Hello friends,
Today I have been discussing about the happiness quotient.
So many people have spoken so many years about what makes a person happy,
What brings happiness.
There have been many many opinions.
Some people said money makes them happy,
Some people said possessions make them happy and numerous people said numerous things.
But the question is,
Is that happiness permanent?
Does that expand your heart?
Does that give you kind of gratification that you feel fulfilment?
If happiness cannot give you fulfilment,
It's temporary,
It's a pleasure.
There's a difference between pleasure and happiness.
Happiness is something which is perpetual all the time and more or less permanent in your life.
Minor ups and downs are okay but it's reasonably permanent.
What actually makes us happy or what makes us feel worthwhile in this world and what makes us feel there is a life?
I would say relationships.
Relationships are the most important thing and especially in today's time when we sacrifice our health in pursuit of sensory pleasures,
We sacrifice our health in search of future happiness,
We think that happiness happens in future when we earn a lot of money,
Probably not.
Happiness has to happen right now.
While we are living,
We should be happy and today we are in the world of social media,
The phones and the internet,
All those kind of things where we have swapped real relationships to that of virtual.
The problem with virtual is it's artificial.
We feel there is a relationship.
When people like your messages,
You feel great.
When people do not like your messages,
You have a drop in dopamine.
Virtual is not real,
It's unreal.
Real relationships are very important.
So for real relationship to happen,
We must understand it has to happen now.
We cannot decide or we cannot think happiness is in money or happiness is in material richness.
We should understand that we have to invest properly,
Wisely to have great happiness and there you got to invest in relationships.
If you really want great relationships,
You have to invest yourself,
Your time,
Your energy and the attitude of acceptance plays a big role there.
If we criticize somebody,
Judge somebody,
Always analyze somebody,
We fail to love that person.
We must accept the weaknesses also along with strengths and we accept a person as he is.
That will help us to maintain a good relationship,
Stop judging completely,
Accept a person.
If somebody falls because of whatever reasons,
It's okay.
Rise and falls are part of life.
We must not judge somebody because they failed in certain things.
Failure is part of life,
Success is part of life.
We must accept everybody including ourselves.
We can also fail or we can be successful.
Both are part of us.
If we don't understand that,
If we don't accept it as it is,
We can't maintain strong relationships.
Real relationships are your real wealth and that relationship can expand from human beings to beings of other species,
To trees and plants and nature.
We can have expanded relationships,
Fruitful relationships,
Meaningful relationships and that's your great wealth,
Real wealth.
Whatever you earn in terms of material success or material wealth may pass hands at some point in time but the relationships that you build,
That will stay because that will regenerate itself while you are at it.
The more you invest into it,
The more it grows just like a small plant.
When you are investing yourself for the nurturing the plant like a small sapling,
You nurture it sufficiently in the right way so that it becomes a huge tree in the future.
Relationships can be like that.
Quantity of relationships have no value here.
It's quality of relationships and quality directly depends on whether you are able to spend time with them to cultivate it,
Nurture it.
If you are not able to spend time for it,
If you are completely occupied with your social media and other things which are all amounting to some kind of gratification even though it's virtual but that's not permanent.
When you really want to have a feeling of oneness,
Togetherness,
You should have meaningful relationships that need nurturing.
Real wealth is in relationships.
Social media and virtual relationships are all signs of deterioration and selfish personal gratifications through virtual media cannot give us permanent satisfaction.
It's temporary.
It's an addiction.
Disaggressions cannot give you permanent satisfaction.
Investing on good relationships is very very important and good relationship as I said earlier is the right wealth.
Quality relationships has to be nurtured.
Try to nurture friendships,
Good relationships and avoid judging them,
Criticizing them,
Comparing them,
Competing with them and make them your real strength.
When you really are down if somebody hugs you and say I am with you,
It really brings you back to your original state.
You need to have friends whom you can hug and love and be with all the time.
That's the real wealth.
Be aware what's your real wealth.
Have great relationships in the world and help each other,
Support each other.
Do not compete with each other.
Do not criticize judge.
Do not be angry.
Do not have too many expectations either because expectations destroys relationships.
Have very less expectations.
Investing more of yourself into a relationship rather than expecting them to do more to you.
There are some relationships which are like parasites.
Avoid them.
They do come.
When a flower blooms,
It's not just butterflies or honey bees coming to take its fragrance away.
Its moths and insects,
They also come.
So in life,
Everything happens.
So you got to stay away from toxic friendships which are sucking your blood,
Sucking your energy away and invest more on friendships which are regenerative,
Positive and also they stand with you at your weakest times and they walk with you at your weakest period.
They are the real friends.
That's exactly what we need in everyday life.
So I leave you with these thoughts,
Develop from here and nurture it and make a difference in your own life.
I wish you great success in life.
This is Mohanji for you.
