Thank you everybody for tuning in.
My name is Veronica Baumgarner.
I am here because we are going to do a quick meditation about curbing rashness.
I'm not sure if you know what that means,
But I highly suggest you listen if you're in a state of wanting to react in a state of anger or in a state of confusion.
So we're going to start by getting comfortable.
You can sit down,
Lay down.
If you're in your car,
Get comfortable.
Anywhere.
There's no right or wrong way to listen to this.
So go ahead and get comfortable.
Relax.
Unfurrow your brow.
Relax your face.
Don't clench your jaw.
Try smiling and try smiling on the inside and get to a place where you're able to hear my voice and really,
Really take these words to heart.
We're going to learn how to not react.
Now that's not easy.
Not everybody is able to tune it off,
Turn it off,
Tune it out,
Any of it.
Because sometimes people wrong us.
And that's one thing I think I've learned over my journey of life is humans are human.
They are going to do things to upset me.
And they'll do things to push my buttons.
And I have to allow them to be who they are.
But it doesn't mean they have any power over me.
I am able to keep my power.
And if they want to bother me,
That's on them.
But it's my fault if I let them inside my hula hoop,
As I like to say,
Because I have a little hula hoop around me.
And that is the only thing that I have to worry about.
Nothing else is my business.
So what we're going to do is the next time somebody irritates you,
Pushes your buttons,
Does something on purpose,
Not on purpose that you don't like,
You're going to pause.
Pause and do not say anything.
And here's a great,
Great tip to remember.
When in doubt,
Don't.
And that means when you're in doubt of how to react or how to reply,
Do not do anything.
Because unless you're able to come from a place of love,
Patience,
Tolerance,
And compassion,
Whatever you're going to say back will just make the situation worse.
So I suggest you pause.
Do not text back,
Call back,
Reply back.
And give it space.
Give it time.
It's so true when they say time heals all.
It's so beyond true.
And so give it time and sit with it.
Sit with the uncomfortableness because it's teaching you something.
Sit with the anxiety and the worry and the fear of all the things that might happen if you say what you want to say.
And sit with it and let it feel it.
Feel it in your bones.
Feel it in your muscles.
It's okay to be uncomfortable because if you're not uncomfortable,
Then you're not learning.
This situation was brought to you.
It's happening for you to learn from it.
So sit,
Pause,
And pray.
And pray to whatever god of your understanding is out there.
Whatever feeling,
Warmth,
Light,
Persona in your head that makes you feel comfortable,
And you know that it's got your back,
That's God.
It doesn't have to be anyone else's version of God.
Pray to your version of God for relief from this situation and the strength to say the things you need to say or the strength to stay quiet because that can be just as hard.
So curb your rashness because the first thought that went through your head,
Do not say it.
It will make it worse.
Push that thought away.
Just watch it floating by your mind and your brain in just a fog.
It's just fog and it's floating,
Floating,
Floating,
And it's going out of your ear and it's gone.
You don't have to worry about that thought anymore because it's gone.
And so sit and pause and pray on it and do not react because when you react,
You're giving other people your power and they do not deserve it.
You are in charge of your power and your serenity.
And honestly,
The universe is in charge of it and it's giving us these lessons to grow and learn from.
But if you're able to remain calm in a situation where most people would become angry,
What a gift.
What a gift to be able to keep your serenity,
Keep your peace,
And not let what people say,
Think,
Or feel define who you are and define what you feel in that moment and what you say in that moment.
You stay true to you and keep being kind.
Man,
There's a reason that the saying,
Kill them with kindness,
Has been around for as long as it's been around.
Because it works.
Kill them with kindness.
Don't sink to their level.
Don't react the way they want you to react.
Most people are baiting you into a fight.
So,
Deny the bait,
Pause,
Stop,
And pray.
And you will get the answer you need in time,
Whether you need to respond to the situation or just let it go.
But curb your rashness.
So listen to this.
When you're feeling uptight,
Upset,
Any sort of irritation about some sort of personal relationship,
Work relationship,
Any relationship going on in your life,
Listen to this and let's pause together.
And let's pray together.
And then just let it go for the day.
And see how you feel tomorrow.
Thank you so much for listening.
