Healing Trauma 11: Core Deficiency Beliefs

It's common for children and adults to believe there is something wrong with us. Core deficiency beliefs like "I’m broken, unlovable or disgusting" protect us. A child’s best chance for survival is to do everything they can to increase the amount of support and protection from their parents. We try to make sense of our experience and take on the blame for everything that happened to us as a child. Seeing the truth would jeopardize the relationship.

Say to yourself “I’m lovable.” Feeling unloved and left out is the basis of feeling we are unlovable. As adults, we can see the flimsy evidence for what it is. It was never true.

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Thank you for sharing, I found this to be very helpful and reaffirming. Helpful information and for sharing bits of your personal story and healing as well- thank you for all this work, it is helpful💐☀️take good care🦋

Thank you for this. It’s always helpful to be reminded that having an unregulated parent was not my fault, and the core deficiency beliefs I created as a result are not true. Thanks for offering a meaningful and compassionate way forward in the form of reparenting.

Thanks for sharing your story Lynn, mine is much the same timing ⏱️