank you,

Nothingness.

Thank you,

Consequence.

Thank you,

Disillusionment.

Thank you,

Fear.

Thank you,

Tears.

Thank you,

Anger.

Thank you,

Inconsideration.

Thank you,

Traffic.

Thank you,

Tardiness.

Thank you,

Disappointment.

Thank you,

Exhaustion.

Thank you,

Breaking point.

Thank you,

Clarity.

Thank you,

Time.

There are 8 billion people in this world,

And not a single one enjoys a life that is challenge-free.

Challenge is necessary,

And it's also unavoidable.

Challenge is your teacher,

But it's also your ally.

Finding the good and the lessons in things allows us to move through them,

And on to all the new experiences still waiting for you.

So the next time you find yourself in a place or space you'd rather not be,

Either physically or mentally,

Say thank you.

Find gratitude in what it may be protecting you from.

Look for the lesson hidden within the mirror,

And learn.

So I invite you to take a final deep breath in here,

And exhale as you let it all go.

And when you feel ready,

Open your eyes and come back to the room around you.

Thank you for being here.

Reviews

That was really beautiful. I appreciate the pacing as well as the words. Parts of it made me laugh! Thank you.

Brilliant! I found this supportive and inspiring and it helped me reset my perspective. Thank you! 🙏

Again one of your offerings comes into my life at just the right moment. The universe knows what I need to hear, and you are the conduit through which I hear it. Thank you, Nikki!🙏🏻😇

Thank you for the reminder that even hard things and annoying things can teach me about myself and help me grow.

I had a chuckle when I heard Alanis Morissette’s ‘Thank U’ - one of my favourite songs… great reminder that life’s blessings aren’t only what you get but what you’re spared from… Thank you!

What a unique perspective. Will be coming back to this one.

I needed to hear this today and I’ll come back to it often! At times it reminded me of the Alanis Morriset song “Thank U” lol. Thank you for the reminders 🙏🏻

Thank you so much🙏 A true and real heart's prayer 💛

Wise words, thank you so much! I had trouble getting into it because I got stuck when you said “all too familiar” in a positive way (as the meaning of “all too” is negative) but then let go and enjoyed (with difficulty, I’ll admit) your affirmations of gratitude for things we usually try to avoid. This was very helpful. Thank you. It helped get me out of my very active mind, and into my wise heart. ♥️

Thank you Nikki 🙏🏽 So refreshing and thereby helpful to come at things from this angle. Bringing with it a sense of ease to my current discomfort. Reminding me of what I do already know, that nothing is for nothing! This will help me stay present to that 🌸

Wow what a powerful meditation giving new perspectives on gratitude 🙏 💖🦋✨️🤗

I really enjoyed that. It was such a different way to look at gratitude that I will begin using today. Thank you. 🙏

So grateful for your words! 🙏 Just what I needed today. 🦚 Thank you so very much 💜🙏💚

What a unique perspective to turn things inside out and see how much value is actually inside what you think might be empty ✨ with gratitude for the abundance within emptiness

Different and refreshing way of being grateful! Thx Nikki..

If i had a treasure map to knowing my soul, this meditation would be on the path to X marks the spot where i find myself!

Thank you for this fabulous meditation On gratitude.
It was exactly what I needed to hear and to be grateful for everything.
Blessings of gratitude🙏

I love the back door approach to gratitude. It put a whole new perspective on practicing gratitude. Wonderfully simple and insightful.

With so much struggle in my life, not just the passed a few weeks over the past 10 months… I feel this I feel this so much -searching for my joy and reclaiming it… I feel that finding gratitude is sometimes finding it in the same things the stable things in my life . Thank you for the new perspective, perhaps all these things that I am feeling are something to be grateful for as they lead me to new chapters in my life. blessings to you

What a breathtaking new perspective…being grateful for things I’ve never even imagined being grateful for…it feels so good!
Thank you for sharing such profound insight.
Namaste 🙏💚