Becoming Irresistible - Love Masterclass W/ Madeline Charles

In this Love Masterclass, Christina talks with love coach Madeline Charles about how to become irresistible to love and partnership. Madeline opens up about her own journey of overcoming insecurities and discovering inner security after years of seeking validation outside of herself - and how this path led her directly to her greatest love.

You'll learn how to build an "attraction blueprint" to transform your patterns in love, and how to turn your insecurities into your “irresistible factor.” We also debunk common dating myths about age, location, and texting conventions while emphasizing the joy and empowerment that come with taking charge of your love life.

For anyone feeling disheartened by dating and a rocky road to love, tune in! You’ll get practical tools to create irresistible confidence, deepen your connections, and enjoy your dating journey. Madeline Charles is a licensed therapist, love coach, and creator of the Irresistible Woman Summit.

Music by Giuseppe Rizzo.

Transcript

Hi everyone,

It's Christina and for those of you listening you probably already know my work on this app that I work with love seekers and helping them heal their inner barriers to love and create a cosmic gateway for love to come to you and so I teach that through meditations on this app through talks through audio courses and today for this dialogue I have a special guest with me she's a dating expert a love coach and a licensed therapist I want to welcome Madeline Charles thanks for joining me to this dialogue hi Christina hi everyone I'm so excited to be here thank you for having me yes of course I really wanted to invite you on here because you know when it comes to the love journey like the more support the better you know I really want to make available an abundance of support to people listening on this app because as you know Madeline is I know the love journey can be quite rocky you know I've said this before no one becomes a love coach who had an easy path to love what do we teach you know we didn't learn anything you know it was just easy right so I'm very excited to have you on so Madeline just to give everyone a little more context here Madeline is the creator of the attraction blueprint and host of the irresistible women online summit and irresistible woman podcast so I kind of wanted to start Madeline I didn't tell you I was gonna do this but actually like printed out some of your story from your website to share it because I as soon as I read this I was like I know people listening are going to relate to what you're saying and it's so resonant with my own journey and what I had to break through so I kind of wanted to start there so that people listening know that they are not the only ones that are yeah feeling this so yes okay so Madeline says I see you because I was you full of insecurity and second-guessing every move should I text first or wait to hear from them should I keep it cool or open up more while I secretly played out every possible scenario in my head I'd go on dates with my guard up trying to keep my heart protected scared of speaking up and being fully seen terrified of being labeled high maintenance I kept my needs to myself I showed up as I thought people wanted me to be until I get fed up unable to hold my truth in any longer and parting ways became the only clear option these patterns plagued me for years I thought I was too broken for real love I started worrying that the right person just what is wasn't in the cards for me I shifted my focus to my job my friends anything to distract me from my deepest desire for a fulfilling relationship totally related actually all this but I couldn't shake the question if other people can have this then why not me so I started a journey of unraveling my toxic patterns understanding why I was attracting the same emotionally unavailable kinds of people taking radical responsibility for my part in these dynamics and healing the deeper wounds that kept me heartbroken insecure and confused it was only after I cleaned up my energy and learned the specific tools for healthy communication boundaries and intimacy that I was able to enter the relationship I've always wanted but never thought possible I want you to know you can be loved for who you really are okay I think that last line is like medicinal to a lot of people listening because that's hard to believe isn't it Madeline when you're like in the throes of it and not like so confused about what's going on yeah absolutely yeah so I thought I thought we could start there you know since so many people here can relate to your love journey could you just tell us more about it you know what that was like for you and how you finally break through and of course the magical meeting moment and yeah how that all culminated yes Wow Christina well thanks for walking me down memory lane there sure Wow I think it is it does kind of take me back to just a totally different reality so yeah my journey was a lot of what you described a lot of people-pleasing and anxious attachment when you think of what anxious attachment is like textbook style you know overthinking second-guessing that feeling of am I too much or not enough it was like what can I do to make them like me all of that was always you know in my orbit I was always attracting people who were telling me they couldn't give me what they I needed they were hot and cold you know never really ready to like fully commit and it was so painful to think like what is it about me like why are other people around me getting this right and yet I'm I'm finding myself in these same familiar patterns and there was this moment of just like rock-bottom I had been pining over this man who would give me crumbs and you know just enough to kind of keep me drawn back in and then I get fed up and then he'd send me some like really you know clever text that was like oh like just what I needed to like it sucked back in you know and so I was kind of in that dance with him for over a year and I had this realization of like he's just never gonna pick me like he's never fully gonna Wow be what I need and I started seeing the ways in which I had been abandoned my abandoning myself in the process of really putting him on this pedestal fantasizing over him yeah and just how much like suffering I was creating for myself and so I remember this like real turning point moment of I pulled up like a you know a word doc and it was just like I titled it I'm sorry I love you and it was really just this kind of like forgiveness letter to myself of like oh wow these are the ways in which how you've been really like hurting yourself and and this it doesn't have to go on and so here's my commitment to myself moving forward here's the ways in which I'm gonna decide that I don't find myself in a similar pattern when I'm not gonna accept any longer and it really was this like declaration for myself and that was a moment where I found the sense of inner security that I had been looking for outside of myself and it was like oh my gosh of course like it's been here the whole time Wow I've been you know waiting to be chosen but I get to do that for myself right now and so nice I was a pivotal moment of really starting to see things more clearly where it was like oh you're not interested or you're not following through I don't think that works for me yeah things that I used to tolerate all of a sudden it was like you know I think I'd rather be single than put up with this and so as I started building that confidence and self-worth I started really enjoying my life more you know going out to things solo and just wanting to connect in my community have fun and something interesting started happening I started getting attention from people in really unsuspecting places like at the office at my yoga studio you know places where I was just kind of being myself not necessarily seeking out anyone but it really started telling me okay I've got this energy about me that is communicating to others I'm safe to come towards you know I'm actually available mm-hmm and having kind of that radiant warm energy that maybe you speak to your listeners about you know that can really help others detect like oh you're someone I want to come towards and be curious about so in the midst of doing all of that I did get on online dating and for me it was like totally my type you know I actually found my now husband on there oh and I love that that's part of our story because when people ask how'd you guys meet and I say online dating it's just another vote for how that method of connecting with people can really work yes yeah and so I can share more about you know how things were set up differently with him than other partners but yeah that's kind of been my journey in a nutshell certainly there was coaching and you know other supports along the way that were able to show me my blind spots help me look at my relationship with my parents and my inner child and you know all the different factors that were at play but yeah really kind of drawing that line in the sand moment of like I'm just not available for this anymore it was so empowering and that's something that I think everyone has available to them and and then it's not a one-and-done thing you know it's this constant evolution of like okay I'm raising the bar again and again and so for everyone listening even just an invitation around what's that next up level and evolution that's available to you right now and I I really love how you're talking about it right there because it really is a process right and the more we can see it as a process and not just sort of running towards a finish line like the more joyful the whole dating process is and there was actually a lot of empowerment in your voice when you're talking about that right you learn how to what I call it like honor your know right just really like honor your discernment and just the power that gave you and also that brought you more like solid in yourself right and when you became more solid in yourself then you became more magnetic and I feel like what you just addressed is sort of like this sweet spot and dating that I love to help people to get to as well where you actually start to enjoy it like you are you actually start to feel like I know how to do this you know I know how to say yes I know how to say no and I know how to be okay with saying no and not you know feel like I'm gonna be missing out or feeling like this is my my only hope for love right but just just sort of knowing what feels good to you and what doesn't and then honoring that so I feel like that's really like music to everyone's ears that's listening amazing yeah yes yes I want to hear you said I you could talk more about how it was sort of set up differently to you know work differently with your now husband so I think I think the listeners would probably want to hear that too absolutely and so I and my work with people I really love helping them look at how they can turn their insecurities into feeling irresistible and so yeah I found for myself and a lot of the people I work with is those insecurities am I too much am I not enough all of that it creates a lot of shame and then we start to get into this like weird performative thing and so when I attracted my my husband it was like okay I'm gonna just play with doing things differently I was at that point like you were describing Christina where it was like this feels low stakes like let's just have fun and see what happens so I actually asked him out first on the app you know and he said he was busy and I still went to the thing anyway by myself you know and so it's like all of the things that you often hear in the dating advice of like you know let the other person come to you and all of that it's like I kind of just did not even have that in my awareness was just like hey I'm going to this thing you want to come no no big deal and so then as we did start dating there was a lot that was coming up feelings wise and rather than stuffing it down trying to act cool act like it wasn't happening I chose to just lean into it and so I would say hey I feel really nervous sharing this but you know I'm kind of curious like are you dating other people they're kind of like what how are you feeling about things there's a point early on where he has a friend who was a female and I was kind of jealous I was like hey do you guys like have anything I love her there's nothing there but you know it was this moment of like I don't want a name that like I'm feeling a little like a little jealousy here and I had never ever given myself space to do that and in all those moments it did feel a little bit high stakes of like oh my gosh this is a moment I'm gonna get rejected but I had to remind myself wait you're not self-abandoning so right say the thing it gets to be imperfect and maybe I'm gonna fumble over my words a little bit but what I found was the more I leaned in to those moments of opportunity for intimacy a stronger connection became and it was yeah like okay like this is what I've been missing and so Wow really being able to choose yourself after chronically feeling unchosen yeah was significant and so yeah that was the foundation for us that was a huge shift for me I love that and you know what cuz I was curious about that part that you said like how do you turn your insecurities into something that makes it irresistible but the secret is becoming more vulnerable like using your insecurities to become vulnerable in a really grounded way like self-assured kind of way like I'm taking a stand for myself and like how magnetic is that you know you know that kind of confidence right is and and also like what I like to tell people is like it's also like a perfect filtering moment if it's not the right person right because like when you share because a lot of this is just kind of seeing who feels emotionally safe right when the bond is building like you've been describing and something's not feeling right yeah then when you open up and you see how they respond that tells you a lot about the person you're with you know and so from what you're describing every time you took that risk and opened up it seems like it brought you closer right and it brought you more clarity that this is someone who's aligned for me this is someone who can meet me where I am yeah I think that's a really great story like vulnerability like becoming this bridge to deeper connection and I think that's important for people to hear too because I think a lot of people listening can relate to those same insecurities that you just named I know I did on my path and it's sort of like the instinct is to sort of like hide that you know shut that down and if something doesn't feel right on a date or with someone then to sort of catalog that and maybe start keeping like a negative file against the person right but what you're describing is like very effective conscious communication so I love that that was the bridge yeah yeah and I appreciate you just said effective conscious because and I was talking about vulnerably sharing I don't know if anyone else listening can relate but I certainly previously had moments of a little like crazy girl you know emotionally reactive like yeah sending you know really long texts just like yeah yeah that nuance there I think is like you know having those tools to be regulated resourced of course you might still feel the butterflies and all that but yeah but being able to know like why am I sharing what I'm sharing am I gonna be okay no matter what happens after this yeah having a little bit of that tact like that was that kind of difference I just wanted to name that as well yeah no I love that right the authentic communication is like it's more than sort of seeking your mind but it's doing it in a really soulful way that like that opens a dialogue you know because there's a lot of ways if we bring some of that blame energy into it that the dialogue just gets shut down right and dating it's like I see it as this laboratory you know of exploration of getting to know people right so you want to kind of explore how you can open up that dialogue you know instead of shutting it down so I feel like there's like a lot of like good nuggets that you share there that would be like super helpful I know I it's it really reminds me of my path to meeting Darren I actually met him on a meditation app it's like it's like so perfect and we're talking on one right now yeah and I like that you met on a dating app because I know those get bad you know rap sometimes and other people meet people in real life so like there's just so many avenues you know that we can open up and I feel like cuz I had moments to where I spoke up with Darren where it was really hard like I remember early on when he he said you know I really like you and I like I was not used to that like just someone saying that to me so openly and I felt like I was like taking bricks out of this brick wall and I was like so hard to actually you know like get get the words out but I think that did actually help you know bring us closer so I love yeah I love what we're talking about here and I think it's so important for people to hear and also I know you were talking about attachment styles and I do feel like probably a lot of people listening you know identify with that insecure attachment style a lot of love seekers have that and one of the things that is sort of resonating with me you know that I like to teach people is like you make yourself your object of attachment right like if you become your own object of attachment then the risks don't feel so scary right if like the person you're dating is automatically your object of attachment absolutely yep yeah turning that focus back on yourself be able to really like tend to yourself keep yourself care up I know a lot of times people that have that insecure attachment it's like it's easy for their needs to go out the window when they have someone they're excited about or even just day to day in life you know kind of absorbing the needs of other people and so you really keeping yourself top of the priority list yes it's gonna help you have better access to your intuition feeling more grounded all of that good stuff that gives you that kind of clear emotional filter to know like what is happening how do I feel about it what's my best next move absolutely and I feel like also not running your energy into the ground with dating you know being very selective you know kind of about who you're opening up to but also what you described it seemed like it just became easier because you were so grounded in yourself and had that sort of warm approachable energy that it just kind of became more of an effortless process you know I'm imagining of course dating also I mean always takes input right and effort but it does start to feel easier when you can get into that sweet spot so let's dispel some common dating myths you already dispelled a few like don't you know don't ask the person out and and the fact that you were like okay you know you kind of gave him another chance okay maybe you just was busy you know that it didn't like become like a big thing you know so let's dispel some more yeah I love busting myths because I find that you know in the dating world like they're just so prevalent and like really ingrained and so I think anything we can do to just help people feel more empowered and really you know look at the things that hang them up and are those real so for instance like age and location I think are two of the biggest barriers that are you know perceived for people mm-hmm and especially location you know like everyone always thinks that their city is like the worst place to meet others everyone says yeah big city and totally and then you know there is that messaging that as you get older the pool is smaller which just stinks you know and so I want to remind everyone that there is a confirmation bias that we have in our brains and we're always gonna find what we're looking for so I like to help people question okay you know when you stop looking for excuses and reasons why it can't happen that's where you start to see possibilities that have been available the entire time and so yeah everyone's tends to think that they're uniquely disqualified from having lasting love but when you really come back to this place of like okay I'm in the middle of my story I decide how it ends this is not the end point so let me actually get curious about what do I get out of saying it's too late or that there's no compatible people left where I live like does that kind of make me a little bit comfy because then I don't have to challenge that and step out of my comfort zone sure you know so sometimes we really are risk-adverse of course as humans and especially as insecurely attached people and so you know being willing to go all in and be like I just want to see what would happen if maybe this wasn't actually true let's just see let's just play around and find out allowing yourself to experiment it doesn't mean that you're forcing things and you're you know pushing things along but there is a commitment to yourself yeah that you're willing to go beyond your perceived limitations and then that which is again open so much up and the other myth I want to dispel is this whole fairy tale idea of like it's just gonna happen when it happens and you know when you least expect it and it's such a passive so cliche I know yeah so cliche when we love that was true and certainly you know we can find stories of that but overall you know Christina you had mentioned like being a love seeker like it's an active approach and so taking that more passive way about it I find it to be a little bit disempowering so instead it's like you know I'm actually the concert conscious creator of my life I'm going to be the one who looks for opportunities to connect be willing to be surprised be willing to be proven wrong I like to talk to people that you know are kind of midlife and above about what if you actually became more malleable with age more fluid instead of this kind of rigidity and being like set in your ways and this is just who I am and if the opposite were true what if more became available and so I'm just kind of flipping all of this on its head and what I've seen to really support that is getting in community where you're shown what is possible so whenever I have people that are like all my friends are saying you know it's so rough out there and it's like okay okay yeah but like what have you got in community with others who were like hey like things are actually working and I'm feeling good and I'm feeling more hopeful and inspired than ever and you know so much is opening up for me so just a reminder of like who you spend your time with and like what you're consuming around this really matters being curious about how some of these perceived barriers might be a way to just kind of keep yourself safe challenging that for yourself yeah and again when you see those examples of oh you know someone finding love in their 70s oh you know someone you know finding love even with like chronic health stuff or being widowed or whatever it might be you know some of these challenges that people sometimes think are their hang-ups it really starts to challenge like I mentioned in my story that you read it's like you know if it happens for them why not me like really critically asking yourself that and no longer seeing yourself as separate yeah but as you know an extension of just kind of like this universal collective that we're in of like okay there's nothing that is available to them that I can't access mm-hmm you're really touching on a lot of things that we talk about a lot and in my community here and one is like this story that a lot of us have of being left out of love and I know I had it big time right and it's like when I believe in society it feels really real it feels like a fact you know you know it feels kind of unmovable so I love your approach of just kind of like getting curious about that you know because like in meditation there's a big concept called beginner's mind you know like what if you go into it with like a beginner's mind and you feel like what if everything I believe or I think I know isn't actually true like what would that be like you know and going into like questioning your assumptions about even how to meet people or who's gonna be at the places you are gonna be at you know like for example like with the women I work with very much into like meditation and yoga right and if they date men they'll be like with the there won't be any men in the meditation class or in the yoga class right but then if you open up it's like how do I really actually know that right how do I how do I know there's not going to be you know some you know someone there who could actually be the right person for me so I love the constant questioning and yeah I call that the subconscious payoff right so what are you getting from kind of getting stuck in an old belief and yes comfort safety security is is a big one right so I feel like that's why it's so important to start with what you started talking about having that secure connection to yourself because you need that in order to step out of your comfort zone so yes yeah I love that and also I think it's so important what you said that it is an active process because I think there's you know in our culture there can be a lot of shame around being a love seeker and people like try to hide that you know it's like people fear that they're going to be regarded differently as like the single person right but it's so powerful to actually like stand in your power right and name it yeah like love is something that I want and it's something that I'm going to be you know going after and and and that I think can be very attractive in itself yes oh my gosh I I love that you just mentioned that like I said yeah like I've been saying like power and community you know getting around others that are on the same path yeah I'm gonna lift you up that are gonna normalize like there's nothing wrong with this you know and hopefully and hearing your work Christina and my story like it just provides more data points for people yes yeah I love that absolutely you have to be able to sort of see it right and and know that it's possible so you have to be talking to people who are on the other side of their love story as well as people who are on the path and following that same philosophy or a similar philosophy as you right because that's what kind of keeps you strong on that path so I know you how you've developed this attraction blueprint process that I'm sure people here would love to hear about like what what is that how do we develop our attraction blueprint and put it to work for us yeah so this was kind of like when I think about what got me from you know from there to here yeah my love journey I kind of reverse engineered and I now have this kind of three-pronged methodology approach and so it helps people identify what is their kind of default attraction blueprint type it very much does incorporate attachment styles but then it also looks at kind of like a more macro scale of like you know what does it look like for you to for instance I work with a lot of women but this applies to everyone what does it mean for you to be like a woman in the world you know what are some of those like messages you've received around you know however that looks for you just around body image a societal norms you know gender roles all of that so it helps people kind of put the pieces together to say okay it's not just what happened in my childhood but it's everything that's been kind of accumulated since then and to present and from that starting point it's like okay now let's make the journey of becoming more secure so with that we focus on embodiment meaning nervous system regulation that's a huge component like dropping below the neck into your body being able to have those vulnerable conversations in a way where like you know that you can hold yourself through whatever outcome happens so that's a big big part energetics so I love working with you know that kind of polarity dance that we can get into when we're in connection with someone really getting comfortable both giving and receiving feeling at choice being relaxed and joyful you know on the path to love like we're talking about I mean yeah it has its challenges for sure but how can you approach it in this way of like I'm committed to myself and I'm committed to this love vision that I'm holding and I'm seeing this as a sacred journey that I'm going on and I'm willing to be an active participant in that for as long as it takes you know and being able to kind of pick yourself back up and be a resilient dater and then emotional intelligence is the the last one is this is where we do that inner child healing we really what I call like mine the past for gold where you look back and you say what are the things that have made me feel like love was out of reach or you know not meant for me and how do I reframe that so that everything that seems like a past hang-up or pain point actually gets transmuted into something that is a strength of mine and is a unique part of my story that someone's going to really cherish because I'm also seeing it that way yeah and yeah and then that final piece of that is you know really kind of getting into that conscious creator mode like I mentioned where you're not just letting the past and that kind of past identity play out into the present and be dictated into the future which is what a lot of us do but if you're listening to something like this chances are like you have that awareness which is amazing and so it's then like okay I'm going to you know really decide how do I want my future to be and again do that reverse engineering process I'm gonna allow myself to get my hopes up you know what a radical idea in the dating world like I'm gonna myself feel surprised by life because I'm expecting to be supported I'm feeling did to something greater than me and so I know that when I take these steps that feel courageous and stretchy and vulnerable I'm gonna be met with that best next step it's gonna be revealed to me as long as I keep myself in motion and I'm going to have those tools as triggers or you know things pop up we be able to you know reach into my toolbox handle them and keep going yeah oh my gosh I love that there's like so much gold in there about you know making your like taking identifying your kryptonite right and then making that your superpower instead you know like there's something I feel like that's so inspiring for people to hear that you know these insecurities we have are not something we have to hide or like push under the rug but it's like they're telling us something important about ourselves and how we can transform that into a gift where I went to healing school there's a lot of talk about the gift in the wound right so it's like finding the the gift in the wound and making that your superpower with dating I also love what you said about just making that dating path joyful right because otherwise yeah why do it I have one of my current coaches Kate Northup says like how you do it is what you get right so it's like the more joyful you can be on your path to love than the more joyful that union is going to be for you as well and also like what you said and I think this is so hard for women especially because there's so much messaging there about age right but this feeling like I can be here as long as I need to be I'm so comfortable on this love path on the stating path I'm getting so much from it I'm opening up you know whether or not it goes anywhere with this person I'm discovering more about myself I'm meeting new people that I could just I can just kind of coast here you know and when you get to this place where you can kind of coast and not worry about time running out you know or getting too old or have to get into your person like at a certain time that's when the magic happens that's when like for me it was like whoosh you know these like amazing people came in and and my husband Darren was one of them so yeah I love that and I love that you lay it out like a blueprint process you know because it makes it so accessible for people to follow like you just go through the steps right and then you know you become irresistible which is that I know another one of your key words and that's that's kind of one of the last things I wanted to ask you about you know because you have such a focus on becoming irresistible so one of my questions is like what is it about this work that really makes you come alive like for example I know you run this irresistible woman online summit so you're featuring like a dozen or more experts to talk about love and becoming irresistible I know you invited me to talk this year so thank you for that and I know this event is like a labor of love for you so like what was your inspiration behind that and why are resources like this so needed for singles who are seeking love oh my gosh so good so yeah this is actually our tenth season of putting this free resource on which is incredible and the reason that I'm so passionate about it is because when I was first deciding okay I'm ready to make some changes in my life I came across the same type of resource my friend was like hey I'm following this coach that's putting this thing on and I was like cool let me check it out and every day I would listen to the new interviews that were released I'd be going to my walks and following along and it was just this like portal of oh my gosh there's you know all of these incredible people that I'm learning from and listening to and you know I ended up finding my first coach through that process and and that just catapulted so much for me and so just thinking about like how much of a gift that was for myself and being able to now like pay that forward for other people and imagining you know thousands of women around the world tuning in listening from you know wherever they are going on their walks doing their dishes whatever like that feels really fun and I think that that you know to follow up on your first question like what helps someone become irresistible I think it's honestly things like that like I think that that's that spark moment of I think something can change for me I think that this is possible I think this could work because you see all of that evidence like we're talking about gathering the evidence you know in the direction of where you want to go and here is this you know gold mine where it's like okay I kind of can't keep saying the same story to myself anymore because I now have so much evidence that the opposite is true and so when you start to have that kind of spark then it's like okay yeah I can't unsee it yeah and and then you start to like we were talking about ask yourself like what am I getting out of these stories and you know feeling feeling hopeless perhaps around love you know what if I allowed myself to feel good what if I allowed myself to have fun you know what if I don't have to wait until I'm partnered to have those experiences and those feelings what if that's available to me right now yeah and again like once you start that inquiry it's really hard I find to keep going back to the old stuff because you now know that a different way is possible and then it's like okay you know I want to pick the path of ease I want to pick the path of joy I want to pick the path of pleasure and so if I feel myself getting down I get to remind myself that I have that choice yeah to come back to what feels good oh I love that and when you talk about choice it just feels so empowering we don't have to feel like at the mercy of these sort of like big emotions or old stories or beliefs inside of us and yeah I agree like free resources are amazing and when you're on this path and you know on this path there's a lot of free resources and great coaches too and you know so excited to have you as our as our guest coach and expert today so yeah I would say everyone listening just like really soak this up like soak up all the free resources that are available to you on this app all the wisdom that can help you like stay stable on this path so alright Madeline I have one final question here and I think this is a good one that everyone's gonna really love just to wrap up our conversation so what can the listeners anyone listening do today to become more irresistible with love what can they start with what's one baby step oh so good yeah I think today is something everyone can access is really starting to romance our life you know and so this might mean that you're pulling out that thing in the back of your closet that you know is a little bit dusty but you love you've been saving for a special occasion you know and you're just gonna go to the grocery store and feel amazing in it it might mean that you put on your favorite playlist and you you put aside a to-do list for a few minutes and you let yourself dance around it might mean that you drop into a meditation and you know let yourself feel connected to the love that is available all the time kind of that universal collective love like feeling that come towards you you know might be getting into nature any number of things that just raises your vibration that is the key and it's so simple I know but we often don't do it you know this is yeah we talked at the beginning about like prioritizing yourself yes that's part of being secure it's like I'm at the top of my to-do list you know like and so I think the more you can pour into yourself and make that this new standard that you have you're gonna see people are gonna start to notice they're gonna say hey something feels different about you hey I can't put my finger on it but your energy is great you're gonna see people are gravitating opportunities are coming towards you things are gonna feel different and it's just I always say like we don't do these things because you're good trying to get something from it it's just a beautiful byproduct of you coming into that higher vibrational state so super simple but I think it's just a great reminder for everyone oh I love everything you listed cuz it's so actionable right it's like yeah where's something awesome and amazing to the grocery store you know I have a six year old daughter and like this is what she does if she wants to wear like a sequin and like fabulous skirt to like the playground she's gonna do it right so it's like accessing that permission right to make yourself feel really good I love your reminder just like you know dive into meditation and connect to that universal love there's so many ways and it's just a matter of just like committing to that right like making yourself I love that expression just putting yourself at the top of your to-do list yeah so and thanks for like sparking our creativity here about how we can become more magnetic and irresistible and then also that reminder that we do it just for ourselves right we do it to light ourselves up so we don't have that seeking energy right but more that sort of like just joyful energy around us so Wow so many gems Madeline thank you so much for this conversation I think it's gonna be really uplifting and expansive to everyone listening so thank you again for taking the time to be with me and with this dialogue today oh my gosh I've had an absolute blast thank you again for having you Christina yes of course and everyone listening I hope you take one of Madeline's suggestions so I'm gonna throw out a challenge to you so if you try out one of her suggestions that she just gave you at the end for becoming more irresistible then leave a review or a reflection and just tell me how that went and Madeline I will pass that on to you so you can see what all our little love experiments are a little love experience that are happening here so thank you for listening and I look forward to being with all of you in our next connection here all right take good care

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“Removing that seeking energy.” so powerful! Many great insights in this discussion.