And how many did we fulfill?
Now when you have a relationship with somebody,
Anybody,
Anybody,
It could be temporary experience with them,
Could be long term,
Something,
Something unique that doesn't exist anywhere on this planet with anyone is developed.
And that is a new identity,
A new energy.
So there is you,
There is them.
So draw a circle and then draw another circle that overlaps that circle.
That in between part,
That overlap is a completely new identity that only exists because of your connection with each other.
And that identity,
I look at it actually as a brand new person,
A brand new personality.
You will never be with anybody else.
That energy that you are with your father,
Negative or positive,
And nor will he show that energy with anybody else,
Negative or positive,
As he is with you.
That's why five people can have five different experiences with one person.
Some very drastic.
One may completely despise and feel utterly annoyed or another person thinks they're the best person in the world.
I just love her.
She's amazing.
Because it created this dynamic,
This brand new energy.
And so what is that?
What developed?
And then now that that doesn't exist anymore,
Once they pass,
Also passes the persona and the personality,
That different separate entity that was created by the blending of you two.
I mean,
The memory of it,
The residence of it,
The timestamp,
The x-ray version of it,
The imprint is still there.
But the physicality of it is not because there's two main ingredients that create that new product entity and the one of the ingredients is gone.
And when you are a part of that energy,
When you're creating that energy,
It is to grow,
Expand,
Evolve a tiny portion of you.
And did that happen?
And it may be negative,
As Earthlings would call it negative.
On the higher realm,
We don't consider it as anything is negative.
Oppositions,
Polarity,
Yes,
Different,
Yes.
Negative in the way that humans call negative,
As bad,
No.
So therefore,
You may be raised with a father who is an alcoholic and was angry,
Was also a workaholic and went to the pub every night,
Came home,
Sat on the couch,
Stared at TV.
Your mother waited on him hand and foot until he passed out.
Abusive,
No.
Neglected,
Yes.
Watching your mother suffer,
Yes.
Did you grow up,
I will never marry an alcoholic,
Nor will I have a problem with alcohol,
Possibly.
That was a lesson.
And then you were there on your dad's dying day,
Days,
Months,
Maybe even years.
Bringing that parent to him that he was not to you,
Sober,
Present,
Attentive,
And a safe place.
Possibly that was your lesson,
To show up in that way.
There's nothing negative about that.
We can look at the death of a relationship even though the person does not physically die,
But they physically disappear from your life,
Such as a good friendship.
Even a parent-child can separate and not reconnect in adult life,
Siblings,
And divorce.
Although they still exist,
The bond,
The blending,
The connection does not.
We still have to learn the same lesson.
We still have to advance,
Evolve,
And grow.
What did that mean?
That third identity?
Because it is not you,
It is not them.
It is a creation of the two of you together.
This is difficult to conceptualize.
Imagine that there's a side of you that's quirky and unique and eccentric,
But you live in a corporate world.
You live in a picket fence house with a husband who also is in the corporate world,
And you're raising and have the money to have Ivy League schools with your kids going to the best schools with the best education,
Everything top-notch.
So you're living in this very matrix,
Typical real world.
But there's an inside of you,
There's this crazy,
Wacky,
Eccentric person that just wants to break free of that,
The shackles of the real world,
The matrix.
And so you meet a friend and they're an artist and they're creative and they're a musician and they wear green shoes and purple polka-dotted long flowing tops and they say it as it is and they're brass and they're funny and you just love hanging out with them.
And therefore you can be brass and funny and you find yourself being eccentric and putting a little new wardrobe in the corner of your closet that you will wear when you see her and hang out with her and do things with her and go to some of the events that she goes to.
It's only by you,
Your personality,
Blending with her personality,
This new one comes out.
And possibly she is learning to be more studious about her income and grounding herself and understanding the practical nature of other people more and not being irritated by them as much because she knows you.
And that's why you guys really connect because it brings out two hidden,
Hidden in the closet versions of yourself that does not come out with anybody else.
And you rejoice in this new third personality.
