Hi,
I'm Andrea.
I'm a registered music therapist and a thought field therapy practitioner.
In this video,
I will be guiding you through the process of Thought Field Therapy or TFT to address the pain caused by grief or loss.
This sequence also works for physical pain as well as emotional pain or depression.
So I've been working with people who experience grief and loss for almost 20 years.
And over that time,
I've noticed how it can feel to be caught or stuck in the grief or loss without opportunities to just let go and feel relaxed.
This process will not erase the loss,
But it will dissolve the feelings of pain associated with it.
So during this process today,
I'll ask you to relax the body and focus the mind.
Then I'll ask you to close your eyes and recall a thought,
An image or memory of your loss.
Of feeling associated with that loss.
And emotion and where you feel it in your body.
Then we'll rate the feeling on a scale between zero and 10.
And then I'll ask you to open your eyes and we'll go through a series of tapping patterns or algorithms.
So I'll ask you to close your eyes and reevaluate that feeling again after the tapping sequence.
And then rate it between zero and 10.
And then we'll follow through with two more rounds in that way.
So at any point between the rounds or at the end of the third round,
Your rating.
May have changed.
Or you might have experienced a change in the emotion or the feeling and where you feel it.
This is all really normal.
This is all like just evidence that the energy is shifting.
So.
As we go through,
If you find it any time that the tapping just becomes too distressing,
Too much for you,
You can always stop and come back when you feel ready.
Or what I would encourage you to do is to stick with that feeling in your body,
Notice the sensation and the emotion in your body,
And continue to tapping what we call reversal point.
Until you feel ready to come back to the full sequence of tapping.
So I'll go through some of the reversal points at the end of this video if you'd like to use them during the process.
Or at any time actually after this tapping process,
If you feel like you have energy that's blocked or you're having resistance to moving that energy or making those changes.
So as we go through,
It's really important that you stick to the emotion or the feeling throughout the tapping.
And you continue to tap and go through the sequence of tapping until your rating is zero.
So you might need to pause this video after those three rounds if you need to continue to bring the number down to zero.
Just stick with the tapping and trust that it's working and you'll get to that point.
So let's begin.
First,
By getting into a comfortable space and positioning your body to prepare for tapping.
It's best if you can sit upright in a chair.
With your legs uncrossed and your feet flat on the floor.
So you wanna feel the sense now of grounding as your feet connect with the surface.
Notice your legs relaxing and releasing up through the calves and the shins.
Relax any tension or release any tension in the knees.
And then become aware of the big muscles in the top of your legs,
The hamstrings and the thighs.
Bringing awareness all the way into the pelvis.
Noticing that awareness in the front of the body.
The stomach and the abdomen.
And as you breathe,
Noticing any movement in the chest and the rib cage.
Feeling the whole front of the body relaxing and releasing,
Easing into this process.
Your mind is focusing.
As we continue to bring awareness through the back of the body to the base of the spine.
Noticing the awareness as you move up through the back from side to side.
The middle of the bath.
Between and across the shoulder blades.
And all the way up into the neck and the shoulders.
Pull back.
Relaxing and releasing.
Pull back.
And then bringing the awareness to the shoulders and allowing that relaxed feeling to flow to the elbows.
Down the lower part of the arms to the wrist.
All the way into the hands.
Fingers and thumbs.
And then bringing your awareness to the throat and the neck.
And then into the chin.
All the little muscles around the mouth releasing the tongue from the roof of the mall.
Releasing the jaw and noticing.
The ears relaxing.
Cheeks relaxing.
And then bringing your awareness.
To the nose as you breathe in through the nostrils.
Feel the gentle breath through the throat into the chest and stomach.
Movement of the body as you breathe.
Continuing to relax all the muscles in the face.
Releasing any expression.
Relaxing their eyes.
The area behind the eyes.
Around the eyes eyebrows forehead.
Whole head.
Crown of the head and above the head.
Notice the whole body.
Relaxed and at ease.
Notice your mind focusing.
As you've scanned the awareness through the body.
And now closing the eyes if you haven't done so already.
And as your eyes are closed,
Recall a memory of your loss.
Try to choose a memory that you can feel the most.
It might not be the biggest event or the final event,
But it.
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Something that seems to encapsulate the feeling overall.
Bringing that to mind.
Sometimes the earliest memory is the strongest.
And then just sensing into the body with the eyes closed,
Just sensing awareness through the body of where you feel that emotion.
What is that feeling?
Attached to the gloss.
Where is it in the body?
Keep going between that.
Memory and that emotion,
That feeling sensation through the body.
Checking in.
To where you feel it.
Noticing if it's in the stomach perhaps.
Throat.
Forehead.
Somewhere else.
And just notice the sensation or feeling with it.
Does it feel hot?
Tingly Heavy.
Or something else.
And then just focus on that emotion.
That feeling and rate it between 0 and 10.
Zero meaning it's not there at all.
And 10.
Is a very strong sensation of that emotion or feeling.
Not so important that you choose the exact right number.
Just using this number as A gauge.
As we work through.
So remember that number for later as we begin to tap together,
Opening your eyes.
And we'll begin tapping.
The side of the hand.
Can use either hand,
Either side.
Kind of like a karate chop.
Keeping the eyes open,
Keeping the feet on the floor.
Remember to breathe.
And then tapping under the nose and above the top lip.
Using two fingers to tap with gentle pressure.
And then moving to the next tapping point under the arms.
Can tap with either both hands like this or if that's too difficult you can just reach to one side under and across.
It doesn't matter which side you use,
Either one is fine.
Tapping with two fingers or four fingers Tapping with gentle pressure.
Then to the next point which is the collarbone Again,
Tapping with all four fingers.
Two fingers is okay.
Dental pressure.
Continue breathing.
And then the last point is tapping.
And then what we call the gamut spot.
The back of the hand in the indentation between the bones of the little finger and the ring finger a little bit back.
So tapping that point.
Again gentle pressure.
If you want to,
You can let your hand just sit on your lap.
As you tap.
Tapping that point Not the easiest to use two fingers to tap on this point.
And then stop.
Close your eyes and breathe.
Notice the feeling or emotion in the body again.
Notice if it's changed or moved in any way.
And then rate that sensation from zero to 10.
Notice if it changed.
This is evidence the energy is shifting.
Sometimes this can mean that the number will increase because your awareness has been on it.
And other times it will decrease by one or more.
Don't get too caught up on that number.
If you've already reached zero you can stop or you can continue to tap through another couple of rounds so open your eyes again and we'll go through another round of that sequence so beginning with the karate chop or the side of the hand tapping Keeping that thought motion in mind as you tap.
Under the nose under the arms,
Relaxing and tapping.
Whichever way is comfortable for you.
Tapping the collarbone.
And lastly the gamut spot.
That indentation between the bones of the little finger and the ring finger.
Let it rest on your lap.
Breathing as you tap,
Feet are still flat on the floor.
And then close your eyes,
Stop tapping and breathe.
Notice the emotion or feeling in the body again.
Notice if it's changed or moved in any way.
And then rate that sensation.
Between zero and 10.
Just know that anytime during this process,
You might notice yourself.
Getting emotional,
And this is really normal,
And this is associated with that shift in energy,
Just let it come.
I let the energy shift and move.
We avoid our thoughts for a long time and they can build up inside of us and tapping can allow that energy to be released.
Where your attention goes,
The energy flows.
So let's open the eyes and tap again.
Through that sequence,
Starting with the side of the hand.
Tapping with gentle pressure.
Under the nose.
I'm both filled out.
Under the arm,
Whichever method is comfortable for you.
Collarbone and the gamut spot.
Continue to breathe.
Continue to feel your feet grounded on the floor.
And then stop tapping,
Close your eyes,
Breathe.
Notice the emotion,
Feeling in the body.
Notice if it's changed or moved in any way.
And then rate that sensation from zero to 10.
And then you can open your eyes.
And at this point,
If your rating is still one or more,
You can pause this video and go through the sequence.
Until you reach zero.
So reaching zero is really important.
It allows it time for the energy to shift.
And it allows time for the energy to dissolve that perturbation in the body.
So continue to trust the process and continue tapping or use some of the reversal points if you feel that's more appropriate.
So once you've reached zero,
Take a breath.
Relax.
You might be surprised that you got to zero.
Often people.
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Sort of go to that rating and they go not sure if it's there and then they realize They're trying to look for it but it's not there.
It's sort of a surprise that it's gone.
This is often the experience.
If you still feel there's any residue,
Go back and use the pattern one more time.
But if you feel it's definitely zero,
Then we'll move through the next sequence,
Which is an eye movement sequence.
So during the sequence,
We're going to be tapping the gamut spot throughout.
So we're going to kind of keep maybe just keeping our hand on our lap while we go through this sequence.
And this eye movement sequence can be really helpful as you're going through the sequences,
The patterns or algorithms of tapping each time you go through a round.
If your number and rating has decreased by two or more,
You can insert this eye.
Sort of movement sequence into that space and then continue tapping until Your rating is zero.
And also at the end,
When the rating is down to zero,
This sequence is kind of the,
Seals the deal at the end.
So I'm gonna take you through the sequence.
So.
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Keep your.
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Gamut spot tapping going as I ask you to hold your head steady.
And allow your eyes to move with me.
So keeping your head steady,
Follow my fingers moving with your eyes.
Keep tapping,
Keep breathing.
Keep your head still as the eyes follow the fingers.
Just noticing.
If your eyes seem to get caught anywhere.
In this sequence Continue breathing and noticing.
And then continue tapping and humming happy birthday with me.
And then counting out loud one to five.
One.
To three,
For five continue tapping and humming happy birthday again continue tapping keeping your head still following my fingers And the tapping process is now complete.
So after you've gone through this process,
You.
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You might find that it works really well for you.
You might feel that that feeling and emotion has dissolved.
Or you might feel that you might need to come back to that tapping sequence again.
This is really common because our Often the emotions are kind of deep-seated inside of us so it can be like peeling the layers from an onion.
We might actually be tapping in after one round instead of feeling sorrow and sadness.
Suddenly we can feel anger and frustration or anxiety.
Pop up so this is what happens with emotions we sort of clear the energy space and something else might pop out So this tapping sequence that I've given you today is for pain related to grief or loss.
It's also a general pain.
Or.
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Physical pain or emotional pain sequence.
So you can use it for any of those things.
And come back to it again as.
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Might come back to it again today or you might come back to it again in a week or you might not have to revisit it for quite a long time or you might need to change the tapping sequence to address another emotion that comes out.
So you can see my other videos for other tapping sequences that address things like anger or anxiety or trauma or even phobias in other videos.
I also mentioned that I'll give you a couple of tapping points for reversals.
So again,
These reversal points are good if you want to just,
Or if you feel like you're just getting stuck.
And not moving forward,
The number,
The rating's not changing.
It's kind of just holding steady and there's some kind of a block there or you're finding a resistance to it.
Sometimes without knowing it,
We can hang on to our pain or our grief.
I mean what would happen if we let it go?
There's some fear involved in that,
Too,
Because we've learned to live with it.
So.
In this way,
Reversal points can be quite helpful so in in this way we can just use a reversal point at any time we can be on the bus or we can be waiting for a friend or we could be in.
Before we go to bed or when we wake up in the morning.
These are great points to reverse the process or to unblock some of this energy.
So we've done three different reversal points today.
In addition,
Actually,
In addition to these reversal points,
I'll give you a couple of tapping points that you can add to your sequence.
So first I'll do that.
The one I'd add,
This is not a reversal point,
But this is one you can add to that sequence.
That you've done today.
Is tapping the third eye or between the eyebrows.
You can add that into the algorithm for pain and loss And another one that I've noticed works really well for pain associated with grief and loss is the sore spot,
Which is taking your right hand over your heart and just either holding that space or rubbing it in a circular motion.
Gently.
This is like giving yourself a hug.
So these are just additional tapping points that you can use.
It just so happens that the sore spot is a reversal point as well.
So you can use this point by itself anytime you're feeling.
You need a hug that you need to unblock that energy Another reversal point that we've used today is the side of the hand and generally all tapping.
Thought field therapy tapping starts with the side of the hand.
This is sort of a space,
A reversal point that we use to start every sequence.
It just clears.
Energy.
And another point that we use today that you can use on its own is under the nose.
This one's really great.
When you're feeling overwhelmed,
Like it's like all too much,
You can't really.
Just too many things happening or,
Um,
In that space.
So those are all reversal points source spot.
Side of the hand.
Or under the nose.
So you can use those individually or all of them if you need to at any time.
And in addition to the points I'm giving you today,
You can always add that third eye.
To your tapping points this is sort of our trauma.
So if you feel like your loss is associated with a trauma.
You might add that point and find that your rating will decrease.
A little bit easier.
Check out other videos that I'll be putting through for tapping TFT to address.
Other perturbations like anger,
Anxiety and trauma.
And in the meantime,
Keep tapping.
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Thank you.
