Creating Your Peaceful & Clutter Free Home (Live Recording)

One of the main struggles that many are experiencing is physical clutter. If you are ready to learn how to create your clutter-free home then this session is for you. I am going to create a course on this topic for Insight Timer and would love to know from you what you want me to include on it.

Transcript

You you Good morning everybody happy Monday welcome to another brand new week Buenos dias Claudia hi Kelly.

How are you guys doing this Monday morning?

Are you guys ready for another new week?

I need some positive vibes Who doesn't need more positive vibes Kelly I think we all do so let's get some from each other,

Okay?

Hi Cecilia Hi Amanda Hi Christine Yes,

And all its possibilities yes Claudia good morning Jody Guys what are you grateful today guys?

Love starting with the ball.

Yeah Susan.

I needed to ground myself a little bit That's why I was playing the singing ball Hi,

Sue I have a lot of ideas in my mind And I was I was finding them racing around and I just needed to calm down so that's why Gentle room for the garden yes,

I'm grateful that I found you an inside time.

Oh,

Thank you Claudia.

I Am grateful that you are here Because you guys all of you Every week you guys help me stay accountable to myself And you guys help me Keep researching keep showing up You are my accountability buddy,

So thank you for that Good morning grateful for the big basket of papers.

I just picked from your own garden Susie do you have your own garden because that's amazing We are getting amazing That's such a great way of grounding yourself touching the air Watching the plants grow loving them watering them My wife is the gardener at home.

I help her set up the staff,

But she's the one taking care And she's the one who really enjoys the day today and We are getting lots of tomatoes now Lots of tomatoes lots of beans our bean plan is going bananas I'm grateful for a new week and for your session today.

Thank you Kelly this is a special session that I'm doing today or Monday because I Have already two courses on inside timer in case any any new people here that Didn't come to one of my sessions before are you guys new to my live sessions?

If that's you just say me or yes,

Or I'm new or whatever you want to say I just want to know Nice yody welcome Sue welcome River hi.

I know you from from my course River Glen Claudia Susan Wow a lot of new people okay,

So Guys my name is Emilio Jose Garcia.

Okay.

I am the co-founder of a company called KW Professional organizers and since 2012 I have been helping people Declared and organized their homes and their lives I I attended half of your last life.

Thank you Claudia,

So I Started being present on inside time here.

I think was February this year So a few months ago,

And I found such an engaging community here that I I love doing the live sessions here So I've been doing live sessions every week normally Tuesdays and Fridays And then I also created two courses one course is attending course about self-care Okay,

Improving your mental health with self-care and the other course that I created is embracing minimalism in your life So if you guys are interested in any of those topics,

I think The topic that both topics are good for the topic of today But embracing minimalism is probably the best suitable course before Doing this course that I am about to create And this course that I'm about to create it's to help you create your peaceful and clutter free home Because when we are getting started decluttering our lives Majority of the times people get started with their physical spaces.

Why?

Because it's what you see because home is your is your is the place where you have to go back to relax is your It should be a space of facilities the lifestyle that you want to live And if you cannot relax at home if everything is a mess in your home if you have piles You will never be able to relax You will never be able to do the activities that you want to do Because you will have that constant reminder of oh I have to get to that.

Oh,

I have to put that in this place Oh that thing is out of place Oh that thing is bugging me because I can exercise because I cannot put my math because every stuff is everywhere so there are a lot of reasons why people get started with physical clutter and Just remember that your home is is your shelter is a basic human need And you have to make sure that you create an environment that supports the person that you want to be So this live session today.

I want you guys to share with me What is standing on the way for you to create your peaceful and clutter free home?

Good morning grateful for our shared experiences and wise teacher to guide us to our best life.

Thank you,

Becca So some people I have There is a circle here on inside timer It's called your thriving lifestyle if someone can type it in the in the chart,

That will be great I would really appreciate that in that circle.

Some people already shared Amazing amazing stuff that they want me to include in their courses So I'm happy to share some of that but I would like to hear from you from all the people here in this session Thank you Veronica so much for typing that in so that's the circle that you can join I normally share resources there after my life sessions.

I Share the recording sometimes and I share Courses that I've taken on on inside timer that I loved and you guys can share whatever you want in there,

Too Hi,

Oh serious.

Hi Veronica You are most welcome.

Thank you so much Veronica.

So Feel free to join there,

But I would like to hear from you Okay,

River says it's hard to get rid of stuff when you worry about not having not having it So I may need it someday The just in case Thank You River and by the way River has been a very engaged student in in my course Embracing minimalism.

She has an amazing work.

And if you join the course,

You will see that she has shared a lot of feedback in there So thank you so much River for being such an engaged student there so the just in case It's it's a big one for a lot of people so it's hard to get rid of stuff when you worry about not having it But what do you mean by that specifically River is this stuff that is expensive?

It's difficult to get and and you are unsure if you're going to need it And that's why like what are the feelings and the emotions around that?

Stuff that you are having a hard time If You can be more specific I can then try and help you more and then I will understand better What do you need me to cover here?

Because some people some people keep stuff because they have a mentality of Luck they believe that everything is helpful and it is true everything that you have in your life.

Everything is helpful Everything it can serve a purpose But the problem is that sometimes you don't need it even simple things like kitchenware so in this in these cases River,

I Think the best approach to this is to work on your award right and to really really be specific about What is it that you want to see in your kitchen?

So if you are talking about kitchenware What's the problem?

The problem is that you don't have enough space to keep that kitchenware So you have to too many keep too much kitchenware and you don't have enough storage space.

Is that the problem?

So that the stuff is everywhere in your kitchen and you cannot use your kitchen properly Because there are different approaches depending on on On your needs right if you don't have physical space to store everything that you have Then you have a problem of so it's organized well,

But more than I need Okay,

So you are saying that it's more than you need so I feel that you already know what you need So why are you having trouble letting me go?

What emotions are coming up for you?

It's funny it's normal River we all face these things and I face these things with my own stuff and then my wife needs to come to the rescue and Then question me because I always find a logical reason to keep things We all find logical reasons to keep things Amy says I don't hold but I think it's because I have been homeless before I have anxiety letting go unless I'm giving it to Someone who needs it Amy.

That's amazing.

And that's a great way of Of helping someone else so letting go of things when you know that your things are going to someone else that needs them That's a good way for you to be able to release them with love because you are passing them along to someone else So that's amazing.

It must be luck mentally so River what will happen if you remove those things?

So instead of you letting those things go from your kitchen that you are unsure of Because I will consider that I may be fine that you are still dealing with you are still emotionally attached to So instead of making it hard for yourself to make a decision Could you take all those things that you feel you don't need but you don't feel ready to let them go Could you put them all in a box?

Label them and put them outside of your kitchen in a storage area of your home.

Do you have space to do that?

Because if you do that's an in-between step Nothing,

I will be happy.

Yes,

I can do that.

So please do that I do this with all of my clients anytime we are facing something that they are not ready to let go If they do have the physical space and I always dig deeper with them first Okay,

And we do the session and when we finish the session they are facing stuff that then they feel confident making a decision about But they still face some other stuff that they are not ready yet and when they are not ready yet There must be something in there that you have to deal with an emotion that you need to understand Something you have to meditate on or maybe it's just a matter of time You need to be confident about I have used my kitchen for a full month now I did a miss these things so now I can release them with love and give them to someone else that may use them So if you have the space to do that put those things in a box store them somewhere else Else outside of your kitchen and put a reminder on your calendar to assess them maybe one month from now Maybe two months from now maybe a week from now you set that time line Okay,

And then that's gonna help you then Revisit that decision and then you're gonna check in with yourself.

How am I feeling about this now?

Did I miss it?

If you missed it,

You can go to the box and get it out and put it back in your kitchen If you did not miss it You may feel confident to give it away sell it give it to a family member Whatever you feel don't throw it in the garbage.

Please don't throw things in the garbage if they are still usable Because there are so many avenues that you can explore rather than throwing things out.

Okay.

I love putting a timer on it Yeah,

Absolutely.

It is necessary Okay,

Put a timeline on it and put a reminder in your calendar in your agenda or whatever you use And I recommend using masking tape or putting a label in the box and putting a date on it.

Okay Nothing,

I will be happy.

Yes,

I can do that.

So please do that and then see how you feel after that I struggle with with perfectionist procrastination mentally if I can do it you are just right.

It feels overwhelming I know you're logically this is an unhelpful and irrational belief.

That is That is why I am here.

Thank You Amanda.

I honor you for sharing this.

Thank you so much You are not alone in this.

Okay,

I promise you are not alone in this so many of us face this so many times So I will ask you could you be could you please be?

Specific about that specific thing So what are you trying to do?

What is the transformation that you are seeking?

Is it a specific space in your home?

What are you trying to do so that I can understand more?

Please share that and then I can try and help you.

So Becca says books.

What are your thoughts please?

Becca books,

I Will say what is your frustration around around books?

What Is your frustration about your books what's bugging you about your books Because I I want you guys to notice what I'm doing here.

I'm not telling you what to do because I don't know I Have some techniques I have I have some how-to's and I have a lot of experience helping people in their homes doing this thing But I will not have the right answer for you unless I have a conversation with you And what I'm doing is I'm extracting the answer from you.

I'm not telling you what to do I am going to ask you questions and I will find the answer from inside of you So Becca,

What's your frustration around books?

Is it that you have too many?

Is it that you don't have an?

Adequate storage space for them Is it that you are overwhelmed by the volume?

Is it that you want to read 100 books a month and that's unrealistic What's your frustration around books?

They take up a lot of space self-help ones.

I have no G and get read read.

Okay okay,

So Do you have Becca?

Can you create enough space for those books to store them nicely or you don't have the physical space to do that?

Second question Can you use the library system rather than you having to store all the books in your home?

Because I personally use the library tomorrow.

I'm talking about this book for example,

And I don't own this book.

I Don't own a lot of books because the library has majority of the ones that I need So I would only have here the ones that are very weird very difficult to find I may have a copy here,

But I don't have a lot of them,

But this is your personal choice Do you have enough space to store them?

I have memories of the time.

I read the books although I Will oh wow.

I'm losing the thing.

What's that?

Let me not read them again.

So Are you are you able to are you able to let them go the ones that you are not going to read again?

Are you happy to let them go with love and then if you need to refer to them you can always Go to your library or even buy a copy or borrow a copy from someone Sandy says I clear my house out and put everything in the garage which is now full But cannot seem to face going in there to donate sale give Okay,

So sandy.

Are you happy with how your home the inside of your home looks like now?

Are you happy with the result inside your home?

Like forget about the garage now because what you have done is you have done you have put all the mess in one place that does your garage and That's easy to do the difficult piece is to actually decide what to do with those things So my question to you is like are you enjoying the new home that you have created for yourself?

Are you experiencing?

The change are you happy with what you have created?

I?

Have a room that I still haven't unpacked after moving I want to use the space as a send in an extra closet space Overwhelmed with how to organize a space to hold it all Okay,

So I'm on that you are not sure on how to store things in in in your room And that's a normal feeling so what we do normally with people when I'm helping them is ISS what they have the first thing I do is always I use I Try to get their vision and you have a vision you want to create a send them an X extra closet space So that's your transformation,

Right?

So then We will do a decluttering session with you I will invite you to assess everything that you have and decide what stays on what goes and Once we have in front of us only the things that you want to keep That's when we will assess what kind of space you need.

Do you need a bookshelf?

Do you need?

Shelves on the wall.

Do you need a wardrobe?

We bring stone ideas on how to Organize the things that you want to keep so you see the process we are looking at the things Physically that you want to keep I'm going to measure them I'm gonna see how much space they need and then we are gonna try and find the best solution to store those specific things Okay,

So that's the process that I will follow with you And if for any reason that room is not big enough to store everything else that you want to store in there Then we have to look at other areas of your home or we have to tweak your vision Because your vision is not doable in that specific space so again,

If you are trying to store way more things than Physical space that you have to store them You have to reassess how you are using that space because you have a physical Barrier a physical challenge of not having enough space if you do have enough space I will invite you to optimize vertical spaces in that room by adding shelving by using a wardrobe By using a dresser by using different solutions that allow you to use the space vertically Okay,

And I will invite you to group things alike.

So books with books Clothes with clothes tools with tools and try to create songs like a kindergarten Okay,

I agree with Sandy.

It's funny How often you look at the things you have held on to and can even remember why you kept them?

Yeah,

And again CJ when that happens That's a great opportunity for you to reassess that specific item and then to decide what to do with it.

I Need to look inside why I need to hold on to them.

Yeah,

Exactly There is always a reason inside of you of why you are having trouble because if it's something that you don't care about You will just say donate it.

I don't care about it.

But if you are attached to that thing You need to dig deeper and understand what's here.

What do I need to like that?

Yes What do I need to like embrace?

What do I need to accept?

What do I need to like?

Do with this item because there is something there Maybe you bought that item because you wanted to do something and then you didn't do it and then you have some guilt in there Because you drop the ball You didn't keep the commitment with yourself and then that guilt is coming up and every time you look at that item You feel that you felt Maybe she has reassessing that expectation Maybe letting go of that expectation of that activity that you no longer want to do or maybe you do Want to do it and then you prioritize time to do it You see like you can start going deeper into these things and then make a more confident decision So I hold on to items thinking at some time.

I will repurpose them.

But now my closets are full of future projects I Don Home is beautiful.

So Amazing Sunday So don't I will invite you to do when I do sessions with clients and I'm going through things and projects start coming up What I do with them I keep a to-do list.

Okay,

So I have a notepad with me and I will say okay What's the name of this project?

They will tell me I don't know.

I need to stitch the sweater I need to assemble this piece of furniture.

I need to Fix this electronic.

I need to So I start keeping track of all the projects and then I ask them How long do you think this is gonna take how much time and they will say 30 minutes one hour three hours And what are what are what are the steps that you need to do?

Oh,

I have to go and buy this piece or I have to spend one hour assessing I have to so I keep track of all those things and you know what happens at the end of the session.

I I go back to the list once they have the space finished and the only thing on the floor is there to do projects and There may be piles They enjoy so much the space finish that they say I don't want to spend so much time in this project because they are not meaningful to me anymore So they will pick and choose the ones that they really want to do and they will let go of the rest And if they decide to keep them all we will put them in boxes with labels and we will put a deadline on it Okay,

So I hope this is helpful again.

You need the space to store them if Physically if you are limited by physical space and you don't have enough you have to be more ruthless Because that's the only way for you to create space.

So for all of you living in smaller spaces This decluttering process needs to be more ruthless because you don't have the luxury of physical space So you have to declare it as much as you can you have to optimize every space in your home vertically speaking You have to make sure that you have storage solutions and you have to optimize how you use the space Okay,

So I hope this is helpful me to Decide to read all but no time to read.

I Would like to use my garage my car rather than storage all things I haven't even looked at in a very long time.

So sandy.

Let me ask you a very direct question What will happen if you just call a thrift store and you invite them to come with a truck and they will take everything away How will you feel about that?

I Just want you don't have to do this But I want you to tell me how what what's coming up for you when I say that as truck is gonna come tomorrow They're gonna load everything in the truck and then you're gonna open the garage and it's going to be empty and you're gonna be Able to pack the car in there.

How do you feel?

Is That overwhelming is that causing you anxiety is that causing you relief What what emotion is coming up when I say that?

Your house must look amazing Emilio what right now it doesn't But I'm okay with it.

Thank you for your direction Emilio when starting the car home Do you put things out of the room completely to start with an empty room?

I Will panic too when I say going yes overwhelming.

Okay,

Sandy,

So You saying that it's overwhelming to you.

It means that you have work to do there Okay,

And this is not physical work.

This is mental and emotional Work you have to do it You are procrastinating but you have to do you need to do it Because if you didn't need to do it,

You will say hell yeah,

Take it off.

I don't need it.

Bye Someone will use it right but you're saying no that's overwhelming to me So that means that there is something in there that you have to deal with So you need to honor that you need to allow yourself the time and space to go through these things Okay,

And if you cannot do it alone ask for help I don't know where you are located But there are professional organizers pretty much anywhere that can help you go through this process I can help you virtually to go through the process if you need to Like do whatever you need to do to be able to deal with that mess To be able to digest whatever emotions are in there.

Okay?

Thank you for your direction.

So Amanda you ask You ask if we take everything out of the room completely to start with an empty room it depends Amanda it depends I have a look and it depends how the space looks like it will vary but what I can tell you is that I Will try to find the room that makes the most sense to you the one that's gonna give you the most joy the one that It's gonna be very rewarding visually speaking.

We're gonna be able to make a huge visual impact.

Okay?

Why do I try to do that because by doing that?

My clients messaged me after I say Emilio every time I feel bad I go to that room that we did and I just feel amazing.

I sit there for hours That's what they tell me I go to my basement that is organized and I just relax in there because the rest of my house Is not finished yet and I don't feel wet in it and I love my basement.

It's just everything I know what everything is.

I know it feels so good.

Right?

So I'm trying to get that for you So what I will do is like I would ask you what is the room that you can benefit the most from?

Okay,

And if you tell me that specific room I will look at the room and then I will say are the things that don't belong here that we can clear out That that's the first thing are the things that you don't want and you are for sure I don't need this so I will do a decluttering first.

Okay,

Once I understand what you are trying to create Once I understand the transformation that you are seeking I will invite you to close your eyes and describe to me what you see in that room and Once you can kind of tell me you don't have to be very specific if you don't know yet But you will be able to tell me I want to be able to do this activity I want to be able to feel this way.

I don't want this.

I don't want to see that So I will ask you what do you love from this space right now?

What do you hate from this space right now?

And then what is your vision for this space and then once I understand that Together we're gonna start in one corner of the room and we're gonna do a 360 degree wave I call it the wave because the wave means that we will touch everything in that room Are we gonna take it everything out?

It depends on how big the room is It depends if there is space to work in the room or not Sometimes we set a station outside of the room and I just bring things to the table And then my partner is helping me or vice versa if the room is big Sometimes we work in the room,

But it's very methodical We start in one corner and then I will touch every single thing in that room and I will try to group things together as much as I can Okay,

So if I see clothes,

Paperwork,

Tools,

Books I will try to group things together so that you can see one category at the time That's what I will try to do and I will start with the categories that trigger you the list Okay,

So if I sense that books are very difficult for you,

I will not get started decluttering books I will get started decluttering something that you have confidence with Something that feels good to decide about now So,

Oh yes procrastination.

I cannot face it,

But I don't know why London.

Okay.

Attachment to books started from childhood when there was a lack of time for fun As an adult I'm still not allowing for fun time So this is so important,

Becca.

Why would you say that you are not allowing yourself fun time?

Is it because you have that limiting belief that that mindset from when you were little that is still conditioning you?

Is that what's happening here?

Or do you have that limiting belief that you are not allowing for fun time?

Or do you have someone else in your home that is not allowing you for fun time?

That's what I envisioned one day.

Amanda,

You're.

.

.

I declare it well and it's cripple,

But I know in the back of my mind I am not making a real commitment since it gets boxed and moved into the garage Definitely need to see with the emotional aspect.

Thank you So Sandy,

What's in those boxes?

Are you willing to share what's in those boxes?

Because maybe I can help you a bit further here.

Like you boxed stuff in there.

So what's in those boxes?

You are welcome,

Amanda.

I understand that feeling,

Sandy.

Christine,

Smiley face Okay,

Guys,

Feel free to share like what else is coming up for you when you are trying to declare your home Like,

For example,

Juliana,

I don't know if Juliana is here today,

But she shared how to deal with very old clutter that you have no appetite whatsoever to review and declare it So that's a really good one.

And my gut feeling about this one is like you are describing something that you don't want in your life Something that you feel frustrated about and something that no longer serves you So would you say that she should get rid of that clutter that is weighing her down or would you say that she needs to keep it?

So Susie says motivation to get started Thank you,

Susie,

For sharing.

Would you mind to share like what are you trying to get started doing?

Like if you want to share what do you want to get started doing,

I can maybe help you out a little bit more Move it forward,

Get rid of it.

I say,

Yeah,

Move it forward,

Get rid of it.

Plan to clear clutter on the kitchen counter Okay And how are you planning on doing the decoupling in your kitchen,

Polly?

Okay,

Georgia,

Emilio,

I did so much work and then I was promoted at work and I am so tired on my day off How do I regain momentum so the clutter doesn't come back?

So,

Georgia,

I will say that you have to make the decluttering and the organizing a priority and you have to do it in one go And if you don't have time,

Get help.

Invest a little bit of money,

Get it done so that you go back home to a home that feels great To a home that is finished,

To a home that you only have to maintain Guys,

I sense that so many of you and so many of my clients,

They drag the decluttering process forever And they never get to the final,

They never get to the space that they want and need because they get dragged into the decluttering and they never finish You have to finish it.

You have to declare and finish it,

Okay?

And if you cannot do it alone,

Get help,

Do whatever it takes to finish it I need to organize my apartment but overwhelm,

Face the emotion once and get rid of it soon,

I don't have to Pictures and baby clothes are the hardest for me I have a scanner but I'm afraid to destroy the actual picture,

So many pictures in frames Everything from clothes,

Kitchen,

Equipment,

Furniture,

Home accessories,

Books,

Leisure,

Equipment,

Papers I am self-employed so I have to keep documents for 6 years,

Okay?

Sandy,

I am self-employed too and we also have to keep documents for 7 years But I don't know if you saw it but my filing cabinet is this big Because I have a system,

I don't keep papers,

You don't have to keep pretty much any papers,

You can have all digitized,

Right?

So if physical space is a problem for you,

You don't have to keep the physical papers with you You can have a system where you can keep them digitally But let me ask you,

You mentioned a lot of different categories,

Like why did you put those categories in those boxes?

Sandy,

You said furniture,

Home accessories,

Books,

Leisure,

Equipment,

Like So what is your life vision and how are these things fitting in that life vision?

Like because once you have a clear life vision that you want to create for yourself You know the activities you want to do and you get clear and grounded on that and you commit to that You will go back to those things and then you will be able to decide,

They belong in my life or they don't And if you face a maybe time,

Put a timeline on it and reassess it in a month from now,

In 2 months from now And if it's important,

Make time for that activity,

Make time to use those items And if you find yourself that you didn't,

Reflect about it,

Why didn't I?

Is it important?

Is it relevant?

And you will start getting clear answers then It's just a process,

Sometimes it takes a little bit of time and that's okay Okay,

So Jay says,

I need to organize for an apartment but overwhelm Jay,

Pick one space first,

One space,

The one that you can benefit the most from And try to finish that space and keep the clutter outside of that space When you do that,

You're going to be able to experience that finished space And then you're going to find motivation,

Excitement to keep going with the rest of your home Okay,

That's what I have seen from other people Face the emotion once and get rid of it so you don't have to have that feeling over and over CJ,

Yes,

And sometimes it's not that simple,

Sometimes things take a little bit longer than we want them to take And that's okay,

So you have to be gentle with yourself,

You have to be honest with yourself But sometimes things take a little bit longer than we would like them to take and we need to embrace that too Yes Emilio,

The control issue is harder,

Perhaps it's a common threat among us The control issue,

Why is that control there?

Just think about it,

Why is that control there?

How do you help people decide if they should sell,

Donate?

Many things I struggled to let go of were costly expenses since Covid and dollars is slower It is difficult to say goodbye to those things Amanda,

My question to you is,

Are you willing to spend the time to take pictures of the items Write a description,

Post them online,

Invite people to your home to see them And then invite people to your home to get them out of the home And are you willing to dedicate space for those items to be there until you sell them?

Yes or no?

Is it worth your time to do that?

Yes or no?

Sometimes it is,

Sometimes it isn't When I help people,

Sometimes they know for sure this item is worth my time to sell it and they say this item is not People who don't have physical space and they are overwhelmed with physical credit to the ceilings I would say,

Do you really have the time and the energy to really sell things?

Or do you have to declare your life because your mental health is affected by it?

So there is a balance,

Right?

You have to really,

Whatever you decide,

You need to own that decision So my question to you is,

Are you willing to spend the time that it takes to catalogue,

Photograph,

Sell,

Invite people over And store those items until you sell them?

Yes or no?

And do a little bit of research to find out the price?

If the answer is yes,

Then do it,

But get it done If the answer is no,

Then get it done,

Donate them And if the answer is I don't know,

Then get clear,

You need to decide Whatever you decide is going to be good,

Go with it,

Ok?

Maybe do a sampling first,

Maybe try to gauge which ones are the ones that are the most valuable and which ones are the ones that are not And then again,

If you have the whole day,

You are not working right now and you are at home all day,

Maybe that can be your full time job now Just start cataloguing,

I did that for two and a half years when I started my business We have students here that they move out every four months,

We were collecting things that they were putting on the curve And we were reselling them,

And we were making between $8,

000 and $2,

000 a month from doing that So for us that was good,

Now it's not suitable,

I don't want to spend that time,

I'd rather be here with you guys So for me now it's not worth it to do that anymore,

But at the time it was worth it,

I decided to do it Now I decide it is a distraction for me,

So I don't do it And sometimes I walk past things and I am tempted to start,

But then I question myself Do I want to spend the time,

The space,

Or do I want to create another live session on Inside Timer,

Or do I want to work on my next course on Inside Timer Or do I want to spend more time with my daughter,

And then I own that decision and I decide not to do it So you have to try and do the same thing with you I hope that was helpful,

How about donating things that were expensive River,

The same idea right?

Same thing that I was telling before Get clear on what is your expectation about that item The first thing is emotionally cleaning your energy around that item,

Clear yourself with that item For example if you spend $500 in gym exercise equipment for example to do exercise And you find yourself not using it,

And you feel guilty,

Before you even can deal with that item you need to clear yourself You need to look inside and ask yourself why am I feeling this way,

Ok because I wanted to exercise Why didn't I exercise?

Because maybe you don't like exercising in the basement,

Maybe you prefer to go to the gym So if that's the answer,

Embrace that and say I accept my decision,

It was a bad mistake I made I embrace it,

But I want to move forward with the new decision that serves me better I want to go to the gym because that's an option for me now Or maybe it's like you know what I really enjoy exercising at home but I didn't make it a priority So I'm going to try really hard to carve time every day to go down and work out So maybe that's your new intention and then you are going to keep that item But whatever you decide you have to embrace it,

And if it doesn't serve you,

If it no longer serves you that item Then try to sell it first,

If you can post a picture,

Post it for a price that you feel comfortable with And give yourself a timeline,

And if it doesn't sell then what's the next step?

Maybe reduce the price,

Maybe give it to someone that you will feel well about,

Maybe it's donating it,

Maybe it's like whatever But you have to keep moving forward because if that thing is taking space that you need for other things in your life You need to think about what is the cost of inaction,

Okay?

What is the cost of me not doing anything with this right now?

Because guys,

You only focus on the value of the actual item But have you thought about how much is that item sitting there costing you?

How much money,

How much space,

How much maintenance,

How much energy draining How much feelings of guilt,

Feelings of whatever is coming up for you Have you thought about that?

How much is that costing you?

How much is that item costing you productivity wise?

How much is that item costing you that is preventing you from doing something else with that space?

So start thinking that way too because it's not only about the financial value of the item There is so much more than that,

So I invite you to explore all those ideas and then get clear on what feels good to you So let me read,

There are so many comments guys,

Sorry I'm trying to keep up here If I don't declutter,

How will more new things which will serve me more come?

They need change with time LOPA,

Decluttering is something that's going to happen over and over and over in your life Because every time your lifestyle changes,

Every time your needs change,

Every time your hobbies change You are going to need to revisit your space and you are going to need to declutter and readjust,

Tweak That's something that happens often,

How often?

It depends on how often your lifestyle changes In our case for example,

At least once a year we will declutter,

At least once a year every space in our house Sometimes we don't do all at once,

Sometimes it's when you are feeling frustrated When we feel frustrated with our closet,

My wife and I will say let's book some time to declutter the closet Because it's feeling heavy,

It's feeling like it's not flowing well The shed,

The same thing with COVID,

We change how we use our shed It went from being workspace to being playful space,

To store bicycles,

Bicycle trailer,

Exercise equipment,

Blah blah blah So we need to readjust how we use the shed Now we are working back so we have to readjust again So there is a constant but we are maintaining more than decluttering So that's the thing,

When you have your home working,

You have to keep maintaining it And that maintenance involves revisiting the priorities,

Revisiting the items that you use,

The ones that you don't use And it's not a big decluttering session,

It's like a day to day maintenance So we are going through the kitchen and oh you know what?

Our daughter even no longer uses this cup because she's grown up So that's donation,

Boom,

We put it away So we don't do the whole kitchen at once but as we use the kitchen we are noticing things that are not flowing

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I remember that LIVE & always think of your sage advice in my ongoing attempts at decluttering our home Lovemy to be able to listen & learn again ! ☘️