Hello and welcome.
I'd like to welcome you here to this moment together,
To this space of love and guidance and meditation.
So today we'll be talking about letting go.
And to do that I'll share one of my favorite quotes and then a parable that I've recently read.
I'll paraphrase that for you.
And then we'll head into a guided meditation about that,
About letting go.
So the quote is,
When I let go of what I am,
I become what I might be.
By Lao Tzu.
Just allow that quote to just settle in,
Feel into it.
And as simple as it is,
There's a profundity to it.
And the parable goes like this.
There's an old story from China about,
It's about the way monkeys were once trapped.
And the way that they did it was a coconut would be hollowed out and they would leave a small opening just large enough for the monkey's open hand.
And inside they would put a bit of rice.
They'd place it there.
And then drawn by hunger,
The monkey would reach in its hand to grasp the rice.
But once its hand closed into a fist,
It could no longer slip its hand back out through the opening.
So basically the trap worked,
Not because the monkeys were caught,
But because they wouldn't let go.
They wouldn't let go of the rice.
So as long as they clung to the rice,
They remained imprisoned by their own grip.
You know,
And in this story,
It offers a quiet but powerful lesson.
And I invite you to start thinking,
Because each of us carries our own version of that rice.
Something we grasp for.
Something we believe we must have.
And often it's that very holding that keeps us stuck.
So when we pause and ask ourselves,
What are we clinging to?
We begin to see how our hunger,
Whether it's for love or approval,
Or control,
Or certainty,
We begin to see how it can shape our reach and limit our freedom.
So as we go into this meditation now,
We'll gently explore what we may be holding onto too tightly,
And what might become possible if even for a moment we allow ourselves to soften our grip and let go.
So now I invite you to just settle in,
Even a little more deeply.
And if you haven't already,
I invite you to close your eyes,
And we'll enter into a meditation about this.
Allow your body to settle.
Let your breath flow without forcing it.
Inhale through the nose,
And gently let it go through the mouth.
Maybe even a sigh.
Another breath like this,
In through the nose.
Exhale with a sigh,
Allowing the weight of the day to release.
And I invite you to just soften.
And now bring your attention to your hands.
And I invite you to notice any tension in the fingers or palms,
Without changing anything yet.
Just simply observe.
And I invite you to imagine a quiet village,
Long ago.
A simple trap to set.
A hollowed out coconut tied to a tree,
With a small opening,
Just large enough for an open hand.
And inside,
A few grains of rice.
A monkey comes along,
Hungry,
Curious.
He slips his hand inside the coconut,
And he closes his fist around the rice.
But now his hand is too large to pull back out.
The coconut does not hold him.
The rope does not bind him.
No one is restraining him.
All he needs to do is open his hand.
And yet he doesn't.
He clings to the rice,
Believing it is his only chance at nourishment.
His only remedy for hunger.
And so he stays.
A prisoner of his own grasping.
Now I invite you to gently shift the image inward.
Imagine your own hand inside the coconut.
Feel the tension in the fist.
The effort it takes to hold on.
And ask yourself softly,
Without judgment,
What is the rice for me?
Just gently sit with this question,
With whatever comes up.
What is the rice for me?
Perhaps it's a person.
A relationship.
A memory of how love once felt.
Maybe even a belief that love must look a certain way or come from a certain place.
Notice how the mind says,
This is my only chance.
This is the only way I will be loved.
If I let go,
There will be nothing.
And feel how tightly the hand closes around that belief.
And now bring your awareness back to your breath.
Take a deep inhale.
And on the exhale,
Imagine softening the fingers just a little.
You're not forcing the hand open.
You're simply allowing the possibility.
And on the exhale,
Imagine that softening again.
Softening the fingers just a little.
No forcing.
And notice what arises.
Maybe there's some fear.
Sadness.
Maybe even a bit of resistance.
Maybe some grief rising.
And the teaching of the parable is not about loss.
It is about freedom.
The rice was never love itself.
It was only a memory.
Only something small.
Temporary.
Mistaken for salvation.
Love is not scarce.
Love does not require captivity.
Love does not demand that you stay stuck.
And with the next exhale,
I want you to imagine opening the hand fully.
And let the rice fall away.
Deep inhale.
And on the exhale,
Imagine letting the rice fall away.
Opening the hand fully.
Let the rice fall away.
And feel the hand slide effortlessly out of the coconut.
Feel the relief.
The space.
And notice what remains.
You are still here.
Still breathing.
Still whole.
Still capable of love.
Perhaps even more so now than before.
And I invite you to rest here for a few moments.
And if you'd like,
Gently place one hand over your heart.
And sigh it out.
Silently offer yourself these words.
I release what's keeping me captive.
I trust that love is larger than what I cling to.
I choose freedom over fear.
And I invite you to take a final,
Nice,
Deep breath in.
And a long,
Cleansing,
Gentle breath out.
And when you're ready,
I invite you to gently come back into your body.
Wiggle your fingers and toes.
And slowly open your eyes.
And I invite you to bring this openness with you into the rest of your day.
And I thank you so much for joining me on this journey.
And I love you so.
Namaste.
