Contemplative Talk: Safety, Security, Comfort

We explore the concepts of safety, security and comfort in our mindset, lifestyle, society and try to unpack them and learn from Nature.

P.S. Thanks to Jeff James for making the cover image available.

Transcript

Hello, Welcome to this short contemplative talk. I'd like to share my view on concepts of safety, Security and comfort. Let's just take a minute and get ourselves into a contemplative mode. Non-judgmental but still connected to our integral truth, The intuition that we have inside. The truth that we have is rooted in our own values, In our experience and there is a fine line between transcending trauma, Deconditioning and actually being authentic, Not trying to be like everyone else. So let's just take this time to explore ourselves, Our views, Our values. Breath in and out, Smile and gaze around your space may help to arrive into a contemplative moment and you may even want to grab a notebook, Take some notes to draw, Maybe you want to walk a little bit together with this talk. So the concept of safety. In one of previous talks I explored how we can create safety for our inner child. Safety is nurturance, It is protection against influences that may be destructive to our valuable insight, To our most intuitive and tender part. There is this tenderness, This vulnerability and this is also treasure, Playfulness of our inner child. This is the core part, The smallest, The most valuable spark of inspiration that we have and we guard it, We create safety around our heart like a wall. But when does this change into defensiveness? I view the concept of security, Which is also now very present in global narrative, As maybe this flip side of safety. Because when we are trying to be secure, We are trying to be almost immobile, We are trying to achieve some state which is safe for us and from that state not to almost move anywhere. So instead of creating this healthy boundary around our space, Our values, Our resource, We create a wall that is full of thorns and forms a firm border, Impenetrable border between ourselves and the world. So the borders versus boundaries, It's also some dichotomy that we can explore here. In general, Try to take both of those words, Safety, Being safe. What associations do you have with this word? Which synonyms can you think of in English and in other languages? For me, Maybe safety is being safe, Being almost saved, Protected by something, By someone, By grace and light. And then security. Which associations, Which roots do you feel in that word? I feel there the root of being sure, Like secure, Like in Spanish there is this word seguro or in Italian sicuro, It's like secure, But it means sure, Safe, In a sense of definite, Yeah? So there is kind of finite tone to this word security to me. And it's interesting how it shows up in the world. We have all the security narratives, National security, Cyber security, And it almost speaks to the mindset of conflict, That there is something, Some threat that gives you insecurity, And you respond with measures to create security, And this is how many of institutions operate. And we, As people, We are the beginning of all social structures. Our human mind has created all that. So when we look into our mind and try to untangle it, How come, How have we arrived here to this narrative of conflict, Narrative of security, Trying to to create this solid wall between something and something else? And again, We can look to nature as our biggest teacher. How does she protect the young, The vulnerable, The valuable? When we look at animals that live in communities and hordes, How they always move, How they protect their young, As we look to plants, Trees, How they are able to regenerate after being harmed, We look also to animals that hunt, To predators, How they protect their territory, It is with more aggressive energy. So what modality, What inspiration, Which almost totem, Do you want to embody in your life when you think about this protection to yourself? Is it something rigid, Proactive, Aggressive, Or is it something more collaborative, Creating safety through symbiosis? There is also a big difference between trying to destroy evil and trying to promote and multiply good. Those are not one and the same. Those activities are different, Destructive or constructive. When you create safety for your inner child, Inspiration arrives and you have more playfulness, More rest, More ideas. When you create security as a border, As a security system between yourself and the world, There is less, There is scarcity. Actually, You can be very secure and very unsafe at the same time, And it also speaks just to our psychological insecurities. So it is an open question and we also can weave the concept of comfort there, Yeah, Because comfort can be both a necessary baseline for us, Like a cup that we need to fill to start then overflowing, Or it can be a temptation for us that we only feel good, We only feel comfortable when there are no discomforts, And thus comfort can manifest through safety, Yeah, Creating this cozy nest, Or it can speak to security in a sense that I just want to be surrounded by things that are acceptable to me, And I'm not able to face the world in its less attractive manifestations, Expressions, Yeah, I'm not able to face things that are alien to me, To learn from them, To extend myself, To adapt as a living system. I want to be rigid, I want to create this gate through which other things need to pass or fail, A security system. So which kind of comfort are you choosing in your life? Is it comfort to be safe, Or comfort to be unchallenged? I leave you with that to ponder, And as always, Feel free to reach out to me in my channels, Leave your thoughts here, Comment, And continue discussion and unwrapping those underlying concepts that form our human mindset, And through the mindset form social structures that we live in. Thank you, And until next time!