Sorry My Birth Ruined Your Golf Game (Season 2)

Kids often blame themselves when dad leaves the home and becomes less involved in their lives. When they aren't given an explanation about why dad left, they make up their own scenario and jump to the conclusion that it's their fault and that they're unlovable. After my mom and biological dad divorced I rarely saw him for the next 10-12 years. The only thing worse than being abandoned is knowing that you're not even worth an explanation. I rejected happiness because I never felt worthy of it.

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After to listening to four of your podcasts on Insight Timer, I do believe we are twins. At the beginning of this Podcast you defined my childhood to a “t” - connection to friends families who were loved and connected - my addictive nature and my feelings or lack of self. At the age of 3, I knew things were missing and off and compensated for it as “the doer”!

I didn’t think I would relate to this episode as much as I did. I’m vocal about my narcissist mom but daddy was no piece of cake either. He was just as emotionally unavailable as she was BUT he could tell me he loved me and I believe he does even now.

I divorced after 27 years and looking back it’s no wonder I married the guy I did. It was doomed early on with rage from him and that was one thing I’d never experienced in my 23 years living with my parents. The dysfunctional rage was quite prominent with his immediate family. His uncontrolled rage led to an abusive relationship (physical and verbal) that started 6 weeks after we wed and continued for 24 years. We’ll be divorced 17 years in May and he’s still the same person . Thank God for the courage and strength to get out of that mess!!

It really makes me sad to see people I love struggling with interpersonal relationships because they don’t have the skills to make changes or the desire for counseling. Hopefully they can see through me that life can and will be better if we just take the steps and make the changes because we deserve more! 💜💜💜