Healing Your Inner Parts: A Guide To Self-Compassion

Many of us carry unhealed parts of ourselves that struggle with shame, blame, or a lack of safety. This video explores how to identify these internal "wounded" and "protector" parts and approach them with interest and openness rather than judgment. By noticing the physical sensations of compassion and extending that warmth inward, you can begin to bridge the gap toward internal healing and self-acceptance.

Transcript

Most people.

Have not gone through life.

Without.

Hardship.

Without.

Pain without hurt.

Without trauma.

And we all have.

Unhealed parts of us.

Take a moment.

To.

.

.

Go inside.

And become aware.

Of those parts of you.

Perhaps you are listening right now.

Because.

Some hurt or wounded part of you is in distress.

Some hurt or wounded part of you is being blamed.

For her.

Their own distress by other parts.

Perhaps they are being shamed.

Perhaps they are being told.

It's your fault that you're hurting.

Although you may have told them.

What you know intellectually.

That of course it wasn't your fault.

That doesn't mean that they've believed you.

Perhaps.

They've been lied to in the past.

Perhaps they've never had.

The experience.

Of someone's.

Constant.

Kind and loving presence.

That they could count on.

Perhaps they don't believe the words that people say.

So in this moment.

.

.

Meet them.

With interest.

Meet them with openness.

Meet them from the place inside you.

That is.

.

.

Free of blame.

That doesn't need to.

To create.

A story.

In which somebody has to be at full.

Or where you have to be at fault.

That place.

.

.

There's.

.

.

Inside you.

In relationship to others.

It has compassion.

Four.

Animals.

For children.

For human beings who are suffering.

Even when they're difficult.

Even when they're loud.

Or whoever.

Or impulsive or angry.

You have the capacity.

To feel for them.

Imagine.

Someone in your life or community.

That you easily feel compassion towards.

And when you think of them,

Notice.

How it feels in your body.

Notice how good compassion feels.

I'm noticing feelings of calm and warmth.

As if I had just.

.

.

Opened my arms.

To make room.

For this person.

Or this animal.

I can feel.

.

.

A smile coming to my face.

Just.

.

.

In that moment of compassion.

So.

.

.

Can we extend.

.

.

That compassion.

Two parts of ourselves.

Especially.

Are wounded.

And hurt.

Child parts but also.

.

.

Our protector parts.

The parts that are.

.

.

Angry.

Or.

.

.

Or self-destructive.

Or who feel.

That deep sense of injustice.

That makes them indignant.

And depending.

On what you've experienced in life.

You might find it easier.

To feel compassion.

For those very vulnerable hurt parts.

Or You might feel.

It is here.

To Have compassion.

For those rough,

Tough protector parts.

Remember.

That it took Bulls.

Groups of parts.

To help you survive.

It took those parts.

That said,

I will never,

Ever,

Ever stop fighting.

And it saved you to have parts.

Ooh.

Who were seen and not heard.

Who were too ashamed to want to be visible.

That were too hurt.

And tried.

And tried to please everyone.

All of them.

Played a part.

In saving your life.

In helping you to adapt.

To What was there?

And should never have been.

And help you adapt.

To what wasn't there.

If compassion is hard,

And it can be.

Start with gratitude.

Can you feel even better?

An ounce of gratitude.

For those parts.

That are still suffering.

Inside you.

Notice how.

.

.

Gratitude feels for you.

And notice.

What it feels like for the parts.

Some may feel.

.

.

Confused.

No one has ever been grateful to me for anything.

And when you.

.

.

See you.

How unappreciated.

These parts of bed.

Notice what happens to your compassion.

As you can.

Begin.

To appreciate.

That Your parts.

Have to trust you.

In order to feel safer.

In order to suffer less.

Notice.

How your compassion for them.

Gross.

Maybe a little bit.

Maybe a lot.

Don't be discouraged.

If your compassion is slow growing.

It's.

It's normal.

For self-compassion.

To be difficult.

It doesn't help us survive to be self-compassionate.

It's so.

.

.

It's a very unfamiliar place.

Win.

Except if it comes to others needing our compassion.

Begin to think of these parts.

Just as.

.

.

Children or teens.

Needing your compassion.

Just as someone.

Outside of you.

Can need your compassion.

These parts have been starved for compassion.

Whatever crumb of compassion you can offer,

Will help.

To heal them.

And you.

.

.

Will feel the effects of their healing.