Welcome.
I am offering a way to engage in the Hawaiian forgiveness practice of Ho'oponopono.
To maximize the benefit of this powerful tool for healing,
I am going to present a foundation for understanding life experiences.
The context I am going to describe and the perception it encourages serves to motivate you to do this practice and stay with it until results are achieved.
Many people believe that seeing is believing.
They think that experiences shape their consciousness.
But I am here to tell you that believing is seeing.
What you believe both consciously and unconsciously is reflected in your experiences.
Not to victimize you,
But rather to make you conscious of your beliefs so that you might free yourself of them.
An example might help.
Suppose a person is walking down the street and they get mugged.
They may think that their subsequent mistrust of others stems from the mugging experience.
However,
They did not trust people to start with and it is that belief that led to the mugging.
Now some people will immediately rebel against this idea because they think they are being blamed for the challenges in their lives.
However,
I am not saying that the thief is guiltless.
But I am saying that the experience is there to reveal your beliefs to you for your conscious correction,
Which you will be unable to make if you continue feeling like a victim.
If,
On the other hand,
You say,
Gee,
At some deep level unknown to me before now,
I must harbor mistrust of others,
So I guess I will consciously work to release this belief.
Then you have a chance to avoid similar experiences in the future.
Your willingness to look at your life events in this way is powerful as it leads to real healing and transformation.
We are not designed to harbor fear,
Resentment,
Hatred,
Anger,
Condemnation,
And the like.
When we hang on to such emotions,
They get stored in the body,
Which leads to dis-ease.
To avoid these reactions to life challenges,
We can look at these difficulties as events designed to reflect our beliefs to us as a tool for change.
One of the most powerful ways to respond to life's difficulties is with the Hawaiian practice of forgiveness called ho'oponopono,
Which involves engaging in saying these four things to yourself.
I am sorry.
Please forgive me.
Thank you.
And I love you.
They must be said with sincerity and heart.
Again,
The premise of this practice is that whatever comes into your conscious awareness must be reflecting something in your conscious or unconscious belief system.
Let's say that you have someone in your life who blames you for everything that goes wrong in their lives.
You could consider that perhaps there is something unconsciously held by you that invites blame.
Next,
I am going to give you a way to frame these four ideas relative to this example.
Your practice would be to say,
I am sorry for whatever in my consciousness invites you to place blame on me.
Please forgive me for my part in your experience of blame.
Thank you for this opportunity to heal.
I love you.
This is a responsibility practice.
By loosening your beliefs around the behaviors,
You are inviting the other person's commitment to their beliefs to be loosened as well,
Because you are no longer in agreement with their beliefs.
This works because minds are joined.
A belief,
An idea,
Or a feeling is amplified and strengthened when shared,
And weakened when mutual support is withdrawn.
There are no guarantees that the other will drop their dysfunctional beliefs.
However,
There is a good chance that they will no longer be blaming you for what goes on in their lives,
Even if they still find someone else to blame.
Meanwhile,
You will have become aware of a mechanism in yourself that was unhealthy,
And you will have released it through the expression of forgiveness,
Gratitude,
And love.
I have found this practice to be liberating in relationships,
With the best part being that no verbal dialogue is required for great change to happen.
It is all done silently as a meditation.
So let's get into a comfortable position and close our eyes.
Begin breathing slowly and deeply.
Follow your breath and make no attempt to change anything.
Just relax into full awareness of the breath.
Good.
When you feel relaxed,
Bring to mind a relationship in need of healing,
Whether that person is alive or not,
Or bring to mind a difficult situation in need of transformation.
It can be a small annoyance or a serious predicament.
Take a moment to settle on one.
You are going to express to yourself the four heartfelt feelings about the other person or the situation.
The I love you can be toward the person,
Yourself,
An animal friend,
Or an angelic helper.
It really does not matter so much.
What matters is the sincere feeling of love within you.
So if you cannot feel love for this person just yet,
Choose to express the I love you toward someone for whom love comes easily to you.
If you are working with a situation,
You can direct the love toward yourself or a key player in the circumstances.
Before we begin,
Scan your body for tension.
Take some slow deep breaths into any place you find tightness or discomfort,
And exhale out,
Relaxing and letting go.
Breathe in and let go.
Breathe in and let go.
Good.
Now I will say each sentence and you will fill in the blanks with the details that are germane to you.
I am sorry for whatever in my consciousness is contributing to.
Please forgive me for my part in.
Thank you for this opportunity to heal.
I love you.
Now repeat these at your own pace,
Meaning every word,
Over and over again patiently until you feel that the truth of it has settled into your heart.
I will repeat these sentences one more time and then we will be silent as you attend to the practice.
I am sorry for whatever in my consciousness is contributing to.
Please forgive me for my part in.
Thank you for this opportunity to heal.
I love you.
Giving a few minutes first thing in the morning or in the evening before bed to this practice will lead to amazing change.
I have seen great alterations in myself and miraculous changes in relationships.
At the very least you will lighten your own burdens.
This technique is a great act of love towards yourself,
Which is an essential step in awakening to the fullness of being.
Appreciate your willingness to take this step.
May you be blessed by doing ho aponopono.
Namaste.
