Enjoying Your Own Company: From Loneliness To Bliss

How do we enjoy our own company so much we don’t feel lonely? How can we love our own company, be naturally protective of our personal time, and be careful about with whom we share it? Let's talk about practical things that make that time with ourselves so joyful and wonderful!

Transcript

Today we're doing a talk all about the joy of solitude. And this came as a request out of our community. It was not only a request to talk about the joy of solitude, But to actually be very practical about what do I do in solitude. Like it's one thing to talk about it in a theory, But realistically what does it look like? How can you enjoy this time with yourself? The first thing is why do we want to talk about this? Why is this important? There is a real danger when we're afraid to be alone, Or when we don't enjoy our own company. Part of that is because if we don't enjoy our own company, We will take poor company over being alone. And the hard thing is when we have, When we're in the company of someone or people who actually are unkind to us, Who are passive-aggressive, Who are narcissists, Who are takers, All that does is create drama in our lives. It doesn't allow us to build, It doesn't allow us to grow as people, And it actually contributes to great depression. And suddenly a huge part of our mind is caught up in processing this other person, Or these other people that we're around, That we don't want to be around. Deep down our inner child does not want to be around these people, But we're afraid to be alone, So we choose it instead. And suddenly our whole life becomes about the dramas incurred because we're with people who are mean to us, Or who we don't jive with. We don't actually build each other up, And so we just stay in these vicious cycles of drama, And I can't believe, Can you believe they said that, And they said this, And they don't support me, And then there's this, And I'm just so sick of this, And I've had it with that. Like, You think of all the brain space that that takes up. There's also a great danger that if we are alone, That we're bored. Like the very idea that this infinite soul that we are, This soul, We can talk about our physical body that's limited, That exists in this body, This gender, This society, This situation, Whatever. That's my assignment, That's who I am. But what's animating this vehicle is an infinite soul. Who knows from what galaxy, From who knows. My soul is not bored. My soul desires exploration. It desires to have experiences. It desires to expand and grow, And explore this earth, And the people, And the animals, And the mountains. So if we're bored, Somehow we've disconnected from that infinite part of ourselves. And this isn't a character flaw. This isn't like, Oh wow, I'm bored all the time, There must be something wrong with me. There is something wrong, But you didn't create it. We did a talk last week, A week before, All about how to educate our children, And so I'm not going to go into that a lot, But there's a lot of things that are within our school system that actually train us to be very bored later. It's almost like, Here's the curriculum, Here's what you have to learn, Here's what you have to read, Here's the sport you have to do, Here's the art you have to do, Here, Here's what you have to do, And then you have to do it and be graded on it. So not only did we become afraid to do things on our own because we're afraid of being graded, We're actually accustomed to someone else giving us something to do. It's the same as parents, Very well-meaning parents. God knows I did it with mine, You know, And the kids, I'm bored, I'm bored, And most of the time I would give the typical parental thing, Oh cool, Well we can go and wash the windows, And we can go out and start raking the lawn. I don't want to do that. Well then figure it out and find something to do. Most of the time that was my response, But if I was desperate and I had to do something and I needed time and space, Then I tried to figure out something for my kids to do. Here, Go do this, Here, Go do this. And oftentimes as adults, We're still in that habit. We're still in this habit of looking for someone else to tell us what to do. So we watch Netflix, We watch a movie, We watch a show, We play a computer game, We scroll through our phone, We call someone, We do something because we actually need external stimulation for us to come alive. We don't have an inner self that we respond to, We only respond to other. And you can see that in our lives. This talk is very personal to me because I need to be more protective of my solitude because I love spending time with me. I really enjoy my own company. I really enjoy studying. I love the feeling of creation. I love the idea of having inspiration and then making it happen. But as soon as there's anyone else in the room, I'm so focused on them. Oh what do they need? What are they doing? What are they saying? And it doesn't matter. My phone is on do not disturb almost all day. I almost never have it off of that because whatever it is I'm doing, I don't want any external input. I want to be allowed to focus on this one thing I'm doing and only doing that. I think back to not that long ago, 20-30 years ago, When you went to work, You got to go to work. If I went to my artist's studio, I didn't take my phone with me. I just went and painted. Or I would go to a library and I would study. I didn't have a phone with me. There was a phone back home on the wall. I was allowed to fully focus on what I was doing. There is so much bliss. There's a reason that focus, Dharana, Is one of the eight limbs of yoga. If you look at yoga as a path to oneness, Without that ability to focus, We never experience that bliss of manifestation and creation because we get to be completely single-pointed. It's so important. The one thing I want to say is this talk isn't about the importance of isolation. If you struggle to be alone because you're always alone and you're isolated from others, That's not what we're talking about here. There may be a lot in our talk that may help create a very rich solitude in your life, But I truly believe that we are social creatures and there is balance in all things. If you find yourself isolated and no one to talk to and you don't get out and you just are afraid to go out or it's hard to find community, Then we did a talk. There's a talk about finding community because that's a really big deal to find meaningful friends. So I do think that's important and I think solitude is more enjoyable in the balance that I know that I could call this person and I could go out for dinner and I could go and enjoy this event and I could go to the theater and I could do a lot of things. I believe there's balance there. So this is not a case of here's how to enjoy isolation because I don't think that's a healthy happy place for us as humans. Instead, I really want to look at how solitude is a real gift. It's a real gift and it's very special and it's very important for our soul's growth. So the first question that we have to ask ourselves if we want to enjoy our solitude, What do you love to do? Just you. Not with other people. Just you. What do you love to do? Because again, To recognize that you are an infinite soul and this may be a really really hard question. I remember when back when I had the breast lumps when I was 29 and I was working with Jim and Jim would be like, You know, What do you love? What are you passionate about? What do you love? I remember just staring at him thinking, I have no idea. I haven't known for a long time. Maybe I knew when I was eight what I love to do but kind of once I got into the university grind and then the marriage and the children and the farm, Every ounce of my bandwidth was taken up with responsibilities and other people and all that. So in order to enjoy solitude we must know what we love to do. That's a really important exploration and again this comes from this danger of we've always just been given here's what you're supposed to think, Here's what you're supposed to learn, Here's what you're supposed to memorize and we just lost complete track of what we love to do. Maybe you would actually love to sit down and paint. Maybe you love color. Maybe you love texture. Maybe you would love to create an art piece out of random things that you find around your house. And of course we don't create the art piece with the desire to sell it or share it with anyone or anything at all. The sheer joy of just putting interesting things together just for fun. This is the thing we don't know how to do things just for the joy of doing them. We either have to make money at it, We have to get recognized for our brilliance or we have to be graded or whatever. What if we just did something for sheer fun and nothing else? I used to have this Buddha board. It was a rectangle and you had a special pen and you could draw on it kind of like an etch-a-sketch like the old etch-a-sketches we had and you could create something and then of course you could I think wipe it or shake it or something and it would go blank. It's a very interesting exercise in just enjoying the creative process and it wouldn't even be here tomorrow. This is a whole different aspect of being human to do something just for the joy of doing it. Do you love doing it? Maybe you love cooking. Maybe your absolute ideal day is sitting down with a pile of cookbooks and going, Oh look at that I would love to make that. I'm gonna go get the recipe. I'm gonna go get the ingredients. And then you come home and you put on music and you just cook just for the sheer joy of cooking. And who knows maybe you package it all up and give it to your friends or throw it in the freezer and have a nice meal. Whatever you do with it. But you loved the creative aspect of cooking. You loved the feel of it. You loved the chopping. You loved everything about it. Maybe you love to study. So of course this is the primary thing that I do when I'm alone. And this has been ever since I was a child. I learned to read when I was three years old. I'm the eldest of two teachers so I have been reading and reading and reading ever since I could. And for me to dive into, I normally just read non-fiction. Every so often if one of my kids say, Mom you've got to read this book then I'll read fiction. But most of the time it's non-fiction because I'm really intrigued with the world. And I don't believe that everything that there is to be discovered has been written down. I don't believe, Well there's something called expertism where we believe that there are experts in the world and they know the answer. I agree with that to a point. I think there are people who have dove into certain subjects and explored them in such juicy and interesting ways that I love hearing their thoughts. I love it because maybe I want to visit Italy and there's someone who has deeply studied Italy in an interesting way and I love reading it. But at that point my learning doesn't end with what that expert said. What they said nourished me. But it nourished me, My thoughts, My soul. It nourished me and it fed me so then I could continue my adventure. I could continue the exploration of that subject. That's how experts can be used. They are not the be-all and end-all of anything. We live in an infinite universe. I read a book once, Shocker, There was a discussion I think it was Max Planck who was a quantum physicist and he had once said to someone, Again I'm not remembering the story properly, That why study physics? Everything that's to be discovered has already been discovered. Well of course in quantum physics and then quantum physics comes around and Max Planck became one of the greats that we still, You know Planck's constant and he became this great creator and that's the truth in science. That's the truth in human consciousness. That's the truth in human health. That's the truth in the environment. That's the truth in everything in the world that's real. There is so much more to explore. No one has written down, No one has explored everything there is to explore in the true natural world. If you want to study a Porsche, There's a limitation because it's a man-made creation but in the natural world and in our minds infinite and every one of us is smart enough to continue that exploration and this is really important because very often, Especially depending on how we did in school, How we were ranked in school which is not indicative of our intelligence at all. How we were ranked in school sometimes makes us believe that well I was just really a C student or a D student or even a B student or whatever. You know there's other people that know this better than I am. Who am I to talk about this? Who am I to study it? I mean there's way smarter people out there that have written books and they do this and they you know who am I? And that's just it. You're awesome and you're going to read this book and you're going to be inspired in a certain way and you're going to go wow I never thought about that and your soul is going to take a different trajectory than that teacher, Than that person, Than that expert, Than that whoever and that's what's important. It doesn't matter how you did in school. Every one of us can explore and study anything that interests us. I remember when I had foster kids at one point. I remember they were 13 and 11. My kids were only one in three and one day we went to Chapters and Chapters is a big bookstore in Canada. So of course if we ever got to London, If we ever, Because we were on the farm there, If we ever got to a bigger city it was like oh my gosh we got to go to Chapters and my kids were like, Well they were little then, But they were like okay whatever, But the teenagers they were like what are we going to do at Chapters? And I said well go and find a book that you want to read and look at and they're like, Like what? They had no idea. And so I sat with them and the boy who was 13 I said what are you interested in? And he said I don't know, Basketball? And so we walked, We went over to the sports section and I said here's all these books on basketball, Famous basketball players, How to play basketball, History of basketball, What interests you? And he's like I don't know. And of course this guy he'd been really kind of pushed down in life a lot so he didn't have a lot of self-confidence to even pick it up and I said well grab a few books, Go sit on the couch and just look through them. And then I did the same with the girl and she was 11 and at the time her passion was the Spice Girls. So off we went to the Spice Girls section because there's no interest that's too shallow or too whatever, That's not it. This is the joy of study, The joy of exploration. It doesn't matter what you're exploring. And so over we went and there was millions, Spice Girls were really big then. So we went over and and she got all these books in the Spice Girls and there they were just sitting there with these books just looking through them and reading them and checking them out. Like there's a joy in that. And so again it's kind of like a similar question to say what do you love to do but what are you interested in? What intrigues you? What about octopuses, Octopi? Do they interest you? They're pretty cool. But again there's this weird ceiling that says oh yeah I saw the octopus teacher, Oh yeah I read this book that this person, It's like no, What have you explored about octopuses? What intrigues you? And you sit down and you read a book that someone has done, Maybe they explored or maybe whatever. And then something in there like this is how my mind works with books. I'll read a book and very often, Well first of all I can barely get through a book because I'll read like three lines and my mind shoots off into the galaxy and it's like oh what about this? What about this? And suddenly I'm writing and I'm writing articles and I'm creating new talks on Insight Timer and I just and I can barely get through a couple pages of a book without my mind just exploding with ideas. But oftentimes they'll reference somebody, Especially this is a lot of non-fiction, And I'll be like well that's interesting. So then I'll go to the footnote and I'll find the book and I'm like oh that's so interesting and then I'll order that book or I'll go to the library and find the book or whatever. And now all of a sudden I'm down another pathway and now I'm reading another set of thoughts and that's my breadcrumb, That's how my study happens because every book seems to reference some other cool book and suddenly I'm reading that or I'm reading parts of it or whatever. And study's not for everybody. Like I remember a good friend of mine, She used to come to my house a lot and she hated reading. She always said you know I hate reading. This is when we're on the farm. And I had this book and it was called Being Happy and it was an illustrated book. It's a brilliant beautiful book and I haven't seen it in a long time. It was illustrated and it was one of those most beautiful self-help books I'd ever seen. And it was sitting on the table and my friend looked at it and she said what's this book? And I was like oh it's beautiful, I love it. I love, I recommend it to everybody, It's awesome. And she sat down and she was kind of looking at it and she was like well that's that's cool. And then we kind of continued doing our thing and at the end of our visit she says can I can I take that book home? I'm like yeah sure. Well she hated school, Always felt she was dumb or whatever, Wasn't interested in anything that was being taught. So she said she goes I probably haven't read a book since I was five years old and I was just reading a picture book or something. And at that time she would have been in her 30s. So she read Being Happy and she just kind of kept reading it. It's one of those simple yet really profound books. And at that time our kids were all really little. She had three kids. So we were often discussing parenting and our struggles and I'd found a book by Barbara Colaroso called Kids Are Worth It and I devoured that book. Highly recommend it. I have so much respect for her. And so I was telling her about some of the things that they were talking about in this book and then I tell her about more things that they wrote in the book and more things about in the book and she's like okay where's this book? So I lent her the book. It was so funny, Her kids were teenagers then and they would come home from school and their mom was sitting in the corner reading this book and they're like what are you doing? She's like reading. But they've never seen her read before. Well she is now an avid reader because of course but what's she interested in right now? Well right now I'm interested in parenting. I want to figure out what to do with my kids that are struggling. I want to know. So there's something about just letting yourself flow into whatever you're excited about. Well the only way to study is alone. You need solitude because this again is your soul absorbing something interesting and you want to be able to have the time to really ponder it and think about it and let it digest. You can really make it yours. You can create. Creation happens in solitude. Do you love to paint? Do you love to renovate? Do you love to draw? There's something so blissful about having an inspiration and then manifesting it on the planet. It doesn't matter what it is. You don't even have to know what the final result is. All you need to know is I kind of have this weird desire to do like watercolor and I don't even know how to do watercolor. Oh well I'll go on YouTube. Like you can literally look up anything you want. So you go on YouTube and you do a you watch a few videos about how to do watercolor and then you go to the local art store and you buy some paints and you talk to the person there. It's like I'm just getting started. I don't know anything about it. Where should I start? Oh here's a nice starter kit and here's a nice little easel and here's a a nice you know whatever and then you go home and you just play. Like it's just play and it could be anything. It could be knitting. It could be learning how to build guitars. It could be anything you want. Potentially actually allow the creative process to flow to allow inspiration to come in and it comes out your fingers. Or maybe it's music. I remember when my kids were little there used to be these kids recordings of classical music. I don't know whether it was Tchaikovsky who was sort of famous for he'd go for a walk and all of a sudden a song would come into his head and he'd have to race home and write it down or he'd always have a little notepad and you have to write it down because it would be gone. It can be anything. The other thing I want to talk about is do you enjoy your own company? And this is a really important question. Do you like yourself? Do you want to hang out with you? Very often we want to hang out with someone else because maybe we like their company. We like being around them. Something like that. We like being around them. But do we like being around us? And I've told you guys this story before but I remember after I had the breast lumps and I healed and everything was fine. I realized how important it was that I did take time in solitude. And so a few months after I was healed I could feel that need to kind of get away and be with myself. And so I got in my car and I started driving and I drove up north to this little town. I got myself a hotel room that had a bathtub. I had a glorious bath and then it was time to go out for dinner. And again this is sort of before cell phones and smartphones and things. So I thought to myself, Oh well I should take a book or I should take my notepad or something to make it look like I'm doing something and I'm not some loser having dinner by myself or something. This is literally my inner self-talk. And then I just thought, Yeah but you like you Katrina. You actually put a lot of weight in your opinions. You have a lot of thoughts. When you think about that, Why do we share our thoughts with other people? Because we like our thoughts. Otherwise we would never share our thoughts. And I am always sharing my thoughts. So I realized, Well why don't you just sit with your own thoughts? Like have a conversation. Just be with you. And I went to that restaurant. No book, No journal, Obviously no phone, No nothing. And I just sat there and I just observed and I smelled and I pondered things and I enjoyed my own company. I love driving alone. And I don't need a podcast. Sometimes I love podcasts, Especially when I'm a little tired and I need a little bit of entertainment. But if I'm in my own mind and I'm pretty happy, The feeling of just driving, No thoughts, No one else, Not even music. I don't even want to be that stimulated. Just me on the open road. It's so exciting. But what if we're actually bored in life? What if we actually don't know what we're interested in? What if we haven't been studying? What if we haven't been creating? What if we haven't really been living our own life? We haven't actually been living our soul's path. We've just been bouncing around from one smartphone app to Netflix to being with that person, Going to work, Sleeping, Having sex, Eating, Going back on our phone. What if that's our whole life and we aren't having any original thought at all? Well, We may find our own company quite boring. So oftentimes I can say, Oh well you should like your own company. But there's a lot of other steps we have to take first. We actually have to discover what am I interested in? What do I love? What would I love to do with this wild and magical life I've been given? And then we really start to enjoy our own company. Again, Undistracted own company. Not like I just like hanging out on the couch watching Netflix by myself. I mean I like my own company. Sometimes we don't like our own company because we have unresolved issues. We have issues with our past relationships or maybe from our childhood. And those things have to be resolved. So maybe imagine we actually have faith in ourselves that we can look at all of this. Of course with the understanding that we believe in healing, That we believe that healing is possible. Sometimes we don't. Sometimes we believe that I will always suffer this way and that's it. Well then you're probably never going to enjoy your own company. Or you might never enjoy the company of others or whatever. We're not going to have any kind of happy balance. But I believe in healing. I believe that everything that has come into our life is there for some reason. You know, Who knows what it is but there's some reason for it. So maybe instead we take solitude as healing time. And we do a yoga practice or a meditation practice or we journal or we study whatever it is we're struggling with. I was chatting with a woman in a zoom meeting the other day and she introduced this idea to me of a lot of us when we were born, I guess she said something like 10% of people, There was actually two babies in the womb when we were born but our twin died. And I think she found out that she was a twin survivor from a medium like when she was in her 50s. Anyway there's an entire book and study all about what happens, You know, That the loss you might feel inside of you because you were actually a twin. Nobody knew because the twin passed before anyone could have found out. You know what I mean? Like there's all kinds of interesting things we can study to actually help us ourselves heal also. Another thing I love to do on my own is I love to walk by myself. No phone, No Apple watch, No nothing. Just me. And there's something about that because we've been trained that says, Oh no but what if there's a picture you want to take or what if you need to know what time it is or what if someone really has to get a hold of you. For me, I have more memory of that phone hanging on the wall that she couldn't get in touch with me even if I went to Cuba for a week or a month. And that was just it, Oh well she's in Cuba and that's it. I'm more used to that than this people have to be able to get in touch with me all the time. And again I value my solitude. So to walk alone, It is really an experience. Whether you are walking along the beach, Whether you're walking in the woods, Whether you are walking down the street, Whether you're walking down downtown Toronto. I used to love that when I lived, I lived right downtown. If anyone here lives in Toronto, I lived at Young and Wellesley. It has like a 99% walking score because it's right downtown. And many times I would leave all my bits at home and I would just go for a walk. Just me, Not a single electronic on me. Maybe I'd take a notepad because I often would have thoughts when I was walking. Then I would sit in the park and I would write and I would just explore. It is such a different experience. It's almost like you're taking your soul on a tour of the world. You're like, Oh look it's a bunny, Oh look it's a new. . . Well that's interesting. And you're like taking your soul out for a walk. It's so beautiful and it's so peaceful. And you tend to walk way slower. You tend to really enjoy your breath. You really enjoy the sunshine. You enjoy the smells. Like in the springtime in Canada we have lilac trees. Oh I don't want to be disturbed if I'm smelling lilacs. So awesome. But this is like soul time and I don't need anyone else to be there. I want to do it on my own. So that's another thing. I love traveling alone. I love traveling alone. I prefer it over anything. Now if I have a bunch of friends and we want to all go to some resort and have fun and do hot springs or something and it's a fun thing, Obviously I want to go with friends. There are times that I travel to take my kids somewhere because I wanted my kids to experience something. Obviously I'm not alone. Sometimes you go away and it's a romantic getaway. Obviously I'm going to take someone. But if I'm exploring a new country, If I even want to just go on vacation and just rest, I want to be alone. I want to explore. I want to have my soul experience it. I don't want to be sitting staring at Michelangelo's David and someone say, Hey so how long do you want to stay here? And being completely kind. I mean I'm only going to travel with people I like. But I want to just be there with my soul and then flow to the next thing and then flow to the next thing. This is bliss for me. It is so blissful. I can't even tell you. And you guys know I love people. I have beautiful people in my life. I have a very rich friend group. But oh do I love traveling alone and being alone. There's a great quote by Tesla. I want to read this to you. This is all about creation. This is all about original thought. So Nikola Tesla says, The mind is sharper and keener in seclusion and uninterrupted solitude. No big laboratory is needed in which to think. Originality thrives in seclusion, Free of outside influences beating upon us to cripple the creative mind. Be alone. That is the secret of invention. Be alone. That is when ideas are born. That is why many of the earthly miracles have had their genesis in humble surroundings. Our minds are clearer. Sometimes there's a bit of time needed to actually kind of detox from all the thoughts that are sort of left over. But this is where we have original thought. This is where new ideas are born. We've talked a little bit about this huge rise in AI and chat GPT and things like that. But all of that is just regurgitating what's already been written. We're being shown that any computer can do that. Where does original thought come from? But in seclusion, In solitude, Following our bliss, Doing what we love, Relaxing our nervous system, And then expecting, Expecting amazing things to come. Like to imagine every one of us here, Again this isn't an expert thing. You don't have to be Nikola Tesla to create amazing things. It could be the tiniest thing that's just like, That's a good idea. You're not going to do that. It could be anything. We have this idea that everything has to be these mind-blowing ideas that people are still talking about hundreds of years later. You know the whole thing that when they say, You know, Don't sweat the small things and then they say there are no small things and then they say everything's a small thing. Even when you read Gandhi's autobiography, My Experiments with Truth, You find out that although what he did was big, When you read his book you find out that it was actually a series of very small things and each of those small things had all the same frustrations that we have and they all added up to something big. I'm going to read one more quote to you. This is by a rabbi. He says, Rabbi Naaman, Find a day for yourself. Better yet, Late at night. Go to the forest or to the field or lock yourself in a room. You will meet solitude there. There you will be able to listen attentively to the noise of the wind first, To birds singing, To see wonderful nature and to notice yourself in it and to come back to harmonic connection with the world and its creator. To actually come back into harmony with the universe, With God, With what's real. All of this world that we are so stimulated by all the time, Even other people, Even amazing other people, We are still kind of coordinating our nervous systems with them. When we are alone, Sitting in the woods, Sitting in meditation, Sitting wherever we're sitting and we are actually in solitude, We have a chance to feel reality. It's so important. So the last thing I want to mention is it's an interesting exercise to actually say to yourself, If I had one day that I could be all alone, One day, What would I do? What would my ideal day be with my soul? And I'm not even going to give ideas because your soul already knows what it wants to do for a day. But it's a really important question to almost craft that solitude for yourself. One day, What do you want to do? One afternoon, What do you want to do? One weekend, Imagine, Take a weekend away, The whole weekend is yours. What do you want to do? Put my glasses on and if you have any questions, I'd be happy to answer them. Could you guys share what would you do with one day alone? I think it's very inspiring to hear what people would do with a day alone. I just want to float. I journal, Do some tarot and read, Paint and read. I listen to a lot of audiobooks while I'm driving but there's nothing like sitting with a physical book. I'm retired and love following my nose each and every day. The only problem is the days fly by. Play with paint or wood, Walk in the woods, Sit in a hot spring, Make a bug breakfast, Tend to my plants, Dance in the living room, Take a nap, Go for a walk in the forest, Take a walk, Paint, Have fresh sheets on the bed, Take a shower, Moisturize, Put crystals on my body and lay in my yummy goodness for hours. I would bathe in the forest and spend the day in reverie. Katrina, I give myself a day each week to go on long solo bushwalking. Being in nature is my go-to happy place. Oh, I would in one of those the most beautiful places I can imagine take a picnic and a favorite book of iotas to ponder in, Meditate and just be in beautiful silence adoring the sounds of nature and birds all around me. Oh, That's so beautiful. Sit by a lake and watch the water and the rest of nature. I try to have one week, One day a week offline, Usually Sundays, Doing whatever I want, Putter around the house, Go on a walk, Read, Just be. So beautiful. I would give my soul full permission to open. I started my love of drawing by coloring in detailed coloring books. After a year I started to draw outside the lines. Now I can say I'm artistic and I've discovered I have this skill. I have always wished I was creative and believed I wasn't. My sister was the artist, I was the reader, Always reading. My main love now is working, Playing outside, Gardening, Mowing, Pruning, And the zen of weeding. Wake up to sunrise and walk in nature. Smell the lilacs and watch the tulips wave in the wind in the lilac park. Eating something healthy and yummy, Write in a journal, Take a bath, Read, Listen to my waterfall, And watch koi swim. So thank you so much for being here and I hope you have a wonderful day.

Reviews

I so needed to hear this today. Feeling VERY fortunate and BEYOND grateful for the amount of "alone" time I have every single day. Thank you for reminding me!! 😊🙏🏼💞✨

It’s my birthday Sunday and your talk inspired me to give myself a solo day. Painting in my studio, exploring the wilderness around, meditate, breathe, play with my dog, cook something yummy from the garden to my son and I, plant my tomatoes, smell the roses, go for a long walk and discover a new place on the Land.
It’s going to be as much fun as a birthday party with friends, perhaps more fun. 😊🙃