The Law Of Change - L,L,&L W/ Glenn Ambrose

The truth is that we live in an ever-changing reality here on earth, so adapting to change is an integral part of life. Most of us resist the reality of change and attempt to control our circumstances in order to feel safe. In this podcast I explore this topic in depth.

Transcript

Welcome to Life Lessons and Laughter with your host,

Glenn Ambrose.

Hello,

Hello,

Welcome.

So today I am talking about the law of change or the principle of change.

You know,

The reason I use the word law pretty often when I'm talking about spiritual principles is because if you have a dynamic that works in every situation always,

All the time,

Regardless of its size,

Small,

Medium,

Or large,

Microcosm or macrocosm,

Then it's consistent.

It's a law.

It's a way that things work,

Right?

So here on earth,

We have this law of change.

Everything changes here on earth.

Just the reality of the world in which we live,

Right?

So just looking into that,

That dynamic for a moment before getting into how it works and how we can use it to benefit ourselves,

We have to look momentarily at why I'm doing this podcast in the first place,

Like changes everywhere,

Right?

It's just the reality here on earth.

Everything changes always,

All the time.

Nothing ever stays the same.

You know,

Our car is going to be a pile of dust someday.

So like either short-term,

Long-term,

Everything always changes.

So if that's a truth and it's a fact and we can prove it in countless ways,

Then you would think that we would live in accordance with that,

Right?

We do not.

We don't live in accordance with that.

We don't live in alignment with the law of change.

We resist it constantly in many different ways.

And we've arguably created an entire existence on planet earth attempting to deny the law of change.

And what I mean by that is if you are in a situation where everything changes,

It's very difficult to feel safe,

Right?

Because you don't know what's going to happen next.

And you're on your own,

Right?

This is our mentality about how we live in society.

Our social conditioning has kind of brought us all to this place where this is how the majority of people live.

And even the majority of people on the spiritual plane,

Not the spiritual plane,

But the spiritual path,

When we drop into unconsciousness,

Because we still do drop into unconsciousness at times,

Which varies depending on the person and where they are on their path and all this stuff.

So,

Like,

Basically,

To some degree,

Everybody does this.

Or at least 99 percent of the people do it,

Probably,

You know,

The majority by by large.

What I mean by that is is we don't feel we we think we're individuals.

And we have to handle everything and everything's changing and we don't know what's going to come next.

So it that incurs fear,

Because as individuals,

There are things we can handle and things we can't handle.

Things that we like,

Things that we don't like.

Now,

You know,

Many years ago,

Many,

Many years ago,

Like it used to be kind of on a physical danger level.

So it was like if you were just you know,

If you could eat and you had a roof over your head and there wasn't a lion chewing on your leg,

Then you were pretty much good.

Right.

Well,

That's not how it's evolved over time.

So now you have to have the right house with the right number of bedrooms for the children and they have to be on the right soccer team and they have to be in the you have to have the right car with the right interior,

With the right with the heated seats and and you have to be at the right job and you have to shop at the right grocery store and the food has to be just right that you're buying or you have to have the right chef that's cooking it for you or like it's all this stuff.

And if any of that is out of order,

Then we're upset.

Oh,

My God,

Do you believe this?

Grocery stores out of broccoli.

Oh,

What's wrong with them?

We've made everything so consistent in an attempt to feel safe and so predictable so we can feel safe so we don't feel like we we don't know what's coming down the pike.

And then if something comes down the pike that we don't expect,

We label it as bad and it's not supposed to be happening and it upsets us.

Right,

This is all.

Our separation from source.

Like.

So if we step out of this world into the eternal realm for a moment,

What we are spiritual beings having a human experience,

We're supposed to be combining those two.

Right,

So as spiritual beings,

We're anchored into eternity.

We're anchored into a power greater than ourselves that can handle anything because it created the entire universe.

So that's where we can derive our safety,

Because in the eternity,

Nothing ever changes.

It's eternal.

It's just.

So it doesn't change.

So we can so we're not feeling,

Oh,

No,

Oh,

No,

Oh,

No.

Like God's always there.

Always that never changes,

It will never change.

That makes me feel safe.

And also that I'm not out here trying to navigate this myself.

That I'm an aspect of the creator that created all this,

And I am loved and supported,

You know,

Then if I derive my sense of safety from that,

From the eternal perspectives,

From my spiritual side and sit in my seat of safety,

Well,

Then I can interact with life feeling safe and I don't have to try to control every little thing.

I'm not going to get upset when every you know,

When something doesn't go my way or it seems like it's out of whack because I know that it's not my system.

Like I don't have the perspective to judge what's going on.

I literally just don't have the information.

You know,

This is why I use the word prejudiced,

Because prejudice is a very triggering word,

Right?

Most people don't want to be prejudiced.

So.

If you look at that,

What does that word mean,

It means to prejudge.

What does prejudging mean,

It means to judge without having all the appropriate information necessary to make the assessment.

So do I have the ability to know what's right and what's wrong?

As far as globally and universally.

No,

I don't.

I can't see into the future.

I don't know the mind of God.

I don't know.

I don't know all the laws.

I don't know how this thing works and interacts.

Interacts.

And I don't know when.

When.

You know,

I think it was the creator of the artificial heart that,

You know,

His father passed away when he was young or was either passed away or had major heart problems,

And it was this young boy who was very close to his father and everybody back then,

I'm sure,

Was going,

Oh,

My God,

This is so horrible.

This poor child has to go through this,

This horrible situation with his father.

And they're so close and he's in so much emotional pain.

This is horrible.

God,

Why,

Why are you making this happen?

If there is a God,

Why?

We're looking at it.

We're looking at things like in such a microcosm,

We have no idea the plan.

And then this kid grows up and because of the experience that he had as a child,

Creates the first artificial human heart and affects literally millions,

Probably hundreds of millions of people's lives.

You know,

Not only the patient,

But the families of the patients and the grandchildren of the patients and the friends of the patient and all this stuff and the doctors and nurses that are helping this take place.

And it's affecting hundreds of millions,

Maybe billions of lives for the better.

And how could we have known that that was going to play out that way?

We couldn't.

Right.

So if we understand we don't,

We simply don't have the information to make accurate assessments on what's good and what's bad.

Then we'll stop making those assessments.

As long as we feel safe,

If we don't feel safe,

Feeling safe is a foundation.

Everybody wants to feel safe.

It's a,

It's an innate need within us.

If we do not feel safe,

There's incongruencies,

There's,

There's conflict within us,

There's problems,

There's a seeking to try to feel safe,

To try to manipulate and control situations so that we can feel safe.

And this is how most people live their lives.

And this is how society is structured,

You know,

Just to make things as consistent and predictable as possible.

So we feel more safe and it's impossible.

It's never going to work.

I don't care how predictable you make things.

We are human beings.

We're unpredictable and planet earth is one giant change constantly happening.

So we're not,

We can't outsmart human nature.

I mean mother nature,

We can't outsmart mother nature.

We can't outsmart God.

We can't,

You know,

We,

We think we're smarter than God.

Like we're going to come into this world and we're going to learn how to control things so well that we're,

We're going to overtake nature and change the very fabric of planet earth,

Which is change.

Good luck.

If that's your plan to feel safe and therefore comfortable and peaceful.

Good luck.

Um,

So this is why change is so important.

Adapting to change is so important.

You know,

Some of the aspects of it are letting go and trusting the unfolding.

Like we're going to make it,

You know,

Before I woke up spiritually,

I know other people have thought this,

But I think,

Uh,

I don't know that that many thought it as deep as I thought it.

Like it really messed me up when people would tell me that things were going to be okay.

I get it now,

But back then,

Before I woke up spiritually,

You know,

There was constantly some problem happening in my life,

Some catastrophes and tragedies and difficulties,

Some something,

You know,

And people would be,

And I'd be so upset,

You know,

And I'd be explaining it to somebody and they didn't see me getting so upset.

And they're like,

Glenn,

It's going to be okay.

And I literally didn't understand what they meant.

And I think I'm a fairly intelligent person,

But I just didn't understand what they meant.

I didn't understand the concept in which they were talking about.

Like to me,

I was so focused on the problem.

Look,

This is a problem.

It's in my life right now.

And this is what my experience,

This is the window that my experience is going through.

My experience is,

Is going through the window of this thing that is wrong or that I'm perceiving is wrong.

So,

And it's affecting me in a way that I'm very angry and upset because this is happening and it's not going to magically stop happening.

I don't have a solution for it.

So therefore right now I was so kind of like in a moment,

In a backwards way,

I thought the pain I was experiencing,

Or maybe it's just because I experienced so much pain that the pain I was experiencing,

I was just going to,

It was just going to go on forever.

And if I forgot about this pain and another one would come in and it was just like,

I just saw my future in pain.

So like when,

When people,

When people said it's going to be all right.

I'm like,

Like how,

What do you,

What do you mean?

You're going to fix the problem?

Like,

Let's say it was a money problem.

It's like,

Oh,

So you're,

You're going to,

So I'm going to get kicked out of my apartment and you're going to not let me get kicked out of my apartment.

You're going to pay my rent.

Well,

No.

Okay.

Well then how,

How are,

How is this not going to last forever?

How are things going to be?

Okay.

Because being okay means that this isn't happening,

But it is happening.

So what do you,

What do you mean?

Things are going to be okay.

I,

I,

I had no forward thought.

I had no long-term vision.

I couldn't,

I,

I couldn't see that difficulties came and laughed and came and laughed and came and laughed for some reason,

Seems fairly obvious to me now.

But for some reason,

I just didn't understand what people meant.

It's going to be okay.

I'm like,

No,

It's literally not.

It's,

It's not okay right now.

So unless you can give me a solution to fix this right now,

Then why would,

Why would I disconnect from the upset that I'm feeling that things are messed up?

If they're not messed up anymore,

Then I won't feel this way,

But you're not telling me how they're not going to not messed up anymore.

You're just saying that they are messed up,

But somehow magically they're not going to be,

Or some,

I don't know what you're talking about.

And I think sometimes,

You know,

Like I,

That,

That's obviously a,

A warped type of thinking and,

And,

You know,

It actually might be a symptom of kind of almost in a way that I was trying to go.

I was trying to go deeper.

I wasn't capable of it,

But I was trying to go deeper.

I wasn't sitting on the surface just going,

Oh,

Things come and go,

Things come and go,

I was like,

No,

I want to understand the dynamics of,

In,

In,

In which things are going to be better.

Like,

And I wasn't capable.

So I think on an unconscious level,

A lot of people kind of do a version of that.

This is why we get upset.

Like when things don't go,

The,

The grocery stores out of Broccoli,

And,

And we're like,

We're so used to everything being consistent and predictable that as soon as something isn't it's,

Huh?

So,

So letting go and trusting the unfolding is a huge part of this.

Another aspect of it is staying humble.

So the ego resists change.

It doesn't like change.

Why?

Because it,

The ego's job is to keep us safe,

Right?

It wants to try to keep us safe.

So this is big surprise.

Uh,

The world is basically ego driven.

This is why society and civilization is control driven because the ego is all about control.

Why?

Because it's trying to keep us safe.

It it's,

It's a,

It's a warning system.

The problem is,

Is we've lost control of our egos.

The ego is in control of us.

So when the ego says,

Hey,

Watch out,

There might be a problem here.

Or usually things are this way,

But they're not in this particular situation.

So that could be a red flag.

Watch out.

That could be danger.

Instead of us going,

Using our mind and thinking like,

Oh no ego.

Like it's,

It's okay that they ran out of broccoli.

Sometimes that happens in life.

It's not,

It's,

It's not a problem.

It's just sometimes things like that happen.

We live in an ever changing world,

So it's okay.

And just telling our ego to be quiet instead,

We believe the thought that our ego sends in.

Something is wrong because we're out of broccoli.

Oh my God,

Something's wrong.

Something,

And we just believe it when we start acting as if,

And we,

We get,

We get an emotional response because it's like something is out of order and I'm not in control,

This is wrong,

This is bad.

It's like,

Whoa,

Whoa,

Whoa.

Nothing's it's okay.

So being,

You know,

Humility allows us to grow because we're not trying to control every little thing.

So how do we grow?

Growth is change.

We're changing too.

We're supposed to change.

It's the whole point.

You know,

I love that little meme with a caterpillar and a butterfly.

You know,

Meeting for lunch and the,

And the caterpillar looks at the butterfly and says,

You've changed.

And the butterfly looks at the caterpillar and says,

Yeah,

We're supposed to like,

That's all of us were supposed to change,

You know,

Like I still have the same personality I always did to,

You know,

To some degree,

But I've changed dramatically.

And I can,

There were certain aspects of relating to certain people that I could do when I was the previous version of myself that I just can't do now,

You know,

That the connection has to either evolve or it kind of falls away because I'm just not interested in the same things I,

That I was when I was drinking,

My mind doesn't work the same way.

I still have the same personality.

I said,

I,

You know,

I can still joke around and be funny and enjoy time and,

Uh,

You know,

And all stuff like that,

But I can't connect over misery anymore and complaining and stuff like that.

It doesn't make me feel connected with other people,

Which is really a main way of connection on earth with,

Between people is they complain and they feel this connection because they're like,

Oh,

I complain and you complain.

Oh,

Good.

And you know,

And,

And we're unconsciously scared that if,

If we try connecting over happiness,

Then the other person,

We might make the other person feel bad,

Like,

How's your,

You know,

How are things going?

Oh,

Wonderful.

Blah,

Blah,

Blah.

You know,

Everything's going great in my life.

This is so good.

And,

And,

And how are things going with you?

Oh,

Well,

I just lost my job and my wife left me.

Oh no.

Oh my God.

I shouldn't have said anything.

I'm so sorry.

I mean,

We feel bad.

It's like,

No,

My life doesn't have to be falling apart.

So it's safer to connect over misery is my point and complaining because there's no risk of this perceived.

Oh no.

I made their life worse because I'm happy,

Which is ridiculous.

But so humility opens us up for change.

We know that we're not the end all be all.

We know that we don't control things.

We understand that there's a flow of life and that we're not in control of it.

So it humbles us to not think we're supposed to control everything in life.

Um,

Yeah,

Then that's an aspect of change.

You know,

Growth comes from being open to transformation.

We need to be open to change.

We will have to want to change.

We have to try to change.

We have to reach and stretch to grow.

Like we have to be doing all that for change to take place.

If we're resisting change,

Then we're not going to grow.

You know,

This is why a lot of people are trying to get like this unconscious desire and attachment to the external.

What people usually think is going to make them happy is if they get all their ducks in a row,

You know,

That they're in the right relationship.

They have the right amount of money.

They enjoy their job.

They have a good house and they have their favorite foods on a regular basis.

They have a good social life.

Once all those things are in place,

Well,

Then I'll be happy.

And until then,

I'm going to complain and resist the aspects of my life that aren't going that way,

Or,

Or spend all my energy trying to get them to the place where I want them.

Like that's never going to happen because you live in a never changing reality.

So like if you're lucky enough to get all your ducks in a row,

One's going to wander off or one's going to get stepped on or something's going to happen where you're all your ducks ain't in a row no more.

Like that guaranteed 100% of the time.

Why?

Because it's a law of change.

Everything changes.

There's no escaping it.

But we think if we have all our external situations,

The way we want them,

Then we'll be happy.

It's never going to happen.

Like you might get all your ducks in a row for 15 minutes,

But then it's,

They're going to be out of alignment again.

And this is,

I mean,

I'm telling you,

Please think deeply.

This is literally what drives most of our behavior is to try.

We T we're trying to set up our external circumstances to the way that we want them.

Because we think we're going to be happy and it's never going to work.

This is why once we get stable on the inside,

Once we anchor in on the inside,

Once we,

Once we can sit in our spiritual side,

So our sense of safety and peace comes from our connection to source,

Our connection comes from the eternal aspect of things.

Our spiritual being,

Having a human experience is where we're incorporating both of those.

So we find our sense of safety and peace in the knowledge that we are all,

And that we are an aspect of the eternal.

And that we are loved and supported and we can never be harmed and everything is fine.

Not in a temporal sense and an eternal sense.

That's much deeper than the temporal.

Temporal is just fleeting.

It's we're here for a while and then we're gone.

Like I'm talking,

I'm eternally okay.

I'm eternally connected to love as long as I stay open to it.

I eternally have the safety and the love and the protection and the guidance from a,

From literally the creator of the universe,

Because I am part of that creator and all its creations.

So that's where I derive my safety.

And then I can interact with life where everything's constantly changing and I don't take it so seriously.

Here today,

Gone tomorrow.

Yeah,

It happens sometimes,

You know,

Everything's a reason,

A season or a lifetime.

Sometimes it happens for a reason.

They're here for a little while.

The reason takes place and then it's gone.

Sometimes it's a season of your life.

You experience something or someone throughout a season and it lasts longer and it's there,

But then eventually you get the,

The,

The,

The,

The meaning out of it,

The growth,

Whatever it was supposed to,

Whatever it was supposed,

Was here to do.

It's completed.

And then that season is over.

And then some things are a lifetime here,

You know,

Like we're just,

They last an entire lifetime.

So sometimes,

But we never know which,

Right.

And even things that last a lifetime change,

Like even if,

If there's a,

Well does anything actually last a lifetime?

I don't know,

You know,

Like I'm thinking,

I'm thinking of a earthly perspective and it's like,

Well,

Our parents don't usually last a lifetime,

I guess,

Unless we died before they did,

Then it would,

Our parents could,

And you know,

And our siblings or older siblings,

Right.

That then they might last a lifetime,

But you know,

Just a normal lifespan of people,

You know,

Your,

Your family can be with you maybe three quarters of it or 90% of it,

But at some point they pass on.

So,

So there's not,

And,

And then,

You know,

Our spouse or our children,

They come into our lives later.

So whatever,

Does anything really last an entire lifetime?

But my point is,

Is even those things that last,

What we would perceive as a lifetime,

Just,

You know,

If we don't think that deeply and just go not in a bad way,

Just wrapping our brain around a concept,

We go,

Oh,

Okay.

You know,

Some things will last the rest of my life.

Maybe that's a better way to phrase it.

So even those things,

Like if you're married,

Like my parents have been married for a long time,

I don't know,

Over 60 years,

I believe,

Like,

I guarantee you their marriage and their relationship has changed dramatically over the years.

It's,

You know,

There's probably been some good times and some bad times,

Hopefully more good,

Right.

And I'm sure of it.

And,

Um,

But not only the good and the bad,

But the evolution of their relationship,

How they interact with one another,

The,

The love expanding,

You know,

All that stuff,

It all changes.

So everything changes.

And this is a good thing.

We're,

We're supposed to be growing and transforming.

Also accepting change helps us be present,

Right?

Because we're,

We're not,

This is another thing that keeps people stuck a lot is that they were so ego centered,

Driven by our ego,

That if we've experienced something 20 times,

Then we start expecting it to continue happening.

Right.

And that's not necessarily true.

Everything changes.

It doesn't have to stay that way.

You know,

I think a good example of this is money.

It's like,

You know,

If,

If you struggled with money your whole life,

And then you're doing the inner work to try to accept abundance and receive and,

And,

And just understand the concept of abundance and step into your divine birthright of abundance,

Like you got to go,

Like you have to deal with,

At some point you got to deal with this,

This unconscious,

Um,

Systematic belief system that you've created that like,

Oh,

Well,

I was broke over here.

I was broken here.

I tried to make some money here,

But it didn't work.

And like all your past experiences,

You think that that dictates your future.

And it doesn't,

That's the whole point of growth.

That's the whole point of change.

That's one of the blessings of change.

One of the blessings of growth is things don't necessarily repeat.

Just because they've happened in the past does not mean in any way,

Shape,

Or form that they're going to continue happening the same way in the future.

It does not mean that,

You know,

I drank for 20 years.

If I believe that if I drank for 20 years,

That meant I was going to drink for the rest of my life,

Then I never would have gotten sober now.

Don't get me wrong.

When I was drinking,

I couldn't perceive a life without me drinking.

Um,

But I did need to be open to change.

I did need to be,

That's all,

That's all we need is to be open to the possibility of change,

Open to the reality of change.

And then we see it happening and we're like,

Oh yeah,

Then we can lean on that.

The fact that things change.

It's,

It's really what I'm,

Uh,

You know,

One of the techniques that I lean on when things are going wrong,

If I'm going in a,

Or my perception of wrong,

If I'm going through a difficult time,

You know,

I'll stop and go,

Well,

The difficult time isn't going to last forever.

I've been through countless difficult times and they always change.

At some point I'm on the other side of it.

So it helps me disconnect and allow the change to take place because if I'm holding onto it,

No,

This is going to last forever.

No,

I'm going to be miserable forever.

No,

This is going to be horrible forever.

Like that's hopelessness that leads to depression.

It's non-movement.

It doesn't allow the nature of movement and change to come in.

You're holding your energy stuck in this negative space.

And it's like,

You know,

If you're going through hell,

Don't stop and set up camp,

Like keep walking so you can come out the other side.

If you don't like where you are,

The worst thing you can do is stop or energetically hold onto it.

You don't like it.

Why,

Why are you trying to prevent change?

Embrace change,

Seek change,

Be grateful for what you have.

That change is coming because it is the only thing that can stop it is you.

And you know,

You can't even truly stop it.

You can pretend that it's stopped through your own perspective and hold onto your misery.

And then,

You know,

10 years later,

Everybody's like,

What's going on with Glenn?

Oh,

He like shut down 10 years ago because of some traumatic experience.

And just,

He's stuck there.

Like,

Oh my God,

That's so sad.

See,

In a situation like that,

We can see it.

We're like,

Oh,

That's,

That's,

It doesn't make sense.

That's not right.

That's not the,

That's,

That's not how life works.

But yet when we're in it,

People have a tendency to do their version of that.

You know,

Maybe not for 10 years,

Hopefully,

But the other thing is a compassionate,

You know,

It helps us be compassionate because,

You know,

This is the,

The first thing that I learned the first time I experienced frustration after I had all my spiritual awakenings,

You know,

20 years ago,

The first time I experienced frustration was when people were like,

I had blown open and,

You know,

You could see it a mile away that there was something different about me.

I was rearranged internally.

So people were coming up to me and going,

Oh my God,

What happened to you?

How can I get this to happen?

Like,

What do I do?

What did you do?

And I would,

I would explain to them to the best of my ability,

What I was doing and how it worked and all this stuff and how I opened up and surrendered.

And then,

You know,

And then they'd be out,

You know,

I was in recovery.

So then they,

Most of my friends were too.

So they'd be out drunk or doing drugs,

You know,

A week or two later,

Or maybe,

You know,

Dead and I'm sitting here and I'm getting frustrated because I'm like,

What the hell is going on?

Like these persons,

These people are suffering.

They're coming to me.

They're saying,

Glenn,

What do I need to do to stop suffering?

I tell them,

And then they go suffer more.

Like they,

They're not doing what I told them to do after they just came and asked me what to do.

Like w w w it was frustrating.

And,

And I remember I laid down on my bed and I was feeling this frustration and I just dropped into like this dissecting meditative contemplation space or something,

And I was like,

It was like,

Okay,

Well,

Why are they doing that?

You know,

Why are they not implementing what I'm saying?

And I'm like,

Well,

I don't know.

It's like,

Okay,

Well,

Have you ever been in their shoes where people were giving you good advice,

But for some reason you weren't able to take it in or you weren't able to implement it or something like,

Well,

Yeah,

You know,

That's most of my life.

Okay.

So,

You know,

Even six months ago,

People were trying to tell me how to,

To get sober and find peace and all this stuff.

And I couldn't do it like,

Okay,

So that's where they are.

That's where they are.

Like,

They're just where you were six months ago.

That's all.

It's just,

And hopefully,

You know,

Things change.

You changed,

You eventually got it.

Hopefully they'll eventually get it,

But you can't control that.

You can't control whether they're going to get it or whether they're ready or not.

I went,

Oh yeah.

Oh,

Okay.

You know,

And that was really a foundational piece of me sponsoring others and then eventually becoming a life coach and working with all kinds of people because it's like,

I had to really understand that I couldn't save people.

I couldn't control the outcome.

All I could do was put information out and what people did with it.

And if they were ready and when they were ready,

I had no control over and to what level they implemented it and all that.

So I,

I,

I couldn't,

I couldn't let that frustrate me when it happened or if somebody didn't understand something I was saying,

I couldn't let that frustrate me.

I had to meet them where they were.

So I had understanding for where people were and I had compassion because I understood that things change and sometimes we're just not ready,

But that doesn't mean that they're not going to be ready in the future.

Um,

Yeah.

And,

And then the other thing it's,

It's trusting the process.

You know,

Trusting the eternal,

Knowing that things are going to come and go and that eventually we're going to be on the other side of them and it's all going to be okay.

We have to,

If we expect to live a peaceful existence,

We have to be peaceful inside regardless of the circumstances.

Now I'm not saying that we can't get knocked around every once in a while.

I'm just saying as a general rule,

Walking through life,

Like,

You know,

When I,

I try to do my work as deeply as possible.

And that means being honest with myself,

Deeply honest with myself.

And I,

I think we really need to work on that.

Really?

Maybe that's another podcast.

Um,

I'm going to jot that down,

Being honest with ourselves.

Ourselves.

Um,

Yeah,

What I mean by that is,

You know,

This,

This,

If I'm honest with myself,

I'll give you a real life example.

If I'm honest with myself,

Like there are days when I'm off center,

Right?

I'm not feeling peaceful.

And on those days,

If I hop into my car and drive down to run some errands down by the beach,

If I'm lost in the unconscious world that a lot of other people are lost in,

Then there's an aspect of trying to control my experience that automatically just drops in.

And it robs me of my peace.

I'm not,

If I'm honest with myself,

I'm not deeply at peace internally.

I'm actually in a state of anxiety.

And I don't think people really realize this because I know I'm not the only one that experiences it,

But I'm able to be honest with myself where I go in and deeply understand what's transpiring inside of me and why.

Right.

So when I'm like,

I,

I bet you,

Most people experience this.

And yet if I were with most people and I say,

Hey,

Uh,

You know,

That,

That are just unconscious,

I'm just driving down the road with them.

And we're going,

We're going to run some errands and,

And,

Um,

They're thinking and I'm,

They're lost in their head,

I'm lost in my head,

Whatever.

And I turned to them and I go,

Are you experiencing anxiety in your body right now?

They'd probably be like,

No,

Just drive down the road.

But if they tuned in and let go of their thoughts that are transpiring in their head,

Turned off the radio,

So they weren't distracted,

Stopped thinking about what they were doing and just monitored their,

Ran a scan and monitored the energy inside of their body,

They would find anxiety.

I know that I do.

And I know that I'm not the only one.

So I,

This is what I'll do.

I'll be like,

I'll be like,

Oh my God,

I'm,

I'm anxious.

I didn't even like,

I didn't,

It wasn't so powerful that I would,

I was experiencing a bunch of uncomfortability or heart palpitations or nothing like that.

I didn't even know I was experiencing it.

I was just driving down the road thinking.

And a lot of times the thoughts are kind of like,

Okay,

What should I do first?

Should I do this Aaron first?

Or should I do that Aaron first?

Well,

This place is on the right hand side of the road and I'm coming in on this way.

So I'll just do them in order because that's the most efficient that way.

And then and then I'll work my way back this way.

That way I'm heading home when I'm going home,

But this one's closed at the lunchtime.

So then I,

So maybe I shouldn't do it that way.

And I'll like,

Like,

You know,

I'll think of some of this stuff and I'm trying to control what's transpiring and come up with the perfect plan.

And it,

It creates anxiety with me.

Like I said,

Not much anxiety,

Not where I would feel it unless I did a body scan.

I could just be lost in that and not even think that there's anything wrong with me.

But if I disconnect from it and I do that body scan,

I'm like,

Oh my God,

Like all this thinking and trying to do things perfectly and lay it all out.

And like,

I'm actually making myself anxious.

This is not enjoyable.

So then I'll just release all that stuff and get myself to,

To,

To a peaceful,

Calm place and just go,

Why don't you just,

You know,

Do this.

I mean,

You thought about it,

Kind of try going in that direction and you know what?

If you see somebody and you want to talk to them or you feel like stopping in somewhere or you start getting hungry or you'd like to stop for a coffee or whatever,

Then you do that.

Oh yeah.

Okay.

You know,

And then I relax and then I go about my day.

But my point is,

Is like,

We can get lost.

This is like,

Everybody thinks that they have anxiety problems.

Like you don't have anxiety problems.

This is like,

This is the type of thing where we're driven by our ego,

Which is constantly trying to look out for problems,

Which in incites anxiety.

So if we disconnect and we stop trying to control every little thing and we get peaceful on the inside,

Because we know everything's okay,

Like forever,

Eternally,

And there's a flow to life and it ebbs and flows and changes.

And we're going to experience some things we like and some things we don't like.

And when we're experiencing things we don't like,

That doesn't mean that there's something wrong with the flow of life or it shouldn't be happening,

Which is most of what people label it as.

This is what,

This is the cause of anxiety is because when we experience something we don't like,

We,

We actually have the audacity to think that it shouldn't be happening.

Huh?

Well,

How would you possibly know that?

Like,

So there's this flow to life that's been happening for billions of years and like,

God's in control of it.

And,

And it's just the,

The,

There's a,

There's a system in place and a divine perfection and,

And all this stuff has been unfolding,

But you and your little microcosmic experiential,

Experiential perspective that is completely different from everybody else's,

Right?

Like that,

That's one.

So let's take God out of the picture for a moment and just go like,

Isn't it arrogant for us to think just like,

We all know that we're individuals.

Right.

We all know that,

That like there are 8 billion people on the planet and we all are individuals.

So that means we think a little bit different.

We've had little different experiences that shapes our thinking and our views,

And we can agree on things sometimes,

But very rarely are we going to see things the exact same way because we're all individual.

So when we're judging things like,

Oh,

This shouldn't be happening.

Like really?

Like,

You know,

Like you understand the dynamics of planet earth,

The atmosphere,

The sun,

The moon,

The universe,

Everything.

Cause it's all connected.

All 8 billion people and how the butterfly effect is going to affect them in all these different scenarios,

You know,

All that.

And because you have all this information,

Because you know,

Everything like the mind of God,

Then you know that this thing shouldn't be working.

Like it shouldn't be happening because it's wrong.

But come on.

Like,

Of course you don't,

You have no idea.

None of us do.

So who are we to judge?

Oh,

Because it's wrong.

What says who?

You don't know how it affects other people.

You don't know if,

You know,

Most people grow through difficulty.

So if a difficulty pushes somebody towards growth and they benefit from it,

Then was it wrong if their life is,

You know,

Me being an alcoholic for 20 years and hurting myself and others,

Well,

That's just wrong.

That's just wrong.

It shouldn't have happened.

It's wrong.

Well,

No,

Because now all of a sudden,

Because of my experience,

I was able to help others because of my suffering.

I was driven to be able to open up and surrender to a level where I was capable of seeing life in a different way,

In a way that's more natural and more helpful to other people,

And then I could do a podcast and work with people one-on-one and in groups to help them understand a healthier way of interacting with life as well.

So was the alcoholic 20 years wrong?

Who would I be if I didn't experience them?

How about the people that I've helped?

Where would they have gotten their help?

Somebody else,

Hopefully,

But we don't know.

No,

They wouldn't have gotten help from anybody else if nobody else went through any difficulties that opened them up and everybody goes through difficulties.

So going through difficulties can't be bad or wrong if everybody goes through them.

It's the ebb and flow,

You know,

We have to get a more.

This is my point about change.

We have to get a more realistic perspective.

We need to slow down and look at how we're interacting with life.

And like it's not rocket science to to figure out why the way most people interact with life is dysfunctional,

Why it doesn't,

Why it's unsustainable,

Why it causes suffering.

We think that we are in control of life and that it doesn't change and we can prevent it from changing.

Our whole design for living is based around trying to control our circumstances and we can't.

Our foundational way of interacting with life is severely flawed because it's based in controlling circumstances to make ourselves feel happy and safe.

And we can't,

We can't control our ha our circumstances and that's not where happiness or safety comes from.

It doesn't exist on this plane,

Doesn't exist in temporal exists,

Exists in the eternal.

So we anchor into our spirituality,

Get our seat of safety and then interact with life a little bit more playfully,

You know,

And I'll wrap up with this.

It's the,

It's,

It's the movie theater reference.

I always,

I always use this because it's just so appropriate when you're in a movie theater,

You can experience happiness,

Sadness,

Fear,

Laughter,

All these emotions,

Right?

Yeah.

Like that's why you go to a movie theater to experience these emotions.

They take you on a journey of an emotional journey to,

To feel different things.

So we pay money to go there and experience this,

But we don't dive under the sea.

If somebody pulls out a gun,

Why?

Because we're seated,

We're in our seat of safety.

There's an aspect of our consciousness that knows that we are safe in our seat.

And if we ever get too carried away in a movie and we get too scared or something and we start freaking out,

We can go,

Whoa,

Whoa,

Whoa,

Wait,

Wait,

This isn't real.

It's just a movie.

It's just a movie.

Relax.

Oh yeah.

Oh yeah.

Oh my God.

I get carried away.

I lean too far into it.

Oh my goodness.

I was freaking out.

Yeah.

Like it's okay.

You're safe.

Oh yeah.

Yeah.

This is how we need to go through life in our seat of safety with,

You know,

10% of our consciousness or something.

It's just kind of always there as a baseline underneath what we're safe.

Everything's okay.

It's eternal.

It's peaceful.

We're good.

And then we can still interact with different things and we can still have different emotions.

See,

That's what our ego warns us of.

No,

Like if,

Like if you think everything's okay,

Then you'll never experience any emotions and that's not living.

It's not what happens at all.

You still experience all the emotions of living.

You still get sad when sad things happen.

It's just,

You don't get taken away and start thinking it's going to be that way forever,

Or that there's something wrong with the universe.

That's all.

You don't start blowing up this ever change,

Like what something happens in an ever changing reality.

And then we latch onto it and start using it as evidence why everything is wrong.

And we're supposed to experience misery forever.

It's like,

Whoa,

Whoa,

Whoa.

Like,

No,

It's,

It's just temporary.

It's fleeting.

Grief is something you go through.

Difficulties are something you go through.

Transitions life.

It's something you go through.

It's not something you sit and set up camp in and you carry with you forever.

We're supposed to go through our difficulties.

We're not supposed to throw them in a backpack and carry them with us for the rest of our lives.

Same with grief.

I mean,

Sure.

You know,

Like,

I mean,

There are some losses,

You know,

Speaking of grief,

There are some losses that are so painful and so dramatic.

Are there aspects of that grief that can,

That we can carry with us perhaps for a lifetime?

Sure.

Sure.

But if you're experiencing the same amount of grief,

10 years later from a loss that you were 10 years earlier,

Then you're not going through grief.

You've set up camping grief and you're living in it.

You're holding it there.

Cause that's not natural.

Everything changes.

We're supposed to be expanding and growing and working through and becoming better versions of ourselves.

We're not supposed to be just sitting there suffering for decades.

So the only way we can do that is,

Is if we resist change,

If we block it from actually happening,

Because it happens naturally,

It's just the flow of life.

So,

Uh,

Yeah,

Change is pretty important.

All right,

Peeps.

Thanks for listening.

That's going to do it.

I hope that helps.

And,

Um,

Yeah,

That's it,

I guess.

Peace internally.

Later.