Your Desires Are Meant For You (Inner Worthiness)

In this episode of the podcast, I show you how to truly understand that your desires are meant for you and how to begin feeling worthy of and taking action toward them.

You are worthy of a beautiful, happy life. You are worthy of every single thing that is in your heart. I hope that this episode taps you into that energy.

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Transcript

Hello and welcome to another episode of the Wild Free Well podcast.

Today I am here to talk to you about desire.

And not in the naughty sense,

But I'm here to talk to you about,

You know,

What you want.

What do you want?

And more importantly,

I am here to talk to you about the fact that you are worthy of what you want.

And not only are you worthy of what you want,

But you are meant to have what you want.

You are meant to have your desires,

Your desires are meant for you.

So we're gonna start as per usual,

With you thinking about a little something something.

Okay?

I want you to think right now,

Pause me if you have to take a second and think of all the things you don't want.

Okay?

I want you to think of all the things that are available to you in the world that you have no desire to do,

Be or have.

Okay?

I know it's a weird question.

But it's real important.

Why?

Okay,

I want to I want to break this down.

I want to talk about like from my experience.

So for example,

I could want a fancy car,

Or a huge house.

I could want to be a doctor or a gardener or a pole dancer.

I could want 7 million things.

I could want to be more generous I could want to be I'm having trouble thinking of adjectives.

Interesting.

Yeah,

I could want to be more generous.

I could want to be more outgoing.

I could want to be more social.

I could want to be more adventurous.

I could want to be more spontaneous or more carefree or more whatever.

Okay,

I could want all of these things.

There is nothing that is stopping me from wanting any of the things I just mentioned.

Okay.

But those things don't even cross my mind.

Some of the adjectives do I'll be honest,

Because I was having trouble coming up with like relevant adjectives.

Some of the adjectives do but like for example,

I didn't say self confidence because I know that I want more self confidence like I actively want that right but those things that I mentioned,

You know,

This fancy car or like having a huge house being a doctor being a gardener being a pole dancer like none of those things cross my mind.

Why?

Because those things aren't mine.

They aren't meant for me.

Okay,

Because what I want is to be a coach or to be a mentor.

Okay,

Because I want to be able to travel versus owning material things,

Right?

I'm not really I literally God I've never cared about vehicles at all.

And I used to want a big house and then I realized the energy and effort it takes to keep and maintain a big house.

And that is just not for me because I want all my extra income to go directly to travel.

That's that's mine,

Right?

That belongs to me.

I know I want to be location independent.

I know I want to feel wild free well all the time,

Every single day.

I know that I want those things.

I can feel them calling to me when I am down or when I'm not feeling like my best.

Those are the things that I'm always drawn towards feeling wild free well and travel and mindset work.

That is that's for me,

Right?

And so what I want you to think about is the things that you're not thinking about,

You're not thinking about because there's a reason,

Right?

And if that's the case,

If there's all of these beautiful experiences,

And you know,

Material possessions and characteristics and personality traits that you could embody your your,

You know,

The options are endless,

You are very you're quite literally like limitless in what you could desire.

Why don't you desire those things?

Which takes me to the next part,

Which is that you desire the things that are inherently meant for you.

You desire the things that are aligned with who you are as a person,

They are aligned with your values,

They are aligned with the kind of life that you want to live,

Right?

The things that you are being called towards the desires that you have in your heart.

Those are there for a reason,

They are calling you for a reason,

Because they are meant for you.

Because you are meant to have them.

And,

And this is like,

You know,

The special sauce on top,

Because you are capable of making them a reality.

Okay?

Because,

And we talked about this a little bit in the last episode of the podcast,

Right?

Like,

When we see something in other people,

Or when we see other people doing something or having something or living a certain kind of reality or whatever,

We are drawn to that,

Or we're feeling jealous of it,

Because it's it's something that we genuinely want.

But there's 7 million things that we could potentially want,

Right?

Why don't we want all of the things all of the time?

Why don't we want all of the attributes and all of the material possessions and all of the you know,

Different jobs?

Like,

Why aren't we all trying to be I guess,

In this case,

Like a jack of all trades master of none?

Like,

Why aren't we trying to do all the 7 million things or want the 7 million things?

Because the things that don't cross your mind,

You just literally don't even think about them.

But then we spend so much time getting down on ourselves about the things that we actually do want.

But if you are focusing on those things,

If you are thinking about them,

If they are constantly popping up into your reality,

They are popping up into your reality for a reason,

Right?

The other things,

You're not even considering them,

They don't even exist in your reality.

And they don't exist because they're not meant for you.

Because the things that you see,

And the things that you want,

And the things that are truly calling to you are exactly what is meant for you in this moment.

And so it becomes a question of like,

How do I move towards those things?

How do I,

And maybe even before that,

Let's take it even deeper.

And let's take it a step back.

Before I even start to take action towards those things.

How do I really sink into the idea of being worthy of them?

Sit with that for a second.

How can I believe that I am worthy of my desires?

How can you tap deeper into this idea of like,

Well,

I see this thing in my reality.

And I'm constantly,

You know,

Desiring this thing or wanting this thing,

Whatever it is,

It does not matter if it is a job or a type of person or a certain lifestyle.

Or,

You know,

If it is the car,

The big house,

Being a doctor,

It really does not matter what it is that you're wanting.

Okay?

If you're wanting that,

It's you want it for a reason.

And you have to believe that you are worthy of it.

And like,

I'll be honest,

As I've said before,

This is the part that always trips me up too.

Because like,

How do we get to a space of worthiness?

And I think that just realizing that these things are continuing to come up and that you're thinking about them and you're focusing on them,

I think that is actually the secret sauce.

Because I think that it's showing us what we're inherently meant to move towards.

It's almost like the universe kind of gifted us this idea or gifted us this desire,

Because we are meant to be actively taking steps towards it.

And if we can understand that,

Like if we can just accept that,

As true,

So if we can say,

Okay,

I want this thing,

Whatever it is,

Because the universe put it inside me,

Because God gave me this desire,

Because,

You know,

Whatever denomination,

Source,

Higher power,

My intuition is guiding me towards it,

Whatever,

Whatever wording you use,

It really doesn't matter.

If we can believe that,

It takes the discussion of worthiness out of the question.

Because it's there for a purpose,

It was put there on purpose for the evolution of our soul,

Of our spirit of our lives to move us in the direction that we are meant to be moving in.

Because otherwise you'd want all the things,

Wouldn't you?

Like,

Why not want all the things?

If the world is limitless,

If you are limitless,

And if you can have,

Do or be anything,

Why do you want the specific things that you want?

And maybe you need to sit there too.

Maybe it's about going back and asking yourself if those things are actually yours.

Like,

Do you want them because you want them or because you feel like you should,

Because your parents want them for you,

Because society wants them for you?

We've talked about this on so many episodes of the podcast,

Like,

And if you need help figuring out like what's yours too,

You can always go back to like episode one,

Classic vintage Wild Free Will podcast,

And like kind of go through the that's not mine technique.

Like you can hear people talking about what they want and just be like,

That's cool for you,

But that's not mine.

And this is mine,

Right?

And when we can use that contrast to provide clarity,

When we can take what we don't want and help and use it to help us get clear on what we do want.

That's also a huge step in taking action,

Because the more clarity you have,

The easier it is to move forward,

Right?

But you are worthy of what you want,

If only because you want it.

Why does it need to be more complicated than that?

And I am asking you that question as much as I am asking myself that question.

I promise I am right here with you.

Like we're all humans,

We're all working through this.

And like,

Maybe it's easier for people who have been doing this for longer.

But it's not like it ever stops.

It's not like we're ever not having these conversations about worthiness,

And self belief and self confidence and self love,

You know,

With ourselves,

Because I feel like new levels,

New devils,

Right?

Which is a horrible saying,

But in any case,

Like when we get to the next level,

We kind of start asking ourselves other things,

Or there's other limiting beliefs or other stories that come up to kind of like get in our way.

You know,

We always are unearthing new layers of ourselves and new things that we're telling ourselves that are kind of holding us back from going after what we want.

But if we can believe that we are worthy,

And if we can't believe that we are worthy,

If we can believe that we were given these desires for a reason,

And that our wanting them is a good enough reason to go after them,

Then that clears the path for us to then be able to take action.

We can begin taking action from that place.

And if you're feeling like you're not worthy of what you want,

Okay,

Whatever that thing might be.

It's about breaking down the stories that you're telling yourself about why you're not worthy of it,

Right?

Just pure mindset work at that point.

So and all of this is simple,

But not necessarily easy.

And I get that.

And in any case,

All of it is a process that we can never,

Ever,

Ever take that out of this discussion.

We can't,

It's not one and done,

Say that all the time too.

It's not one and done.

So it is something that you're going to have to come at,

Probably from,

You know,

Maybe,

Maybe multiple times or maybe from multiple directions,

Right?

Like maybe you come up against a like limiting belief and you kind of like work through that one,

You know,

You analyze it like,

Okay,

I have this belief.

Is this belief ultimately true?

You know,

Is there some like reason on earth why I can't have this thing?

Is there a real reason,

Right?

Why I can't have this thing.

And then from there,

Kind of rewriting a new story that you want to tell yourself about why that,

That thing is meant for you,

Right?

So let me give you an example of one of my more like,

I'm going to say superficial desires because maybe,

But I think that that's also maybe a little bit limiting in all honesty.

So I am a millennial.

I grew up in the height of teen soaps back when they were actually good.

I'll be totally honest with you.

I can't watch the new ones also because I'm older,

I guess,

But also because they're also dark and people are always dying and I just can't.

I can't with television where people are always dying.

So like I grew up in the era of the OC.

I was 13 years old the year that it came out and I became obsessed with that show,

Obsessed with it.

And lovely,

Sweet Marissa,

Complicated Marissa,

What did that girl have?

She had nothing but Chanel bags.

She had nothing but Chanel bags.

And like,

I'm not even going to pretend that I'm embarrassed.

I have wanted a Chanel bag since I was 13 because I was obsessed with the OC,

Because I was obsessed with Marissa and this world.

And I was very,

Very young when this came out.

And I was very impressionable at that age.

And so like a lot of what I like believed or wanted or listened to at the time,

Especially in terms of music,

Because man,

The music on that show was next level.

You know,

It influenced me in a really,

Really,

Really big way.

And like for better or for worse,

There's really nothing to be done about it.

I could analyze why it is that way.

I could go back and try to like undo it,

But I really don't see the point.

I loved that show.

I still love that show.

I still think it's one of the funniest things that has ever been put on television.

Frankly,

I think that Seth Cohen,

Adam Brody and like Sandy Cohen,

Peter Gallagher,

The actor,

Were so funny and brought like a totally different kind of comedy.

And like,

Obviously,

Like the whole show brought like another level of drama to television that had maybe not before been seen.

But in any case,

13 years old,

I see Marissa,

I see her with her Chanel bags,

And I just think,

Damn,

I want one of those.

So I'm 33 now.

It's 20 years and I still want a Chanel bag.

The desire has not passed for me.

And so I can sit here and wax poetic about how,

You know,

That's superficial and like there's no reason to want that.

And like,

What purpose does it serve?

And like,

You know,

I could use that money to buy other things or to,

You know,

It's like almost a down payment on a house in 2024.

It wasn't necessarily once upon a time,

But like the prices have definitely shifted as with all things,

Right?

So I could talk about why it's not okay that I want this thing.

And I can beat myself up about it.

Or I can just accept that this is something that I want.

And it's something that I'm ultimately moving towards.

And I can ask myself why I don't feel worthy of it.

So why maybe I don't think that I deserve to have a Chanel bag?

Well,

We could like go on.

I am not from a wealthy family.

So spending that kind of money probably doesn't make any kind of logical sense.

Right?

And I could say something like people like me just don't have those kinds of things,

Which is actually not true.

Because when I went to Europe at 16 years old,

I had saved up a bunch of money and I bought a bunch of stuff from Chanel,

Just not a purse at the time,

Not a bag.

I bought a wallet,

A necklace and earrings.

And I still love them like going on 20 years later.

So I can talk to myself and I can unravel the stories about why this isn't true.

So is it ultimately true that because I'm not from a wealthy family,

I don't deserve to have these things?

No,

It's not ultimately true.

Because who decides what's true or what's not for you?

You do.

You get to decide what is or isn't true for you.

You get to decide whether or not you want to buy into the story that you may or may not be telling yourself about this.

And just to give like,

Kind of like a backstory on on like this particular desire of mine,

Like,

Why do I want a Chanel bag?

Because I want to be like Marissa?

Well,

Maybe at 13?

Yes.

But at 33?

No.

I really don't have any desire to be like this TV character.

I think that when I was younger,

For sure,

Because I was younger because I was I was at a very delicate age when I watched that show.

But the reason why I want a Chanel bag now is because that would be for me a symbol of,

Well,

I've made it.

The Chanel bag represents so much for me.

And also how I want to go about getting the Chanel bag also represents something for me.

I don't want somebody to gift it to me.

I don't want to win it somehow or have it come to me in some particular way.

I want to go through the experience of going to the store,

Choosing it and buying it and and what that means to me.

And what that symbolizes for me is something so much more beyond just the bag.

Right?

It would,

It would say that like,

My my business has arrived at a certain place.

So like the story that I'm telling myself about what the what the bag symbolizes for me,

Even though on the surface,

It could seem superficial,

Is actually so much deeper and so much more aligned with my values.

Because if I'm at a position where I'm able to go and do that,

It means that I have really created something special for myself.

I'm in a position where I'm more than able to support myself.

Do you know what I mean?

Like that that symbolizes a certain amount of economic freedom,

Right?

And,

And like freedom in other ways,

Freedom of choice,

Being able to make that decision,

Being able to,

To treat myself well,

Being able to really like honor and celebrate the journey that I've been on for however many years,

Right?

That I have like kind of gotten to this point where I can give myself something that I've been wanting for going on 20 years.

So we could like we can always unravel whatever it is to that we're telling ourselves about whatever it is that we want.

Okay.

And the feelings of unworthiness,

It is really about hearing them,

Witnessing them,

Honoring them,

And then calling massive bullshit on them,

Which is really I get it.

It is so much easier said than done.

But it's,

It's literally about every time we have these thoughts of like,

Well,

You know,

I'm not good enough to do this thing.

It's in that moment.

It's like,

No,

Hang on.

I'm not telling myself this story anymore.

Actually,

The story that I'm telling myself is I am more than worthy that of having what I want.

I am more than worthy of moving forward.

And it takes practice.

It takes practice to be in this in these situations and to constantly remind yourself that you are worthy of more that you are deserving of more that you are,

Listen,

Not even more forget more,

Fuck more.

Let's remove that from the discussion for a second.

You are worthy.

Full stop.

You are deserving full stop.

You are worthy of whatever it is you desire,

No matter what other people think about that thing.

Okay.

Whatever it is that you want,

Whatever is on your heart.

Once you've gone through the work of making sure that it's actually yours,

That you actually want it for you.

Okay.

That you actually want the things that you want because you want them,

Not because you know,

You've been sold that idea or you've been told that you should or whatever.

Once you're really sure that you want what you want because you want it,

Then you are worthy automatically of it.

Like for example,

There is no one telling me that I should want to travel.

And like,

I don't follow any,

I don't,

I follow two influencers.

Count them one,

Literally two.

Um,

I'm not being sold travel by somebody else.

I need to travel because I am the best version of myself.

When I travel,

There is a part of me and my soul and my spirit that is activated when I travel in a way that it is not activated when I'm at home.

When I travel,

I am the best version of myself.

Full stop.

I literally don't care about anything.

I'm never more chill or easygoing.

And I would not describe myself as either of those things in my day to day life.

Then when I am traveling,

When I'm traveling,

It's like,

Yeah,

Whatever,

What we see,

We see where we go,

We go.

Like I just want to have lunch.

And I mean that seriously.

Like I literally don't care about anything when I travel.

I just want to like see whatever I managed to see.

And I always try to remember that I need to leave something for the next time in case I go back.

Like I don't want to see everything necessarily.

And I'm not in this big rush to like check off a box.

Like I'm really literally activated on a soul level.

I am so much the version of me that I want to be.

And that's too what the Chanel bag represents for me.

It represents this version of me that I want to activate and that will be activated when I reach that step when I achieve that goal,

Right?

I know that I am meant to have those things because I want them.

And there is nothing about what I'm wanting that was put there by somebody else.

Or maybe it was in the case of the Chanel bag.

I think pre OC,

I didn't have an idea,

I don't have any idea what that was.

It's not in my sphere because I'm not,

Like I grew up in a very,

I would say like lower to middle class family,

Right?

Like just normal people.

And like most of our friends were on the same level.

It's not like I had all these like super rich people that had really nice things around me that I was seeing.

The only place that I ever saw was on the OC.

And so like I think that maybe it was put into my energy or put into my field by that show,

But I don't want it because of that anymore.

Right?

That was like the first step to kind of get me like desiring it or whatever.

And like even the idea of being a coach,

Why do I want to be a coach?

Well,

I can promise you it's not because it's what my family wants.

My family is very supportive now,

But like it took like my grandfather and my,

My,

My parents,

Maybe not my mom,

But it took my grandfather and my family,

Like a lot of time to understand like how it is I make money working online because it wasn't a thing,

Right?

Because the old school version of earning and working is going to a physical location,

You know,

Working a physical job.

You clock in,

You clock out,

You have a boss,

You know what I mean?

Like that is like more like the classical sort of like understanding of what a job is.

And so it took a really long time.

And I was doing this before COVID,

Before working from home became a thing.

And like after COVID,

I'll be totally honest,

My life became much easier from this point of view because then everyone started working from home.

And so people started like,

It became more normal.

And so people kind of accepted on a different level what I do.

But like,

Yeah,

There's nothing about being a coach that was given to me from my family.

Like my family had very different ambitions for me.

I think my grandfather wanted me to be like one of the big three because he's like an old school Italian guy.

He wanted me to be like a doctor,

Dentist,

Lawyer.

Those were the options.

Or maybe to go into business or maybe to like,

Like work in like finance or something like that.

But like the idea was like a nice,

Respectable,

Secure,

Stable job.

And I can tell you that the job that I have is like the polar opposite of like every dream that my family had for me.

So it's really important to analyze these things for yourself and make sure that you want them for you.

And then to understand that your wanting and your desire is literally just that's,

It's good enough.

That's enough,

Right?

And you are enough.

And you got to keep telling yourself that you got to like be,

It's got to be like,

You know,

I don't think this was ever in the movie,

But for you Potterheads out there,

It's got to be like Dumbledore's glass,

You know,

Banging the Dursleys upside the head over and over and over again in,

In Harry Potter.

I hope I said that.

Um,

Like because yeah,

There's a scene and he goes there and he tries to get them to,

He tries to be nice and offer them a drink and they refuse to drink it.

And so the glasses that he offers them start like hitting them on the side of the head.

And it's like,

Sometimes we have to do that to ourselves.

We have to just be like,

Yes,

I'm worthy.

I'm worthy.

I'm worthy.

I'm worthy.

I'm worthy.

Um,

I have to remember that.

Like I'm worthy because I am,

I'm,

I want it because I want it.

And that is good enough because it's so easy to forget and it's so easy to move into justifying and it's even easier to move into trying to prove that you are worthy to other people.

Lord,

No,

We are not here for that.

We are not here for that.

And remember,

Going back to the beginning,

You could want anything,

Anything,

Anything.

So then why do you want what you want?

Because it is meant for you,

My dear.

It is meant for you.

It is made for you.

It is calling to you.

It was put in your heart by a higher power,

By God,

By the universe,

By Allah,

By Buddha,

By whoever it is that you believe in.

Like,

It really doesn't matter.

It was put on your heart by something so much bigger and greater than you and you are worthy of it.

The end.

Thank you for listening.

Thank you for holding space for my little rant there about the OC and stuff like that.

And for holding space for my seemingly superficial but very,

Very value aligned desire for the Chanel bag.

And I hope that this episode helps you tap into your own desires.

And honestly,

You know what?

I was nervous about sharing about the Chanel bag,

But I really hope that this helps you understand that there is nothing about what you want that is actually superficial.

And even if it is,

Like,

Who cares?

Who cares?

Like,

Want it because you want it.

But when we want something,

It is usually because there is a deeper meaning behind it,

Right?

It's the symbol of it.

It's this idea of like,

I made it or I achieved something or whatever.

Like whether it is that you want the big car,

You want the big house,

It probably has so much more to do with you than it does with anybody else.

So really look into like the root of what it is,

Sorry,

Of why it is that you want those things.

Because it's going to lead you down a whole other path too.

And because you can also use the reason why you want it and the values that are aligned or tied to this desire to help you get there faster.

Because once we understand why we want what we want,

So like for example,

If I take the travel,

It's because I want to be free.

I can begin to look into other areas of my life where I can feel freedom now even when I'm not traveling,

Right?

So we can use all of that to like excavate and dive a little deeper and get us closer to our desires faster.

So the last part was a little bit rushed and honestly it's like a whole other episode of the podcast in and of itself but hopefully that little nugget helped you.

So yeah.

As always,

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