One of the most important things you can ever do if you want to be confident is to know yourself.
Get time to know yourself.
What do you want?
How do you experience the world?
What are the things that you like?
What are the things that you don't like?
Observe yourself.
Notice how you feel in certain situations and understand that it is your first responsibility to take care of yourself.
It is your first responsibility to be there for yourself because if when things go wrong and you feel like the world is against you,
You are against yourself as well.
You over-criticize yourself.
You are not genuine and encouraging to yourself.
Then you are not fulfilling this responsibility right.
This is your first responsibility.
Before you can take care of anyone else,
You need to take care of yourself because what happens is that you try to take care of others while building resentment within you and then this resentment goes out in unconscious ways and you are not even taking care of others right because you cannot do that.
You cannot take care right of others when you feel really bad of yourself because you are not taking care of yourself.
So your first responsibility is yourself and then because you are a good person,
Because you are empathic and you want to take care of others,
It will come naturally for you to take care of others and to be there for others but firstly be there for yourself.
The second thing is get to know yourself.
Notice yourself.
How do you feel in certain situations?
What are the things that make you feel good?
What are the things that make you feel disempowered?
What are the experiences or situations or kind of people or passions that you have that make you feel empowered?
How can you invest your energy in ways that make you feel good about yourself?
In ways that make you feel more connected to your calling?
Because there is a reason why you're here and if you're going to just distract yourself all the way,
What happens is that you are going to be fully disconnected from that calling and you're going to feel miserable.
So get to know yourself.
What do you want?
What do you like?
What do you dislike?
How can you do that?
By observing yourself.
By spending time with yourself.
By being there with yourself.
Even talking to yourself in the mirror.
There are days when you may need an encouragement.
There are days when you may need someone to be there for you and no one has your back like you have your back.
Why?
Because no one can fulfill your needs better than you when it comes to encouragement.
When it comes to you being there for yourself.
Because what happens is that there are people who can really and deeply love you but unless you can love yourself,
You cannot even perceive or feel that love.
So spend time with yourself.
Get to know yourself.
Observe yourself.
And when you have this knowing of thyself,
The world cannot tell you who you are,
What you like,
What you dislike.
The world cannot tell that because you already know.
You cannot be told that you are a plastic bag because you know that you are not.
You feel bad about what people say about you because deep down they may resonate with some part of you that feels that way about yourself.
So know what you believe about yourself and see what of these beliefs are not true.
What of these beliefs need to be changed so you can evolve.
And when you do that,
No one can ever tell you who you are because you already know that.
And this is why knowing yourself is so important.
And taking care of yourself and spending time with yourself is so important.
If you want to move ahead in life,
If you want to be at peace with yourself in life,
If you want to live a life that feels fulfilling,
You start with observing and knowing yourself.
This is all for this recording.
Sending you guys so much love.
Thank you so much for being here and thank you for evolving and for taking care of yourself.
I love you so much and we'll hear again in the next recording.
