Welcome to this guided meditation for codependency.
My name is Diane.
In this meditation,
We will explore how creativity can help us to overcome codependency.
Let's begin by closing our eyes and focusing on the breath.
As you relax and observe the breath,
Notice how it naturally deepens.
Notice the muscles of your face and neck.
Allow these muscles to soften and relax.
Notice the muscles of your shoulders and arms.
Drop your shoulders and breathe down deeper into your body.
Feel your hands growing warm and tingly with the increased flow of energy.
Feel your legs growing heavy as you ground yourself with the energy of the earth.
Now imagine that you are vacationing on a tropical island.
This island was formed by an ancient volcano,
Which is now dormant.
Thousands of years ago,
The volcano erupted,
Spewing millions of tons of molten lava from beneath the earth's crust.
As the lava flowed out,
It brought with it all the minerals of the earth,
Which solidified into the structure of the island.
Over time,
The volcanic rock eroded into rich soil.
Seeds were dropped by passing birds and washed ashore by the ocean waves.
The seeds sprouted,
And the land was eventually covered with a lush forest.
You were hiking along a trail at the base of the volcano,
And you stopped to look up at the steep sides.
The volcano reminds you of the times in your life when you felt angry.
Sometimes you erupted with anger,
Like a volcano.
Other times you kept a lid on it while you simmered quietly with resentment.
You have learned that anger can be a sign of codependency.
When you are angry with someone,
It often means that you have been codependent with them in some way,
Even if you don't initially see it.
Maybe you have been doing for others what they can and should be doing for themselves.
Or maybe you have taken on more than you can handle,
And the stress is causing you to feel frustrated and irritable.
The volcanic energy of anger is not inherently bad.
It is both destructive and creative.
Anger can help us to see what needs to be changed or destroyed,
Such as our codependent behaviors.
The creative force of anger can bring up realizations from deep inside that enable us to recreate our lives in a wonderful new way.
Our relationships can change from barrenness and stagnation to a lush garden full of possibilities.
The tropical island represents your relationships.
See the plants spreading over the landscape.
Admire the beautiful colors of the flowers,
And taste the delicious fruits.
On the east side of the island,
There is a bay with a coral reef.
The coral provides habitat for many fish and other fascinating creatures.
On the west side of the island,
There is a beach.
Breathe in the fresh ocean breeze.
When you look closely at the sand,
You see that it's made of tiny bits of coral that have been worn down by the ocean waves until each grain of sand is like a tiny pearl.
Feel the silky sand with your fingers.
When evening comes,
You see a gorgeous tropical sunset with shades of purple,
Orange,
And yellow blending together like a rainbow.
These images represent what is possible in relationships.
You can put meaning on the images,
Or simply allow them to work in your unconscious mind.
Take five minutes to create the details of your own island.
Creativity is the key to taking responsibility for our lives and overcoming a victim identity.
When we practice creativity,
We learn that whatever we experience is our creation.
We also desire that our loved ones take responsibility for creating their own lives.
When you value creativity,
You will be too busy creating a wonderful life to waste energy trying to control others or letting them control you.
Then codependency naturally drops away.
Take a minute to set an intention for something creative that you can do.
It may be cooking,
Gardening,
Writing,
Or any other creative activity that you enjoy.
Now it's time to come back from the meditation.
Take a deep breath and feel your body.
When you are ready,
Gently open your eyes,
Stretch,
And come back to the present moment.
