Narcissists Keep You Stuck In False Paradigms

So today we're going to be talking about narcissist timelines and why gnosis is the way out.

If you've ever found yourself asking,

Why do I keep attracting the same type of a person?

Why do I keep attracting one-way relationships?

Why do I keep attracting painful relationship dynamics?

And why,

Even if I know better,

Why do I keep repeating the same patterns?

If this sounds like you,

I want you to know you're not alone,

So this session is for you.

So today I want to talk about this particular topic,

Narcissists and timelines.

And not timelines in some mystical,

Faraway,

Metaphysical sense.

I want to talk about timelines through the lens of trauma.

Through the lens of neuroscience,

Consciousness,

And self-awareness.

Because when you understand what a timeline really is,

You'll understand why some people remain trapped in narcissistic relationships,

Like my mom,

For decades,

While others break free and completely change the trajectory of their lives,

Like I did her daughter.

And the key to all of this is something ancient wisdom traditions call gnosis.

Now,

Gnosis is simply knowing the self.

It's self-knowledge.

It's not information.

We're not talking about facts,

Not intellectual or conscious understanding.

We're talking about knowing the self,

The ins and outs of the self.

We're talking about self-knowing.

We're talking about a deep awareness of who you are,

Why you are the way you are,

And what unconscious forces may have been driving your life choices.

And that is exactly what living a above the veil is really all about,

Because most people are living unknowingly from below the veil of consciousness.

When you are below the veil of consciousness,

Life feels like it's happening to you.

You don't see the subconscious patterns driving your decisions.

You don't see your ego jumping in to defend you.

You don't see the childhood wounds that are influencing your relationships.

You don't see the nervous system conditioning that keeps pulling you towards a familiar path.

You think you're choosing,

But you're not.

What's really happening is that you're repeating what has been sewed into the subconscious mind.

You might consciously think,

Oh,

I'm moving forward.

But you're looping.

You think you're creating a future.

But you're actually regurgitating the past.

But you're unconsciously doing this.

It's not something that you're doing on purpose.

And this is why so many people will leave one narcissist only to find another.

It's a different face,

A different body,

Different personality,

Maybe a different zip code.

But in this experience is the same lesson.

The same paint and the same emotional outcome.

Why?

How does this mystery unfold?

It's because,

Dear one,

Your timeline,

It didn't change.

The subconscious programming remained intact.

The wound remained intact.

The things that you learned about your self-worth never changed.

The emotional conditioning remained intact.

Your nervous system remained intact.

And probably most importantly,

The identity.

Never shifted.

The false identity,

The feeling not good enough,

That remained intact.

The external characters,

Sure,

They changed,

But the internal blueprint did not.

When I talk about timelines,

I'm talking about predictable trajectories.

A timeline is the future that naturally unfolds when subconscious programming remains unexamined.

And most people are not looking under their hood.

Just think about that.

If I have abandonment wounds,

If I fear rejection,

If I derive my worth.

From pleasing others.

If I struggle to say no,

If I struggle to set a boundary,

If the norm is for me to self-abandon,

If I feel responsible for everyone else's emotions.

Then there is a predictable future that emerges from those beliefs,

Which is actually a blueprint.

The future is a timeline.

Not because the universe is punishing me.

Not because of some bad karma.

Not because I'm cursed,

But instead It's more innocent than that.

It's because my subconscious mind is continuously generating choices from my childhood program or my childhood timeline.

The future that I'm experiencing is being created by the past over and over again.

This is exactly why awareness changes everything.

The moment you become conscious of the pattern within you,

Something remarkable happens.

You see the veil.

You step above the veil.

You learn to become the observer of what's been stored.

You stop identifying with every thought.

You stop believing every emotion is a fact.

You stop automatically obeying every subconscious impulse to please everyone else but yourself.

You begin to witness yourself in relationships.

You're developing discernment.

And witnessing yourself is where free will can finally begin to activate,

And you can jump a timeline.

Many people believe free will means doing whatever you want.

That's not what I'm talking about.

I believe free will begins the moment you can observe a subconscious pattern without automatically merging with and acting from that pattern.

So it's the moment that you witness that you have an urge to people please and you choose differently.

It's in the moment when you can witness the urge to rescue and choose differently.

It's the moment you can feel the urge to worry more about someone else's feelings than your own,

And you're about to self-abandon,

And you set a boundary instead.

That,

Dear one,

Is free will.

That is consciousness.

That is above-the-veil living.

Narcissistic relationships are often the catalyst that forces people towards this awakening.

I know it was for me As painful as the relationships are,

They expose our unconscious wounds.

They reveal our hidden patterns,

Our hidden fears.

They shine a spotlight on our unresolved,

Often childhood trauma.

The narcissist becomes a mirror,

Not because they're your soulmate or they're your twin flame.

Not because they're meant to complete you,

But because they reveal what is still unconscious and unhealed within you.

The narcissist often activates the very wound that had been quietly controlling your life for decades.

This is where many people get stuck.

They're stuck in the loop.

They can't see what they're doing So they spend years trying to understand the narcissist Maybe I will say it differently and they'll finally hear me you analyze the narcissist Years studying them their body language the way that they speak Years trying to change the narcissist and years even trying to edit yourself Meanwhile,

They never gain gnosis.

They never turn inward.

They never become conscious of their own patterns.

They stay in their timeline.

And because of that,

Their timeline continues now.

Different narcissist.

Same wound happening in relationships over and over and over,

A different relationship,

But the same pain,

The same timeline,

Just a different year.

It's the same lesson that you have yet to learn.

Now,

The breakthrough happens when your focus shifts.

Codependents are other-focused.

The goal is to become self-focused.

When the question changes from,

Why are they doing this to me?

Think about that.

Your new focus,

Your shift is,

What subconscious pattern within me continues to try to fix this or tolerate this?

That's the beginning of gnosis.

That's self-knowledge.

That's the doorway out of these narcissistic timelines.

The narcissist will never change,

Most likely.

They may never develop self-gnosis.

The family system,

The narcissistic family system that gave birth to your codependency and even their narcissism may never change.

But your level of consciousness,

That can change.

And when consciousness changes,

Timelines change.

Your future begins changing the moment awareness enters the room.

And that is why I teach that healing is not about becoming someone new.

It's about becoming conscious enough to stop being unconsciously controlled by your childhood timeline.

Living below the veil means the subconscious mind is running the show.

Living above the veil means consciousness becomes the leader.

Below the veil,

You're reacting.

You're the three-year-old that doesn't want mommy to walk out the door.

Above the veil,

You're observing the wounds that have caused this three-year-old to stay stuck seeking the approval.

Of another narcissistic person.

Below the veil you're looping.

Above the veil you're choosing.

Below the veil,

The past is creating the future.

Above the veil,

Awareness creates possibility.

You step into the field of unlimited quantum potential.

That is the real escape from narcissistic relationships.

It's not about revenge.

Do you one it's not about gaining your closure because you'll never get that It's not about getting them to understand or change or healing them or fixing them It's not about getting them to acknowledge what they've done to you or getting them to apologize the escape the real escape is gnosis The escape is self-awareness.

The escape is looking within.

The escape is consciousness,

Because once you truly see your patterns,

You are no longer trapped inside the pattern.

And that,

My friends,

Is how timelines change.

So it becomes up to you.

What timeline do you want to jump to?

And I can tell you that the minute I accepted that my ex-husband was not going to change,

And the minute he told me I'm not changing,

It was in that moment that I chose to change my life.

I jumped.

I took a quantum leap.

I said,

OK,

No job.

No college agreed to back me up.

No family to support me.

I'm going to take a giant leap here.

And that was me jumping into a different timeline.

And amazingly,

And I can speak with confidence,

The field showed up for me.

It was when I decided,

OK,

I got to go that the job.

Appeared,

The house appeared,

The clients appeared.

The opportunities appeared.

It was the minute I made a decision.

To create a new future.

I was out of the old timeline,

Narcissist and Codependent,

Hand in hand,

Which had been my family's timeline script for as long as I can look back.

It was when I said no more.

I will be codependent no more.

It's not me.

It's my programming.

And I choose for me and my children to live above the veil of consciousness.

And it was that moment that my timeline shifted.

And today,

If you were to be able to peer into my life that I live today,

Compared to the oppressed,

Compressed life that felt literally like it was sucking the life out of me,

25.

30 years ago,

If you had a snapshot of Lisa before and after Lisa below the veil and Lisa above the veil,

These lives,

These timelines are vastly different.

I'm not special.

I'm not superhuman.

I just figured it out.

And when you understand that you are living from below the veil of consciousness and your subconscious mind the creator of everything that's happening in your life,

But it can only play with the tools that are in the shed and Awareness isn't enough You can know that you're doing something wrong.

You can know that it's your childhood.

You can know that you're in a pattern.

You can know that you're codependent.

You can know that you seek approval.

You can know that you're terrified of saying no.

You can know all of it.

And still not change.

So awareness isn't enough.

You have to put these above-the-veil methods into practice.

You have to develop self-gnosis.

Dear one,

That's the way.