Boundaries For Compassionate People

Through heartfelt and conversational teachings, learn how compassionate boundaries create trust, safety and freedom in all aspects of your life and relationships. You no longer need to feel exhausted, resentful and anxious because you are constantly putting the needs of others before your own. Boundaries are compassion in action, and it all starts with you. Learn to honor your needs without apology or excuses while enjoying deeper connection with the people in your life. You are valuable and worthy of love, exactly as you are. Let this introduction to compassionate boundaries guide you to living from your authentic self!

Leçon 1: The Benefits of Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries are an authentic transmission about yourself to other people. Boundaries help you feel cared for. They help you flourish and thrive. Boundaries bring joy, lightness, flow, and ease into your life. Boundaries are designed to help you expand while making peace with your limitations. With boundaries you are free to BE.

Leçon 2: Create Trust, Safety and Respect

When you practice healthy, compassionate boundaries, others feel respected by you because you mean what you say, and you say what you mean. Being honest about yourself is deeply compassionate and trust-building. Even if others are disappointed, they still feel respected and safe because you have treated them as capable. Think of someone you admire (real or fiction) for their honest, kind and trustworthy nature. Consider how you might learn from their example.

Leçon 3: People-Pleasing to Earn Self-Worth

You are valuable and worthy of love. You do not need to earn love and connection through DOing. You are enough, just as you are. When you drop the habit of people-pleasing you are choosing to find out you can be loved for who you are, not what you do. From this place, you are free to honor yourself and others without fear.

Leçon 4: Guilt, Shame and Obligation

You are worthy, valuable and deserving of respect and kindness even if others are disappointed or upset when you don’t do what they want you to do. Being forthright and honest about your limits without lying, making excuses or apologizing can cause fear and anxiety. Through love and compassion, you can stay the course. Remember, when others guilt, shame and manipulate you it’s about them, not you. You are not obligated to make others happy.

Leçon 5: Release Expectations

Release others from your expectations and hopes for them to be different. When you are able to accept others exactly as they are, you are free to decide for yourself what your limits are in your relationship with them without expectation for them to change. Don’t put your healing on hold because you’re waiting for someone else to do the work for you.

Leçon 6: Self-Care

You are a human BEing with limits. You need to be loved and cared for. Who better to do it than yourself? You know your deepest needs – what would replenish, revive and restore you – so you can enjoy your life with a sense of wellbeing? Self-care is monumentally important to practicing healthy and compassionate boundaries. You are valuable for you are, not for what you do. Taking care of yourself will help you feel less stressed, anxious and resentful.

Leçon 7: Simple Practices

Keep communication about your boundaries simple, kind and repetitive. Make room for others to feel disappointed and surprised at the changes you are making while continuing to honor your needs. Go slow and be gentle with yourself. This is new. Communicate your truth clearly and simply, and affirm for others how important they are to you through practicing compassionate boundaries.

Leçon 8: Learning to Say No

You are not mean, bad or rude for saying No. You are free to kindly and compassionately introduce No into your vocabulary without guilt or shame. No is a complete sentence and communicates your boundaries clearly and simply. When you say “no” to one thing, you are saying “yes” to something else. Practice saying No and discover all is well. You are well.

Leçon 9: Practice, Not Perfect

There’s no perfect way to practice boundaries. Have compassion for yourself and others as you explore this new way of BEing. Learn to listen to yourself and act according to your inner wisdom. You are a human BEing, not a human DOing. It takes time to change old patterns and behaviors. Let compassion guide you slowly and gently through the fear and anxiety.

Leçon 10: Freedom to Be Yourself

You are full of wonder, joy and delight. You are valuable and worthy of love. You are kind, compassionate and caring. You know your limits and knowing your limits creates freedom to be yourself, fully and completely in all you do. You are worth honoring and considering in EVERY decision you make. It’s the kindest most compassionate way. Boundaries support, create and sustain your freedom.

Reviews

Probably one of the best courses I’ve ever done here on Insight Timer. So well sequenced and full of insights. Deeply transformative, I’ll keep coming back to it.

I have got much better at saying no as I have got older, but I still allowed people to make me feel guilty. No more! Thank you!

Excellent and kind guidance. I feel better equipped to face the world. Thank you!

Wow, sometimes uncomfortable and just a great course. As a conditioned people pleaser, so many of these ideas seemed selfish to me...but now I understand many root causes for pent up resentment related to not feeling able to kindly requesting these boundaries. Not flattering and rough to admit, but this has all been great and fostered good reflection. Thanks!

I absolutely loved this course. I looked up the course you suggested but it no.longer exists. Please could you do a more detailed course. This has been so helpful and probably the best information I have had regarding boundaries and i have read many books on this topic. Thank you so much Jessica

Outstanding, helpful, practical, and implementable. Teacher was warm and compassionate herself, clearly speaking from a place of “I’ve been there and I understand.” She conveyed throughout a “You can do this!” mindset. I’ve marked this course as one I want to come back to often.

This is an amazing and insightful course. It spoke to my soul and coincidentally happened as I was finishing brain spotting and IFS therapy. It’s a do again and I will be returning to it to help anchor self confidence and boundaries setting. Thank you for such an inspirational piece of work.

A beautifully offered course. Lots of compassion, empathy. I like courses where it's clear the teacher has been there and done the work themselves. Good examples and information. I suspect I will take it again from time to time.

Thank you ! Learned a lot and will practice and remember “ I am enough!” 🙏🙏🙏

Wonderful course. It completely changed my understanding of boundaries since I’ve been blessed to be in safe and healthy relationships. But there was so much I didn’t understand in my life they were leading to resentment. that were the result of me not communicating my own boundaries and I’m going to start doing that today. Not easy, but can see more freedom. and happiness by learning to set them. Thanks Jessica for your wisdom.

A wonderful course from Jessica - all her courses are great. This one is ideal if you need help saying No or you need to look after yourself better, instead of trying to please everyone else all the time. 🙏❤️

This is my second time I participated in this course. I gleaned even more this time. I listened to Terri Cole’s course too, and have concluded that establishing boundaries for myself is at the center of work I do with my therapist.
It (lack of boundaries) answers questions about what I think/do/believe about myself. Paying attention to what I want/am comfortable with is changing my life, for the better. Thank you Jessica.

Thank you. You have a very calming and kind way of presenting the material. It was just what I needed to hear.

Jessica, you are a wonderful human being! Thank you so much for these 10 days.

I get so much value from Jessica’s teachings. I will listen again. Thank you! 🙏🏻💕

Absolutely wonderful! This course is so touching, and each class awakes us for many truths, which really help us to create healthy boundaries. I specially loved day 5 and day 10, as they were what I most needed to hear. I will attentively review all my notes, and cherish all I learnt in this course. I'll remember to be compassionate as I improve my relationship with myself and others everyday, throughout healthy boundaries. I definitely recommend this loving and powerful course to everyone. Thank you Jess for sharing your wisdom!!! 🙏❤️💫

As always it helped me so deeply listening to what you say <3

This course is so profound 🙌 it simplified saying no with ease. Absolutely love and enjoy completing it.

Thank you 🙏✨

I loved how relaxed this was, like having a cozy, safe, trusting conversation with a friend by a fireplace on a snowy winter night. Excellent points in each session. I was hit hardest by the session regarding how saying no to something was saying yes to yourself. I modified that slightly for my situation, which is a version of that, but the concept has been kicking around in my head for days now. It's already created the sparks of a few changes, some things I believe I will be releasing to make room for other things, even if that is nothing at all. Free time is a blessing often overlooked. I look forward to welcoming more of it back into my life.

Thank you for this wonderful course. Highly recommended, and one I may well come back to again. 😊

I see you and the light within you. Be well. 🤲🏻❤🤲🏻

Superb course. The best I’ve taken here on Insight Timer yet. I plan to put it to practice. Thank you, Jessica ❤️