Hello,
And welcome.
You've likely landed here because someone in your life has triggered you or pushed your buttons.
It happens to all of us.
It could be from a family member,
A co-worker,
Even a friend or an acquaintance.
They say something or do something that hits that soft spot and you feel it to your core.
You focus on the pain and it just becomes bigger.
Maybe you reacted and lashed out at them with sharp words or worse.
But now you've had enough.
There's got to be a better way.
You don't want your emotions to be controlled by other people anymore.
You want to take back your power.
And here you are.
Triggers that can be pulled,
Buttons that can be pushed.
Their old wounds that likely happened a long time ago.
Trauma,
Past conditioning,
Unpleasant experiences.
We try to forget them and move on.
But there is always a person who knows how to pull that trigger and push that button.
But triggers are our teachers.
Look at it as a guidance system to help us zero in on what needs to be healed.
We need to heal that tender spot.
It's like we need to disconnect the wire from the button so that it no longer works.
But how do we do that?
We start with awareness.
When you feel like someone is pushing your buttons,
Stop.
Notice that it is happening and try not to react.
When it makes sense,
Leave the situation to be alone.
Sit with the feeling.
Find the shadow.
Feel where it is in your body and try to define it.
Your initial reaction may have been anger,
But look deeper.
Did you feel the anger because it made you feel fear?
Or embarrassment?
Shame?
Sadness?
Describe to yourself what it feels like.
I felt powerless and judged.
I felt blamed or excluded.
I felt unloved and unappreciated.
I felt trapped and manipulated.
Then take it further to connect it to the sensation in your body.
This sadness I am feeling,
I feel in my heart.
My stomach is all tensed up.
I feel vulnerable.
There is this tension in my temples,
Like a headache,
And I feel shame.
Finding and describing where you feel it in your body helps keep you in the present moment,
And not in your head in a reactive state.
If all that wasn't difficult enough to do,
Now here comes the hard part.
Show yourself true love and compassion.
Speak it to yourself.
Speak it out loud if you can,
And use your name.
For me,
I would say,
I love you,
Henry,
Exactly as I am,
Right here,
Right now.
I am enough.
I always have been,
And I always will be,
Enough.
I understand that when someone is unkind to me,
Or says or does hurtful things to me,
I know that it is not about me at all.
It is about what's going on inside of them.
They are feeling pain and suffering deep inside,
And they are projecting it onto me.
I don't accept it.
It is not mine to carry.
Now I would like you to go to your heart center and summon all of the love that you can.
Gather it up as though it is in a big jug or a pitcher.
Go now to the place in your body that you felt the emotions.
Your heart,
Your gut.
Maybe it was your forehead,
Or even a few places.
Pour the love onto the spots,
The shadow.
Imagine it brightening up as you pour your love onto it,
And say these affirmations.
I forgive myself for anything that I may have done to contribute to the pain that I feel with this trigger.
I did the best that I could with the tools that I had at the time.
I forgive any others who may have contributed to the pain that I feel with this trigger.
They did the best that they could with the tools that they had.
And I forgive the person that has just now pushed my buttons,
As they too have limited tools to work with in this moment.
I know that I am enough.
I deserve all the joy that this life has to offer me.
I love myself exactly as I am,
And I am free to grow and evolve and change.
I release now the emotions that this situation has stirred up inside of me,
And any negative energy connected to it.
I open my heart to love,
To my own love,
And to the collective love expressed by the universe.
I understand that it may take some time to heal these wounds,
And that I may come back again to do this when I've been triggered once again.
But I have the patience necessary,
And the determination to heal,
And the desire to be a better person today than I was yesterday.
I am enough.
I am enough.
I am.
Every time that you take some time to pour love onto the wounds,
The easier it will get.
And soon enough,
That wire that connects to the button will just fall away.
When people try pushing that button,
Nothing will happen,
Not even a click.
And now I just want to remind you that you have a sovereign right to be here,
Exactly as you are.
However you show up in the world,
From moment to moment.
You don't need anyone's approval but your own.
You don't need to be a hamster on the wheel,
Racing to nowhere,
Like all the other hamsters.
Be authentically you,
And truly love yourself,
Each and every moment.
