482: Your Guide To Purpose, Relationships, & Uncertainty

Today, I sat down with my dear friend and astrologer Monica Lorraine to explore the deeper wisdom within your astrology chart. You’re so much more than your sun sign. Your birth chart is a map of your soul that reveals who you are and why you’re here.

Monica shares how understanding your chart can help you grow emotionally and spiritually, navigate relationship patterns, and uncover your true purpose. She explains what a birth chart is, how planetary movements influence your life, and how to use astrology as a practical tool for self-awareness.

Transcript

Welcome to the Michelle Schell font show,

Monica Lorraine.

Here I am.

Otherwise known as,

I fondly call you Molo.

Molo.

And my husband too.

I told her,

He's like,

I love that for you.

Are we the only ones that call you Molo?

Yeah,

Yeah,

That's why it's so special.

Around my house,

We definitely call you Molo.

So it's very cute.

I love it.

We're so glad to have you.

So glad to have you.

I'm happy to be here.

So you are a astrology and human design extraordinaire.

Someone that really,

And I know,

Cause I've worked with you several times,

You know this stuff backwards and forward.

So today I wanna focus more on the astrology aspect and only because again,

Many people have misconceptions about astrology.

They don't understand.

They think it's woo woo.

And I mean,

I have,

Gosh,

I've studied astrology not nearly as long as you and not as in depth as you by any means.

But what I have learned so much about astrology is we're so much more than just our sun sign.

Oh yeah.

Yeah.

So when people say like,

Oh,

Like for me,

I'll say I'm a Scorpio,

But it's like,

I'm almost more,

Scorpio is great.

I love being a Scorpio,

But knowing about the rest of your chart,

And I realize even talking with people,

They don't even know that we have a chart and what that means.

So that's why I wanna have you on today to really break it down cause it's so mathematical versus woo woo or out there.

It's actually extremely grounded and it's so helpful not only for our personal lives,

But our professional lives,

I mean,

Every aspect of life,

Our moods,

Emotions,

Relationships.

So is there anything you wanna add to that when it comes to astrology?

Cause I know like,

Gosh,

I could go on and on about it,

But you're the expert.

Astrology,

The reason I love it so much,

Well,

Obviously I use it in my coaching with my clients as well.

But one of the things that is so helpful about it is it's an entire system for self-understanding.

It is a framework that you can live by,

You can study it for the rest of your life and still get into the deeper nuances of your personality,

Of your soul path.

There's so many things that you can learn from your astrology chart.

But the interesting thing about it is yes,

Everybody knows their sun sign or at least that's how everyone's introduced to astrology.

I'm an Aries,

You're a Scorpio,

Everybody kinda knows that.

But what happens is that we all carry these signs,

These zodiac signs are archetypes.

They're archetypal energies that we all carry somewhere in our chart.

And there's 12 zodiac signs,

And then there's 12 houses or 12 sections in your astrology chart.

So every single one of us carries every single sign somewhere in our astrology chart.

So for example,

Let's say I'm a sun sign Aries,

But my Aries energy,

That leadership,

That really needing to kinda go first with things and take the lead,

It shows up not necessarily in my career,

It shows up in my fourth house.

My fourth house is about,

All of our fourth house is about home and family and roots.

And so it's no wonder that I have,

At a very early age,

I took the leadership role in my family.

I mean,

Literally,

I was like the father,

The mother,

Taking care of the kids.

Even with my mom,

She comes to me when she needs direction or guidance for something because she trusts my leadership abilities,

Right?

So we all have all of these signs somewhere in our chart.

For example,

I have Scorpio in my chart,

As we all do,

But my Scorpio shows up in my 12th house.

That means that I'm really good at helping my clients get to the bottom of what's really going on,

The things that they can't see,

The unconscious patterns,

The things that are not spoken,

But it's showing up in their life.

So we all have this ability to tap into that energy somewhere in our chart.

And the 12 houses in your astrology chart literally represent 12 areas of your life.

So you can learn about yourself,

Your personal identity,

Your relationships,

Your career,

Your health,

Even what you need for spiritual connection.

It's so specific to you that if you did nothing more than just learn about the different parts of your astrology chart,

But in an active way,

Not just like in a,

Tell me what the forecast is or what my future is.

It's not like that.

It can tell you some things,

But it's more for a deeper self-understanding and self-awareness and ultimately moves you into self-acceptance,

Which is huge because when we can accept that,

Oh,

It's not personal,

It's planetary.

This is how I'm designed.

Then we can just drop all of the,

I should be doing this,

I'm supposed to be,

We just drop it all.

And you just step more into alignment with who you really are,

Why you're here,

What you're here to learn,

And really come from a place of feeling soul-empowered and not feeling like,

Oh my God,

Something's wrong with me,

I'm broken,

I need to be fixed.

Does that help a bit?

It does,

But I realize you're using language that I know a lot of people don't know,

So I want you to break it down even more.

Yeah.

And I love,

And everything you're saying,

I'm like,

Yes,

Yes.

What people don't realize is oftentimes when we're stuck in life and we can't move forward,

Knowing what's going on in your astrology chart is so incredibly helpful.

I'm trying to find the word or the phrase that I wanna use about knowing what's going on in your astrology chart.

It's just,

It's the book of your soul.

It's the book of what's going on.

It's your soul map.

It's your soul map,

Yeah.

I just recently,

In fact,

Gave,

A friend of mine had a baby,

And I gave her,

It was a whole astrology book based on her daughter.

So let's start there.

Not with my friend,

But I want people to understand.

So I want you to break down what the heck an astrology chart is.

And I know you have a visual you might be able to even show us,

But I wanna really break it down because in order to know even more about who you are,

So again,

Most people,

Again,

I'm dating myself when I say,

Look in the newspaper on Sundays.

Like,

What's your astrology?

Now,

Of course,

Everything's online,

But like,

Okay,

What's going on with Scorpio if I'm a Scorpio?

But again,

I know now to look at so much more than just Scorpio,

Knowing what my chart is.

So that's just your sun sign would be like,

Oh,

I'm a Scorpio.

But when we know and can put on,

Put in the input of where I was born,

The town and the state or the country,

And also what time I was born,

Not just your birth date,

It takes you even deeper in what comes up when you know these things is what we call your astrology chart.

And I've talked to a lot of people that go,

Oh,

Again,

I'm a Gemini or I'm a Taurus.

I'm like,

But do you know anything about your chart?

And they're like,

What's a chart?

Or are you able to even break that down?

And I know not everyone is on video,

But so break it down.

So like you said,

There's a chart that is so specific to the literal,

To the minute that you were born.

The minute that you were born,

You have a very,

Very,

Very specific chart.

And what that means is that the planets were in a certain place exactly the moment you were born.

And that chart is your soul map and it stays with you your entire life.

Absolutely.

Can I pull up the visual?

Yeah,

Sure.

Let me give you.

I think,

I mean,

If you know,

I know most of you will be listening.

Okay,

Here you go.

So the thing that people wanna understand is like,

So the planets are always moving.

The sun is always moving.

The moon is always,

Like everything else is moving,

But your specific chart is actually static.

It never moves.

But all the other planets in the moon cycle through your chart.

And so talk to us about,

Again,

Especially for people that aren't on video right now,

But what a chart is.

So there you go.

Yes.

Is this my chart?

No,

It's just a transit chart for the day.

I never really share anybody's chart.

You can show my chart.

I'm fine.

I don't care.

Okay.

Okay,

So you know what?

Let me,

Actually,

Let me do that really quick.

Here you are.

You're always close by.

I'm always like.

Okay,

You're in my favorites.

Okay,

So here's what happens.

I want you guys to imagine that the moment that you were born,

That someone went out and took a snapshot of the sky exactly the moment you were born.

And we're talking the moment you took your first breath outside of your mom,

Okay?

It doesn't matter if it was induced.

It doesn't matter if you were a day late.

It doesn't matter if they did a C-section.

The moment that you took that first breath outside of your mom,

That is the moment of your birth.

And so what happens is,

Okay,

Michelle,

You were born November 9th,

1967 at 1.

30 p.

M.

In Rochester,

New York.

So I go in and I plug that into my little,

You know,

Thing here,

My chart creator,

And it pulls up this strology chart.

And as I mentioned,

It's broken into 12 sections.

So just think of it as like a pie,

Okay?

And there's 12 pieces of the pie,

And it just goes in order.

One,

Two,

Three,

Four,

All the way to 12.

Each one- And for people that aren't looking at this,

I just want to say it's in a circle.

So it's circular,

And again,

It looks like a pie,

And there are 12 pieces.

So keep going.

Imagine a pizza.

Yeah,

That's perfect.

Imagine a pizza pie.

A pizza,

And here's 12 pieces.

12 slices,

12 slices to the pie.

And each one of these slices represents a specific area of your life.

So without getting into all 12,

I'll just give you four.

For example,

The first house,

Or the house is also the slice of pizza.

The first slice of pizza,

First house,

Is going to be the house of you,

Your personal identity,

Who you are as an individual.

This is not who you are in relationships or in your career.

This is literally you.

It talks about you,

Your personality,

How other people perceive you,

How they receive your energy,

And even their first impression of you.

So when people meet you,

Even though you're a Scorpio or whatever sign you could be,

It doesn't mean that that's what,

That's not necessarily the energy that they're going to pick up on.

They're going to pick up on whatever the archetype,

The energy is that's in your first house.

So that's the house of self,

Personal identity.

Fourth house is who you are at home.

This is your inner world.

It's about your roots,

Your family,

Where you come from.

It's the first seven years of your life and what created your inner emotional foundation,

Which is super helpful if you're ever doing any inner child work or you're ever doing any healing work around family patterns or cycle breaking,

Things like that.

The fourth house is going to give us a lot of information about,

And very specific information about what you need to be working on there and why you even need to work on it.

And the seventh house over here,

The seventh piece of pie is,

Or slice of pizza,

Is going to be about how you are in relationships.

Relationships are,

It's our opportunity for people in our lives to mirror certain things about us.

Sometimes they're mirroring things that we love about ourselves.

Sometimes they're mirroring things we don't like about ourselves,

Or we maybe wanna change.

Sometimes it's mirroring our own potential.

If you've ever had a moment where you think like,

Oh,

Why am I not further along?

Or look what that other person's able to accomplish in life.

Well,

What they're doing is they're mirroring back to you your own potential that maybe is unrealized.

You haven't tapped into it yet.

So really the seventh house is not just about romantic relationships.

It's about who you are and how you are and how you show up in relationships,

The types of people you bring in,

The patterns that show up in your relationships,

And most importantly,

What others are mirroring back to you so that you can really understand yourself from another person's perspective as well.

Because remember,

The first area of your chart is just about you.

You're not seeing anything about other people.

The seventh house helps you to see yourself in others and helps you to see yourself in others.

So I like to say the seventh house is responsible for most of the triggers that we have in relationships.

So there's a whole lot.

And then the 10th house or the 10th slice of pizza is about your,

Most people will say it's about your career,

It's about the work you do in the world,

It's possibly what you're known for,

Your reputation,

What you wanna be known for.

I like to say,

Because I practice more spiritual astrology,

I like to say that this is the area that has more to do with your unique contribution,

Your highest level of contribution that you're here to offer others if you choose to.

This is like the contract your soul made with the universe,

Like,

Listen,

I'm gonna figure this piece out and then I'm gonna contribute this to others.

And it doesn't always need to look like a career or a business.

Sometimes it could literally just be a hobby or just some way of creatively expressing yourself,

Or you could be an artist and your art is contributing,

Even if you never sold a painting.

So it really is your unique contribution to help others in this world.

Does that help?

Yeah,

That's great.

So you mentioned how the birth chart never changes.

So this is based,

Again,

On the time that you were born.

This is like your thumbprint,

It's not gonna change.

Now,

What happens is when people say,

You'll hear people say,

Or like you said,

Michelle,

Look at Sunday and read the horoscope,

And I used to do that too.

So what they're doing is they're talking more about collective energy.

When I mean collective,

That means all of us.

So we all have our own individual chart.

But when we look at collectively what's going on for everyone,

Right?

And this is where it gets more personal.

This has to do with personal timing.

Because when you have personal timing,

Now what we do is we pull up a second chart and that second chart is called a transit chart.

And all it means is literally we put another chart over your chart.

So now you have two wheels or two charts here.

And what happens is that if I start moving the dates on that chart,

It starts to tell me what areas of your,

Which houses or which slices of the pizza are gonna be activated on any given day.

I could go backwards,

I could go forwards,

I could go a week out,

A month out.

This is why a lot of my clients,

Because a lot of my clients are also entrepreneurs,

They'll reach out to me because maybe they're planning their year for 2026 or whatever the year is.

And they want to plan their personal and professional life throughout the year where they wanna align with the energies.

They don't wanna be pushing against things.

So if they're ready to launch something or do something big,

And it happens to be at a time where the planets are in an area of their life that is pulling them inward and wanting them to practice self-care and release and reset and recharge their batteries.

Well,

What's gonna happen is they're still gonna show up to do the thing,

But they're not gonna have the level of energy that they would have,

Or even the capacity had they followed at least kind of where the energy was already activated for them.

Does that make sense?

Yeah,

That makes a lot of sense for sure.

We've done this with you as well.

I love that.

How helpful has that been for you?

Oh my God.

With the business.

This is why I wanted to have you on.

This is a personal.

Yeah,

Like everyone needs to understand their astrology chart.

Again,

I don't know it to your level by any means.

And I'm not drawn to even knowing it to your level.

Yeah,

Most people won't.

But to work with someone like you that is able to show me and help me understand,

Like,

Hey,

I remember you said to me,

Hey,

Over the summer in your relationships,

They might be,

I don't remember your words,

Like there's gonna be a lot coming up for you in your relationships.

It might get a little tricky.

It's gonna be tricky.

I think you said specifically with Graham,

My husband's.

And I was like,

Oh,

Whatever,

You know,

And I think I'd made it through like the first two months.

I'm like,

Yeah,

I don't notice anything.

And then the third month I was like,

What the heck?

What is going on?

And you said,

I told you so.

And I said,

Wow.

And it wasn't that it was bad.

It was just all this stuff that needed to be talked about,

Worked through,

Old triggers.

It was like,

All this stuff just came bubbling up in like the course,

In just a month.

And then after that month was over,

Bloop,

It was done.

Yeah.

But did it not clear?

It cleared some energy,

Right?

It cleared it out.

And again,

I wasn't looking for it because you told me,

But what's so wild is again,

This to me is mathematical and scientific.

And if you think about it,

They can clock and tell down to the minute when the tides are coming up.

When's the full moon?

When's the new moon?

When's the waxing moon?

When's the waning moon?

They know when the planets are coming and where they're going to be.

That's all mathematical.

Like it's just potted.

It's scientific,

It's science.

So it's like,

Now what you're able to do as an astrologer is just interpret that and what all of those planets mean.

I know from having a private practice for so many years,

It was wild to me how around the full moon,

People would be,

First of all,

It's even in probably Cosmo.

They just talk about all the babies that are born around the full moon,

But people are more emotional.

I don't sleep well when it's full moon.

I don't even all the time know when the full moon is,

But I'll notice,

Why am I not sleeping?

And I'll look when the full moon is,

I'm like,

Oh,

It's a full moon.

And I don't even know.

I don't think it's a placebo effect,

Like I'm looking for it.

So there's,

To me,

An astrology chart and understanding what's happening is empowering.

Yeah,

It absolutely is.

And again,

When I do talk with my clients about what's coming up for them,

It's never like this doom and gloom.

The purpose for it is,

And I always tell them,

If you know what the weather report's gonna be,

Or there's a chance of rain or storm,

Like don't go outside in your shorts and flip-flops,

Just be aware that it's probably gonna rain that day,

Or that month,

Right?

Bring an umbrella.

Bring an umbrella,

That's it.

And if it's clear skies,

No problem.

And for you,

It was clear skies for about two months while that planet was traveling through that area of your chart for three months,

Right?

The first two,

You breezed by,

Breezed through.

The third month,

You're like,

What the hell's going on?

Exactly,

I was like,

What the?

Everything Graham said was triggering to me,

I was triggering him.

I'm like,

What is going on?

But that was because,

I don't remember what planet it was,

But it was going- It was Mars.

It was Mars.

I was gonna say,

I'm wondering if it was Mars,

Because that planet tends to kick things up,

But was going through my relationship house.

And it just made so much sense.

And since then,

It's like,

Whoop,

Smooth sailing again.

I'm like,

This is so wild.

As Mars,

And with all the planets,

They all have their own job to do,

Right?

They activate certain things.

And Mars tends to kick up whatever area it's in.

It tends to kick up something that needs to be confronted so that it can be cleared out.

Now,

It doesn't need to be confrontational.

However,

If you're not aware of it,

You may be confrontational,

Or the other person might be really confrontational to you.

It's just like this energy of,

I have to just address this head on.

But once it is,

It clears the decks.

It allows conversations to be had,

Or things to be changed,

Or whatever it is,

And then you're able to move forward.

So none of these transiting planets,

Which just means they're moving around your chart,

None of them are designed to cause problems,

Or there's no such thing as a bad chart,

Or even a bad transit.

But if there's something going on in that area of your life,

In one of those 12 areas,

And it's not serving you somehow,

Or you're stuck in some kind of pattern,

Or a rut,

Or a behavior that is,

Where you're slowing things down for yourself,

The planet's gonna come through,

And it's going to activate that energy.

It doesn't do anything to you.

It activates what's already going on,

But a lot of times it'll magnify it so that you notice it,

Right?

So when you notice it,

Then you become aware,

And awareness precedes change.

Once you become aware of what's going on,

Now you have a choice to change it.

So that's why I say this is a full framework,

A full system for self-understanding,

And it's not just about understanding yourself,

Because once you start to understand your own chart,

The people who are closest to you,

Your children,

Your partner,

Your partner in business,

Whatever it is,

You start to see,

Okay,

They have their own chart as well,

And technically it's not really personal,

It's planetary.

There's probably something going on with them,

And I'm over here getting triggered and getting upset,

And realizing,

Wait a minute,

They're going through what I went through three months ago.

It kind of allows us just to let everybody just kind of be.

It's so true,

Because I know that Graham has had a few sessions with you,

And I remember when you said,

Oh yeah,

On July something,

Whatever,

It was near his birthday in July,

You said he's moving in,

I think it was into his first house,

And it was all about him or the house of- A new start,

But first it was about releasing,

Surrendering,

Letting things go,

Yeah.

His summer was so rocky,

And he was like,

Like it was so much going on for him,

And it was psychological,

And because I knew what he was going through,

I took hardly anything,

I didn't take anything personally,

And I'd say to him,

I know you're going through this,

Like all this stuff on the inside is being kicked up and out,

It was psychological,

It was reevaluating his whole life,

It was all this stuff was coming up for him,

And I was so empathetic,

Because I knew what was going on,

And I was just able to witness him over and over,

And when he was in a mood,

I was like,

Everything's in his first house,

So he's okay,

He'll be out of it by September 8th or whatever it was,

And he was.

Yeah,

It's amazing,

You really see it happen in real time,

I mean,

After you've been working with your chart actively for a little while,

You're like,

Oh my gosh,

Like yeah,

This stuff's really happening,

Again,

It's not about predicting,

It's the,

What is the psychological,

What is the astrological weather report gonna be for the next three months,

Or six months,

Or the next 12 months,

And let me dress accordingly,

That's it,

And let me go back and listen to my recording,

Or write some of these dates down,

So that when it shows up,

I don't come all unglued,

Like let me just remember,

Like,

Oh,

That's right,

She said I was gonna be working through this,

Or things with my mom are gonna show up,

And I need to heal it,

Or my abandonment issues,

Or whatever the triggers are,

Whatever the things are that our soul came here to heal,

And that's what I love about this chart,

I mean,

I love human design as well,

But I started with astrology in 2006,

And then I was introduced to human design in 2014,

So I've been with these charts for a long time,

But I will tell you that the astrology chart is literally your psychological and emotional wiring,

It's how you're psychologically,

Emotionally,

And spiritually wired,

So when you start to understand yourself from that perspective,

And what you really need to be emotionally fulfilled,

What do you really need in terms of a style of communication with a partner,

What do you really need to be fulfilled in your career,

What did your soul come here to offer as a contribution,

When you start to understand these very specific things,

It's no longer about checking the horoscope to see what's happening on Tuesday of next week,

It's about how can I live the highest frequency of what I'm already here to do,

And who I'm here to be,

And how can I stop doing what everybody thinks I should be doing,

Or being who everybody thinks I should be,

How can I allow a lot of the conditioning to fall away,

And really step into the authenticity of who I really am,

And show up from there,

And it really does help you to realign your life so that things run smoother,

You stop creating so much resistance to the things that you desire in your life,

Because of this level of self-understanding,

Does that help?

Oh my gosh,

Yes,

You think about people that struggle with patterns that keep coming up over,

And over,

And over,

And over again,

Again,

The word that continues to come up for me is empowering,

Like when I understand what's going on in my chart,

I'm like,

Oh,

That's why that's there,

It's to help me,

The astrology chart points it out for me,

So that I know what I'm here to overcome,

Or know what I'm here to move through kind of thing,

Can you wanna talk a little bit more about that?

Yeah,

Yeah,

It takes away all the guesswork,

Like,

You know,

I was so deep into personal development and healing for years before I came across human astrology,

And like I said in one of my,

I don't know,

Something I was writing the other day,

I said,

When I had my first astrology session,

I was blown away,

I was completely blown away,

Because it had taken all the years of personal development in the,

You know,

Conferences I went to,

And the books I read,

And the therapy I did,

It took all of that,

And it literally,

Like in one session,

I understood all these things that I had been trying to move through,

Work through,

Heal through for probably more than a decade prior to getting introduced to astrology,

More than my son signed,

I was always introduced to my son signed,

And I joke because I say I came to astrology through,

Because my relationships were so messed up,

Right?

That's how I got into astrology,

It was like,

Oh my God,

I wasn't even thinking about purpose at the time,

I was like,

I pretty much dated almost the entire zodiac,

And I'm still having trouble,

And I don't know who's left,

And so it was from a very practical standpoint,

And then when I left,

I realized like,

Oh,

I didn't realize that I had about four or five planets in my seventh house of relationships,

And guess what that meant,

That meant that I was going to learn and grow through the relationships,

I had a pattern,

I had a pattern of losing my identity in relationships,

Not to get too woo-woo,

But it was also a past life pattern,

I did many,

Many lifetimes,

And so what would happen is I would mistake caring,

Or you know,

For caretaking,

Right,

And so I would end up becoming the caretaker,

I would lose my identity in relationships,

I would choose partners who could never,

Ever provide the emotional connection that I was really looking for,

And I was like,

What is wrong with me?

Like,

Something must be wrong with me,

Because this is happening.

And then when I understood it through the lens of,

These are my patterns,

These are my energetic patterns,

So that I can start to work through them,

And get on the other side of them,

Everything started to change after that.

Then I found out about my purpose,

About my best career,

I was told in 2006 that most likely I was going to end up helping a lot of women,

And that one day I would be speaking on stages and helping them have transformation,

I was probably going to be using the chart,

And here I am,

I'm 51 years old now,

And I'm like,

Oh my gosh,

I've already done that,

Now I'm doing it online,

Right?

So when you want to understand your patterns,

If you don't want to get stuck,

And again,

Therapy has,

You know,

It's amazing,

And all the modalities out there are great,

But when you want to really understand,

What are my specific patterns,

Why am I tripping over this,

All we do is take a look at your chart,

And I will identify it within most likely three minutes,

And not just one,

I'm going to see about three or four patterns,

And how they're all kind of connecting with one another,

And I'll tell you,

I have an idea that this is how it's showing up in your life,

And you're going to be like,

How do you know that?

Like,

How do you know,

Right?

Because that's kind of how the energy is going to play out,

And here's the area where it's going to show up.

So you really take all the guesswork out,

If you want to know,

Why do I have codependent patterns?

Why do I,

You know,

Why am I afraid of abandonment?

Why do I feel like I never have enough money or resources,

No matter how much I make?

You know,

If you want to understand the why,

So that you can get on the other side of it,

Because we're humans,

We want to know why,

We just have this need to understand why,

And I always tell my clients,

This is why this is important.

If the why something's important,

You're going to be less resistant to moving through it.

So why is it important to understand your patterns?

Because if you understand what they are,

You're going to stop going around thinking you need to heal all kinds of things,

And fix all kinds of things,

All you need to do is become aware what these specific patterns are,

Why they're here,

What you're supposed to be learning from it,

And how to get on the other side of it,

And that is extremely empowering.

Long before I was soul aligned,

Which is my business,

Soul Aligned Solutions,

I was soul empowered for years,

And then I switched it because the word empowered was just over-saturated,

So I said,

You know what,

I'm helping people move more into an alignment with themselves,

And what happens when we're out of alignment?

Well,

We create resistance in our life,

We create resistance in our health,

In our career,

In our relationships,

So how amazing would that be if we just could start to remove the resistance instead of trying to fix ourselves,

And thinking that something's wrong with us?

There's just something we don't understand about ourselves,

And when you have the fundamental,

You know,

When you have the framework,

And you have the specifics of your chart,

It's not difficult after that,

You really can start to work with the energy.

Yeah,

I love that,

You made a good point,

And I want you to take the chart down so I can see better,

But not yet.

Oh,

One more question.

Tell me when.

Because another thing that I've talked to so many people about over the years is when they ask,

How do I find my passion and my purpose?

Like,

What am I here to do?

And it's like,

When you know what's going on in your chart,

It's pretty easy,

Pretty easy,

Would you say,

To kind of point that person in the right direction,

Because you're born with,

Again,

Planets in a certain house,

So which house would that be?

No,

This is for which specific question?

I'm just wondering,

Like,

If somebody said,

Hey,

What is my,

Like,

Look at my chart,

Like,

What's my passion,

Or what's my purpose in this lifetime from a,

Let's say someone that wants to find a career,

Or even like a hobby,

Like,

Where is that in your chart?

And everyone has this,

It's not unique to me.

Right,

Right.

Everybody has this.

And there's two,

Well,

There's other things that I could look at,

But there's something very specific let's look at it from a soul perspective.

What is the purpose of the soul in this lifetime?

And then I'll get into the purpose work,

Right?

Yeah.

Soul is always going to be represented by this little symbol here that looks like a horseshoe or headphones,

Okay?

So this says to me that this soul came here in this lifetime to really master this area of their life,

To really major in this area of their life.

So for you,

For example,

It's in the second house,

Or the second slice of pizza,

Right?

And so that tells me that from a soul perspective,

You can't,

One of your biggest,

Biggest things that you're here to master is self-work in this lifetime.

Right?

Is self-work,

It's seeing your value,

Right?

It's the second house is also about money and resources.

And so literally part of your soul path in this lifetime is to understand literally money,

Like understand how it works,

How to make it,

How to save it,

How to multiply it,

All the things.

Because in previous lifetime,

You didn't have to do that.

You were well taken care of,

But you didn't understand how to do it yourself,

Right?

If the person decided to take it away,

You were in a real bad situation.

And so the soul says,

Oh,

This lifetime,

I'm gonna master the material world because last lifetime I mastered the metaphysical world.

Right?

And then you come to this life and the deal is that you bring both.

You bring the gifts from the past life,

You bring the destiny from this lifetime,

Which is the second house,

The material world,

Right?

So now you bring the spiritual and the material and you bring them and create the balance,

Which I think you're doing an amazing job.

So accurate.

I've spent most of my life working on my own self-worth and teaching myself self-worth,

So accurate.

And the same with money.

I've learned,

I'm continuing to learn so much about money and the energetics of money and quantum jumping,

All of the things.

It's been a really fun,

Not always,

But now it's becoming more and more fun.

But I do,

I do.

And it's interesting because you said it's something that I'm here to do on my own.

And it's interesting because,

Yeah,

I mean,

I don't wanna go off on my own stuff,

But it's just interesting that you say that because I'm like,

I would like to do this and I would like to do that and I would like to build a company and I,

I,

Versus my husband and I.

And I just don't feel that he and I are meant to do that in this lifetime.

Not that there's anything wrong with it.

I have no problem with it,

But there is something about I'm gonna do it all alone and I want to do it alone.

So it's fun.

Yeah,

And it doesn't mean like you can't have partners with certain things or you can't have joint ventures,

Things like that,

But there still has to be a part of it that you are doing,

Right?

That you are creating.

So it doesn't mean you can't do that with other people.

It just means that can't be the whole,

Like the complete way that you do it.

Because I guess- What is that headphone thing called that?

That is called your North Node,

N-O-D-E,

North Node,

Which tells you what you're here to major in and master in this lifetime.

This is like the maximum soul growth place.

Everyone has a North Node.

Everyone has a North Node.

Oh my gosh,

Okay,

Nice.

Everyone has a North Node in a certain sign and everybody has a North Node in a certain house or a slice of the pizza.

And that is what makes it specific for you.

Now,

If we go,

Now that could also be part of your purpose work,

Right?

Have you not helped so many people around self-worth?

I love it,

Yeah.

So it can tie in,

It doesn't have to,

But most of the time it'll tie into to what your contribution you're here to offer others.

Why?

Because it's a path that you had to walk yourself so you know it well,

Right?

Now,

If I'm looking at someone's chart and they say,

Okay,

What's my contribution that I'm here to offer others?

What is something that I can do for pay or not?

It doesn't matter.

What is something I could do from a soul perspective to contribute?

Now I'm gonna go look at very specific areas in a person's chart.

So for example,

For you,

I would look at the 10th house sign,

Which is the contribution area,

Right?

What am I here to contribute?

That is,

You have the sign of Sagittarius there.

So Sagittarius,

Without getting too astrological here,

Every sign has a planet that belongs to it,

Right?

So there's a sign and the planet that belongs to it.

So the planet that belongs to Sagittarius is the planet Jupiter.

So Sagittarius is a sign,

Jupiter is the planet.

So now I go find the planet Jupiter in your chart.

It looks like a little four right here.

And this four is in the sign of Virgo in your seventh house.

So now I know that there's something here that you were here to help people do.

And Virgo is all about improving the process of something or improving a system or improving the way to do something.

And you,

Prior to this,

Did therapy and coaching,

Right?

Did you not end up creating the adult chair brain work method to help people?

And the coaching program and the membership and all the things,

Yeah.

To help people improve the way that they were healing.

So you have already offered your contribution and you can continue to have different iterations of it.

But I'll give you an example right now.

Hector,

My boyfriend is,

I think he's halfway through the book now.

And oh my gosh,

Like every other day he's sending me like,

Highlight,

Cause he's out of town,

Right?

He's sending me highlights and- Oh,

You're talking about the adult chair book.

Yeah,

And he's sending me screenshots and highlights and he's showing me this stuff from the book and his mind is blown.

And he's just,

He's like,

Oh my gosh,

Like this is why.

This is why I did these things.

This is why I behaved this way.

This is why I had to go through the experience.

Like he's understanding himself so well because of that.

So you did,

You did with that particular thing and a few other things you're doing,

You've already accomplished this contribution and you're gonna continue to contribute.

So I'm able to see this in everybody's chart.

And it doesn't mean everyone has to write a book or have a huge business or anything.

Sometimes it could just be the way you show up for others,

But it is in there.

Your soul already has,

All the questions you have are already here.

You just need somebody to decode it for you.

Thank you.

Yes,

Yes.

You can take it down.

Yeah,

We're done I think with the chart for now,

But thank you.

That was so helpful.

I just love,

I mean,

We all have a chart.

It's your unique soul blueprint and the right person can help you to really interpret what the heck is going on in your life.

What is some of the bigger things that are coming up for you.

Again,

Whether it's in 50 years or in 10 years or in a month or a week or a day,

Because you can just tune in,

Not tuning in,

You're looking at where the planets are and how it aligns with your chart.

Right,

And I would say there's- So not woo-woo.

No,

And I would say there's three reasons typically why women usually come and some men,

Right?

Most of my clients are women,

Will usually book a session with me or wanna talk to me about their chart.

It's usually because either they wanna know their purpose.

What's my purpose?

Like,

What does it all mean?

A lot of times when they get like to about age 40 and up,

They're really like,

Okay,

What am I really here to do it?

Am I even doing what I'm supposed to be doing?

Or is there something more?

I feel like there's something more.

They really wanna understand like,

Who am I?

Why did I really come here for it?

Because there's almost this thing about like,

I don't wanna miss my mission,

Right?

I don't wanna miss my purpose,

Like my contribution.

I wanna make sure that I at least try to do it,

Right?

So that's one of the reasons they'll come.

The second one,

Relationships.

I mean,

Who does not want to understand their relationship better,

Whether it's your own patterns,

A person in your life,

Your husband,

Your children.

Like,

I do something called relationship insights and I really,

Really give them the insights into them and their partner or whoever the other chart is to help them understand because that's gonna create more connection.

That's gonna create less resistance,

Right?

Better communication and not taking things so personally.

That is huge.

Like,

Less triggers,

Let's do it,

Right?

And then- And then the third thing would be personal timing or professional,

Personal or business.

They wanna know like,

What does the next three months look like for me?

What about the next six months?

What should I be focusing on in my personal life or my business?

Where should I be putting my time,

Energy and resources so that I'm not just wasting time,

Right?

This is not about setting new goals for the new year and all that.

It's about how do I align my energy in the best way possible so that I can have an even better year than I had last year,

Right?

So yeah,

So every year I do these new year,

New energy sessions,

Right?

And I open up a few spots for that.

And a lot of times it's repeat clients because they're like,

Oh my gosh,

I've been doing this for the past five years and it's been so helpful.

And you really,

We do get to see what's coming up for you in the next 12 months and then really kind of,

You know,

Go from there in terms of what you need.

So- I know,

I just did that with you and it was so powerful.

I literally took everything that she said and went into my calendar and plotted it exactly like you said.

You said,

This is when you need to be resting,

This is when you brainstorm,

This is when you do your live events,

This is da-da-da-da.

I was like,

Yep,

Okay,

Perfect.

Perfect,

Perfect.

You have been so accurate.

It's been just such a journey working with you.

So thank you.

Yes,

You're welcome.

And I do love,

You were mentioning relationships because what you've done for me is you'll take my chart,

This is cool for people that don't know that you can even do this.

Yeah.

You take my chart and someone that I'm either going to collaborate with in business and you overlay the charts to see what is that relationship gonna be?

Is this a beneficial thing?

Where are the sticky points?

Where might we need to talk through some things?

Or even my relationship with Graham,

Overlay it.

It's like you are able to overlay it and say,

Okay,

This is where these issues might come up,

This is how you know.

It's been,

You know,

Talk a little bit about the power of relationships when it comes to astrology charts.

Absolutely,

Every important relationship in your life,

No matter how challenging it is or how beautiful it is,

Every relationship is a soul contract when it's somebody who you not just meet once,

You're in a relationship with them.

And what I mean by soul contract is that they literally are contracted to bring you certain gifts,

Right,

And you are for them as well.

And sometimes some of those gifts are not packaged so nicely,

Right?

They might really trigger you.

They might really,

The gift might show up in,

Let's say you,

I don't know,

Have an abandonment wound and then you get together with somebody who loves you dearly,

But like maybe they're super avoided.

And it's like,

I constantly feel abandoned in my relationship,

Like what is wrong?

But a lot of times,

And this is how I got into astrology,

I was trying to figure out how to fix other people so that I could have better relationships.

What I realized is that it's actually not that.

It's about,

Okay,

Let's say,

I say the abandonment wound because that comes up a lot.

Let's say that one of the things that that soul,

The person who has the wound,

Contracted for themselves in this lifetime was to come into this world and to learn how to create that inner emotional safety and security and stability for themselves and not outsource it to someone else.

So what'll happen is that they probably got into a string of relationships and,

Or maybe their mom was not emotionally there either.

Then they go and they get into a couple of relationships and then they feel emotionally abandoned in those relationships.

And then they start thinking,

Well,

What the hell's wrong with me?

Maybe even go into a depression over it.

And we don't realize,

Oh,

Wait a minute,

I actually came into this lifetime to learn how to source this from within.

I actually came here to learn how do I get to a place where I'm not constantly worried that somebody is gonna take their emotional support or away where I'm not putting my safety and security into someone else.

Actually,

I'm showing up as my full,

Whole and complete self.

And the cherry on top is that they're very emotionally supportive towards me.

And that I can be very safe around them.

See,

It flips everything on its head.

Everything,

If you just,

Here's how to know one of the wounds that you have,

Just whoever's listening.

Whatever you want your partner to do more of for you so that you can feel better,

I promise you there's a 99% chance that that wound's gonna show up in your chart.

I could find it within three seconds.

Because even if it is dealing,

Like a person's doing,

They're never gonna have a good relationship.

It's not in the stars for me this lifetime.

I don't know.

I used to think,

When did I kill in a past life?

My relationships suck.

I really felt that way.

I'm like,

Wow,

I really created some karma for myself.

But then I learned,

Like I said,

I had a habit of losing my identity in my relationships,

Of being overly compromising.

People-pleasing.

And then I would move into resentment,

And then I'd be upset that you didn't change because look at all that I've done for you.

Look at how much I compromised.

And so then I'd get fed up,

Because I'm an Aries,

And eventually I get fed up,

And then I just burn the bridge and leave,

Go find another relationship,

And guess what happened to him?

Same thing.

Same thing.

I told you,

I dated almost the entire Zodiac before I found astrology,

Like really understood my chart.

So with that being said,

When it's relationships,

It becomes less about how do I get them to change,

Which is funny,

Because most people will book a session with me so they can understand their partner so that we can get the partner to behave.

To change,

Yeah.

No.

Find out,

Oh,

By the way,

This is how you trigger your partner also.

And this is the gift you're here to bring them.

And this is why they want you to do X,

Y,

Z,

But in reality,

Their chart is set up for you to not give it to them.

Because if you give it to them,

Now,

This is not a conscious thing,

But if you provide to them the thing that they need to heal most,

How is the healing gonna happen?

Right.

They're just gonna keep coming back and doing it again,

Right?

Totally,

Totally.

And so the more we understand this,

It gives us a language,

It gives us an understanding,

It gives us the ability to communicate,

To understand what our partner or our child or our sibling or whoever,

What they need.

And from there,

I think that it creates much more intimacy,

It creates much more connection.

Like I said,

Better communication.

And most importantly,

You stop waiting for that person to give you the thing that you're here to give yourself.

You stop.

It's so powerful.

And that is empowering all in itself.

So powerful.

I love this so much.

Thank you so much for being here today.

Yeah,

Absolutely.

I hope that this information empowers some people out there that are listening.

Because some people are like,

Oh no,

Astrology scares me.

I'm like,

There's nothing to be scared of.

It literally is something that is so grounded,

It is so scientific and mathematical.

And to have someone be able to interpret a chart,

Your chart,

It's,

Again,

It's like,

I love that.

It is,

I don't even have words other than,

And what's the other word for empowered?

It's just,

It brings you clarity and hope.

And it's like when you feel so stuck,

It creates clarity for you.

So anyway.

Definitely.

Can I ask about that real quick about the collective energies that coming up?

I do wanna ask you just quickly,

If you would just have a few highlights.

Yeah.

To what's coming up for us,

Like in the year 2026,

Any high level highlights?

Yes,

Yes.

So there's plenty,

But let me just talk about one particular planet.

So when I say collective energies,

Now I'm saying,

Okay,

There's a planet called Jupiter,

And right now it's in the sign of cancer.

And so we've all collectively,

Meaning all of us,

Have been experiencing this energy since the summer of 2025 of having Jupiter in the sign of cancer.

So what does that mean in English?

It means that Jupiter likes to magnify and expand whatever it touches,

Okay?

Because it wants to bring an opportunity to,

It wants to leave you better off than when it showed up,

Okay?

And in cancer,

Can I think all about our emotions,

Our inner world,

Our relationship with our mothers,

With our families?

It's that thing I was talking about,

That sourcing that inner emotional security,

Safety,

And stability,

But not outsourcing it to other people,

Like learning how to do it for ourselves.

And a lot of times that requires that we kind of have to go into some of the things probably from childhood,

Because that's where the foundation started.

That's where the blueprint was set.

So Jupiter has been moving through the sign of cancer somewhere in your chart,

Wherever you have the sign of cancer in your chart,

That's where it's been,

The area it's been working on.

So it's going to be different for all of us,

Very specific.

Well,

That's going to be going on until the middle of 2026.

That's going to continue.

Jupiter takes 12 months to move through a sign before it moves on.

But in the summer of 2026,

It's going to move out of,

Jupiter's going to move out of cancer.

It's going to move into the sign of Leo.

So all of us who've been dealing for 12 months with our emotions and healing and all that stuff,

Now it's going to move into this sign of Leo.

And Leo is all about your creativity.

It's about showing up.

It's about starting something new,

Coming up with whatever new idea or creative idea that you have.

It might be starting a business.

It might be doing something creative that you've always wanted to do.

And you just,

For whatever reason,

You were outsourcing your,

Because now it's going to be about where we outsource our need for approval.

Our need for validation.

Our need for acceptance and recognition,

Okay?

And love.

So now all,

So wherever you have this Jupiter in the sign of Leo in your birth chart,

Now it's going to say,

Okay,

Over the next 12 months,

So from summer of 2026 to summer of 2027 for 12 months,

Where are you outsourcing these things?

Last time you were outsourcing your emotional inner security,

Where are you outsourcing your need for approval,

Acceptance,

Recognition,

Love?

Where?

Because that's going to show up for you.

And you're going to be pushed into working through it.

Now you don't have to.

You can dig your heels in and not do anything with it,

But then you're going to be receiving the not so pleasant energy around that.

It's eventually going to bother you enough that you'll probably do something about it.

And just remember what I'm saying today.

It's an opportunity because it won't come back for 12 years.

This is the time for you to work through that,

To really get on the other side.

It won't be back for 12 years,

So definitely 1,

000%,

Figure out where that's happening for you in your chart and ride that wave.

Do not resist it.

You're going to have so many blessings in that area if you flow with it.

Thank you.

It'll be good.

I remember you saying something about 2025 to 2026 was going to be a lot of triggering,

So I know that that's what,

Because of the planet Jupiter.

Right.

Like such a giant planet and it casts so much light on all of our stuff.

Yeah,

I've done an abundant amount of deep work with my clients in the past six months,

Like deeper than it's been in a long time.

Why?

Because everybody's stuff was coming up and they're like,

Okay,

That's it.

I need to heal this once and for all.

I need to work through it.

I need to let it go.

I'm ready.

I love that we're ending here because so many of us are realizing like,

Why am I being triggered again?

Why is this bubbling up?

Isn't this old?

Haven't I worked through this?

I hear this all the time.

It's like,

Thanks to,

Well,

And here's the thing though.

We might've worked through it,

But did we get to the root?

And Jupiter helps us to really excavate and get it all out because once we clear out our old stuff,

Our old wounding,

Our old limiting beliefs,

There's room for more light and that's what it's doing for us.

So it's actually a good thing.

So remember everyone,

What do we say here about triggers?

Triggers are a gift and this is why.

It helps us to see what's going on in the unconscious mind,

All those wounds.

So look at them.

Monica Lorraine,

Okay.

This has been amazing.

Thanks so much for being here.

We love,

Love you so much.

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Anytime.

I love it.

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