It's Time For A Change Of Scenery - Weekly Energy Boost

The way we see things can create abundance and flow or lack and negativity. This week, gain insight and tools to shift from evil eye to good eye, and take true control over shaping your reality and changing the scenery around you. Original airdate: 02/07/22

Transcript

Good morning,

Everyone.

Good evening,

Good afternoon,

Wherever you are,

And welcome to this week's Weekly Energy Boost.

My name is Ellie Sheva,

And I'm here this beautiful Monday morning with David,

And we are here to share with you the most practical and powerful tools to navigate the coming seven days,

Whether you are new to the podcast or you've been listening for years.

You know,

We want you to know that the Weekly Energy Boost is a compilation of the most practical,

Powerful wisdom and tools that David and I can come up with to help you steer the coming week.

And inevitably,

That wisdom and those tools are applicable to every situation any day of your life.

And this week we're focusing on,

The title of this week's episode is,

It's Time for a Change of Scenery.

But what we're focusing on today is each individual's ability to shift their perspective and therefore shift their reality.

And this may be a topic that we've touched upon previously,

But this is really the week to exercise that skill,

That talent that we all have.

Now,

Each of us,

To one degree or another,

We have what the Kabbalists call bad eye,

Negative eye,

Evil eye.

We look at people in situations in search of what's wrong with it or what's wrong with them,

And we tend to focus on what's negative.

Now,

I know we'll get in the comments,

I don't do that,

I don't do that,

I don't do that.

The starting point for this conversation today is really to recognize that all of us have it to some degree or another.

And those of us who don't might even have it worse than the rest of us who can recognize and identify it.

And that's really one I think I share often in these shows that it's the hardest thing about being spiritual,

To me at least,

Studying Kabbalah,

Is knowing yourself,

Being self-aware,

Being honest with yourself,

And recognizing this is really who I am.

And only when we recognize who we really are can we work with it.

So I think the first step this morning is to realize,

Or whenever you're listening to this,

To recognize the degree at which you look at what isn't,

What's wrong.

Sometimes we even look for it.

It's a form of self-sabotage.

We explore what can go wrong until it does.

And we're not saying to be blind to the negative,

But we're talking about how what we focus on is actually what we create.

And so our eyes,

Which we say are the gateway of the soul,

Right?

One of the things that the Kabbalists teach is that we should protect our eyes.

We shouldn't look at things that are negative,

Violent,

Inappropriate,

Et cetera.

And at the same time,

What goes out,

How we project with our eyes is something that's very important.

And in a way,

I don't know if you know this,

David,

But I think on our YouTube channel,

The episode with the most views is actually the one about evil eye.

It has something like 24,

000 views.

People really have gravitate towards this topic.

I think people feel victim to it and don't realize that they also create it.

Yeah.

Well,

What I love about this topic is that I have to constantly remind myself also just how much free will I have to create the life that I want.

And we all have free will.

I think that is something that eludes us time and again.

We think that our life is the way it is because of these external circumstances that are happening to me.

And in reality,

The whole world is waiting for you to make a decision in your consciousness,

Which is then expressed through your eyes,

What you decide to see.

But the whole world is waiting for you.

And at any moment of your life,

No matter what's going on,

Even if it looks like you have no free will and the decision has already been made,

You have the ability,

The right and the creator's expectation to choose what you want that life to be.

And the Kabbalists boil it down to one concept really and it revolves around this.

If you choose to see something as positive,

You enter the world where it is and it becomes positive.

And if you choose to see something with a skeptical eye,

With a victim eye,

With a this is bad or it could be bad or it will be bad eye,

You enter,

You literally enter into another portal energetically.

And that is why throughout the day,

You have to remind yourself where you want to be.

Also,

If we go even deeper,

The Kabbalists explain that the sin of Adam that was explained biblically,

Which is a spiritual document,

Explores this whole idea of how Adam represents all the souls of humanity.

So there's a spiritual lesson in him for us.

There's a blueprint there.

And what he did by choosing kind of a negative reality,

Choosing the doubtful reality,

What we call the tree of knowledge,

Good and evil,

He set a precedence that forever we live in the tree of knowledge,

Good and evil.

It's not just evil.

It's not just bad.

There's both simultaneously.

What do we learn from that?

We learn that everything in this world has both.

Everything has both.

Everything has the good and it has the bad.

So what is my choice?

My choice is what you want to choose,

What you want to be connected to.

Sometimes we feel like we have choice.

Sometimes our eyes are open and we feel,

All right,

Well,

I see I got both here and I'm going to do this.

Sometimes the negativity is so strong,

We get immersed,

We get sad,

We get confused,

And we feel that the only choice we have is the bad.

And it's not true.

In fact,

The darker you're in,

The darker the darkness is that you're in,

And it's not logical,

But if you can fight to see the good in that over and over and over again,

The reward is very great.

This is the reward of the tree of life.

So that's the reality you step into as you step out of the tree of knowledge,

Good and evil.

Well,

I think on a simpler level,

We can say that I think when I,

Sometimes when I'm listening to David or when I hear myself talking,

It sounds like we're just trying to ask people in the world to be good people.

Just be good already.

Stop being so bad.

The Kabbalists explain- What's wrong with you already?

Come on,

Guys.

Why do we have to say this every single week?

It's not,

Having this mindset shift and having what the Kabbalists call good eye is not about being a good person or doing the right thing,

Or it's not even about treating others the way we want to be treated.

The wisdom behind it is that when we push ourselves to see and to focus on the good,

We draw goodness to ourselves.

We don't realize that by me looking at what someone else has and wanting it or by me thinking,

Well,

That's never going to work.

That's when the people,

I think we look at other people and we see their business project or their new relationship or whatever it is they're doing and we sabotage it for them.

They'll never be able to manage that or whatever it is.

The Kabbalists say it's not about wishing them well and being a good friend.

It's the more I focus on the negative,

The more limitation I draw to myself and the more I focus on the positive,

The more blessings I create space for.

What's interesting about that is the end of that sentence is actually that before we receive any blessing in our lives,

That test is going to come up.

We'll be shown somebody who has what we want.

This is a question that actually just came up in the chat.

How do you take back evil eye?

She was saying that her friend got a promotion and she doesn't want a promotion.

She wants a new job,

But she felt that pang of jealousy.

The good news is that whenever we're going to receive a blessing,

We'll be shown somebody who our eyes can either take negativity from or positivity from.

If we look at that person and see goodness,

Then we're taking positivity.

We take in that energy and we create more space in our life for that blessing for ourselves.

But if we fall to that naturally human tendency,

We're not saying if you have this issue,

Something is wrong with you.

If you have this issue,

You are normal and we're trying to rise above our normal natural tendencies here.

But if we focus on the negative,

Then we block that blessing from coming in.

It's important to recognize that when you see everybody achieving what you want or receiving what you want,

It's not a bad sign.

It's a good sign.

The question is really,

What are you going to do with it?

That's something to look out for this week.

As your eyes are drawn to the things you desire or other people receiving or achieving what you desire,

Let that goodness expand your capacity rather than shrink it.

I often like to,

As I say all the time,

Ask people what is the learning that has brought them to success in their particular area of their lives.

I love asking this question because I think that people,

Even they hear spiritual concepts from us.

When it's backed by empirical evidence of someone who's done something,

It holds a lot of weight and you also are receiving the energy of the person who went through it.

I think that's also why people tune in and that's why you and I will listen to the same class or session from our teachers over and over again because it's not the content that we're listening to,

It's the energy.

This is why it's called the weekly energy boost and not the weekly content learning.

Weekly study session.

Weekly academics.

The point is you're tuning in to receive the energy to do the said concept.

You're not tuning in to learn anything necessarily.

What is it?

What is the one thing I heard when I asked somebody,

Well,

What is the secret to what makes you so productive?

You're in a good mood all the time when I see you.

No,

I'm not.

I'm not talking about you.

I know.

But you also are.

I think it has to be earned by all of us around you because you fear giving us bread of shame.

But either way,

It's there.

I've seen it.

I've seen it time and again.

So what did this person say to me?

He said to me,

I've learned that in every single negotiation and everything's a negotiation,

I try to justify what they feel,

Where they're coming from,

And really put myself in their shoes and come up with a good reason of why they're doing what they're doing or what negative thing they did to me.

I try to say to myself,

Well,

There's probably a good reason why they did that.

That sounds like a simple thing.

It sounds like a nice thing.

But I'll tell you,

If you can start every relationship that you interact with,

Well,

I could see why he would do that and come up with it and dig to find it because people don't do actions unless they've justified it to themselves why it's positive.

They have more data than you do of why they did it.

It could still overall be wrong.

My point is if we take the time to ask ourselves,

Well,

This person is acting the way they did because of this and because of that.

I probably would do the same thing if I was in their shoes.

He said this was the secret to success because it creates immediate empathy.

It creates immediate empathy,

Which makes people want to work with you,

Which actually disarms people,

Which is how you grow with people.

What doesn't work is when you come hot trying to convince someone of a concept or convince someone of something.

So I know when we teach Elisheva and we teach a class of people or an audience of people,

I think what we try to do,

Doesn't mean we do it all the time,

Is to ask us to realize that the people who are sharing reactive behavior and failings,

I get it.

I would do the same thing.

I would fail miserably if I was in your shoes.

I would short circuit.

I would be chasing.

In fact,

I would be worse.

I would be worse if I was in your shoes.

So I applaud that you've limited the amount of negativity.

You only failed seven times a day.

I'd be failing 15.

And if you can think this way about the people you interact with constantly,

This is a way to see the good.

It's a backdoor way.

It's a hack of how to see the good when you can justify other people's bad.

Is there a difference between bad eye and evil eye?

In terms of the context of how we use it,

I think I would,

If I had to give a definition,

I would say bad eye is me already limiting you by assuming that you're going to fail and fail me.

We call this like a passive evil eye or a bad eye.

Or it also,

A bad eye is my having certainty that things are bad.

This is bad.

It's going to get bad.

It's going to get worse.

Society has shown me such.

I think evil eye is something different.

Evil eye is I want you to lose what you have so that I feel more adequate.

I think that's where jealousy,

Bottom line comes from that.

We feel inadequate when somebody has more than us.

So either something's wrong with me,

But if I could take it away from them,

If they would lose it,

I would feel more adequate.

So for example,

If you have two sisters,

One is maybe a younger sister and the younger sister gets married,

Immediately the older sister is thinking,

Well,

Something must be wrong with me.

I'm not married.

My younger sister is getting married.

So of course she would never wish it.

She would never definitely say it.

She's probably not conscious of it.

But if the younger sister were to have problems in the marriage,

She would feel like maybe she's not as bad as a person because maybe she got married too soon.

She should have waited like me.

It's not funny.

It's not funny,

But it's a good example.

It's not funny,

But it's the negativity of it's funny.

So that's the point.

The point is we all have this kind of evil eye where the jealousy where we wish other people would slightly fail.

Or maybe,

And I see this actually in the investing world a lot,

The people who missed the upwards of the stock market or the crypto this or whatever,

When it fails,

There's sort of a gratification.

You see guys,

Now you're back on my level.

Consolation prize.

I didn't make the money,

But now neither did you.

Now neither did you.

You lost it.

See,

I must not be as stupid as I thought.

I must be pretty smart that I missed that.

Right?

And that's how we all are.

Unfortunately or unfortunately.

So what do we do when we realize we're doing it?

There are many people who are listening today and saying,

Oops,

That's me.

And I don't want to hurt my sister or I don't want to hurt my friends or I don't want to jeopardy.

Sometimes we even do it to our spouse.

That's a great question.

Right?

We do it to our kids.

Do it to our kids.

When your kids get older,

You will see,

They will come to you and say,

Dad,

I have this amazing idea.

Blah,

Blah,

Blah.

Then you're looking at them going,

That's bad idea.

Don't do it.

It's really hard for me to watch you fail,

But I'm going to watch.

That's fine.

I've seen this in a lot of groups,

Different chats.

I mean too many chats,

Way too many chats.

But there's different chats and some of these are like business chats or spiritual chats or whatever.

And I noticed that sometimes someone will share an idea.

And there's crickets.

I remember there's a couple of characters and I love these guys,

But there's a couple of characters where they're always negative about whatever idea you have.

And they always tell you the doomsday scenario of the idea.

Now I always ask myself,

Are they trying to just be educational and helpful or is it that because they don't want to grow and get out of their comfort zone,

They want to,

What's the word,

Dissuade?

No.

When you convince someone not to do something.

Diswade.

Diswade.

Diswade,

I was thinking of a different word.

Diswade you from even making the risk of trying because you might be successful and then I'm definitely left in the dust and definitely I've become a dinosaur.

So it's always negative suggestions.

Every time you say,

Hey,

What do you guys think about this?

What do you think of,

I'll use it again,

What do you think of crypto?

Crypto,

It's a,

Here's evidence of all these things fail or what do you think of this other thing?

Oh no,

That's a scam.

Like right away with the it's a scam.

As opposed to,

The problem is it's not that the content is necessarily wrong,

It's just that where he's coming from is always so I want to destroy ideas so that we all.

Let's just burst the bubble now so it doesn't have to be burst later.

Oh what if,

God forbid,

The bubble works and now you all move ahead and now I'm forced to change my operation,

Otherwise I'm going to be left behind.

You said something else that was really powerful and I wanted to comment on.

Gosh,

I slipped my mind for a moment.

You said,

Well how do we.

Once we've given that negative eye attack,

Even by the way,

Again,

It doesn't have to be active,

Right?

A lot of the time that's one of the challenges with this habit that we have is that sometimes it's very subtle.

Here we go again.

Another idea.

This guy on the chat is thinking,

Another green kiddo who thinks he's going to make a buck.

Let's see what he has to say.

It's very subtle and it doesn't seem malicious but now again,

Now that our listeners are listening and they're saying,

Oh I do that to my fill in the blank,

What do you do to retrieve that or to counter the darkness not only that you put out there for that other person but now we understand we're limiting our own blessings.

That's right.

So what this guy is doing and what we all often do is we start using our logic and our own pain and we start creating these boundaries around people which limits them.

So imagine your child comes to you and tells you,

Dad,

I'm thinking about I want to be XYZ and it sounds like some kind of crazy entrepreneurial idea and you're like,

Look,

That's going to fail.

I've seen it fail and you give them a middle of the fairway idea.

But the truth is what if this person,

Your son,

Is supposed to really revolutionize and now here you are,

The king of Mr.

Poopoo and you just create this wall of poopoo around them because you – and we have to be careful.

Means that that is bad eye.

Bad eye is when you don't have a relationship with the unlimited creator.

When you have a relationship with the creator,

You realize things are new every day.

They're being refreshed every day.

Anything is possible but you also have a channel where you got to be reasonable and practical.

So the real answer to your son would be total detachment from even the fact that it's your son,

Number one.

But number two,

Listen son,

One part of me says this is a bad idea because statistically and even my own life I've seen that it doesn't work.

But there's another part of me that says maybe you are the one that should make it happen.

And my job is to present,

Place on this table as many data points as possible and then as a father to support you and tell you I will love you no matter what you decide.

That is a good eye.

The bad eye is when you come in hot and you're just trying to convince someone to do or not do something.

That means you're limited.

That means you're limited.

I think it also,

Looking at this behavior,

This habit that we all have,

Requires us to look at the origin of it which I think is also very much connected to this week's energy is the force of doubt.

That guy who's on the chat that's poo-pooing any innovation or ceiling shattering attempt,

The truth is he really is doubting himself and therefore he puts doubt into everybody else's soup bowl.

That self-doubt,

I'm not going to be able to compete,

I'm going to be a dinosaur like David said.

I think even when we look at our kids or let's say you have an employee who has this revolutionary idea and you've been in the business so long you know it's not going to work and you don't want them to be hurt.

Sometimes we limit our loved ones because we don't want them to be hurt in the way that we were when we started that relationship.

I can tell you for me personally,

When I was a teenager I went out for one of these,

Make $18 an hour so back in the 90s that was a lot of money,

Doing whatever whatever job.

So I went to the training and what do you think I was going to,

They didn't tell you in the ad what it was for,

What do you think it was for?

Selling knives.

So I had no idea going into the training,

I went to do the training and my parents,

God bless them,

Looked at me and supported me and smiled at me and then lo and behold 20 years later my own child said you know what I'm going to do,

I'm going to sell these knives,

Not kidding,

Not kidding,

Identical,

One of my children,

A boy who shall go unnamed,

It's only,

You have a 50% chance of getting it.

I was like I'm going to sell these knives.

Look at these knives mom.

You have a 33% chance of getting it.

Well my 11 year old is not an MLM yet.

So he's telling me I'm going to go to all the restaurants,

Remember because I used to work at a restaurant,

He used to work at a restaurant so he was going to network through the restaurant and I'm like okay,

You know and smiling and bobbing my head and being optimistic because I knew I wasn't open to hear that this wasn't going to work when I was his age and I know he is not going to be open to the fact that it's going to work and what's more important and this is where I hope everybody is listening carefully,

What's more important is the energy I gave him to shoot for the stars and I kid you not he came back and he said you know what this is pretty ridiculous isn't it?

I'm not going to do this.

I'm going to go for that so and so offered me a job.

I'm going to sit in their office for a few days and see if,

But the point is me and I don't know if those of you who are parents have seen this but if you tell your kids not to do something it makes them want to do it more.

If you don't like who they're dating and you tell them that it makes them like the person more.

They will stick in the relationship longer even though they too know it's not the right person but just because you told them I get a bad vibe David I don't know if you want to.

Did you see the way she looked at me?

I don't know that automatically glues them together for two more weeks.

I'm not kidding.

So that that force of doubt I'm not I don't think it's going to go well and again I bring up kids because or let's say you're you have people on your team you desire their success.

Sometimes if it's your kids even more than your own success you want them to be flourishing you want you don't want to have to support them for the rest of their lives.

You genuinely want them to be successful and you see them walking headfirst into a dead end street whether it's a relationship or job situation doesn't matter.

Be their greatest cheerleader because that actually speeds up the emergence of the truth.

David's laughing it is so true I've seen it so many times.

If you are a cheerleader of positivity it will reveal the truth of the situation faster than if you poo poo and nay say all the way through you literally drag it out and make it even more painful for the other person and therefore for you.

I remember like last week told my like four or five year old I'm like no no don't touch that right before bed and he walked over said no don't touch that.

And so then he started to walk around the whole house for 15 minutes like this.

No no no no no no no no don't touch and he was just like walk around making fun of me the whole night and he was going to his brother's like no no no I'm daddy no no no no no no and he's pretty much just like telling me like not only am I gonna listen to you I'm gonna make fun of you I'm gonna make I'm gonna show you what you sound like and I'm so gonna do whatever I want.

So I thought that was funny.

The other thing is I remember a couple of things and I saw I saw yesterday of course as much as I tried to block out viral videos coming my way they have this like gravitational pull where all of a sudden you could be reading a book and a viral video will pop up in your face but there's one that I had like a lot of views and like a gajillion shares and it was of this dad was talking to his daughter look she was like maybe 15 16 and she was saying dad can I go see my boyfriend spend time at his house and you know come back later tonight or something and he was like he's like yeah you absolutely can give them gives her a hug and he sends her out of the house and then of course like there's the music and the script that says I trust my daughters and I want them to experience toxic relationships while they're with me so that so that they can learn under my roof as opposed to later on going to toxic relationships when I have no power or ability to influence or help.

It was a powerful video like a gajillion shares obviously because people responded to that of yes trust your daughter don't be a don't be this like doomsday dad doomsday dad.

The doomsday dad or the Disneyland dad.

Disneyland dad and then doomsday dad and and you felt the energy that it's true like you give that space to your teenager but but you choose to give the space it's not from negligence it's not from you don't want to deal not wanting to deal with it because if it came from that I don't want to deal with it go then she doesn't have that protection shield when she leaves the house but when it comes from I trust the creator and I do I think I want to help you grow and become your own person while I have the power to do so I thought that was very powerful and the third thing is I realized how I did bad eye yesterday and it's funny because I saw I saw actually how I was wrong I was walking was Sunday and went for a couple hours to walk a show where there's like boots and stuff and went with went with somebody on my team who's a very seasoned expert guide and and I'm more walking and he's like oh let's let's go to that booth there and I'm like nah I'm like that you could tell that that's a waste of time and then he just didn't listen to me he just walked over to the booth said it's talking and shaking hands and whatever and I'm just like rolling my eyes like come on we got to go and he walks back over to me and he's like oh look I learned this and I got that and I'm like and it was nothing that you could see from the booth that this opportunities would come up but I realized he approached it with a hey you don't know you just got to go with an open mind and I was just pooping every booth because it was time crunch and I'm like good bad good bad good bad not being open and he actually you know he saw the opportunity so let's let's take what you did slash didn't do and make it into an assignment for our listeners what can they do this week to make sure that they're not limiting they're not strengthening their bad eye that they're leaving possibilities they're empowering others this is the week because when we do it this week that imprint that's that muscle muscle mass that we develop this week lasts for an entire year I would say because there are people who also say what if you waste your time going to every booth or talking to every person because there's also a time wasting component to it so what I didn't do which I should have done shame on me I should have started the walk by talking to the creator and saying I have no idea what's right and wrong I don't even want to use my own logic or filter or experience to ascertain that I want you to help me and my friend here guide us make the make what booth I need to go to shine and make what booth I don't need to go to look dark and that means see that's not bad I because you're surrendering to the creator and taking yourself out of the equation and I didn't do that and that is the lesson in hindsight that you must ask the creator show me guide me do not go thinking you're smart smart people don't succeed smart people don't succeed people who let go succeed so people who are smart enough to let go no but that's what you just said is huge because it's that even when your child or your or your employee comes to you for advice your part your spouse comes to you for advice if you really want to give them good advice you have to take yourself out of the equation you can't think well how's this going to affect me and what do I want to do about it that's right and so that day like David just gave the secret of secrets take yourself out of the situation ask the creator to be the one to choose the booths ask the creator to show your daughter it's a dead end relationship ask the creator to reveal that the knives are not really an econ not really a way to make a living and get get out of it your your evil eye your your your energy your limitation is not only hurting them it's hurting you all right final word my final word oh that was your final word I loved it it was a great final word my final word is don't be a doomsday dad don't be a doomsday person ask the creator to show you throughout the day what's right and wrong what direction you should go don't try to ascertain it through your own eye because you will be giving bad eye always find what is always find justification as to why so sorry why somebody is doing or did what they did so that you at least start with empathy that doesn't mean you have to connect with them doesn't mean you have to do you know whatever it is they say or want but always look for the justification so you can understand why they did what they did okay I'm gonna I'm gonna add two half points to that and we're gonna end today's episode I think one of the ways that you that helps you not give the wrong advice or not fear or doubt for your own well-being is the recognition that you're exactly where you need to be even when you're the one that needs the advice or you're the one that is being asked for the advice knowing that you're exactly where you're supposed to be and no one can take anything from you right so even though David was pressed for time yesterday he needed to know he should have known that he is gonna meet the people he's supposed to meet no matter what and to be busy trying to manipulate or calculate or strategize it's that's where the waste of time is not the walking around talking to the people and to you have everything you need right now that knowledge that certainty that I have everything I need right now is actually what allows you to expand and grow what you have whether what you have is money love health that we I mean maybe it's time we need to call it the certainty minute in every episode we have a certainty minute today your certainty minute is you know you need to know you're where you need to be and you need to know you have everything you need right now beautiful see you all next week on that note we want to remind everybody to like rate review and share we are reaching the audiences we were reaching only because of our existing audience that grows every week so thank you everyone and we'll see you next week on the weekly energy boost.

Reviews

Interesting talk! I don't necessarily agree with everything that you had to say I think sometimes you can look through rose colored glasses to your detriment… But most of us admittedly are not in that boat