How To Talk To Yourself When You’re Scared

In this intimate and grounding talk, Tiger invites you into a new kind of inner relationship — one where fear doesn’t push you away from yourself, but deeper into presence. He speaks to the moments when you're confused, overwhelmed, or unsure what’s next, and offers a model for meeting those parts of yourself with care.
This is more than reflection — it’s a live example of how to stay in loving connection with your own heart. A powerful reminder that you don’t need answers to feel safe — just honesty, breath, and the willingness to stay with yourself.

Transcript

Don't you see that what you really have is you and the truth of what you are? Which, Yeah, Sometimes it's a little bit fuzzy. What does that even mean? The truth of what I am. I can't see it. Yeah, That's why we're taking a moment to remember. At the risk of just repeating myself, It seems like such a beautiful reminder. To just remember the deeper mechanism of why we might struggle to be present. Whether it's because we're around family, Whether it's because we have a presentation coming up, Or whether it's because life doesn't seem to be flowing in a straight line. It's because something inside of me is scared. And I would just like to create a space, If only for a moment, Where that is perfectly okay. Where if you're scared, You're supposed to be scared. Where if you're scared, It's right on time and it has purpose. Because we can see that in whatever assumption that we might have that says, Oh no, Fear is wrong, I shouldn't be afraid. Then we are simply afraid of being afraid. And so rather than compounding the experience and worrying about our worry, Or judging our judgments, Let's just let be what is. And we can look at ourselves and say, Oh, I see you. You're scared. Rather than, I don't want to see you. You're making me look bad. You're jeopardizing my future outcome of how I think things should be. No, We can meet ourselves and say, I see you. I see that you're scared. I see that you're worried. That's okay. And you see in that soft space, We can whisper to ourselves, Can you tell me what it is you're afraid of? Can you tell me what's really going on underneath? Which in another way is saying, Will you let me love on you for a moment? Will you let me accept you? Would you let me show you that I'm here for you? Would you let me show you that I actually care? Not that I care about where you're going. Not that I care about the outcome. But I care about you as a human being. About what's really going on inside of you. What do I see? I see that you're on this grand adventure. And it seems like there's a lot of things going on. And in that, It seems like there's a lot of risk. I see that. But let me ask you, Oh, Sweet one, What is it you really want? And can I ask, Can we agree because it seems like I know you a little bit, That what you really want is to know that you're okay? Okay. Regardless of what happens. Regardless of where this ends up. To know that I've still got you. That it's you and me until the end. And we are deeply connected to a big, Beautiful universe that supports us. We might be in appearances alone, But we are alone and connected to everything. So that's not so alone. Yeah, I see you get confused sometimes. I see you get lost in your thoughts. I see you forget where you really are. Of course you do. But where are we right now? What's going on right now? Because the you that I see right now is totally okay. Do you see the sweet surrender in this? Yes, You're having your human life. Yes, It seems like you have these relationships. Yes, It seems like you're going somewhere. But where are you really? What do you really have? Don't you see that what you really have is you? And the truth of what you are. Which, Yeah, Sometimes it's a little bit fuzzy. What does that even mean? The truth of what I am. I can't see it. Yeah, That's why we're taking a moment. Because don't you see in the big life that you're living and all those relationships, And all those roads you travel down, And all the twists and turns? There's this beautiful simplicity of just being here right now. You're alive. Are you not abundantly taken care of in this moment? Is there not a you that's alive? A great seed of gratitude for just this. Holy shit. And what a wild ride this is. And the moment it seems like I forget that, Look at where my mind goes. Goes into all the drama. Goes into what everyone is thinking about me. Goes into all the things that I love. It goes into things that simply do not matter. And underneath it all, All I want to do is just love. That's all I want to tell people. Is, You know, Yeah, Things are confusing. Sometimes I don't know which way is up. But you know what? God damn it, I love you. I don't know where this is going. I don't know what's next. I don't know how you're supposed to be. But I love you. And what I keep realizing, What I keep coming back to, Gosh, I just need to breathe. Which means I need to be honest. I need to acknowledge what's actually going on in my heart. And I'm sorry if it seems like it's personal. It's not. I just need to breathe. And I hope you can see that I just love you. And as it relates to the future, Good God, I don't know what the fuck. Who knows? I don't even know if I'm going to be alive tomorrow. Jesus. And I'm worried about 10 years from now. Let's just come home. Let's live the life we're actually living. Not worried about the opportunities we think we have in the future. What is the opportunity right now? And you know what it is? It's always going to be some version of an opportunity to be honest. An opportunity to be profoundly clear about what's important right now. The next step. Not 10 steps from now. The next step. And underneath all of that, There is a heart that whispers, Thy will be done. I don't know where this is going. I don't know what life has planned. Don't know what life needs. I don't even know what's best. Thy will be done. God knows. This orchestra of creation knows exactly what it's doing. How silly for me to think that I know. I don't. I'm not supposed to. What am I supposed to do? Be here right now. Do whatever it is I'm here to do. What is that? Again, I'll tell you. It's some form of being honest. Of letting your heart speak. Of letting love flow. And if it just seems like you can't do that, Here's what you do. You watch the recording of this and start over. Because you're just scared. Take another breath. Start over. What's really going on? Hey, Thanks for listening. If you're ready, Or almost ready, To embody these discoveries in everyday life, Then check out my profile for upcoming retreats, Live broadcasts, Courses, And other opportunities to open up, Fear less, And love more. Your life is sacred. Don't waste it hiding behind an adorable but imaginary fear. It's time to show up.

Reviews

Thank you. 🙏 I found this very powerful and helpful. My body has been stuck in fear showing up as chronic pain. I wonder what it would be like to meet it with love and compassion, rather than something I want to get rid of and leaves me in a fear cycle and feeling not ok? I love the words I see you.I care. Acceptance and allowing what is feels good for me.
Do you have talks or meditations that speak to physical pain?
Many thanks. 🙏

I am 💛 thx tiger

Really good.

What a wonderful way to acknowledge our Fear due to our lack of knowing and understanding. Perfect.

This came to me at just the right time. Thank you thank you thank you. And in true Tiger style- down to earth straight talking yet still profoundly deep. I will use this regularly.