Life

Enjoy the opening chapter of Ian Tucker's much loved book, "Your Simple Path." In this introduction, Ian captures the mundane essence of a typical life. Does it resonate with you? If so, you can find the antidote to a better life and continue listening to the entire audiobook of "Your Simple Path" here on Insight Timer.

Transcript

Chapter 1 Life Life is a simple word.

In essence it's the period between birth and death.

Most of us get about 80 years at it,

And are generally provided with everything that we need to have a good time.

They even tell us that the best things in life are free,

And so on paper we have it made.

Common sense would suggest that if we spend 80 years doing something we'd become pretty good at it,

But for some reason that doesn't seem the case with life.

As you're reading this book,

You're living your life.

How is it going?

No,

Seriously,

How is it going?

You'll be a certain age in a particular place,

And by now you will have had a title or label that defines you.

It tells others how important you are,

Or if indeed they should interact with you at all.

Doctor,

For example,

Is deemed to be a particularly good one,

Whereas bank manager doesn't carry as much clout as it used to.

At some point we have decided that a politician is more important than a lollipop lady,

That we should respect a managing director more than the people who keep the building clean,

And househusband still doesn't roll off the tongue as easy as housewife.

Outside of your title you may be a miss who wants to be a missus,

Or a mister who wants to be a miss.

At this very moment you could be relaxing on a sofa,

Dug in on a battlefield,

Commuting on a packed train,

Or waiting on death row.

Either way,

This is the life that you have chosen.

Some of you will be able but decide not to move,

Whilst others will be disabled and live life on the go.

Initially you wanted to be older,

But now you're not getting any younger.

There's a very good chance that you want to look different to how you think you look,

And you may have even spent money on picking the perfect nose.

Most of us will be happy when,

But when never seems to come.

Perhaps you will find happiness through the next purchase,

The next win,

The next deal,

The next lover,

The clues in the word next.

You will often choose to live with regret rather than put it right in a heartbeat.

You'll be judged throughout your life how you look,

The colour of your skin,

How you dress,

How you dance,

If you dance,

How you smile or how you don't.

People will make a decision on you before you have even spoken to them,

And if your accent doesn't fit,

They'll judge you on that too.

This of course works both ways and your constant comparison and assessment of others brings with it a lifetime of fear-based criticism,

Jealousy and insecurity.

Relationships will have come and gone,

Each followed by relief or heartbreak,

And now you could be single and longing for someone,

Or married and craving solitude or someone else.

You live in a world that works night and day to make you just like everyone else,

So fit in,

Wear this,

Eat that,

Shape up and do as you as the others do.

It seems that society has a plan for all of us,

And you have a part to play,

But why is it so rarely the part that you would have chosen for yourself?

Winning is everything,

Although we pretend it's the taking part that counts.

Competitive parents stand and scream at sporting seven-year-olds,

Desperate for them to beat other seven-year-olds,

As life's lessons are passed down a generation so they can fit in too.

Children offer us one of the rare chances in life to truly make a difference,

And yet we choose to pile on all of the pressures that we too felt at that age,

Even though we may now believe that there is more to life than grades,

Medals and finishing first.

Money makes the world go round,

So hopefully you have some,

But if you do there's a likelihood that you earned it in a job that you don't want,

As reducing your debt takes over from living your dreams.

Your perceived success will be based around what you have,

The house,

The car,

The clothes,

The friends,

But the people it attracts will reduce in line with your bank balance.

However long you live your life,

You'll count the people who stuck around regardless on the fingers of one hand.

There's an increasing probability that the illness that stops your life will be caused by stress,

And most of the stress in your life will be caused by trying to be the person that others believe you should be.

Nothing drains your energy like not being true to who you are.

A quick fix is available,

And normally addictive.

Prescription or otherwise,

They soften the blow and get you through.

Religion may be another option for you,

But depending on where you are in the world,

Your life may be in danger if you choose the wrong God.

Indeed,

Even as I write,

Countries are at war to make sure their God wins.

Life moves on quickly,

And there's a tipping point that takes you from ambition to regret,

As if only becomes your bedfellow.

As you reach society's take on old age,

The clock on the mantelpiece begins to sound like a countdown,

And our ultimate fear,

Death,

Stops being something that only happens to other people.

For many,

It will also be a time to assess how you have lived your life.

What were the moments that really mattered,

And did you make the most of them?

Did you simply exist and react to your life,

Or could you have made more of a difference?

Have you lived the life that you wanted for yourself,

Or the one others expected of you?

Ultimately,

Perhaps the most poignant reflection will be,

What was your life for?

What was your purpose?

What was the meaning of your life?

Reviews

What a beautiful message. Thank you so much. This message has me thinking and contemplating on my present and possibly future life. Am I where I want to be?

Very thought provoking. I know my purpose and meaning, but life still doesn’t necessarily look like originally planned😅In fact, life threw me a curve ball, but I caught it and I’m running with it…

Unrealistically I, I realised I was expecting an answer at the end!
Very thought provoking and it will stay with me throughout they day.

An amazing reflection on all that’s important and all that’s not. A great reminder of living a life worth living. Thank you.

Excellent talk. I think I've been an enabler..and it's come at a cost to my freedom. I recognise that there's no change without challenge. Thank you Ian 🙏🕯💛

Wow! This is spot on for so many people. You perfectly nailed the life experience. This really made me think. Thank you. 😊

Thank you. I try to give every day.
I feel my meaning is about love and giving.
Forgiveness and caring for others.
It can be painful at times but I sleep and being another day trying to bring some sunshine into people's lives.

In a nut shell. Welll said. That book should be on the Educational book list for children. Thank you for your insight

This was so interesting! Thank you! 💙 We will check out your book. We always enjoy your talks.

Oh it’s so good to hear you read from your wonderful book Ian 🌟 Your book lives on my lounge table and I dip into it daily, but to hear you speak the words takes it to another level. Thank you 🙏💙🤗🕊️

Thank you Ian.
I find your thoughtful and thought provoking words in this chapter, “Simply True”. 🙏