Namaste,
This is a short talk about how to choose conscious relationships.
Now,
The obvious thing to do is when you meet someone and if you want to decide whether I should spend time with this person or not,
The obvious thing to do is to ask this question to yourself.
How do I feel with this person?
How do I feel with this person?
Right.
As Maya Angelou said that people forget what you said,
But people will never forget how you made them feel.
So you can simply ask,
How do you feel with this person?
But sometimes what happens is that we are unable to know through our feelings how this person is or whether should I spend time with this person or not,
Because sometimes we are confused about our feelings,
Right?
Sometimes I feel good with this person,
Sometimes I don't feel good.
Now,
I will tell you a way through which you can figure out whether you want to spend time with a certain person or not.
And this way is that you become vulnerable with this person.
You share some flaw of yours with this person and then notice how this person reacts to that.
Does this person judge you or do they accept you?
If they accept your flaws,
It means that they are not judging.
It means that they are compassionate towards you.
But if they judge you for your flaw and what you told them,
For your vulnerability and for what you shared,
Then it means that their heart is closed.
They are not compassionate.
They don't accept you.
Right.
So this is a good way.
I share my flaws with someone and I see whether they accept me or they judge me.
You know,
Whether they say some loving words or do they give me a look which is not nice or say something harsh.
So this way you will choose people who are more accepting,
Who accept your flaws versus choosing people who judge you for who you are.
Thank you for listening to this short talk.
Take care.
