Can You Let It All Be Easy?

This episode talks about what's possible when we truly let life be easy. But there's a secret to letting it all be easy - a step that comes first - which we dive into. This step will help you break through your own personal limits and allow you to truly be in an open + receptive space, allowing things to be easier and just flow. I hope you love this episode!

Transcript

Hello and welcome to another episode of the Wild Freewell podcast.

I am super excited to talk to you guys today because I'm here with a really quick and easy episode that I think is like super,

Super,

Super,

Forgive me,

High vibe.

I think it's super high vibe and I think it's going to be super useful.

But this is advice for people that are at a very specific place in their life,

But also their personal development journey.

So the topic that we're going to talk about today is letting life be easy.

And that can be really,

Really difficult when you're not in a space to receive that energy.

And it can be hard to believe that it's even possible,

Especially if you're in the midst of a personal shitstorm.

Like,

I get it.

We've all been there.

We will all be there again,

Right?

We've walked that path.

We shall be there again in the future.

That's just the way that like the cookie crumbles.

That's life.

Ebb and flow and light and dark and all the things that we always talk about here on the podcast.

But this idea has come up for me lately,

Especially because,

Like as I've mentioned in the past couple months,

I've been moving through a lot of transitions.

I'm in the midst of yet another transition,

But this one's actually really positive.

And through some things that have been coming up in my life,

I've realized and I want to be really clear about this.

While I was living it,

I don't know how connected I was to the ways that I was maybe getting in my own way.

Like I saw them,

But I wasn't fully able to kind of turn them around necessarily in the moment.

I want to be clear that the period of time that I'm talking about in my life is about a month long.

So the period that it takes,

Like the time it takes me to shift through things now is way less because I've been doing this for so long.

And then also because talking about this with clients all the time,

Right?

Like this is how I spend a massive amount of my time.

So talking with clients,

Writing content,

Recording the podcast,

Reading books,

Like,

You know,

Following other people in my industry and stuff like that.

I spend a ton of time steeped in this work and steeped in these beliefs.

And so it's normal that it takes me less and less time as my life goes on,

As my life progresses,

To kind of move through these things.

But anyways,

I've been in a transition period for like the last couple of months.

And then about a month ago things took a turn and just started really moving in a positive direction,

Which is super exciting.

And I do think that I have been very present with the enjoyment of that.

I think that I've been very much living and breathing the happiness and the joy and the excitement and kind of being present in the moment.

But I think that there were still ways that I was getting tripped up,

Letting my thoughts run the show,

And like not really being in a self-responsible or sovereign position with my thoughts,

Even though things are good.

So this is a really interesting kind of side note as well.

Things are going really well.

I'm feeling really good.

And still there's this discussion of like,

How could this be even better?

How could I be even better?

How could I feel even better?

How could I be even more present with this?

How could my mindset improve even more?

So even though I think I was doing a good job,

There is still that part of me that wants to improve.

And I want to be really clear too,

None of this is coming from a I need to be better or I should be better.

There is an underlying excitement here that's like,

How could I do this even more?

How could I,

In some ways,

Lessen my suffering a little bit?

How could I show up in a way that makes this even more amazing by eliminating the thoughts,

Beliefs,

Words,

Actions that are maybe taking away some of the joy or not allowing me to be fully present with the joy,

Right?

So it's not coming from a place of like,

Wow,

I'm a shitty person and I'm not doing what I'm supposed to be doing and I need to be doing this and I should be doing that and should be doing this and should be doing that and whatever,

Right?

We're not shitting all over ourselves.

This is very much coming from a happy and a very positive energy of like,

This is awesome,

Now let's see how far we can push this.

How can this be even better?

And so going back to this idea,

I realized that there were ways that I was kind of getting in my own way and really getting tripped up in thoughts.

So I think that I have a pretty good grasp on my actions,

But sometimes,

No,

Let's be real.

Let's be totally honest,

Right?

That's what we do on the podcast,

We're honest.

We don't like,

I'm not trying to sell you guys on something.

I very much tell you my actual habits and the ways that I am still learning so much of what I teach.

I always overthink,

Always,

Pretty much.

I would like it to be different and maybe one day I will arrive at the point where I can work on this,

But this is my kind of default programming,

I think.

These are my factory settings,

Let's say.

My factory settings are that I overthink.

And so I overthink,

And that's that.

It's not really good or bad,

Unless it's in a specific situation,

In which case maybe it's flavored by the situation and becomes more positive or negative.

But for now,

The way that I'm trying to view this is just,

It's just a part of who I am.

It's just my way of processing the world,

Right?

I need to overthink.

Well,

I don't need to,

But I certainly do overthink as a way of processing the world.

And even if I was to not overthink,

Thinking would still be how I personally process the world.

I think and feel.

There's a really,

There's an interesting tango that happens for me.

Whereas some people are more somatic or maybe some people are able to process things by letting them go.

Like if they don't think about them,

They actually move through them faster or they come up with spontaneous solutions and stuff like that.

And that works sometimes for me too,

But I'm definitely like,

I want to like have a minute with my thoughts to kind of like turn things over in my mind,

I guess.

So all over the place.

Sorry,

Just coming back.

Raining it in.

So I realized that I was not allowing certain things in my life to be easy.

And so I,

And all of this realization came to me all of a sudden.

It just kind of like was like,

Boom,

This could be even easier.

Like that kind of flash realization.

And it's not always that simple,

Right?

Sometimes we come upon realizations over time or through reflection or whatever.

And this kind of just was like,

Boom,

You are not letting this be as easy as it could be.

And it was like,

Whoa.

Like kind of like a little bit of like a bitch slap from the universe in a really positive way though,

In a really positive way.

And so it's kind of like in order to allow things to be easier,

There's a couple of things that we can do.

So there's the practical.

We can ask ourselves questions and kind of go through,

I always call them journal prompts,

But reflection prompts,

Whatever they might be,

To really help you connect in deeper with the possibility of it being easy.

Because I think that over the last couple of episodes of the podcast,

Like starting with this idea of like letting life surprise you and stuff like that,

We've been talking a lot about how our specific thoughts keep us stuck,

Right?

And so if we want life to be easier,

We have to start by sinking into the possibility that that's even an option for us.

We need to believe that it's possible for life to be a little bit easier.

And this is always,

Always,

Always going to be easier if we are coming from a place of being really well cared for.

And I really want to explain this more because I actually think it's really only possible for life to be easier when our needs are already met.

So if your cup is full and if you are feeling loved and seen and heard and taken care of and appreciated and any other things that are important to you,

Like those are the ones I view as the basis for humanity,

Like food,

Shelter,

Water,

And then also being loved,

Being seen,

Being heard,

Being appreciated.

Those are,

I think,

Fundamental in order for our survival.

And if we can move beyond those things as well into feeling like our core values,

So if our core values are alive and present in our day-to-day lives,

Then it becomes an option for life to be easier.

And why I say that is because I know that life can be easier than it might currently be for me,

And I want you to apply that to wherever you are,

Whatever situation you find yourself in,

Whether your current circumstances are complete garbage and you want to overhaul them or your life is going really well.

I want you to believe for a second or I want you to at least suspend belief that it can't be possible for you.

I want you to believe that it's possible for two seconds that life can be easier than it is right now,

No matter where you are,

Okay?

But I honestly believe that that is only possible when our basic needs are met and when we are living from a place of caring for ourselves and feeling cared for,

Maybe by others,

But really so much of this is about self-responsibility and sovereignty,

Which is something we talk about constantly here in this space.

We need to be in a space where we are giving ourselves what we want,

Giving ourselves what we need,

And expecting absolutely nothing from other people.

And that is so much easier said than done.

Like,

Don't get me wrong.

I'm not trying to play this off like it's the easiest thing in the world.

It's simple.

The idea is simple.

I care for myself,

So I don't have any expectations of anyone else.

And from that place,

I'm allowing life to be easier.

In theory,

It's super simple,

But that doesn't necessarily mean that it's easy to put into practice,

Especially if you are coming from a particularly negative or traumatic situation,

If you are coming from a space where your mindset,

You know you've not been doing this work for very long,

You don't have the kind of internal resources,

And also if you don't have the toolkit,

Like if you don't have the strategies for how to actually make yourself feel better,

Then all of this is going to feel a lot bigger and a lot more impossible than it is.

Okay?

But it gets to be possible.

And that possibility comes from you showing up first for yourself.

So now we're back to self-care.

And I mean,

It is fundamental.

You can't have a conversation about mindset if your self-care is not also on fleek.

Because if you're not sleeping,

Or if you're not drinking enough water,

You're not moving your body,

You're not eating well,

You're not taking care of yourself in these really,

Really basic fundamental ways,

How can you possibly imagine that you could then spend what little energy your physical body probably has available to then focus on your mindset or be super positive?

It's not,

You can't have one without the other.

So we need to make sure that we are coming at this idea from a really well-resourced place.

And shout out to my friend Annika,

Who,

If you are interested in following her,

Is on Instagram,

At witch in the hut.

I think it's witch underscore in underscore the underscore hut,

For giving me this phrase,

For giving me this idea of being well-resourced.

Because when we are well-resourced,

Meaning our cups are full,

We are taken care of,

We are loving ourselves,

We are showing up for ourselves,

Then we can move to a place of life gets to be easy.

Okay,

Life can be easier than it is right now.

I can trust the universe,

I can lean into my faith,

I can surrender completely,

And I can go with the flow.

All of that becomes possible when the back-end stuff is taken care of.

When the sort of administration of life is taken care of.

So that's kind of like,

I think,

A huge caveat to letting life be easy.

But then once you get to that place where you are well-resourced,

When you are feeling good,

Okay,

Then it becomes about viewing your life through the lens of wouldn't it be fun if,

Right?

Or wouldn't it be great if?

Or I would love it if?

Or life would be easier if?

And allowing yourself to fill in these situations.

So like,

Talking about my personal experience and the transition that I've been in the last month.

And I'm sorry that I'm not getting into details,

But right now it's not feasible to get into details.

So when that moment becomes available,

Then I will definitely share.

For now,

I'm being kind of vague.

But when I really sank into this transition,

And I realized the ways that I was kind of making things more difficult,

It was really about shifting my perspective on the situation.

And allowing myself to think,

How could this situation be more fun?

How could it be lighter?

Because that's a huge one for me.

Light,

But mostly in the sense of freedom.

So I guess if I was to reword this,

How could I feel freer in this situation?

And it has nothing to do with the situation itself or anybody else that may or may not be involved in the situation.

It only has to do with me and my behavior.

Sovereignty and self-responsibility.

Nothing to do with anybody else.

No one has to change.

The situation doesn't have to be any different.

I need to approach the situation in a different way.

I need to come at the situation with a different energy.

So I sat and I asked myself,

How could I make the situation more fun?

And one of the things that I came up with was this idea of surrendering a little bit.

So really letting go of my expectations of how this situation would unfold.

So I don't need to sit there and think like,

Well,

This needs to happen in order for me to be happy or this needs to go in this,

This,

This way,

Right?

And X,

Y,

Z needs to happen in order for my needs to be met.

Actually,

I can meet my needs on my own and then regardless of what happens in this situation,

I'm fine,

I'm cool.

I really don't need anything from this particular situation in order to be okay.

And you can apply this to so many areas of your life.

And let me tell you,

I don't necessarily apply this to a ton of areas of my life.

And I realize that now because I haven't been well-resourced.

Like up until about two months ago,

I went through a very difficult six-month period where I was like not in a very,

I think,

Positive space.

And I've done a lot of work in the meantime to kind of heal that.

But when you are not in a space where you're feeling good as a baseline,

It is pretty much impossible to arrive at this point.

Which is why I said at the beginning that this is for people who are in a very specific point of their life.

So if you are not feeling great right now,

Then where you need to start is by focusing on building up your resources and building up your cup,

Like filling up your cup.

So you need to focus on things that make you feel good.

You need to focus,

You need to double down on self-care,

Like 100% double down on self-care.

You probably need to sleep more.

Let's be totally honest.

You probably need to either get on a sleep schedule or actually sleep more,

Maybe afternoon naps if you can,

Or taking like breaks to meditate at work or whatever,

Getting out in nature and going for a walk to really ground,

Especially now as the weather is changing,

As the seasons are changing,

And so on and so forth.

So you need to be starting there.

And from that place over time,

You will build up the resources to be able to move into a,

Okay,

Now I can let life be easier because I'm not worrying about my needs being met.

I have a really solid foundation and I can move forward.

But like you could apply this to any area of your life.

So how could your job be easier?

Like how could you show up at work in a way that allows it to be easier?

If you work for yourself,

How could you let finding clients be easier?

So wouldn't it be fun if my clients just DM'd me on Instagram?

Or wouldn't it be fun if my clients just like started searching me out?

Or like,

Wouldn't it be fun if my podcast had more listeners?

And going back to the career thing because I didn't give any examples,

Wouldn't it be awesome if my boss saw all of my skills and like shouted me out in a meeting?

Wouldn't it be awesome if I befriended some of my coworkers and found a way to make working more enjoyable?

Or like even about your like relationships and stuff like that.

Like,

Wouldn't it be fun if I completely released expectations like of the other person involved in this relationship?

Like,

Wouldn't it be fun if love was fun?

Wouldn't it be fun if this relationship could just unfold?

And like,

Wouldn't it be fun if I could just let go and see where this is going?

There's so,

So many areas.

Like,

Yeah,

Wouldn't it be fun if exercising lit me up?

If we're talking about health and wellness?

Wouldn't it be awesome if like dieting or like eating healthy came easily to me?

Do you know what I mean?

And how can I make that be easier?

So asking yourself even that question,

How can I make eating healthier easier?

What do I need to do?

Do I need to meal prep?

Do I need to join a delivery service where they like send me meals or they send me like the exact amount of produce that I need per week?

Do I need to find a buddy?

Do I need to find a coach?

Do I need to find a program?

Whatever it might be,

Right?

How can I let my job be easier?

Maybe I,

This is really,

This is really funny.

It's gonna sound so lame,

But this made a huge difference for me when I was working in like a traditional environment.

But how can I make my office feel better?

That for me was a game changer.

I remember when I was working for the government in Canada,

The first thing I used to do every day was come in,

Turn on my computer and I would change all my settings so my computer looked exactly the way I wanted it to.

I remember at the time,

I used to have like my hot man of the day pictures.

So this,

We're talking,

The first time I worked for the government was in 2011.

And at the time my loves were like,

I think I had pictures of like Ed Westwick from Gossip Girl,

Chuck from Gossip Girl.

My God,

That man is beautiful.

And I had like Cam Gigande from Burlesque.

I remember I had pictures of him when he's on the motorbike and like that kind of thing.

And that was like a huge part of it.

So I went in,

I changed like the colors of my computer and I changed the background.

And like,

It was like something small that brought me so much joy and like made me happier to be sitting at that desk for eight hours because you're going to be there,

Right?

You're going to be there for the time that you're there.

So whether that's eight hours or less,

Because like obviously with smart working and everything is shifting,

But you're going to be there.

Like fucking make it what you want it to be,

Right?

Infuse your energy and your essence into what you're doing.

Let it be easy.

Let it be easier,

Right?

And then going back to like what we talked about on the podcast like a couple of weeks ago,

Let life surprise you too.

Which is easier said than done.

And again,

It comes from this place of being well resourced.

If you are feeling good as a baseline,

Then dreaming bigger becomes possible.

It's really that simple.

But it's all a process,

Right?

And it's all so interconnected as everything is for me.

I don't know if other people actually feel this way.

Maybe they don't.

And that would actually be really interesting to hear from you guys about.

Because for me,

There is no area of my life that is safe.

And what I mean by that is like I can't work on one area of my life without it interacting with every other area of my life.

And so like I can't see,

Like I don't really see any sense or value in working on your mindset if you're not also working on your self-care.

Like there's really no point.

Because they're so intrinsically connected that like,

Yeah,

Why?

Why bother?

But then at the same time,

I'm also the queen of overwhelm and I tend to take on too many things.

So I also need to be mindful of like how much I'm putting on my plate.

And again,

It goes back to being well-resourced.

Because when we're well-resourced,

We can take on a fuck of a lot more.

And we can do it with a certain amount of ease.

It really doesn't have to be difficult.

Because we have the inner well and we have the inner resources to really come at what we're doing.

So,

Yeah.

I've talked about so much.

But this was like a really fun,

Really easy podcast to record.

And I think that's because I am coming at you very much from a space of being well-resourced.

I'm tired a little bit because I haven't been sleeping because we are in eclipse season and there's a lot of shit going on,

I feel like.

And that has been keeping me up and wired.

But despite that,

I'm still feeling like my cup is really full.

I'm still feeling really happy.

I'm still feeling really lit up by life.

And from that space,

So much more is possible.

And that's why it's our job to show up in the world from that space.

And to really make sure that our needs are getting met on our own.

Without relying on anyone else in our life to meet our needs.

Not expecting our pets,

Our children,

Our partners,

Our friends,

Our family,

Or our bosses,

Our coworkers,

Whatever,

Okay,

To fill us up.

And to a certain extent,

Not even expecting our higher power to do it.

Expecting our higher power to guide us in ways to fill our cup.

But not necessarily expecting that God,

The universe,

The divine,

Whatever words you use,

The source,

Infinite,

Whatever,

Not expecting them to fill us up,

But expecting them to guide us to ways to fill ourselves up.

Because we chose to incarnate on planet Earth for a reason.

We are here for a reason.

And if you're listening to this podcast,

Part of your reason is probably to learn about exactly what I'm talking about right now.

I know it certainly is for me.

This is part of my mission.

What I talk about is stuff that I'm also here to learn.

It's not like I have all the answers.

I am going through the processes at the same time as you,

Maybe at a different level,

Maybe at a different time,

But we're moving through all of this together,

Right?

And I think humanity as a collective is also moving in this direction.

We're seeing that we just cannot continue with the way things were,

Or living in a system where certain people are prioritized over others.

It's not feasible anymore,

Right?

And so all of that change,

Even,

Comes from,

Again,

Being well-resourced and allowing life to be easy and moving from this space and being happy and feeling awesome and spreading joy to everyone around you because you have such a full cup that you are just exploding with overflow.

And I wish that so very deeply for you.

I really,

Really do.

So I'm gonna leave you here.

If you loved this episode,

It would mean so much if you could rate or subscribe or share it with your friends or anyone who might need to hear this message that every time you do that,

Not only does it light me up and spread joy in the world and gift me with joy,

So thank you,

But it also makes it so more people will be likely to see the podcast and that in and of itself is a huge gift and joy for me.

So I see you and I appreciate you.

Thank you so much for being here.

And if you want to have a chat with me,

You can find me on Instagram at Candice Alacia or you can reach out to me via my website,

Which is www.

Candicealacia.

Com.

That's C-A-N-D-I-C-E-A-L-E-S-S-I-A.

And I hope you have a wonderful weekend and I will see you on the next episode.

Ciao.

Reviews

Boom❗️

How'd this happen❓️☀️😃🎆❗️

My life just opened up to my intrinsically well self-resourced life. I've arrived (for the moments)❗️
Let it be easy❗️maybe that could be my first tattoo ❗️
TYVVM ❗️

This was awesome! I really love your material & how you present. Thank you. ✌🏼

That was really nice and pleasant and helpful 😊 i like your voice 😊 thank you so much 😊

Wow, talk about stubbeling on a talk at right time😃. Amazing! That overthinking part.....soooo me. I can't help it. Great one factory setting, I am going to use that one😁. Thank you so much. Will listen to it some more. Much love, Lyne🌺🌹🌈💖💖💖