Holding Yourself In Compassion After Adoption Reunion

What type of support resonates with you? Finding like-minded people with similar experience is powerful. Even within the adoption community, each perspective is unique. Having a safe place to share your secrets can be deeply healing. Barb and Vicky struggled without support. There are many adoption-informed services available to help you, and you deserve the best.

How would it feel to be deeply heard by another? Barb and Vicky explore the meaning of open hearted listening, and discuss wisdom offered in simple techniques. As two strangers creating a new relationship, their listening was complicated by hurt, guilt, and love. A formal container or centering ritual may help you navigate these deep waters.

How does your sacred story serve you? If you have been silenced in the past, it can take great courage to open up. Since a relationship is based on connection, it can be difficult to navigate reunion. Barb and Vicky review simple techniques they each find helpful, hoping you will find something that resonates. Using your words well is both empowering and gratifying, and gets easier with practice.

How do you stay in the moment when communicating? It took time for Barb and Vicky to feel safe enough to speak and hear each other. Because there were some painful truths, from different perspectives. Today they discuss how to nurture this fragile new relationship with compassion.

How’s it going? Reunion is a life-long journey. This final lesson reminds you to hold compassion for yourself and others. The complexities of adoption take years to unravel, so take the long view, put your oxygen mask on first, and don’t forget your sense of humor.