Welcome.
This is your host,
Marianne Pack,
Spiritual medium,
Author,
And joy advocate.
This reading is entitled,
Accept the Damned Compliment and Don't Argue for Your Limitations.
How many times do we receive a compliment and then proceed to tell the giver all the reasons that can't possibly be right?
They tell us how wonderful we are and we poo-poo it.
They share how our life or work expressed love and compassion,
And we tell them something bad we did that we're not proud of.
Just accept the damned compliment and don't argue for your limitations.
If I'm giving you a compliment because I see in you something that I appreciate and love,
Just say thank you.
When you don't receive my compliment,
You bring me down with you when you don't believe it and tell me that's not who you really are.
I beg to differ.
Now I've got to try to boost your self-worthiness,
Yet I'm down there wallowing in your shit with you.
Don't do that anymore.
Accept the damned compliment and smile.
Knowing that I do see in you the love and joy and compassion and skill and gift that I appreciate and adore.
I'm also learning to do this more often.
Just saying thank you instead of belittling myself to the giver of the compliment.
Since making feeling good is my number one priority,
When I receive a compliment,
I am more apt to thank the giver and receive the compliment with appreciation for being seen as I truly am.
The conversation goes much better,
And best of all,
It feels so much better,
Lighter,
Happier.
I feel so much better going into the rest of my day.
I've been thinking about this off and on for quite a while.
Then I happened upon an explanation of this from my mentor,
Abraham Hicks,
And it totally made sense.
See if it resonates with you.
When you try to do with your words,
You get in the way of your true vibration.
But your words cause a reaction that you don't need to have in your mix.
If you are aware of your vibration and you are carrying it and you are thinking these silent,
Positive thoughts about people without even them knowing it,
Making lists of positive aspects and rooting for their success,
And for your own,
Rooting for their success,
But don't tell them.
Don't tell them because they will argue for their own limitation,
And then you will get into an arguing match about how good they really are.
It's so irritating.
People just don't accept how good they are.
And then you lose your connection because you are trying so hard to convince them of that and convince yourself a little about it too.
You can't do both.
You can't focus upon something that isn't happening and allow it to happen at the same time.
As you begin to accept this vibrational world and you do more of this inner work and secret projecting of well-being upon the unsuspecting others,
Then they don't argue with you about it.
Not only should we accept a compliment with grace and appreciation when we receive one,
We may want to not offer a compliment,
But hold it as a treasure in our vibrational hearts.
Hold that delicious energy of light and love near us and revel in that feeling within us rather than offer the compliment to get ourselves knocked out of alignment because the receiver is not in a position energetically to receive it with grace.
If we notice something in someone we appreciate and love,
It may be best not to share it openly with them.
As we hold that sweet energy within us,
We can remember that this energy knows no bounds.
We are still sharing it with them even when we don't speak up because we bestow that energy toward them with our love and silent compliment.
So we both receive the blessing of the high vibration of appreciation,
The same frequency as love and joy that is source energy.
We are living examples before each other.
You're watching me and I'm watching you.
How we give and receive compliments is part of that.
If you don't believe me when I compliment you,
You're basically calling me a liar or vice versa.
If I've complimented you in the past and you received it with gratitude,
I'm going to feel more comfortable giving you other compliments when I see you showing up in ways that I appreciate.
But if you poo-poo my compliment and argue for your limitation,
Forget it.
I'm done.
It's an uphill battle to compliment you and I have not prepared my mountain climbing gear.
Believe me,
When I tell you that's how I see you when I compliment you,
You're that good.
If you argue with me about it,
That's it.
No more compliments from me.
I'll keep them to myself and just enjoy the journey with you in my heart.
I'll have to project my love and appreciation toward you secretly,
But I'd rather share my love openly with you.
Just allow me to enjoy giving you a compliment and I'll make it a point to receive your compliment with grace and a hearty thank you.
So the moral of the story is to keep compliments to yourself and share the love vibrationally or accept the damn compliment with a sincere thank you and believe that's who you really are.
Yes,
You're that good.
Big hugs,
Marianne
