Love Yourself Day After A Big Win
Meditation on Self-Love and Forgiveness Starts 10:58... Now, a bit about the conversation... I got what I wanted, but I didn’t let myself have it. I was standing on a giant escalator in Tokyo. Red suitcase beside me. Eyes wide open. I made it. My visa was stamped. I had the internship. I was there. But my mind was saying: They got the wrong guy. The company will figure it out. They’ll send you back. This isn’t going to last. You don’t belong here. I had earned my place. But part of me didn’t believe it. So part of me never really arrived. Never acknowledged the win. Was this a win? It didn’t feel like one. Why did I work so hard in the first place to get here? And my heart whispered, “Enjoy.” But I didn’t hear it then. And that’s why I’m inviting you to listen now. Join the conversation and share your thoughts!
Transcript
Welcome Flowmaster to a conversation about self-love day after a big win or self-love after a big celebration because once you have a big win,
You deserve to celebrate it.
And the question comes,
How do you make sure that you really love yourself,
Keep the momentum and feel really good about yourself day after and after and after that consistently.
This conversation is sparked by a conversation I had with a client of mine after a big win.
And as we were celebrating,
Pattern showed up of expectation that I would feel bad day after.
And there's many reasons why one would feel bad day after.
One is maybe not so healthy or appropriate means of celebration,
Intoxication,
Substance use,
Or just as simple as going to sleep later than usual and therefore having body out of regular routine and not being as happy as usual.
So that could be one cause of it.
Another cause I also wanna address is just simple self-sabotage and limiting beliefs.
And this is the case that actually happened,
Which is basically you have this big high,
This big breakthrough,
And now you're starting to realize what happened.
It's like,
Wow,
This thing happened and now you need to be like self-sabotage,
Putting yourself down,
Expecting things to fall because this is so much out of the ordinary and so out of the comfortable that body doesn't know what to do.
And when body is confused,
When the mind is confused,
Then it's easy to go on lower vibrations and start feeling really low and get stuck in there as well.
And let us know in the comments if any of these themes feel familiar,
Like self-doubt,
Self-sabotage,
Putting yourself down,
Feeling low on day after a big breakthrough or a win,
And maybe not even,
Like already expecting it.
This thing is a status quo.
This is how life goes.
And yeah,
It's just this fear of already expectation.
And yeah,
Not even needing to do anything bad,
Like I said,
Or out of the ordinary,
Which may not be the healthiest choice.
So address all these points fairly quickly is,
Ideally,
Of course,
You address these as they show up,
As you choose your means of celebration.
The first part of celebrating inappropriately or unhealthy,
You can address it by choosing celebrating healthier ways,
By actually choosing to go and sleep on time and actually checking in with our body and in advance and saying,
Okay,
When is going to sleep on time?
When is time for me to go to sleep?
And like,
How much can I use any substance so that I feel really good or can actually use it in the first place?
So checking in with your body in advance is really good practice.
And just following this advice will help you to feel really good day after because body is really flexible and adaptable and can take all kinds of suffering and I would say pain and stretching of the limits.
So it's all good.
However,
At some point there's a limit.
And if you're consciously aware of the limit,
Then it gets easier and more fun.
So yeah,
First preparation.
And second is when it comes to limiting beliefs,
What you can do to help yourself is not expect a fear,
Not expect the worst thing to happen.
Don't imagine it because as you imagine it,
You already pre-program it,
You already create nervous system tension in your body,
You already create the stress and going to sleep with this stress is very unhelpful and actually creates this disease and this stress on the next day.
So you're already pre-framing yourself for that.
So don't do that.
Instead,
What you can do is acknowledge the fear,
Accept that it's there,
Don't avoid it.
If there's a fear,
Of course.
I don't want you to imagine fears that are not there,
Don't do that either.
So if anything shows up,
Any concerns,
Any feelings,
Acknowledge them,
Allow yourself to feel them and address them and realize that this doesn't have to be your future,
As simple as that.
And then ask yourself,
What do I want?
And then you can prepare yourself and imagine ideally your future,
Your next morning,
Day after and imagine yourself ideally.
Give yourself space.
So these are the things you can do.
If you want me to go in detail,
Please let me know in comments your specific situations or reach out to me personally.
We can explore if we can work on these things together to make your life more fun.
Obviously,
There's limitation and how deep I can go on any specific cases and your cases specifically.
So yeah,
Prepare your imagination,
Wires of conscious mind,
By your conscious mind,
Those expecting the best.
And then once the next morning comes,
It's really important to have no attachment to.
.
.
Actually,
You can do this already day before.
It's like,
Have no attachment to how you will feel next morning.
Good,
Bad,
Who knows?
Like,
It's like,
You can treat it like almost like a regular day.
In a sense,
There are some days when you feel really good and some days when you feel neutral and some days when you feel really good when you wake up.
Of course,
You can influence these variables,
But at the end of the day,
You cannot really always have control over them.
So don't try to control them.
Be open.
Okay,
Next day I may feel good,
Bad,
Who knows?
You know,
God knows.
So be open to all of it and accept all of it.
Be unconditionally loving towards yourself and whatever the feelings may come or not,
Next day,
Accept them.
Be present to what you have right now and don't make it worse for yourself by imagining the worst.
If it is worse,
Then it is.
You will deal with it then.
No need to worry in advance because worrying in advance puts you in a state of worry now.
So why would you already put yourself in a low state when nothing bad has happened and may not happen?
And now let's talk about the next morning.
So you did your best or your worst,
Accept the both.
Whatever you did yesterday,
There's only one thing you can do.
Accept yesterday.
It happened.
Now what?
Well,
Accept the present moment,
Any state you're in,
Good,
Bad,
Indifferent,
Whatever.
Accept it.
And as you accept it,
Acceptance means also forgiveness.
And forgiveness already is very telling.
It's giving forward.
So it's less about the past.
It's more about what's gonna happen in the future.
So many people think,
You know,
The past is about,
Oh,
I need to be like good in my past.
That needs to happen too,
By the way.
You need to be really good and clear with your past.
When you look at the past,
It's like,
Yeah,
I'm okay with that.
I made this mistake.
Whatever happened,
Yeah,
I'm good with that.
How do you do that?
By knowing that whatever bad happened will not happen in the future because you will learn.
You're a different person.
Forgiveness.
You give yourself grace for doing better,
Knowing better in the future.
Forgiveness.
So in the morning,
You forgive yourself.
You accept yourself in the present and you forgive yourself for your future.
And how do you forgive yourself for your future?
By imagining better future.
Very simple.
And how do you imagine?
By asking yourself,
What do I want?
And you ask yourself,
Yeah,
What do I want today,
Day after?
How do I want to respond ideally?
How do I wanna celebrate these things going forward?
So this is all part of the process of you forgiving yourself.
And then,
As you imagine your ideals,
Accept yourself.
Yeah,
I can do that.
Maybe not the next time,
Day after,
And celebration after that.
So you don't have to judge yourself how much time it will take for you to embody this ideal.
However,
You can have a guarantee that once you commit yourself to a certain standard,
It will happen eventually.
You don't need to judge.
You don't need to worry or fear of it not happening instantly because as you fear and worry,
You already put yourself in a low state,
Low states of energy,
Fear.
Don't do that.
Accept if it happens,
But don't dwell on it.
That's what it means,
Don't do that.
Don't dwell on it.
You fear it?
Okay,
Accept the fear,
Move on.
Go to the anger.
Why do I do that again?
No.
And then go for pride,
Arrogance.
I'm above that.
Why do I fear?
And then go for joy.
Yeah.
Go for any feeling,
Any unconditional love,
Joy.
Yeah,
It's gonna be so much fun.
Like,
It's gonna be so much fun.
Like,
Why would I even fear this?
Like,
I'm so fun person.
Like,
Of course,
Of course I'm gonna learn.
It's gonna be fun learning it.
So get your vibes,
Know who you are,
Know how you wanna carry yourself.
It will be easy to really have fun the next day.
Accept where you are,
Give yourself grace,
Move forward and forgive yourself.
And imagine the best,
Allow yourself to feel.
And this is what you do to have more self-love towards yourself,
So let's practice.
Find a comfortable place where you feel safe and undisturbed for remainder of this soul activation for more self-love and forgiveness.
Relax your physical body with each exhalation.
You may have a sound as you exhale,
Ah,
Release.
Allow yourself to make any sounds,
Movements and releases.
Tears may come,
Sneezing may come,
Sniffling may come,
Body shaking may come.
You don't need to induce them.
Accept anything that is in a present moment.
It's all good.
As you breathe,
Put your intention towards connecting with your heart.
Close your eyes and go within.
Keep relaxing and bringing more attention towards being present to your breath through your heart.
It's okay if you find your mind drifting.
It's okay if you find yourself engaging any thoughts.
Just remember that each practice,
Each remembrance of bringing your mind back to your breath,
Back to your heart,
Back to the present moment makes you more stronger and resilient,
Makes you more loving and forgiving for yourself.
Keep breathing and staying present.
Allow yourself to feel.
No need to judge any feeling you observe.
All feelings are welcome.
All feelings are healing.
Any uncomfortable,
Negative emotion flowing through your body is a sign of release.
These emotions appear to disappear.
And you need to do nothing to allow it to release.
So just observe and allow it to flow.
Without holding on,
Grabbing on,
Or needing to do anything about it.
It means nothing about you and your future self.
So allow emotion to flow freely.
Allow yourself to feel.
Through your heart,
Through the pure place in your heart,
Full of unconditional love flowing right now abundantly.
So allow yourself to feel.
As you breathe and make stronger and stronger,
Deeper and deeper connection with pure place in your heart.
And as you breathe,
As you allow yourself to feel,
You may notice feeling more lighter,
More at ease,
More relaxed,
More present.
As you put your attention inward towards your heart,
You may experience sudden moments of bliss,
Unconditional self-love.
No judgment if this happens or doesn't happen.
Just allow your experience to unfold naturally.
Keep breathing.
Keep relating to your heart.
And whatever feelings show up,
Allow them to flow.
Emotion is energy in motion.
Allow it to move through your body.
And keep bringing your attention and intention to unconditional love through your heart,
Flowing right now.
If you don't feel it,
It doesn't mean it's not there.
The fact is,
Unconditional love flows through you 24 seven all the time,
Right now.
And to feel it,
You must allow yourself to feel.
Makes sense?
Allow yourself to feel.
Tune yourself to unconditional love by being present,
Bringing your mind back to your heart,
Gently.
And forgive yourself,
Giving yourself grace,
Knowing that you learn and become better,
More attuned with your heart and your soul's guidance,
With every single breath,
Every decision.
Every time you remember your heart,
You allow yourself to be more guided and connected with your divine.
Thank you.
Thank you.
Thank you.
You may stay here as long as you like,
Being thankfully present.
And whenever ready,
Open your eyes and have it magical.
