Short Insight | Conscious Relationships

No matter what your flaws are, anyone who judges you doesn't deserve to be with you. That's because judgment is the opposite of compassion. Someone who constantly judges others has serious issues. Their heart is not open; it is closed. This short insight by Saqib is a nice tool to decide with whom you would want to spend your time. If you like this short insight, check out Saqib's course: "Love Nirvana".

Transcript

Namaste,

This is a short talk about how to choose conscious relationships.

Now,

The obvious thing to do is when you meet someone and if you want to decide whether I should spend time with this person or not,

The obvious thing to do is to ask this question to yourself.

How do I feel with this person?

How do I feel with this person?

Right.

As Maya Angelou said that people forget what you said,

But people will never forget how you made them feel.

So you can simply ask,

How do you feel with this person?

But sometimes what happens is that we are unable to know through our feelings how this person is or whether should I spend time with this person or not,

Because sometimes we are confused about our feelings,

Right?

Sometimes I feel good with this person,

Sometimes I don't feel good.

Now,

I will tell you a way through which you can figure out whether you want to spend time with a certain person or not.

And this way is that you become vulnerable with this person.

You share some flaw of yours with this person and then notice how this person reacts to that.

Does this person judge you or do they accept you?

If they accept your flaws,

It means that they are not judging.

It means that they are compassionate towards you.

But if they judge you for your flaw and what you told them,

For your vulnerability and for what you shared,

Then it means that their heart is closed.

They are not compassionate.

They don't accept you.

Right.

So this is a good way.

I share my flaws with someone and I see whether they accept me or they judge me.

You know,

Whether they say some loving words or do they give me a look which is not nice or say something harsh.

So this way you will choose people who are more accepting,

Who accept your flaws versus choosing people who judge you for who you are.

Thank you for listening to this short talk.

Take care.

Reviews

Insightful- especially when you start to feel uncomfortable with a friends presence and pressure

Truth. Wise words. Sometimes hard to see or accept when it's close family members, but critical to maintaining one's self esteem, self compassion, self acceptance. Thank you, Saqib, for sharing your wisdom and love with the world.

Simple idea but I love it, except the part of me afraid of rejection for my flaws!

By vocalizing that you need something to change externally you are communicating that you aren’t happy with your own internal level of happiness

You become so focused on the other person “failing you” and that it was their job to fix it and their job to rectify it so that you wouldn’t have to deal with your own comfort and own distress

Reality after all is a reflection of what is occurring internally.

Namaste 🙏 ❤️

What if they judge you in their mind, without showing it?
Thank you 🙏💚✨

So simple and simply stated! Thanks for this, Saqib.✨🙏✨

Thank you, as always, Saqib for your gentle zest direct insight. This is a good reminder as we move through our days in relationships in life, whether romantic or platonic. With trauma being so at the forefront in discussion on conscious relationship, many people who speak harshly to us are severely wounded people who are unaware of the harm they cause to the relationship. It gets complicated when your heart is involved. Discernment is not always easy. And boundaries are critical. I hope you explore this more in depth as your wisdom contributes much to greater consciousness where all are a part of.🙏🏼🤍

Saqib, this is a short talk but its weight is weighed in gold. This has brought back memories of my life when my instincts were trying to tell me when certain people are not right for me. Sharing my flaws with them is a clever way of testing!

Wise words and a technique to use in the future. I always went with my gut feelings and 99.5% of my intuition served me right-🤍🔆🕊️

Pranam & much love n light 🙏🏻🌻❤️