My name is Sangeet and today I have a message for you.
We hear and we acknowledge that we shouldn't take what others think,
Say or do personally or we may end up severely affected by their wounds.
And yes,
Taking people's negative projections to the point of believing in whatever they project can be very damaging.
However,
When we are constantly surrounded by people who constantly project their fears,
It becomes quite difficult not to swallow and to absorb some toxicity,
If not all of it.
And this is why so many of us accumulate so many limiting beliefs.
Once I watched a few interviews to random people on the street about their deepest regrets.
The majority of them said that their biggest regret was that they didn't follow their dream.
When they were asked why,
They all said that one particular moment in time,
In which a family member told them one particular phrase,
Such as you sing badly or you cannot play an instrument or you are stupid or you are a failure,
Ruined their zest for life and for achieving their beautiful goals and wishes.
So,
If we think that words and actions don't have power and that we can always skip everything that others think,
Say or do,
Let's think twice.
Yes,
Maybe for some of us it is easier to discard what others think,
Say or do,
For sure.
But one way or the other,
It has their effects,
Even if it goes in totally different directions.
For example,
One person gives up on their dream,
While another one gets even more eager to make it happen.
Here's the thing,
If we are strongly determined in the perspective that it is none of our business what others think,
Say or do,
We don't take it personally.
However,
No matter what perspective we have,
It is always of our business what we think,
Say or do,
And it is always of our business to be aware and to protect our energy,
Because one way or the other,
We are the ones responsible for ourselves.
Who else could it be,
Right?
So,
Yes,
It is a matter of not taking it personally,
Because someone who harms and depreciates probably does it not just to us,
But to everybody,
Including themselves,
And therefore it becomes impersonal,
Even if in a specific moment it seems to be about us.
However,
If we want to make sure that we keep our power and our strength,
It is also a matter of taking it seriously.
Taking it seriously keeps us empowered,
And if someone is trying to diminish or hurt us in any way,
Something has to be done accordingly.
What would we say to someone who is being abused by their spouse?
Not to take things personally?
No,
Because that not only wouldn't really solve anything,
But it would also put mental and emotional pressure in a person who is probably already very fragile and vulnerable.
So,
We would skip that part,
And we would tell them to pack their bags and leave,
And to get divorced,
Right?
And of course,
We wouldn't agree that taking things personally would be a good idea,
Yet we would recommend to take things seriously.
We don't take it personally if we believe that we don't deserve it,
And we take it seriously if we believe that we deserve better.
So,
When all that we say is don't take it personally to whatever comes up,
We better be careful,
Because this could make us think that we should just ignore it,
Instead of taking any action in our favor.
If a teacher tells us that we are dumb,
We don't just continue thinking and believing that we are smart and pursuing our dream.
We also change of teacher,
Because chances are that they will do it again,
And it is not our job to constantly recycle everybody's garbage.
Plus,
We don't want to surround ourselves with energies that don't see or believe in our potential.
And yes,
In some cases it is easy,
And in some cases it is not.
However,
There is always something that can be done to support ourselves and to improve our lives,
Even if it is little,
Even if it is small.
So,
Today,
Let's stay empowered,
Always believing in ourselves and in our ability to be happy and to create whatever we want that supports our highest good.
And let's be aware of ourselves and of our surroundings,
Embracing what heals,
Discarding what doesn't.
