Hello.
Are you ready to heal some loneliness you may be experiencing?
I think we all feel it time to time and sometimes it can be really strong,
Those feelings of isolation or disconnection.
And it can be hard.
So find a comfy spot,
Settle on in,
And as you do I'm just gonna tell you a few things and lead you into a little guided meditation.
So have you ever heard that the only way out is through?
It's true.
The more you avoid something and try to push it away,
The harder it becomes and the stronger it tries to come back and get your attention over time.
So instead of ignoring it,
Distracting ourselves from our loneliness,
Or numbing it out with food or alcohol or sex or whatever it may be,
Which might temporarily feel good,
But really we know that it just keeps coming back.
That lonely feeling is always there underneath and in the end we're just left feeling not so good inside.
So instead of ignoring,
Let's pay attention to our loneliness.
It's clearly trying to get our attention,
So alright,
Let's give it our attention.
Here's a possible change in perspective for you.
Loneliness is simply a feeling that you have felt again and again.
Simply a feeling that cannot be cured by looking to other people or things outside of yourself.
Because really your life could be full of people and you still feel lonely.
I don't know if you've ever experienced being in a crowd but somehow still feeling lonely.
Or you could be completely alone sometimes,
No one around,
And yet you don't feel lonely at all.
So as you can see,
Loneliness is simply a thought of separation that creates the feeling of loneliness.
And luckily,
We do have control over our feelings,
So let's begin to change that.
The truth is,
The person who is really lonely isn't the current you,
It's actually you when you were younger.
At some point,
You may have developed a feeling or belief that people didn't like you or didn't want to be around you,
Wouldn't stick around,
Etc.
And as a little kid,
You didn't have the perspective and the maturity and the wisdom to know the things that you can see and know now.
So in a way,
There's a part of you who still believes those things and that is your younger self.
It is that self that is lonely and it is that self that you can be with right now.
And you know what else can be with us,
That's always there for us and literally gives us life?
Our breath.
So settle in one more time,
Take a nice deep breath all the way in,
Fill your body and all of its cells with oxygen and with your presence.
You are here right now and you're here with your younger self.
You are here.
You are here.
You aren't leaving,
Even if others have.
So breathe in again,
Close your eyes and begin to notice what your body feels like.
All answers are correct.
Do you feel tension somewhere?
Where?
What does it feel like?
What about relaxation?
Do you feel that sensation settling in somewhere in your body?
Where in your body feels relaxed right now?
What other physical sensations do you feel in your body or in your face,
Your hands or your feet?
Now notice if you are judging any of these feelings as right or wrong or good or bad.
Notice if you're wanting them to change or whether you can just let them be exactly as they are.
Now gently bring your awareness to the feeling of loneliness.
Notice where any sensations or discomfort arises.
Just be aware of it and be curious about what is this sensation?
Is it moving or what does it feel like?
The loneliness has been trying to get your attention just like a kid would or a friend who's upset because something happened to them.
It's just trying to get your attention so instead of pushing it away,
See if you can just be there with it as if you're sitting with a lonely friend or a lonely child or someone you love because they called you and they needed you.
Right now feel how great it is that you are safe and that whatever feelings arise,
They come and they go.
There is nothing wrong with feeling relaxed and there is nothing wrong with feeling uncomfortable.
They are feelings every human experiences.
Sometimes we are uncomfortable.
Is this feeling of loneliness actually dangerous right now or is it a feeling that you can't handle?
You can handle so much more than you think and you're doing it right now and you're purifying these icky feelings.
You're doing it and it's so safe.
It is safe to be here with yourself,
With your loneliness and say,
Hey loneliness,
I do see you and I do hear you.
I hear that you are trying to get my attention and I do feel this.
So bring in whatever compassion and patience you can as you would for a friend.
You are the only one who can really soothe and heal these feelings for good just by being there,
Just by being aware of them,
Not pushing them away,
Not getting upset with them,
Not trying to change them.
You are allowing them to pass,
But there is no need for them to pass.
There is no rush.
They will pass through.
Do not worry.
Just be here.
Breathe deeply.
Send your purifying oxygenated breath to whatever part of you desires it most and also know that automatically all of the oxygen gets to every single one of your cells in your body without you having to do a thing.
Just breathe.
Maybe send some warmth and sunrays to those parts of you that feel uncomfortable.
Some warmth and sunshine to the little kid that you were,
That exists inside of you,
That felt like people didn't want to be with you or that they wouldn't stick around.
Sending breath,
Sending warmth and light rays,
You are letting those old stuck feelings go.
You are letting the part of you,
The younger you,
Who feels lonely,
To heal and integrate into you who you are now so that you can see that loneliness is just a thought and a feeling.
It's just a thought and a feeling.
And just as it comes,
It can go.
You are here.
You are here right now and the universe is here right now and we are all the same presence.
All humans,
All of the little animals and the big animals,
All of the trees and plants and little bacteria and fungi and all the living things are all here as the same presence connected.
You can be okay with how things are and how things come and go and you can flow with a little inner smile,
Eager to see what kinds of sensations and experiences come next.
So breathe in and out and let things flow.
Just watch them as if you're on a Disneyland ride,
Just appreciating whatever comes next.
Sometimes it's a little scary,
Sometimes it's fascinating,
Sometimes it's beautiful.
Whatever comes,
Just observe it as if you're on a ride that you can always appreciate.
And you can choose to intend to continue doing this as you move throughout your day,
Observing as if you're on a ride,
Allowing things to come and go.
Breathing still in and out,
Begin to bring awareness back to your hands and your feet,
To your body and to the space that you're in here and now,
Wherever you are.
And take an even deeper breath,
Feel your little inner smile.
You're doing this all perfectly.
You did it.
You allowed loneliness to heal.
So at your leisure,
When you choose,
You can open your eyes and continue the miraculous ride of your day or your night.
Thank you so much for being here.
I have lots of love for you.
