In counselling and family constellations that I work in,
We go on and on and on,
We bang on all the time about resources.
You need to make sure everyone's well resourced to be able to feel safe and expand and shift in the way that you want to.
When you're doing work,
If you don't feel safe and well resourced,
Which means supported,
It means that you feel supported enough to be able to make the shift that you need to do.
I'm going to give you an exercise to do so that you feel safe and well resourced at all times.
This is something you can do in daily meditation or upon waking up in the morning or at any time you really want to feel supported and well resourced.
This is a really good one and it's an important one.
It helps if you're sitting somewhere that has a back on the chair.
If you're on the floor,
Back yourself up to a wall,
It will come in handy towards the end,
That's when you're going to really feel the support.
So a chair with a back on it,
Or pop yourself up against the wall to help you feel actual support.
Now I want you to take some deep breaths and come into your body.
So just breathing deeply with me now.
You can close your eyes or you can keep them open,
It's totally up to you,
Whatever feels safe for you to do.
So what I would like you to do is think of the things that gave you support during your childhood and early life.
It may be a human,
It may be a parent or family member like an aunt or an uncle or a grandparent,
It may be a teacher,
A family friend.
I personally didn't feel any human support when I was younger so my resources were not people and they don't have to be for you either.
This is something or somewhere that you actually felt safe and joy and bliss and love when you were younger.
So really think about this,
Where did you feel safe?
Where were the moments of bliss in your childhood?
Where did these moments of joy and safety and love come from?
Did they come from a person?
Did they come from a place?
Did they come from something different?
I will take you through my three just to give you an example.
So I felt the I felt the bliss and the love and I can't,
It's a thing that if you do it you understand it.
I felt it when I was riding horses so for me there's an enormous amount of joy in riding horses.
Those people who've done it will understand it.
Just being able to smell their coat,
Just being able to breathe a horse in,
Climb on its back and ride was just a place of absolute bliss and joy.
So as you can see that's a thing to do but that's a thing to do,
That is a resource for me because I'm looking for the feeling of support and anchoring and safety and love and I felt that when I was riding horses when I was younger.
I also felt it when I was out in nature.
I used to love going for a walk on the hill up behind our family home and I'd take the dogs and I'd just go for a wander and I felt loved and supported out there moving around in nature and it's something that's also a really wonderful resource for me.
Also all during my younger life I kind of understand it more now that I'm a bit more connected spiritually but when I was a kid I wasn't but I always knew that there was something bigger than me looking after me.
I didn't know what it was,
You know,
I was a pretty high risk young teenager and I did some interesting things but there was always a voice,
There was either a voice in my head just pulling me back from the edge or just going be careful here or giving me insight as to what was coming up.
It was really quite extraordinary that it would be able to get me out of perceived trouble that actually came but because I listened to this voice it actually didn't do it.
I know that this wasn't my own voice as I simply didn't have the wisdom back then and I didn't know how to predict the future back then that I knew of.
I believe it's what people call spirit,
I believe that I had some kind of spirit or something around me and I believe it was,
I just,
But I always felt like I had something,
Something of someone supporting me and that's always been an amazing resource for me.
It means I haven't ever really felt alone.
So they are my three resources,
So they're things that I line up behind me.
Now I can line my family up because I've done a lot of family constellation work so I can actually bring my ancestors in but for the purpose of this,
This is a great place to start.
This is a really,
Really beautiful place to start because there's a lot of work that you need to do to be able to get your family behind you if you have a bit of a dysfunctional childhood and don't worry about that,
We're going to use these resources today.
Now when I've done this exercise with other people,
There are people who use a place,
So they use like a cubby house or they loved their bedroom when they were younger because it felt snuggly and safe to them.
I know one person who used to sit on the top of the clothesline,
The hill toys clothesline outside and that's where they could see far and wide and they just felt like they were king of the world and so that is a resource for them.
So you can see that the resource doesn't have to be anything that makes sense to anyone else but you,
This is your resource and it's yours to find and it's yours to think about and three is the perfect number for you to have.
Let you know one is better than nothing,
Just think of something.
Three is great,
Two is good,
One it's gonna do the job because you need to feel safe and resourced and we're going to get that going for you.
Now that you have your resources,
This is where the chair comes in or the wall comes in because I want you to actually feel them behind you.
So behind me I actually line up my horses,
The horse I rode when I was younger,
His name is Flicker and a friend's horse from down the road.
I line up nature and walking up on the hill where I grew up,
The Murramai Hill with the dogs and I line up spirit behind me as well and I feel them behind me and I feel that feeling that I had when I was doing and in the doing those things and in those places what it felt like for me and it felt safe and it felt really supported and really loved where nothing came into my mind,
It was just a really beautiful clear and crisp space for me.
So I'm leaning back into my chair right now and I'm feeling the support of my chair and I invite you to do the same thing.
Feel what it feels like to be fully supported by the chair or the wall behind you and I want you to envisage this as being your resources right behind you,
Right there with you and I want you to feel yourself up with that feeling,
That feeling of bliss and joy and safety and I want you to relax your body and breathe and take it in and I want you to fill yourself up with that feeling from the tip of your toes right the way through your body,
Feel the support behind you feel the support behind you and feel yourself up with those feelings all the way to the top of your head and take a deep breath in and let it be.
Now that you have this feeling and these resources and you understand what resources are you can call these in at any time.
This can be something that you do in your morning meditation,
This is something that you can just do when you wake up in the morning,
You line these things up behind you or you can call them in when you need them,
Before you need them,
If you're doing something big,
If you're making big decisions,
If you need clarity,
Do this,
Get these resources behind you and enjoy them and really allow yourself,
This is a big one,
Allow yourself to be supported and well resourced because you're worthy,
You're worthy of feeling supported,
You're worthy of feeling resourced,
You don't have to do anything to be worthy,
You're worthy because you are.
