The Art Of Expanding | Creating Space For What's Coming

In this episode, we talk about holding the energy of what’s coming (instead of pushing it away!). If you’ve ever felt excitement around a dream only to shrink, self-sabotage or pull back, this conversation will support you in creating the inner space to receive.

What you want is not bigger than you – IT IS MADE FOR YOU. You have the capacity to hold it, live it and embody it and this episode of the podcast will show you how to do just that!

Please note that this episode does contain course language and may not be suitable for younger audiences.

Transcript

Welcome to a very,

Very special episode of today's podcast.

We are doing the thing live for the first time,

Which is really,

Really cool.

So thank you all for being here.

And if anyone has any questions that they want to ask,

They can ask in the chat.

That's what it's there for.

And there will be time at the end of the call to get some live coaching.

And yeah,

Today's topic is going to be a good one.

So I'm going to give a little bit of a backstory and then we are going to,

Yeah,

Today is going to be just like every other episode of the podcast basically,

But you can engage directly with me if that's something that floats your boat.

So today we are going to be talking about the art of expanding and really welcoming in the energy of more.

So why is this important?

I mean,

Okay,

I think that there's a little bit of backstory needed.

So I need to kind of take,

Yeah,

I need to take a step back here and go over kind of what I've experienced lately.

So hang on,

Let me get a little bit more comfortable.

Okay.

So I've experienced a lot of things at the end of 2025,

I experienced what I am affectionately calling a quantum leap.

Now,

If you've been here for a hot minute,

You know that,

Uh,

I just don't really care about quantum leaps.

I just don't really care.

I think that in the personal development world,

We talk about them a lot.

We are almost like blindly chasing after them as if they're some Holy grail.

Um,

And I don't think that they are.

I think that in order to have a quantum leap,

You need to have done the work up until that point.

Like you need to have gotten to that space.

And so I feel like I experienced a quantum leap.

I am immensely grateful for that experience and it has changed the trajectory of my life.

I can feel it.

I can feel very strongly how much this has changed the way that I feel about myself,

The way that I feel about my life,

The way that I feel about my business,

The way that I want to move in the world.

Like there's a lot of shifts that have taken place because of this thing,

But without all of the time and energy that I had put in before,

Without showing up and doing the work and putting myself in the energy of it in the first place,

It would have been very difficult to get to this point.

But now that I am here and I've had this experience,

Something has shifted.

And what is curious about that is this kind of discussion of,

You know,

New levels,

New devils.

So what do I mean by that?

So,

You know,

A lot of times,

Again,

You know,

People pray for and they hope for,

And they're all about the quantum leap.

But then when you get there and things have shifted,

It's like you're onto the next,

Right?

Now there's something else that you're wanting to kind of like work on and focus on.

And so now that I'm in this space,

This energy,

My baseline energy has shifted.

I am moving forward in a completely different way.

I am moving towards something,

Um,

With like a different energy and a different,

How can I say this?

Give me one second,

Guys.

I'm just going to think for a second.

I mean,

Okay.

I feel very clearly that there is a line in the sand here,

Which is pre this moment.

So pre quantum leap,

Post quantum leap,

It's feels very distinct and very defined.

Now that I am in the post quantum leap space and I am very clear on what it is that I want and where I'm going,

I am coming up against this kind of like,

We're not calling it obstacles because we don't do that here.

Like we're not creating problems where there are none.

Let's not make something,

Let's not make an actual mountain out of a mole hill.

Like it's not about that.

But like when I've noticed that whenever I get excited about where I'm going,

What I'm focusing on,

What I'm calling in,

What I'm dreaming about after this happened.

So all because it's,

It's a new level,

Right?

Like I feel like I have moved to a new level.

I'm not under any circumstances moving backwards.

I'm not able to move backwards.

That's how it feels.

And when I think about moving forward and like,

I get excited and there's a lot of like kind of intense energy around this thing.

I find myself pushing the energy away,

Which is kind of boring.

And I'm like,

Okay,

I'm borderline ridiculous in all honesty.

So what do I mean by that?

Okay.

I'm thinking about my next level.

I'm thinking about where I want to go.

I'm getting excited.

And then all of a sudden it's like my system can't handle the excitement.

And I'm like,

Holy shit,

Holy shit.

And I'm starting to like push it away.

Okay.

I'm starting to push the energy away.

So what we need to talk about here today is the art of expanding.

So the art of creating this space within ourselves,

Within our bodies,

Within our minds to hold the energy and to allow the new thing that we're calling in to find a place to land.

What do I mean by that?

Okay.

We want to expand our,

Our energy.

We want to expand our auras.

We want to create space within our bodies,

Within our nervous systems to hold the new level,

To hold the new energy that we are calling in.

We need to give it a space to land,

To be,

To enter into our lives,

To integrate into our bodies,

To integrate into our minds.

So as I'm moving forward,

Because I find I'm sort of like,

The word that's coming to mind is overwhelmed,

But I don't love that word because I think it's like inherently negative.

And I don't think that it's,

It paints an accurate description of what it is.

But when there's like this influx of positive energy,

There's this influx of excitement.

There's this influx of like,

Holy shit,

I'm moving towards the thing that I want,

Right?

When I get to that space,

That energy of the thing that we are calling in needs to have some place to go.

And so we need to work on expanding our system,

Whether that be our nervous system,

Which like is totally a buzzword.

We are obsessed,

Obsessed with talking about our nervous systems right now.

It's the new narcissist.

But yeah,

We're obsessed with talking about our nervous system,

But it's true.

We do need to expand our nervous system so it can hold space for that.

We need to expand our way of,

When I say expand our minds,

What I mean is that can mean there's so many things actually.

So we need to expand,

We need to open our minds.

Number one,

We need to be really open minded.

We need to be really open to letting things unfold however they unfold without putting our hands all over it.

We need to create like space in our minds for a new reality,

Right?

So we also need to be telling ourselves a new story about our capacity,

Telling ourselves a new story about our nervous systems and what they can handle,

Telling ourselves a new story about what we're capable of,

Right?

We need to upgrade our mindsets to not,

When I'm talking about,

Okay,

So the story that I was sharing was about a quantum leap.

So I've already experienced an upgrade,

But now what I'm calling in is still a level above that shift,

Right?

So we're always in this constant state of expanding and opening ourselves up to more and really like allowing things to come to us,

Right?

So we need to open our energetic field to invite in and be able to hold,

And that's the most important part is being able to hold it,

Okay?

A lot of us can call things in,

But we may not have the,

Whether it be mental,

Physical or energetic space to hold on to those things.

We need to get really,

Really comfortable with holding on to that thing.

I don't mean vice grip holding on.

I don't mean that we are like obsessive about it.

What I do mean is that we are,

How can I say this?

It's,

It's what this topic is about.

We are not actively pushing the thing away.

When I say that we're holding onto it,

We're not,

Again,

It's not this gripping because that's gonna,

I mean,

It's,

That's a repellent.

It's going to push it away as well,

But we are,

We are like opening our fists.

We're not clenching them,

Okay?

So our fists are open and we are creating space for something to come in to the void here.

We're welcoming it in.

And when I say we're holding on,

It's this idea of like,

We're able to be with whatever energy is coming into our lives,

Okay?

Whether that's the energy of love you're calling in a relationship or it's the energy of money or it's the energy of,

Um,

You know,

Quitting your job and opening a business or it's the energy of getting fit.

It really doesn't matter what it is,

But we're unclenching our fists and we are leaving space to be able to hold onto this.

So how can we do this?

One of the things that we need to remember is that the thing that you want or the thing that you are calling in or the thing that is presenting itself to you like it's already here,

Kind of knocking on the door and you're waiting or welcoming it in,

That thing is never bigger than you.

I'm going to say that again.

The thing that is knocking on the door,

The opportunities,

The energy,

The love,

The life,

The money,

The friendships,

The whatever it is,

The thing that is kind of there for you,

It's coming and it's there,

Is never bigger than you.

It is never more than you can handle,

Ever.

Now,

If you have been here for a while,

You've been listening to the podcast,

I think that this is something that has really become concrete for me that maybe I didn't buy into as much in the earlier episodes of the podcast.

So there is a saying,

God never gives you more than you can handle.

And I used to think,

Like,

Are we sure?

Because like,

Are we absolutely certain that that's the case?

Because there have been many times in my life where I felt like,

What the hell is going on?

Like,

I can't handle another minute of this.

But I have been through some of the toughest two years of my life,

I think.

Why were they tough?

Because at the beginning of this kind of period,

I thought I was getting absolutely everything that I wanted.

I believed that I was genuinely,

After many,

Many years of feeling like I was like not really making the right move,

Not really moving in the right direction,

Not really making good decisions,

Necessarily.

I really felt like,

Wow,

I have finally figured something out.

And then life is what happens or God is what happens,

You know what I mean?

Or when you make a plan,

No,

Life is what happens when you're busy making plans,

Number one.

And like,

Every time you make a plan,

God laughs or something like that.

So I feel like the last two years kicked my ass,

They absolutely kicked my ass.

And I feel like up until that point,

I didn't believe that I could handle things.

I didn't believe it before the two years started,

Just to be clear.

I did not believe it at any time during the two years.

And then when this quantum leap happened,

For lack of a better word,

It was like this,

I swear to you,

It was this instantaneous moment,

Just where everything shifted.

And there is a very clear before this moment and after this moment.

So when this happened,

All of a sudden,

Everything clicked into place.

And so even this discussion of,

You know,

God doesn't give you things that are bigger than you can handle,

The universe is never testing you,

It's never putting you through the ringer,

And nothing that you want is bigger than you has become really,

Really,

Really crystal clear.

So as a side note to this entire conversation,

If you find yourself in a position where you're struggling to believe that that's true,

Where you are struggling to believe that nothing is bigger than you,

I want to be the example.

There will come a moment in your life where you will understand how very true those words are.

And then because life is life,

Okay,

And like shit gets hard sometimes,

We will move through different periods of life where we're like,

Maybe beaten down a little bit.

And like we kind of have a difficult moment because we all have difficult moments.

And maybe in that difficult moment,

It will be difficult to remember again,

That nothing is bigger than you.

But I promise you that it is true.

Nothing that you want,

Nothing that you're moving towards,

Nothing that you desire or are dreaming about is bigger than you ever.

Okay,

Whatever you want,

You want that thing for a very,

Very specific reason.

You want it because you are here to walk out that story,

Whatever that might be in this lifetime.

So like,

Let's say for example,

You're really desiring to start a family,

Whether that be,

You know,

Finding the right relationship,

Whether it be getting married,

Whether it be having children,

If that is one of the truest desires of your life,

It is because there are very specific lessons and very specific steps that you need to go through along that path for your evolution.

Okay,

If you desire to start a business,

It is because you are,

And I promise this,

Just a little heads up,

It is because you are asking to be shown every limiting belief you have ever thought about yourself,

Ever.

There is no,

There is no crash course in personal development quite like being in business for yourself.

It will make you realize every self-doubt you've ever had,

And it will make you face every fear you've ever,

Ever had.

And you will be a better person out the other side of that thing.

Okay,

I promise that as well.

So whatever it is that you want,

Whatever it is that you desire,

What you're calling in,

The energy that you are bringing towards you,

Right,

Like the thing that we're talking about that it's coming or it's already here knocking on the door,

Whatever the case may be,

Let that thing be enough.

Let that thing be the reason,

Period.

Okay,

Let that thing be your guiding light.

It is enough.

It's okay.

And it is not bigger than you.

This is,

This specific thing is exactly,

Exactly,

Exactly what is meant for you.

It is exactly what you are meant to walk out on the planet and,

And,

And this is a big one,

So like really like lean in and listen closely and you absolutely,

Absolutely beyond a shadow of any doubt,

Okay,

Have the capacity to hold it,

To handle it,

And to make it happen.

I'm going to say that again because it is just too good,

Okay.

This thing that you are calling in,

This energy that is coming towards you,

This thing that's knocking on the door,

Okay,

It is exactly what is supposed to happen.

It is 100% meant for you and you absolutely beyond a shadow of any doubt,

Okay,

Have the capacity to hold it,

To handle it,

And to make it happen.

Mic drop.

Okay,

So how do we,

How do we deal with this process?

I mean the first thing that we have to do is we have to recognize when we are contracting,

When we are pushing the energy away in that moment.

Awareness is always going to be one of the number one tools in our tool belt.

Clarity,

Awareness,

And making an effing decision.

Those are always going to be like some of the three that are,

You use them in every single instance of your life.

You need to first be aware of what the hell is going on,

Then you need to be able to like have a clear idea of where it is that you're going pretty much all the time,

And then you need to actually make a decision about it.

So what I want you to understand is that moving forward with this,

This topic,

If you're inviting this energy in,

You need to be in an open and receptive space.

So you need to begin to envision yourself in an open and receptive space.

You need to be seeing,

You need to see yourself expanding.

You need to see that space for what you are calling in already present within you.

So I think that for me,

And this is going to sound kind of like crazy,

I think for me that one of the things that like I've needed to do is to kind of like feel my aura getting bigger.

So like I'm calling it in first on the energetic side and then I'm making the physical space for it after,

The physical and mental space after.

So it's always spiritual first in this case for me,

For me at least.

So I am like creating that space in my aura to hold the thing,

Then I'm creating space within my nervous system,

Space within my mind and like doing the work as it comes up of like holding it.

But first I'm giving it like a place to land.

So like what I mean by that is it's landing first in my aura and then I'm able to like integrate it deeper into who I am,

If that kind of makes sense.

I know this is kind of like a,

Not kind of,

This is quite esoteric in terms of like the topics that we normally cover on the podcast.

It's like a little bit more towards the energetics of things and less about the mindset,

But the mindset work is still there.

It's all,

It's always there because it's the foundation of everything all the time pretty much.

So I want you to be able to see yourself expanding.

I want you to see that space being created within you.

If you can visualize it,

Great.

If you can't,

Because I can't,

Just to be really clear,

I can't see the thing but I can feel the thing and for me especially because I consider myself to be relatively clear cognizant,

I can know the thing.

I can know that something is true without needing any proof or whatever about that thing.

So I can know that something is true.

So I can know when I have created space.

Some people can feel when they've created space.

Some people can envision making space.

It depends on what works for you.

So tap into that and then kind of get clearer on that for yourself.

Then I would really envision yourself moving forward.

So thinking about where it is that you're going,

What you're calling in,

What you're moving towards,

And then envision yourself having and holding that thing.

Again,

If it's not the visual side of things,

Feel the feelings of having that thing.

Feel the feelings of inviting this thing in,

Of making it easy,

Of making it simple.

We're not here trying to complicate or muddle the process.

We're just opening ourselves up because you already know how to do this.

I know that that's maybe not what you were expecting to hear,

But you do.

You already know how to do this.

So it's really just a matter of allowing yourself to do what you naturally know how to do and kind of not getting in your own way about it,

Right?

Because when I described at the beginning my experience of things,

Essentially what I was telling you is that I was getting in my own way,

Right?

Because I was pushing the energy away.

I could feel it because it was like,

Oh,

This is too much.

There's a lot happening here and I can't right now.

So like,

Boom,

Boom,

Boom,

Boom,

Boom,

Trying to get it away from me as quickly as possible,

Which is ridiculous because I have spent years calling in things that are coming to me now.

So we don't want to self-sabotage in that way either because that's just madness.

It's madness.

So yeah,

It's just really about like getting back into that space of like,

You already know what to do.

You already know how to allow this in.

You already know how to welcome that energy.

So now like,

Let's just do it.

Give yourself permission to do that.

Allow it to come open,

Receive,

Expand,

Right?

Expand by seeing yourself and feeling yourself expand.

Open again by feeling it,

Feeling yourself open.

And you can see my hands are here doing this around my heart because like,

That's what it is for me.

That's the opening,

Right?

It's the shoulders back.

It's the stance of like confidence and safety.

It's not this where we're all closing and we're kind of shrinking and whatever.

No.

Expansion looks like head held high,

Shoulders back.

You know what I mean?

Straight spine,

Like I got this.

And the energy,

Sorry,

And the universe,

It responds to that energy,

Right?

Like it knows.

And when you're like this,

Shoulders back,

Chest out,

Chest open,

You are automatically more receptive than if you're all hunched over and kind of energetically closed off by being physically closed off as well,

Right?

So I just want to recap really quickly.

One last really,

Really,

Really important thing before we get into any questions that anyone might have.

And that's this.

Whatever it is that is there,

Please,

Please,

Please know and believe that it is meant for you.

And if you cannot get there on your own,

I want you to know that I believe that for you.

I want you to know that I'm holding that energy for you.

That is the work that I do.

That is the work that I do for clients.

It's the work that I do for myself.

And it's the work that I do for all of you on the podcast.

If you are listening to this and you are struggling and you are having a difficult time,

That is okay.

Everything is okay.

We do not need to be high vibe all the time.

We can't be high vibe all the time because we're human.

That's not how that works.

But we can know that things are shifting.

We can begin to allow the shift.

We can welcome in the new energy.

We can open ourselves to it.

We can give ourselves permission to want what the hell we want,

To move towards what we want,

To dream a little bit bigger,

To play a little bit bigger,

Right?

To show up a little bit bigger.

We can allow ourselves to do all of these things and we can allow ourselves to believe solely,

Solely with baby steps,

Right?

We talk about this all the time on the podcast,

Just 1% every day.

We're not about the quantum leaps.

Grateful when they come,

Amen.

But we are not about that.

We don't need to be obsessed with the quantum leaps.

We need to be obsessed with the one freaking percent.

That's where the magic is.

Yes,

Friends,

Do we understand?

That's where the magic is,

Is in that 1%.

So you can get 1% closer every single day to knowing that whatever it is that you desire is meant for you.

You are ready for it.

You are ready for it.

And in the moments when you're not ready for it,

You have this episode that you will listen to again and again and again and again and again that will remind you that you are meant for it,

That you are capable of holding it,

Right?

That you can handle whatever comes,

That you can make it happen.

And this is where I leave you.

So yes,

I hope you enjoyed this episode of the podcast.

I hope that this was intensely and immensely useful to you.

I hope that if for whatever reason you are chasing a quantum leap,

You cut that out right now and you focus on the 1% and the showing up a little bit every single day and allowing yourself to get incrementally better,

Right?

Every single day.

Move towards the thing.

You can make it happen.

You are that powerful and you just need to focus on what little bit you can do today.

Don't focus on the big picture.

The big picture is not nearly as important,

Okay?

So yes,

I hope this episode finds you well.

Yeah,

What else is there to say?

I think that's pretty much it,

To be honest with you.

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So yeah,

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Then this is the place to be.

So I hope to see you on the next episode.

And yeah,

Have the best weekend.

Ciao!