Welcome to She Who Becomes a meditation series created for women in perimenopause and the menopause transition.
This first meditation is called the rewiring.
In this practice,
We're going to be blending neuroscience.
With vibrational wisdom.
And embodied spirituality.
We're going to look at what is actually happening inside your brain.
During this wild and wonderful transition.
And we're gonna use that understanding.
To help you release the woman you have been.
And make space.
For the woman you are becoming.
Because sisters,
This is not just a hormonal shift.
It's a neurological one.
A spiritual one.
And when you understand what is actually happening inside of you.
It stops feeling like something is going wrong.
And starts feeling like something is trying to come through.
So find a comfortable position.
Let your body be held.
Let's begin.
Take your place sitting or lying down,
Whichever allows your body to feel the most held right now.
And just.
.
.
Arrive.
There's no rush to get anywhere in this moment.
No performance required.
Nothing to fix or figure out.
You are simply here in this body,
In this breath,
And that is more.
Then enough.
Take a deep breath in through your nose.
Hold for three counts.
And release slowly through your mouth.
Again,
Inhale,
Hold.
And let it go.
One more time.
Breathe in deeply.
And as you exhale,
Let your body become heavy.
Let your jaw soften.
Let your shoulders drop.
Let your hands open.
Notice how your body responds when you simply give it permission.
To rest.
It has been waiting for this.
Now I want to tell you something about your brain.
Your brain,
This extraordinary living,
Breathing organ inside your skull.
It is not fit.
It is not a finished thing.
Neuroscience has shown us that every time you think a new thought You forge a new connection.
Every time you feel something different,
You send new chemistry through your body.
Every time you choose a new response to an old situation,
You are literally.
.
.
Physically changing the structure of your brain.
This is called neuroplasticity.
And here,
Is what that means for you right now in this season of your life.
Your hormones are shifting.
Your body is changing in ways that can feel disorienting.
Even frightening sometimes.
But your brain.
Your magnificent,
Adaptive brain is changing too.
It's being reorganized.
Old patterns are losing their grip.
And new pathways are opening up.
This is not something going wrong.
This is something trying to happen.
Bring your awareness into your body now.
Just notice.
Without judgment.
Without trying to change anything.
Notice any heat,
Any tension.
Any restlessness sitting somewhere beneath your skin.
And instead of moving away from it,
Just breathe into it.
These sensations are not your enemy.
They are your body in conversation with itself.
Your nervous system recalibrated.
Yourselves doing the quiet,
Faithful work of transition.
You don't have to understand it all.
You just have to be willing to be in it.
Now I want you to think about the woman you have been.
The roles you have carried.
The identity you have worn so long,
It started to feel like skin.
Daughter,
Mother,
Partner,
Caretaker,
The one who holds it all together.
The one who makes sure everyone else is okay.
She has been extraordinary.
She has worked.
So hard.
And somewhere along the way,
In all of that giving,
She may have quietly set herself down.
Not out of weakness.
Out of love.
Out of necessity.
Out of the particular kind of selflessness that women carry like a second heartbeat.
She is ready now.
Ready to pick herself back up.
I want you to visualize yourself standing at the edge of a still lake.
At dawn.
The light is just beginning to touch the water.
The air is cool and clean against your skin.
The world is quiet.
In that way,
It only is before the day begins.
You're holding a bag.
And in that bag are all the old thoughts you have carried about yourself.
The ones that say you're too much.
The ones that say,
You're not enough.
The ones that say your worth lives in what you produce.
What you manage.
What you hold together for everyone else.
I want you to feel the weight of that bag.
Really feel it.
You have been carrying this for a long time.
And now,
Gently,
Without ceremony,
Without drama.
I want you to set it down on the ground beside you.
You don't have to throw it away.
You don't have to make it wrong.
You just don't have to carry it anymore.
Stand there for a moment.
And look out at the water.
The lake is perfectly still and in it you can see your reflection.
But it's not quite the reflection you expected.
The woman looking back at you is standing differently.
She's not braced.
She's not just managing.
She's not scanning the horizon for the next thing that needs her attention.
She's just here.
Open.
Rooted.
Quietly,
Completely herself.
She is you.
Not a future you.
Not a fantasy you.
She is the you that has always been underneath everything else.
Waiting patiently for a little space.
To breathe.
Take a breath in.
And as you exhale,
Let one old belief begin to soften.
You don't have to force it out.
Just stop holding it so tightly.
Breathe in again.
And let your nervous system take one small step towards ease.
Your brain is listening to every word you speak to yourself.
Every thought you think becomes a chemical signal sent to your body.
So right now,
In this moment,
See if you can find a thought.
That feels like relief.
Not a huge giant leap,
Just relief.
It might sound like.
.
.
I'm allowed to change.
My body is doing something.
Not failing at something.
I am here.
And that is enough.
Let it settle.
Let it move down through your chest,
Into your belly,
Into your bones.
Let your body receive it.
Now slowly begin to come back to the room.
Feel the ground beneath you.
Feel the breath moving in and out.
Feel the quiet aliveness of your own body.
When you're ready,
Gently open your eyes.
Carry her with you.
The woman at the lake.
The one who set the bag down,
The one who looked back at you from the water.
She's not somewhere ahead of you.
She is not a destination.
She is here.
She has always been here.
And she is so glad you are finally coming home to her.
Namaste.
