Hey ladies,
Steph here.
I just want to take a moment and share with you if you are someone who is in an unhealthy relationship or finds yourself continuously attracting unhealthy relationships into your life,
That that pattern can be interrupted and you can create a new story.
And I also want to remind you that you are worthy of incredible love.
I'm going to share a little bit of my own story with you.
So way back in the day,
Once upon a time,
There was a young Steph.
And she met this incredible guy who was so gorgeous,
So funny,
So full of life.
And somehow the world's collided.
And in this collision,
There was all the cliches.
I was obsessed with him.
He was my drug of choice.
I felt more special in his presence,
That he would choose me,
Of all the ladies in the land,
To be his girlfriend.
I felt elevated somehow that maybe I was a little bit worthy,
That I had some worth to me.
And this influenced what I allowed and how long I stayed in this relationship.
Now,
There was some incredible things about this partnership with this man,
With this guy.
I would say that we definitely brought out the worst in each other.
Like those moments when you feel a little crazy,
When you're like,
Am I crazy right now?
What's happening?
I don't feel like myself.
I feel like complete chaos.
I feel like there's this tornado just continuously going inside of me.
And I just want love.
I just wanted love,
To feel love,
To nourish that specialness.
And I know for certain we brought out the worst in each other,
But I also know that he helped bring out the best in me.
I can't say that that is true for him.
I don't know that I brought out the best in him.
But I do know that he brought out some of the best in me,
Such as he encouraged me and pushed me to try new experiences and to understand or perceive insults as compliments.
And to go after things even when other people don't necessarily agree or see it as valuable.
So he definitely did nourish those parts of me.
But within this relationship,
At some point in time,
I said,
I'm going to take my heart and I'm going to put it in your hands.
And he would play this game of I'm going to squeeze your heart as much as I can until it almost breaks.
And then I'm going to release the pressure.
And then we're going to have fun and I'm going to be kind and it's going to be wonderful.
And you're going to feel so loved.
And then I'm going to take your heart and squeeze it again.
Squeeze some of that pressure.
Put on the pressure.
See what it can handle.
How far until it breaks.
And then I'm going to release that pressure.
And I remember the day specifically.
I will always remember this day.
And him and his sister just came back from this incredible cruise.
Fancy cruise of this modeling talent agency.
And he came to pick me up for lunch and we went to KFC,
Which was one of our favorite places at the time.
And I remember sitting across from him just being in awe,
Like,
I'm getting to spend time with him.
I'm getting a hit.
I'm getting some dose of this,
You know,
Feel goodness.
I love being around him and seeing him unless he's putting on that pressure.
And this day he's telling me about this incredible cruise and how all these models were so beautiful and so gorgeous and how they were dancing.
And one of them just loved to dance with him and continuously pressing her chest against his.
And then I just felt complete stillness.
There was just a stillness that took over.
And I thought,
No.
No.
Not anymore.
And it was like my soul reached across that table and took my heart from his hands and tucked it back inside and said,
You're worth incredible love.
You're worth the good stuff.
All the time.
Not just when it's convenient.
Not when it's,
You know,
Less fun.
But all the time.
And I decided right there in that moment that my future relationships and my current relationships are going to be different.
That I was going to start learning how to have healthy,
Flourishing,
Loving,
Thrilling relationships.
So my journey began.
And it was bumpy.
It was a little roller coaster-y,
Right?
Sometimes the old patterns,
That old habit,
That old vibration would still attract those unhealthy partners into my life.
But I recognized them much faster.
I could say goodbye way sooner.
And I didn't find my worth in that relationship.
And then years later,
I'm hanging out in Inwoks,
Keone.
And it was completely different vibe,
Different energy.
It felt so good to be around him.
And I was at a place where I could receive this healthy,
Incredible,
Nourishing love.
And I just want to remind you that your journey to incredible,
Healthy,
Nourishing love starts with you taking back your own heart and placing it back inside.
And saying,
No more.
Not from anyone else and not from me.
I'm only going to love and I'm going to start attracting love into my life.
Healthy,
Nourishing,
Thrilling,
Exciting love.
And I'm going to start doing the work,
The inner work.
I'm going to start doing the work so I can receive that love when it comes to me.
And I can recognize it when it's there.
And I can recognize it when it isn't.
And I could say goodbye to those unhealthy relationships that feel good,
But don't feel good.
So I'm just here to remind you that incredible love is also for you.
So choose yourself.
Let in the love.
And it's OK if unhealthy relationships were a part of your past.
Because we grow throughout this life and healthy,
Nourishing relationships can be the story of your future.
So I'm sending you love and encouragement and support and all the goodness on this journey.
And if you do want to be a little bit deeper in my world,
Feeling a little bit more of that support,
You can join my Facebook group.
The link is in my bio and I am happy to cheer you on,
Share the knowledge that I learned on my own journey and encourage you as you tweak it to make it fit yours.
Sending you all the love.
Bye.
