How Do I Know If A Person Is For Me

Here I speak about connections between people, and how do we specifically know if a person is for us or not. I share a simple, quick and easy way to know it, yet so subtle, that many of us may pass it by.

Transcript

My name is Sangeet and today I have something to tell you. We humans connect to each other and sometimes we connect with people that are not the best for us and then we ask how do we know if a person a relationship is for us or not and although there are so many valid and useful answers to this question there is one that can very well embrace all of them at once and that is the answer that I am about to give you. Have you ever noticed that every time we meet someone for the first time we feel something? It can be anything but we always feel something even if it is the tiniest feeling we always feel something not a feeling that is a product of our mood or of our past or current experiences but a feeling that goes deeper than that and that surpasses all the superficial rules of social encounters. Now if the interaction doesn't captivate us that much we just move on but if we feel pulled to the person the next step is to wonder if it could turn into a relationship of any kind right? Whatever relationship that could be a friendship a partnership it makes us wonder and this creates an instant phrase in our minds and if we pay close attention to our feeling and we pay close attention to our phrase then chances are that we may have an answer to our wondering however and this is the tricky part we have to be totally honest with our feeling and consequently with our thoughts and words which can go two ways either we think and say that something feels bad or we think and say that something feels good and then we add the phrase let's see if I'm right or if I'm wrong in both situations we feel we wonder and we also look for confirmation because at this point we practically don't know the other person and so we think that we don't have the answer because we think that our feeling is not enough but what if it is thinking of all the people that we met in our life and how those connections turn out to be later on if we go back to that first or second particular moments in which we met could we be able to pinpoint something already of course we could it is possible that we got confused not sure but we got something from them that either put us at ease or at stress or both right when we meet someone and deep inside of us we feel that it may not be the best for us we are probably right and when we feel the opposite chances are that we are probably right as well now could we be wrong yes of course but if we meet someone once twice three times and despite all the connection or the attraction we repeatedly feel some sort of uneasiness of any kind and we insist just to prove ourselves right or wrong then maybe we don't have to go much further because most likely we already have the answer so today let's trust our feeling right from the start not as an excuse to abruptly run away or jump into things but as a way to help us to listen to our inner guidance and to make the necessary movements and adjustments and if we come to the realization that a connection that at first didn't feel the best is actually perfect for us then what a pleasant surprise in the meantime we may save ourselves from unnecessary pain and struggle