So hello and welcome to this talk on the energy of receiving.
So like all my talks here on Insight Timer,
This information is based on my own lived experience.
So I hope that it can also help you understand yourself a little better and hopefully help you to open to receiving more in life on all the different levels.
So emotional,
Material,
Relational,
Financial,
On the joy level,
On the intimacy level.
Hopefully this can help you open up to start receiving more.
So when I tune into this subject for myself and I ask myself what are my blocks to receiving,
I receive the message that it's about intimacy and it's about safety in relationships.
So if you are not really used to feeling safe in your close relationships,
Which probably means that you have some challenges or issues around boundaries,
Then that probably also means that you're going to close up a little bit in your close relationships.
Your natural way of being in close intimate relationships if you lack boundaries is going to be a little bit closed.
So the degree of closeness depends on the degree of safety that you feel in close relationships.
If you feel really completely unsafe,
Meaning you probably have no idea how to set any boundaries and you feel engulfed or enmeshed in close relationships,
Then you might be really completely closed off at your heart center and you may or may not be aware of that.
And if you are really closed at the heart because of this feeling of basic lack of safety in relationships,
This feeling that you can so easily be smothered or taken over by the energy of another person,
Then it's going to be just difficult for you to open to receive because receiving feels dangerous because it's a question.
Receiving,
To receive you need to literally be energetically open.
You need to take things into your energetic field and if you're lacking boundaries,
If it's a real struggle for you to say no,
Then you're basically going to be a bit closed.
So why would this be the case?
As in the case of most kind of deep issues like this,
Particularly boundary issues,
It's going to be a result of your intimate relationships within your family system.
So in your family system with your parents or caregivers,
You probably also did not feel very safe.
So it probably was shown to you that it was not safe for you to express the full range of your emotions,
Particularly negative emotions,
Which are natural boundary creators.
So when you express anger,
This is basically creating a boundary.
So if you were taught consciously or unconsciously by,
In your family of origin,
That it was not safe for you to express anger because you would be punished for that or it was not safe for you to express sadness and upset because you'd also be punished for that,
Then you basically learnt to repress your negative emotions.
And we can't repress our negative emotions and also have boundaries in relationships.
We can't do both of those things.
So when it becomes a habitual pattern for us to repress our emotions in our childhood relationships,
That habitual pattern,
Until we become aware of it,
Will overflow into your adult relationships and will mean that it's very hard for you also to set a boundary in your adult relationships,
Very hard for you to say no,
Very hard for you to feel safe expressing your emotions in your adult relationships.
So that's just a natural byproduct,
Of course,
Of being raised in a family where you were programmed to suppress your emotions and particularly negative emotions although maybe also positive,
Joyful,
Overflowing joy may have also been suppressed in your family.
And the reasons why for that we don't really need to go into but of course they probably revolve around the fact that your parents did not feel safe in their emotional expression as children so they never learnt to really healthily manage their own emotions.
So I'd like to take you through a short guided meditation now to help you identify if you have any of these blocks to receiving because until you identify that,
Where that block is,
What that is,
Then it will be really hard for you to open up to receive more abundance in your life in whatever form it is that you need that and we all need to be receiving support in our lives,
Whatever that is,
Financial,
Relational,
Emotional,
Material,
We all need support.
So I'd like you just to bring and put your hands on your heart,
Feel into your heartbeat,
Take a few deep breaths in,
Inhale,
Holding the breath at the heart centre,
Feeling the lungs,
Exhale slowly out the mouth,
Inhale again,
Holding the breath,
Feeling the lungs,
Exhale and just bringing your breath back to normal.
Somebody comes to you and can be a random person,
Somebody,
A random person is standing in front of you,
Is there a feeling of closing,
Is there a feeling of blocking at all or maybe not,
Maybe there's a clear opening,
So just investigate that for yourself.
And then let's bring another person in front of you,
Let's bring one of your family members,
So it might be your mother or your father,
Sister or brother or one of your children and place one of these family members in front of you with a huge bunch of flowers for you and just still with your hand on your heart just checking in what is your immediate reaction energetically to this huge bunch of flowers that your family member has for you,
Is there a sense of joy,
Opening,
Receiving easily and freely or is there any restriction,
Block,
Feeling.
And then let's come to our third scenario,
This person who has sent you this offer is totally confident in you and they really want to offer you this job or this business opportunity,
Again holding onto your heart,
Feeling into your heart center,
What is your capacity to receive in your life,
Whether that be money,
Flowers,
Love,
Abundance,
Opportunities,
Whatever it is,
We have a certain capacity for receiving based on our level of safety that we feel in our interactions with other people,
Based on the level of safety that we feel in our intimate relationships,
So I hope this has given you a little more insight into where you may have some blocks to receiving and then working with this,
It's a process of working on boundaries,
Working on developing stronger and clearer energetic boundaries,
As we develop stronger,
Clearer energetic boundaries,
As we develop the ability to easily say no,
As we develop the ability to more easily ask for what we want,
What we need,
Then our capacity for receiving will naturally start to increase.
So thank you for listening,
I hope this was helpful for you,
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Thank you for listening,
If you would like to dive deeper into this topic of relationships,
Intimacy and boundaries,
Please check out my tracks,
One is called A Meditation on Boundaries and the other is called Relationships as a Mirror for your Inner Self,
I think both of those will be really helpful to you.
Thanks and I will talk to you next time.
