Hello there!
My name is Courtney,
Also known as Self Care Creature,
And today I am bringing you an affirmation meditation on bridging to interconnectedness,
Possibly from a place of codependency.
This meditation was originally created after reading the four-part series from Margo Feldman of Softcore Trauma.
This particularly came to be from reading part three,
The Ways We've Been Taught to Love Aren't Okay,
They're Traumatizing.
As always with affirmations,
Take what resonates and invitation to work through the rest.
I recommend journaling through contemplation and or giving voice to any resistance,
Judgments,
Or disbelief that come up as I read these affirmations to you.
That is the tip of the iceberg for starting to dismantle and restructure what I call building a bridge to where you want to be,
In this case,
Believing interconnectedness is possible within you and in your relations.
I'll be reading these affirmations in the first person.
Feel free to let them resonate as if you're speaking to yourself or even repeat them aloud back to yourself if that feels comfortable and okay.
This meditation is intended to be a reminder of the support and connection available to you both within yourself and in all your relations.
At the end of this meditation,
The affirmations will end and the music will fade out.
Take a couple of deep breaths here to allow yourself to settle in and let's dive in.
Enjoy.
I am responsible for my own well-being.
I uphold my own self-worth and my self-identity.
This is my birthright and my responsibility.
No one else's.
Needing connection with others is a part of being human and does not automatically mean you are codependent in and of itself.
Needing connection with others is part of our human experience.
We are hardwired for connection.
I don't need others for me to be okay.
And I can meet others where they're at.
It's okay to not be okay all the time,
And this sentiment goes for every human.
It's not my responsibility to fix someone's mood,
But I can meet them where they're at.
Their mood is not mine,
And my mood is not theirs.
We are each responsible for our own emotions.
Interdependence means mutual reliance.
It is a shared commitment to vulnerability.
It decentralizes power.
No one completes me,
But another and others add so much to my life.
I would be so sad to lose someone in my life,
But I would survive that.
I will survive heartbreak and losing people because that is how life goes,
And it has already happened to me so many times,
And here I am,
Stable,
Resilient,
And thriving.
I am the reliable adult now,
And I am here to support myself.
I am capable of supporting myself.
I know how to support myself,
And I trust myself to show up with love and compassion and self-care to meet my own needs.
Supporting another's interests without making them my own is a priority in relating and relationships.
Spending time apart helps to build secure attachment as well as celebrating time together and celebrating each other.
I support others and another as best as I can without losing my own boundaries.
I respect my own boundaries at all times and offer my support in the ways that feel okay for me without losing myself or my boundaries.
It is okay to say no.
I know what my capacity is,
And I am confident in my ability to communicate that.
May I remember that conflict is not a threat.
Conflict helps us to deepen our understanding of another being.
If conflict happens to lead to someone leaving,
I will never abandon myself.
Again,
I have held myself and found myself and been with myself through many losses.
Conflict does not need to automatically mean a threat.
I am safe in conflict.
I am grounded in conflict because I know conflict allows me to better know the person that I am in conflict with.
Love is a beautiful interdependent web.
What a gift to get to share in this life with another and with others.
How incredible to learn and to honor each other's boundaries.
I am in awe at the opportunity to heal with other people.
And I know that what is meant for me will come and what is meant for me will stay and I can lean back and flow in life without grasping because I trust in interdependence.
I trust in harmony.
I trust in cohabitating.
I trust in building a different and better world together.
