Raised To Ignore Your Feelings As A Child: Long Term Effects Of Childhood Emotional Neglect

When you are raised by parents who have their own unresolved trauma, they can miss the mark while raising you. One of the long-term effects of childhood emotional neglect is being brainwashed to ignore your own feelings. As a result, many adult children of narcissistic, alcoholic, or immature parents grow up guessing at what normal is.

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I am love and light and not the critical thoughts toward myself or others!!! Love these truths Lisa!
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Excellent 🙏

Thank you very much. Love to learn more from you.

Wow, a lot to take in at 77 y/o!🙏

I found this refreshingly clear and straightforward. She provides clear reminders of what matters most, including of our intrinsic value and why we may never have developed the tools and internal narratives to remind ourselves of it.

Wow Lisa, sometimes your talks are like you’re speaking right to me.
When my ex devalued my emotions (telling me “emotions aren’t real.” Or that “anxiety is a choice”) it almost felt normal bc I had gone my whole life never feeling safe to express what I was feeling. Then I was conditioned within the relationship to think that I was always the one initiating the arguments. I had the attitude problem & I was the cause of all tension bc of the traumas that I was healing. He liked to tell me how supportive he was but in the actual moments, he could never show up bc my emotions triggered him in some way. So then it was my responsibility to ignore my emotions and not express them as to not trigger him…
Such a vicious and toxic cycle. I’m glad to be learning more about myself so that I can be more firm in boundary setting and actually leaving when I see that hall lined with red flags.

I love how Lisa explains things so I understand and can use what I learned right away. You can tell she really cares about helping others and is passionate about us seeing that we are important and can heal. She gives great examples to help see things in a healthy way. I love all of her guided meditations and talks.

Wow! After listineing to this, I have a deeper understanding of why my life and my relationships have been so challenging and dysfunctional. And, the first steps I can take to reclaim my heart and my mind and begin to create a life that I love. Thank you so much, Lisa! I’m going to find a box of tissues now…

i love discovering older talks. i really needed to hear this talk. for decades i’ve been in recovery attending 12 step meetings. i’m so insecure about my shares (say stuff to myself like, i hope i make sense. i hope people like what i said. i hope people like me. constantly hoping for validation). i never connected that to my codependency. i love your litmus test. i’m very critical of myself and others and no matter what i do it won’t go away. knowing i’m pure love and light and the negative thinking is my programming is a light bulb moment for me. this is a huge turning point/ thanks 🙏💚🙏🧡🙏🖤🙏

Wow!!

all i can say is thank you for recognizing parts of me that have never been recognized

Insightful!

Amazing. I am feeling a lot but now this is starting to make sense I’m feeling worried that I won’t be able to fix my parents narcissistic tendencies and substance abuse problems, but I feel encouraged and my feelings of neglect and hatred for my parents validated

This was incredibly educational and left me wanting more!

Child neglect doesnt have to involve any physical or mental abuse. Just the fact that your father is there and he never approaches you or asks you any questions is enough... to become damaged...

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Wow—excellent & relatable—thank you so much Lisa!🌻🌻🌻

Thank you Lisa! Sending much love

That was a real eye-opener. Wow!

The journey begins 💜

The explanations make so much sense!

Thank you Lisa. These podcasts are helping me so much and so are the meditations that I just ordered your book on Amazon

Thought provoking questions and answers to my childhood.

Loved this! Such a powerful message, made me laugh at some points. I remember at school, seeing a poster somewhere "ask your child about their day, and tell them about yours", which I thought was amazing. I went home and said to my mum "I'd like us to do this" - I don't think she said anything. Probably nonplussed by the whole interaction. Now I understand why! Thank you for your insight, as always.

Lisa just makes so much sense. Thank you

Thank you Lisa! Excellent message, very clear. Helpful to understand my own behaviour growing up with emotional neglect and alcoholism. Only audio/recording quality is not great and too sharp, and you have a quick and clear voice. So it is not a joy for the ears. It intervenes with getting the message across. Treat yourself with better recording equipment.

So much invaluable information, thank you Lisa. Love and blessings to you dear soul 💙x

I think this is the first time I experience someone knowing how it feels. The way I have felt for decades. Listening to this one - and I have listened to it 5 times in a row - feels like a door into my real life has been opened. Thank you Lisa for making you knowledge SO clear!!

Thank you! All of this resonated with me as I grew up in the same type of household as you described. The bottling of emotions was and is still me at times, although I have cleared out so much. The reminder that the negative and judgmental thoughts are not me but my programming is so helpful to remember! 💕

O Lisa!

Very Insightful!

you know.. Sometimes "waking up" feels more like a "rude awakenening"...and I often wonder "how did I get here?"

Now you've said it, I think "duh! of course! AND I had to hear it first. Thank you. Now I have another puzzle piece.

Thank you for this Podcast!

Namaste, Cheeky Fuel

Lisa, your succinct explanations in these podcasts help me to understand what happened to me and why I am the way I am. Abuse by omission. Resonates deeply.

I really find a deep resonance with your talks 🙏
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I just listened to short version of my life!! Never heard the term abuse by omission before so this is a great explanation of what it is. I clearly recognize it! I made conscious decisions somehow to be/treat my children and grandchildren differently. I have managed that for the most part but at 68 there is still work to do. Since July 2 it’s been daily interaction with my parents. Dad in the hospital three times and now in rehab to try and return home to take care of mama who is literally unable to function. Both are 92 and refuse assisted living or help coming in. I get in as much self care as I can during this season. It would be a lot easier had my life with the parents been different or at the very least loving. Add mental illness and some dimentia to mama and you can imagine what I go through daily. Low contact has gone out the window. These podcasts help me to put things in perspective and have some sort of normalcy so many thanks for always shedding new light on these topics. Namaste dear one. 💜

Needed to hear this today. Perfect timing.

Wow, your explanation of "abuse by omission" clarifies everything! Thank you so much.

I really like the style of this podcast. Some hard truths delivered in a very straightforward manner, but also made me chuckle. That banana...hehehe. It is crazy how often I forget to ask myself how I feel. More work to be done to be free from this abuse by omission. Thank you Lisa. Your work is changing my life.

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Thank you for living your dharma and for inspiring us to do the same